Like rushing down the aisle without the wedding bands. I got a call recently from Hal & Rick about their need for wedding bands. Between upgrading their new home to be handicapped friendly and finalizing the adoption of their child they hadn’t had time to get married.
Their first thought was just to get two plain platinum wedding bands that matched and be done with it.
In celebrating my LGBT client’s commitments, I have opinions about their wedding jewelry. Don’t be ordinary I say.
Hal and Rick, on a Deadline for Wedding Rings
When we sat down that first time, I queried why they wanted identical bands. Hal said, “With all that’s gone on our rings are just another item to check off. And the wedding is in five weeks!”
I pouted and said, “Your wedding rings will be your most important piece of jewelry. You’ll wear them everyday and they represent your love, your commitment to each other and a celebration that you can legally marry.”
We all got quiet for a minute and then all smiley, because it is great that my gay friends can marry legally. I won’t judge how someone loves and who they choose to love. I’m about celebrating that two people have found each other and want to make a life together. But I digress.
Figuring Out Your Best Wedding Band Look
For your greatest happiness in your rings, trying on different metals, widths and designs will help you find that “you” ring, that makes you look good while rocking your married happily status.
In trying out rings, we found that Hal looked good in an 8mm width because he has large hands. Rick, with his long piano player hands, looked better in a 6mm width.
Hal it turned out looked great in platinum, but not great in yellow gold. Or rose gold for that matter. Rick looked more tan when wearing the yellow gold. Once they’d figured out their best metal color look the excitement amped up.
Don’t We Need to Match?
Matching isn’t how we say “I love you.” Because you’re each different you each may need different styles with a single cohesive element to join them together.
I pointed out that each of them should be really comfortable in their rings and love the way they looked in design and style on their hands. Hal ended up wanting diamonds on his, black diamonds, because he’s a rebel. We laughed, but seriously he rocked the black diamonds.
Rick liked a distinctive design and really liked my hand engraving. He’s in the men’s garden club, has a gorgeous garden, and he and Hal had met through the gardening club. The floral theme seemed to be perfect for his ring’s engraving. Rick said, “I know it looks gay, but I’m gay!” I love him!
Hal felt since he was going with a different width, a different metal, and diamonds, that he wanted an element to go with Rick’s band. Since Rick was going with a curvy engraving design, they decided on a curved pattern with the black diamonds that Hal wanted. That would be their unifying element.
Happy Wedding Bands
The two rings were made and they gave their vows over them.
Hal and Rick were really happy they hadn’t gone for the, “check an item off the list,” method of wedding ring selection.
Each of you is unique and so should your rings be.
Your Personal Jeweler,