Like Dear Abby, Calla Gold Jewelry Advises Women About Jewelry Issues.
Alison asks, “Do many women wear wedding rings they’re not crazy about? Or is it just me?”
You've asked an excellent question Alison. Many a man will choose your engagement ring without knowing what your taste is.
His priority is to propose to you and start a new life with you. This is great, except for the fact that you may end up wearing a ring daily that doesn’t suit you. And if it’s not a style that you like, well it rightly dims your pleasure in it.
Many Women Don’t Like Their Wedding Rings
If this is you, you’re not alone. Many women have let me know that the ring that was great ten years ago now feels dated.
Maybe she didn’t love it to begin with, but didn’t want to hurt her wonderful man’s feelings. Or it was all they could afford at the time and now he’s sentimental about it, even though they could afford a better ring now.
You Don’t Have to Wear Your Wedding Ring Forever Unchanged
There are tons of reasons why you may be ready for a new design for your wedding ring. In my opinion since your wedding jewelry is worn every day and stands for your relationship, it should be beautiful to you, up to date and stylish and complementary on your hand.
You’re Not Your Grandma, You’re You
Let’s face it, a ring style that looks awesome on a twenty year old hand, makes an older hand look, well…older. There’s no law that says you have to wear the same exact ring for your whole marriage. Just because Grandma did it doesn’t mean you have to.
In a Perfect Jewelry World, Your Wedding Ring Changes With You
In the full disclosure department Alison, I have one wonderful husband and four wedding rings.
My tastes have changed and my hands have changed. I’ve been married a long time. Oh yeah, and I’m a Jeweler so I can do that!
Alison asks, “So How Do I Go About Changing My Ring Diplomatically?”
When it is wearing down or just breaking a bit in ten to fifteen years I usually hear, "I don't even really like the style that much." Often at the time when your ring loses a diamond or needs some repair, you have an opportunity to suggest a change.
Don’t just fix it. Talk to your Jewelry Designer about changes that could be made to make it better for you. Or discuss a new design. I repeat, don’t just fix it. You have an opportunity to get your ring situation changed! Seize the day!
Husbands are more inclined to go for a change when they see that the ring is breaking down. If you quit wearing it and ask if for your next birthday or anniversary or Christmas you could design a new ring with a larger diamond or whatever changes excite you, you may find that the answer is yes.
Alison, let’s get together and draw up a design you’d like. If you show him the drawing we come up with it’ll make it more real to him.
I have redesigned a lot of wedding rings and it's always been such a happy experience for the woman involved.
You May Not Have to Wait Long to Get the Ring You Really Want
With assertive wives with strong, "I can take it" type of husbands, I've suggested telling him you'd like to redesign it to better suite your lifestyle. I've redesigned a number of wedding rings within a year of the marriage. (Not ones I designed originally.)
Do You Have a Wedding Ring You Don’t Love as Much as You Should?
I hope if a woman out there is reading this and unhappy with the style of her wedding ring she'll call a Jeweler she trusts or call me.
I know all the great justifications for ring changes and they won't hurt your husband's feelings. He loves you, and wants you to love your ring. And so do I!
Wedding Ring Re-Designer