Going Back to When I Was a Cranky Teenager for This Tale
Before my happy life as a Santa Barbara Jeweler, I tried on a lot of attitudes. Did you? Do the chance encounters with people in your past, echo into who you are today? Well they do with me. Here’s one of my strongest echos.
OK Here’s the Cranky Teenager Part
An amazing couple mentored me in one magical hour, before I knew what mentoring was and why you should reach out and help people when you can.
When I was thirteen, I was growing and changing and acting tough and defiant. It kept most of the adults at arms length. But not Anne. We were living in a commune at the time, but that’s another story.
Anne and Thor, Impulsive Commune Mentors
Anne lived there with Thor. I can’t remember his real name and Thor just really fits. This personal earthquake in my development, this major event in my life, this generous mentoring impulsive moment unfolded one sunny Saturday morning.
I came out of my purple room with the horse posters hanging and school books strewn on my bed, ignored. I was smiling, anticipating a day at the stables with my horse, the hours of freedom ahead when I ran in to Anne and Thor walking down the hall.
I had to stop and greet them. Anne complemented me on how pretty I looked and her boyfriend did too, in a super sincere way. I started crying. Dang, I was horrified with myself.
How They Helped Me
While practicing, I started by saying thank you while starring stony faced at their feet. We kept at it until I was looking at them, saying thank you and laughing. Then we had a big hug fest. I’d been scared of her boyfriend before, because he was so big and hairy looking.
He Looked Like a Hell’s Angel, But He Had a Heart of Gold
It turned out he was a big marshmallow. And after that I was always grabbing him and her and hugging them. I was so lucky to know these beautiful people. I wish I knew them now to tell them how much they helped me in that impulsive moment.
Paying it Forward
Since then I’ve helped teen-aged girls who’ve come across my path in “smiling and saying Thank You and looking in my eyes.” It makes me teary thinking about it. It’s a real gift to give and to receive.
I happily give compliments since Anne and Thor coached me that wondrous day. And I’m comfortable receiving them. Frankly appreciating beauty in the physical and the intangible is a joyful thing and a life enriching one to share. Just thought I’d share. “You know what? You’re beautiful!”