Buying Jewelry for Girls
By Jeremy Gold (The Quieter Half of Calla Gold Jewelry)
Buying jewelry for girls can be tricky for us guys.
Jewelry is one of those items with lots—and lots—of symbolism and significance connected to it.
The Wedding Ring
The classic example is the wedding ring. Everyone knows what it means. A gold ring on the left ring finger of a girl means she’s hitched and off limits to other guys.
To her, there is no other piece of jewelry more important and meaningful than this.
But what does this mean for us guys? It means we gotta be careful when planning on giving her one of these rings. On lots of levels!
Communication, Communication, Communication
Communication is king—or queen. I’m of the opinion that it’s best to consult your girlfriend rather than completely surprising her—with something she’s not too fond of.
There are millions of different wedding ring designs out there and the chances of you choosing the exact one she’s always dreamed of are not great. Often times, brides want to design something completely custom, too.
They want a unique ring that you aren't going to be able to find at Frank’s Dime and Jewelry. I suggest you and your honey talk to jewelers together. She’ll be happier in the end.
You’re not Proposing
What if you really like a girl, though, and you want to get her something nice—something that shows you really care about her, but...you’re not thinking of marrying her! For the time being, at least! You just want to get her something nice.
I would shy away from anything that even resembles a wedding ring. It could be awkward if you give her a ring that she thinks promises engagement. It could be a little embarrassing and uncomfortable. Know what I mean?
Necklaces, Pendants, and Bracelets
Necklaces and pendants can be better choices. Bracelets work, too. There’s little about these that imply marriage. They suggest you really like the girl, but that matrimony isn't part of the equation.
Silver jewelry can be a good choice. It’s not as expensive as gold and it isn't traditionally used in wedding rings. It’s especially good for younger girls, too, who wear a lot more silver than they do gold.
Love and Affluence
The more expensive the gift of jewelry, the more the meaning it implys. A ten thousand dollar, eighteen karat gold, diamond ring means something completely different than a fifty dollar silver heart pendant.
Unless you know for sure this is the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with—and you have a very healthy bank account—get her the pendant. If she really is the one for you, she’ll stick around and you can always get her the ring later on.
Wealth has nothing to do with love. Sometimes the least expensive and silliest presents can be the most meaningful. The beaded necklace you spontaneously got her while walking on the boardwalk that summer might turn out to be her most cherished piece of jewelry (after her wedding ring!).
Buying Jewelry for Her if You’re Already Married
If you’re already married, the sky’s the limit and you can get her whatever you want—assuming you know her tastes. If not, you might want to do what I suggested earlier about her wedding ring: consult her. Talk to her. Find out what she wants.
You might learn there’s a particular piece of jewelry she’s always wanted at Ted’s Gold and Diamond Emporium. Go talk to Ted. Or…give her a gift certificate at her favorite jewelers to design the custom ring of her dreams.
The point is, do your homework. Before you sell your boat for the cash to buy her jewelry, find out what she really wants. You’ll both be happier. And ya know maybe Dramamine will help with the whole, "I always feel like upchucking on your stupid boat" thing. I know, how about Dramamine and a piece of jewelry?