Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands

I have updated this post, check it out and tell me what you think, click here: Titanium or Tungsten vs. Gold or Platinum Wedding Bands, Revisited

I have added new information about sizing titanium at the end of the post, May 25th 2018.

I’m not going to win any popularity contests in my industry as a wedding ring designing jeweler saying this, but I say:

“Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.”

titanium or tungsten wedding bands

Don’t Buy This Titanium Wedding Band

The Five Reasons I Say, “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands”

Titanium Band can't be sized

If This was Your Titanium Wedding Band, Once You Got it Off, You’d Have to Get a New Band. Your Band Would be Done!

1. Your fingers will change size over the life of your wedding rings. Titanium and Tungsten are not solderable or sizable.

2. Gold and platinum rings can be sized, repaired, soldered on and changed. Again and again.
3. Gold and platinum have actual value as metals and go back through history as wedding ring metals. Titanium and Tungsen are cheap.
4. Your wedding ring stands for your commitment and your love and your future. You don’t want to toss your ring in the trash and order a new one every time your finger size changes.
5. Your wedding rings are the most important jewelry you’ll ever have. Your kids will inherit your wedding jewelry. Choose a valuable, special metal like gold or platinum.

Titanium and Tungsten Rings: Near Impossible to Work On

Titanium and tungsten are almost impossible to work with. I can almost guarantee there’s nobody in your hometown able to size a titanium or tungsten ring. Call around and see for yourself. You might get lucky and find someone on the internet located in the middle of North Dakota who says he can do the job. Good luck.

Gold and Platinum Rings Can be Soldered and Sized

Soldering an Engagement ring, Calla Gold

Calla Changing Laura’s Platinum Engagement Ring to Accept a Larger Diamond

Gold and platinum can be soldered and sized and fixed by jewelers the world over. Ten years from now, when you’re ten years older, and your finger is two sizes larger, you’ll easily be able to size up your gold or platinum ring.

Want to replace your smaller center diamond with something bigger? No problem. Need to retip your worn prongs? Again, not a problem.

Titanium Slab

A Titanium Slab

Know this: your finger size will change. They always do over time. Our knuckles continue to grow even if the rest of our body doesn’t. Weight gain often accompanies pregnancy.

On the flip side, you may have reason to size your rings down. Finger sizes change. Will your titanium and tungsten wedding bands change with you? Nope.

The titanium slab shown is filed, sawed and drilled. Not cast or soldered. It’s worked in a machine shop, not a jeweler’s bench.

Gold and Platinum: Time Honored Metals, Worthy of Love

Gold and platinum are the traditional, go-to wedding ring materials. Unlike titanium and tungsten, they’re valuable metals. They are called “Noble Metals.” They have been valued for thousands of years.

The Egyptians, the Chinese, the Incas, the Mayans, and every other civilization on the planet have always valued gold.

Gold and Platinum Feel Yummy and Heavy

Gold and platinum are heavier, too, especially platinum! I like the weightiness of them! Unlike the lightweight, titanium,  gold and platinum feel substantial and more precious.

Your Magic and Meaningful Wedding Rings!

Calla Gold Jewelry Engagement Ring with Three Main Diamonds in Platinum

A Special Custom Designed Engagement Ring in Platinum by Calla Gold

A wedding ring is like a talisman—an object, like a stone or a jewel, thought to give magical powers to the person that carried or wore it.

Your wedding ring is more than just a symbol saying “I’m married.” It’s like the talisman. It protects the union and wards off someone coming between you and your spouse.

It guards against the evil spirits of divorce. I don’t know about you, but in my universe the more valuable the talisman, the more valuable the magic.

Get a Good Wedding Band with Value and Versatility in it!

Black Rhodium on White Gold Man's Wedding Band

White Gold His and Hers Wedding Rings

Getting married? Don’t Buy Titanium and Tungsten Wedding Bands. Get a gold or platinum ring. Leave the titanium and tungsten for your right hand. Or break it out to go hiking. But for the ring that represents your union and your love don’t go cheap and temporary.

Get the metal that represents lasting value and lasting love. Get wedding bands you can pass on to your kids.

For your love, for the changing finger sizes in your married life, chose gold and platinum. Your love is worth it!

Update August 13th – 2015 NPR Article

Giant Bolt Cutters Used to Remove Titanium Wedding Band

I’m Quoted in an NPR Article on a Man Trapped in a Titanium Wedding Band Overnight.  Image by Andrej Salibi and Andrew N. Morritt / Emergency Medicine Journal             

I was quoted in an NPR article on a case study of a man hospitalized overnight with a titanium ring stuck on his finger

A man taking a bath had his finger swell and went to the hospital to have his ring removed. They couldn’t do it initially. He ended up in the hospital overnight.

Update-January 4th 2017 – Commenter Story

Commenter Skip, who wears a tungsten  carbide wedding band and is about to replace it brought up a very interesting negative issue about tungsten carbide. Read on:

“One other thought on the cons of tungsten carbide wedding bands. I have had my wedding band for 5 years now and got it because of the low price and that it is basically indestructible. The first issue was the fading of the shiny finish. I have not been able to find a process online or a jeweler that can bring it back. The second (and biggest) con is one that I seldom see noted or discussed. Since it is second only to a diamond in hardness, tungsten carbide can be very damaging. We bought new stainless kitchen appliances 9 months ago. I have virtually destroyed the handles on both the microwave and the refrigerator. I guess I could get into the habit of opening everything with my right hand, but old habits die hard. While this ring has emotional value, I have no choice but to replace it with white gold and will be doing so soon. Oh well.” Skip


May 25th 2018 – Titanium Jeweler Speaks

In a discussion on Facebook in a private jeweler’s group, (JHJ), a lively back and forth appeared about the merits of alternate metal jewelry. Jerry Spaulding in response to the “it can’t be sized” problem had this to say:

Hi Mack, I just thought I would mention that I saw a potential hazard in using aircraft grade (6al-4v) titanium some 28 years ago when I first introduced titanium and stainless steel wedding bands, and within the first month switched to a very specific grade of titanium that could still be cut with a standard carbon-steel bladed ring cutter like a ‘Beaver’ brand ring cutter. In addition, I can stretch or compression-size nearly all my models and have taken them as far as two full sizes without any ‘orange-peeling’ Sizing requires many tons of force but I do it routinely.
Most of the commercial wedding band manufacturers had never designed or made fine jewelry before entering into the alternative metal wedding ring field and some in Utah even glue their metal components together. Sadly, they have rather given titanium a bad name and have cheapened it through computerized machining like the Chinese manufacturers, and exploited the concept to the point that it has become rather ‘cliché’ as inlay once did, but there is still quite a bit that is missed along the way. You can view a portion of my own work here, please note that every piece shown, I make personally, and entirely by hand in the tradition of ‘Fine Jewelry and fine hand-craftsmanship” 
I’ve seen a lot of bad titanium bands that I feel are unsafe and that cannot be sized. I still won’t sell alternate bands. But I’d say if you want one go to Jerry. His alternate metal bands are made with the viewpoint that jewelers have, of beauty, safety and alter ability. I respect that.
Your Personal Jeweler,


About Calla Gold

Calla Gold is a Personal Jeweler and Author who takes pride in working with clients one-on-one to integrate their personal sense of style and taste into custom designed jewelry and repaired jewelry pieces.   Unlike typical Santa Barbara jewelry businesses, Calla Gold has no brick-and-mortar location. Calla Gold comes to you, bringing you the jewelry collection you want to see and collaborating with you to create unique custom jewelry. Calla also works with at-a-distance clients.


  1. William Conlin on June 4, 2012 at 9:36 pm

    Wow! What a useful article! As professional wedding videographers I have had the pleasure of filming countless wedding rings of all shapes and sizes. Personally, I feel there is nothing like a beautiful gold or platinum ring and this article just reinforced my feeling about that! Thank you for bringing us these incredible insights Calla! They are greatly appreciated!

    -YTS Digital FIlms

    • Calla Gold on June 5, 2012 at 4:49 pm

      Thanks so much William for taking the time to respond. I imagine you’ve seen more wedding rings than I have as a videographer. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
      Calla Gold

      • Robyn B on July 11, 2016 at 11:22 am

        Hi I was reading your article on “don’t buy titanium or tungsten rings”. You just bust my bubble I so like the unique look of the tungsten ring. I’m going to have to rethink this, any suggestions on something that is comparable to this look.

      • Kala Larabee on July 18, 2016 at 6:10 pm

        I’m getting married soon and am looking (with no success) for a ring that will survive his profession. He works at a collision repair shop and works with lots of acids and other heavy duty chemicals on a daily basic. Even with gloves on, these chemicals eat through a lot and I’m worried will cause serious damage to a regular gold or platinum ring. Any suggestions on what kind of ring could survive these conditions?

        • Calla Gold on July 21, 2016 at 8:56 pm

          Dear Kala,
          Tungsten and titanium during the day with nicer ring for the weekends might just be the right choice with his work. Platinum is pretty impervious to chemicals, but it will scratch up like crazy. A lot of guys don’t actually care about that, but I wanted you to know as part of your figure out on what to choose for him.
          Good luck in selecting a ring or rings that you’ll both be happy with.
          Your Personal Jeweler,
          PS. I love your name!

      • Mark on March 19, 2017 at 11:28 am

        Titanium rings are cheaper to resize if you don’t go to a jewellers. Assuming a simple band you cut and then microweld. A good workshop will do that for about £20. Finding workshops that do Titanium is awkward though so you may have to drive to the next city. Once welded it won’t be perfectly smooth but a bit of fine emery and wet and dry cloth will bring it back to profile easily.
        Tungsten rings don’t suffer from the safety concerns you mentioned. In fact they are safer. They are very hard wearing. I wear mine to the gym and lift metal bar bells and have no scratches. They are also brittle if you shock them with a think that would hurt your finger but it doesn’t really do more than bruise. Look at the videos on YouTube. They are safer than gold and platinum in this way if you have a swollen finger.
        Tungsten cannot be resized though. The good news is Tungsten rings are cheap. A relatively simple band like mine cost £50. Also those saying you cannot polish the Tungsten ring. It’s easy. Use a dremel and the polish they include with the polishing felts.

        • Calla Gold on March 20, 2017 at 6:40 am

          Hello Mark,
          I do micro-welding on rings and I cannot handle titanium. What temperature are you speaking of that this workshop that you’d go to would use? I have been told that to make a titanium band larger they grind out the inside and to make it smaller they insert another band to thicken it from the inside.
          The safety concern I have with titanium is the occasional emergency need to remove it. Where gold and platinum and silver for that matter can be sawed off with a simple hand cranked ring saw, titanium requires an electric diamond tipped ring saw. Titanium dulls the blades easily. If your particular Emergency room doesn’t have an elecric ring saw or a sharp saw blade you could be in trouble.
          See this article by NPR:

          I think that’s great that you can lift weights and not scratch your titanium band. That is not the reason I don’t like them for wedding bands. I think it’s great to wear tungsten and titanium anywhere you want except your wedding finger.
          It is their very saw-off-able nature that make gold and platinum safer. And the fact that gold and platinum can be sized is why I prefer them.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

    • Tori on June 21, 2017 at 6:10 pm

      The only reason you think that gold represents love is because someone made a good advertisement. Watch “Adam Ruins Everything” on youtube, and you will see what AI am talking about. Another thing is that if it is a symbol of love, then why is it so weak?

      • Calla Gold on June 22, 2017 at 5:47 am

        Hi Tori,
        I personally wear yellow gold because I love the buttery warmth of it. My grandmother and grandfather wore yellow gold, my mother wears yellow gold and I wear yellow gold. It’s value is bred into my bones. I cherish what they cherish and what my lifelong friends cherish. Yellow gold, white gold and platinum and rose gold for that matter.
        I love that it can be sized, that I can add a gemstone if I want, that I can add a texture or polish it to a high shine. This freedom to change, to alter and to have what my family has are some of the reasons I personally love gold and platinum.
        My mission in writing what I wrote was to warn people who assume alternate metals offer the same options to change that they do not. They have other attributes, but being alterable outside a machine shop isn’t one of them.
        Your Personal Jeweler,

      • Mouse on February 20, 2018 at 3:15 pm

        Exactly. Same with diamonds; people used to wear rings of various bands and germs til the jewelry industry ran their aggressive marketing campaigns. Now people feel guilty if their ring isn’t a slightly altered copy-paste of gold or platinum and diamonds.

        No, if you love someone you’ll get them something that will hold its splendor for quite a long time, a ring you don’t have to be afraid of wearing while actually living life! Plus, for the price, you can get it customized so much more for the budget. Tungsten Carbide is the way to go if you and yours have minds of your own and you want something that can endure your marriage while still looking brand new.

        Still, there’s always wood or other materials that can be just as meaningful to a couple and look gorgeous. But gold, silver, titanium? They’re overpriced, overrated, and they’re hardly unique. The author must have zero experience with a good TC ring, from what I gather from all the factual errors.

        • Calla Gold on February 20, 2018 at 5:46 pm

          Hello Mouse,
          I had a convo this morning with a jeweler friend. He’s all in on titanium, tungsten and inlaid wood and all. I said to him, “you realize if you could alter the size of your rings you’d kill my business.”
          He replied,”Nah, people would probably still want gold. So you wouldn’t die, you’d just get skinnier.”
          “So how’s the ‘no, I can’t size your inlaid wood band,’ going?” I asked him.
          “Not so good. I’ve had a few super pissed off people. But seriously, there was this couple, they ordered dinosaur bone inlay, swore up and down that size 9 was correct. The guy came in and was a 10.5. Oh man, and they were getting married that weekend. But yeah, according to them it’s my fault that it’s the wrong size.” He said.
          “That sucks. Do you usually measure people?” I asked.
          “If they come in, which they can’t always do.” He answered.
          “Did you get paid?” I asked.
          “Just their deposit. I know a guy who is a size 9 who is coming in to look at it.” He said.
          “I hope you sell it.” I said.
          “I thought you hate the stuff.”
          “I just think it’s bad for a wedding ring. But I’m cool if it’s for anything else.”
          “Huh. OK.”
          So Mouse. It’s the sizing thing that just kills it for me. The sizing this is not a factual error.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

          • Shane on May 29, 2018 at 3:04 am

            If I can act as a “mediator”:

            1. Yes, the “precious metals” ring fulfill an emotion that someone brainwashed our grandmothers to have…But isn’t a wedding does just the same thing? Will a ceremony determine if you’ll love someone for the rest of your life?

            2. Yes, they are not resizable, but I can get 10 tungsten bands, in all sizes for the price of a gold ring. So it doesn’t really matter.

            3. The amount of precious metals in those rings is worth squat, and you (as a jeweler) know that very well. A 1.5-2mm thickness, 14K white gold band is worth maybe 40$-60$ when I’ll sell it back to you…but would cost 350-500$ to buy.

            I think I “hacked” the system. Spent 400$ on a 14K white gold, 1Ct moissanite ring. Shinier than a diamond and just as hard. Ordered from China and tested here.

          • Calla Gold on May 31, 2018 at 3:57 pm

            Hello Shane,
            For your first point, Having my special wedding ring fills an emotional place. The ring for me symbolizes the love. It reminds me of the ceremony.
            For your second point, I’m a sentimental person. If I had ten rings in different sizes to choose from it’d make my wedding ring seem common. It’s supposed to be special. For me that solution to the no sizing problem falls flat.
            For your third point you mention that the value of gold for recycling is less than a retail cost of a designed ring. The raw materials of a car cost way less than a finished car too. When you make something you pay for design, manufacture and profit margin. This is the same with cars, books, etc.
            It sounds like you found an engagement ring you were happy with. Good for you.
            May your marriage be long and happy.
            Your Personal Jeweler,

  2. Tracey Mikami on June 6, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    Great blog Calla…Personally, I agree with you and would only give my husband (to be) Platinum. Thanks for your informative and passionate posts!!! Keep up the awesome work.

    • Calla Gold on June 6, 2012 at 5:27 pm

      I love that you dug my message of going for value. That’s great that you’ll go with Platinum for your husband to be. He’s lucky that you value him so!
      Calla Gold

  3. Dr. Lynn K. Jones on June 10, 2012 at 10:16 am

    Great info Calla Gold.

    Titanium and Tungsten are here to stay. I agree with you now that as wedding bands they are a “don’t buy!”

    That custom ring you made is absolutely out of this world gorgeous!!! Always a fan of platinum and gold. Will share this info.


    • Calla Gold on June 11, 2012 at 6:24 am

      Thank you Dr. Lynn for reading and letting me know your thoughts.

  4. Jackie Ruka on June 11, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    I have always been a gold or platinum girl , yet men seem to like the titanium, must be a golf thing? ! Great for a club but not to wear as a wedding ring. Why don’t men get that? Good info! Thanks Calla!

    • Calla Gold on June 11, 2012 at 7:17 pm

      Hi Jackie,
      You’re right, it’s fine for golf, but not the daily wedding ring wear!
      Calla Gold

  5. Alison on June 16, 2012 at 9:56 am

    Calla-I agree with Lynn that Titanium and Tungsten are here to stay-for eyeglasses.. not a precious wedding ring. Great advice!

    • Calla Gold on June 16, 2012 at 10:31 am

      Thanks for weighing in!

  6. Ali on June 25, 2012 at 10:08 am

    Tungsten wedding rings break very easily also!
    I’m upset enough about it that I started a petition. Calla Gold Jewelry, thank you for your blog post on the inappropriateness of Tungsten Bands for representing the sentiment of your marriage.
    Calla, please like this page on Facebook to let everyone know the truth about tungsten rings.

    • Calla Gold on June 25, 2012 at 10:28 am

      I did like your Facebook page and loved the video of the six year old breaking the Tungsten wedding band. Who wants that representing their vows?
      Calla Gold

  7. Nadira on November 26, 2012 at 10:19 pm

    The information shared here regarding Tungsten men wedding rings is very good. I think it is the most important thing to have wonderful designs. Thanks!

    • Calla Gold on November 27, 2012 at 6:41 am

      Thanks for visiting Nadira!

  8. caryl on November 29, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    Ridiculous. Just more way for a jeweler to make money. My husband works with metals,and titanium is very durable, strong, and lasts much longer than a gold, diamond band. Better metals and much less expensive. It’s not the band, it’s the bond that counts!!!

    • Calla Gold on November 30, 2012 at 7:14 am

      I have no problem with the strength of titanium. It is very durable and I think it is fine for a right hand ring. My experience with long married people however is that their fingers change size. Over the years whether due to weight gain or loss or just the inevitable growing of the knuckle (and Caryl they do continue to grow after adulthood is reached,) people’s wedding fingers do change size.
      I object to titanium as a wedding band because it cannot be sized. Yes it will last a lifetime, but what good does that do you if it spends a good part of that lifetime in a drawer because it doesn’t fit?
      My client’s want their rings to change with them and wear the ring they made their vows in.One day they may feel like changing it, but they want to make that choice, not have that choice made for them. They do not want to wear it until their finger changes size in five years and they are forced to stop wearing it.
      A wedding band has great meaning. I stand by my opinion that titanium is the wrong metal choice for wedding bands.

      • Eric on February 25, 2017 at 6:09 am

        I must be missing something. I have talked to twenty couples with over 400 years of marriage and mot one person has ever had to have a ring resized. Not one. As for being a your other point, the only reason gold is so valuable is because our culture has made it that way. If they had the tools to make tungsten rings a thousand years ago, they would be just as valuable today as gold.

        • Calla Gold on February 25, 2017 at 1:34 pm

          Dear Eric,
          Who knows who’s missing what. I have about 3500 clients and my most popular repair service and I do many per week is the sizing of rings. I have observed so many married people having their rings sized that it seems a common thing to me. I’ve sized my wedding ring more than once and my husband’s too.
          I’ll beg to differ with you on tungsten. If they had found tungsten back then, since it has a ridiculously high melting point we jewelers do not cast with it. On the other hand gold can be hand worked in its pure state and melts like butter at a low heat, allowing it to be cast in a very low tech way allowing for early civilizations to create jewelry with it that has lasted until today.
          The very malleability of gold and workability and changeability are why gold is prized. Oh yeah and the fact that it is gorgeously gold colored.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

          • Daryl on October 26, 2017 at 3:37 am

            I can’t wait to read your next article on why cats are better than dogs – because the ancient Egyptians “worshipped” cats lol

          • Calla Gold on October 26, 2017 at 6:29 am

            Hi Daryl,
            Well we had a pretty long discussion at the dinner table about whether pigs are smarter than dogs. I am for the pigs.
            Your Personal Jeweler,

          • Darryl Ruth on November 29, 2017 at 8:31 pm

            Lol my name is Darryl and I am 36 and been married for almost 20 years. I now have 6 wedding bands, only one is good, my finger went from a 13 to a 16 down to a 15 now I’m at size 17. I’m not over weight, I’m 6″2 220 LBS and my hand swells and goes down.
            I just got rid of them, all but the gold one. It was the original, but i was told they can’t do that size difference.

          • Calla Gold on November 30, 2017 at 7:13 am

            Hi Darryl,
            As far as sizing your original size 13 gold band to a size 17, a new piece would need to be made and soldered onto the original gold band. I would get a second opinion as that is work that can be done unless there is some issue with your band.
            I recently took an extremely thin, depth-wise, gold band ring from my client’s grandfather and build an under ring in the larger size and mounted the grandfather’s ring into a channel. It now has the necessary depth to be worn daily as his wedding ring.
            Someone else would have said, “Can’t be done.” One person’s ‘hopeless job’ is another’s challenge and can be done.
            Your Personal Jeweler,

  9. Joe on February 23, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    1) You didn’t list 5 reasons, you listed the same reason five different ways!

    2) Titanium and tungsten are very valuable… why you’d think otherwise is a mystery…

    3) While it is true that tungsten can’t be resized, you’re wrong about titanium… likely not as easily as gold but it can be.

    • Calla Gold on February 23, 2013 at 6:37 pm

      Hi Joe,
      Thank you for weighing in. I feel that I have given five reasons why titanium is a bad idea as a wedding band. I like it fine as a metal and for a right hand ring. I do not like it for a wedding ring for my five reasons. I’m glad you feel it can be sized. I’ve done quite a bit of asking and short of grinding out to gain a half size I’ve had no positive response to being able to size it.
      As a thirty year jeweler I’ve sized a lot of wedding rings. My observation is that because our nose, our knuckles and our ears keep growing, our rings need to be able to grow with us in our married life.
      I just don’t like metals that cannot be altered.
      If I hear of a titanium ring needing sizing perhaps I’ll give them your email address.
      I want to say I really admire the special finishes I’ve seen on titanium and it’s fine in it’s jewelry place. Just not on that wedding finger.
      Calla Gold

  10. Joel on March 3, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Have you ever tried on a Tungsten ring? I doubt it, otherwise you would know that it is the opposite of lightweight. It is heavier than gold and closer to platinum in density.

    Being lightweight is a fair criticism of titanium, but you should amend your article so as not to mislead readers about the weight and feel of tungsten.

    • Calla Gold on March 3, 2013 at 5:02 pm

      Your point is well taken, I was speaking of titanium when I referenced the light-weightness of the metal.
      Calla Gold

  11. carrie on March 3, 2013 at 9:51 pm

    My wedding rings r platinum and I wouldn’t have it any other way! I want to pass them to my daughter and I’ve only had them 2 yrs and yes I’ve had to have them sized down 3 times! However, my husband is a master engine tech who refuses to not wear his wedding band at work. If not for his titanium band he would have smashed his ring on his hand countless times! He also has a tungsten band (a smaller size) for when his hand swelling goes down, without which when he was doing an electrical job, he would have melted his finger clean off if he were wearing gold or platinum! I am a firm believer in certain people requiring a tungsten or titanium band! No they can’t b sized, but he wouldn’t have a ring finger if he wore anything else! I would rather buy 3 of the same ring in different sizes than him loose a finger!

    • Calla Gold on March 4, 2013 at 7:13 am

      Hello Carrie,
      You have written a good couple of reasons to rebut my blog post. I can see from your story why a man might want a titanium wedding ring in your husband’s field of work, strength and safety. And a reason a man might want a tungsten ring, non-electrical conductivity. I see your point and it is a good one.
      Your daughter will be fortunate to one day have your platinum and diamond band. And you’ll enjoy it for a lifetime.
      Thank you for your helpful to the discussion comments about tungsten and titanium wedding bands.
      Calla Gold

  12. Mal on March 24, 2013 at 11:58 pm

    Tungsten World has a lifetime sizing policy. And I’ve been wearing the same ring size from my late teens and into my late 30’s. Gold is not always sizeable, either…consider celtic knot rings or mokume gane rings, for example.

    My ring is of ceramic and tungsten and it’s heavy and doesn’t scratch, chip or wear no matter what I do to it. Tungsten is just about the same density as gold, to call tungsten rings light is totally incorrect, especially given that they’re rarely as thin and delicate as the female gold counterparts. My tungsten wedding ring is really heavy compared to my gold engagement ring.

    Also: ” It protects the union and wards off someone coming between you and your spouse.

    It guards against the evil spirits of divorce.”


    • Calla Gold on March 25, 2013 at 5:55 am

      Hi Mal,
      Thank you for writing.
      I went and saw their lifetime sizing policy. And I quote, “Keep a copy of your invoice in a safe location. Then relax, knowing that no matter how much your finger size changes over time, we will provide you with a perfect fitting ring.” This doesn’t mean they “size” your ring. It means they machine up another one since you can’t solder and change them like you can with gold and platinum. My beef isn’t with the metal and the way they look. I am a sentimental person, yep, and I want my husband to have the same ring, not a replica when his finger changes.
      I congratulate you on having the same ring size for the better part of fifteen years, you are the exception.
      For the record I have sized Celtic knot rings. It is a lot of work to re-work the design detail, but I have done it and my clients have been really happy with the result.
      I have not been asked to size a Mokume Game ring yet. You are right, that would be a pattern I’d not be able to deal with without creating an area of noticeable change. But that Mokume Game ring lover would end up with the same ring they made their vows in. That is really important to a lot of people. In sizing the Mokume Game ring I would make sure to minimize the look of change. The issue here is that though styles and designs may make sizing your gold or platinum ring more of a challenge, these metals can be worked and titanium and tungsten cannot.
      In the department of how heavy tungsten is, I have eaten crow in a previous comment when corrected about tungsten and it’s heavy weight. My bad for writing that complaint. I really meant titanium and somehow lumped tungsten wrongly into that.
      I share with you a video of a tungsten ring breaking:
      I do not hate these metals. I just am of the opinion that for a ring to last all your life, you want a metal that will change with you and not break. Your wedding ring symbolizes your love.
      Wear tungsten and titanium on your right hand, but not your left hand ring finger. The ring of love.
      Opinionated Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  13. Mal on March 25, 2013 at 12:02 am

    Also the above poster is incorrect about tungsten “breaking easily”. My husband is military special operations and he puts his ring through serious strain. Anything that strikes the hand with enough force to break Tungsten is going to ruin the hand it is on, anyway.

    • Calla Gold on March 25, 2013 at 6:04 am

      Here is a video of a tungsten carbide ring breaking:
      I am glad for you that your husband has had good luck with his tungsten ring. Check out this Examiner article detailing newlyweds with their stories of breakage of their tungsten bands:
      Just because your husband hasn’t broken his doesn’t mean everyone else will be so lucky. I stand by my objection to these rings to symbolize love and your union. It’s just my opinion.
      Thank you for letting me know yours.
      Calla Gold

      • Eric on April 26, 2018 at 9:18 am

        Doesn’t the video basically negate your argument that you can’t remove a stuck tungsten ring? It is a hard brittle material so of course it will crack upon an impact. If you drop the gold ring from the same test in the video, it will not come out damaged? It will bend of course being soft.

        So of course it comes down to choice per person however here are objective facts:

        1) Tungsten rings are cheaper than gold ones
        2) Tungsten has a higher hardness and tensile strength compared to gold. Therefore, because of the higher hardness, it is very difficult to scratch.

        Any “value” put on either is only put there by people, much like how we assign value to paper fiat money. If you have two products (in general, not rings) where one will outperform the other for longevity and is cheaper than the other, why on earth would you not go for it? You state that you don’t want to represent your marriage with something cheap but that is a terrible argument as a wedding is all about love and symbolism not how much you paid for an item…

        • Calla Gold on April 27, 2018 at 6:28 am

          Hello Eric,
          There is no video in this blog post. I have written more than one blog on this topic since it is one that I get asked about regularly. You can use a vise to remove a tungsten ring as the vise will shatter tungsten. The girly girl in me doesn’t like the concept of shattering metal and my finger in the same physical space. I cringe.
          It is titanium that is so difficult to remove and a hazard on that count.
          When you drop a nice gold man’s band and my husband has done so repeatedly, it does not bend or break or get dents in it. It bounces quite athletically and when dropped on marble gives off a musical kind of sound. Gold is not damaged by being dropped.
          Let’s go to your objective ‘facts’:
          1) Yes tungsten is cheaper than gold. And not able to be sized. We’re not statues. Our fingers are likely to change size over the life of our marriage, that cheap tungsten will end up not being worn and you’ll spend more money to get a replacement. You may say, “yeah, but three tungsten rings is still cheaper than one gold wedding band.” And I’ll agree with you. But this is your wedding ring. You had a ceremony, you invited your friends and family, you faced to world and pledged your life and love to this wonderful woman. They symbol of that union and that love is your wedding band. You wear it every day! Every day! To me that symbol is important. To me that symbol should be able to change as you change. I personally don’t like the idea of a bargain basement mentality when choosing a symbol I will wear daily to celebrate my love. I have sized my wedding rings multiple times as my finger size has changed. I celebrate that my ring can change with me. I wouldn’t want a disposable ring. Or a ring that couldn’t be sized.
          2) No woman ever said, “I don’t want that gold and diamond ring because it might get scratched.” Yes gold scratches, so what? I have a young man getting married next month. He brought me his grandfather’s wedding band. His grandfather who had been married 60 years when he passed. His grandfather who taught him to build things in his wood shop, who read to him, who advised him how to treat people he loved. He handed me this old scratched worn ring that didn’t fit him and told me about what it meant to him to wear his grandfather’s ring. I sized it and polished it up and it looked beautiful. He told me he missed those scratches and wished I hadn’t polished it. I looked at him and said, “you and your wife to be will wear your rings in love and create your own scratches and memories.” He liked that. That young man will never ask me to polish the scratches out of that gold band.
          Other people will have me polish their rings and it’s not big deal in my opinion.
          The value we assign to our rings as symbols of love and that we wear daily is a mental thing. I think we value the fact that we can size and change our forever rings if we please.
          I choose gold and if my ring goes away, I’d choose gold again, and not because it costs a certain amount. I’d choose it for its beauty and its changeability.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

  14. JT on March 29, 2013 at 10:45 am

    I have had the SAME size ring finger since I got married! not sure where you are getting that the size changes… unless you are talking EXTREAM weight loss/gain. I even lost 50#’s and it is still the same.

    this sounds like more of an issue of sales for you….

    • Calla Gold on April 1, 2013 at 5:52 am

      Hello JT,
      A doctor client of mine said years ago, “The nose, the ears and the knuckles never stop growing.” In my 30 years as a jeweler I have re-sized a ton of wedding rings. Interestingly, more for women than men. This is where I have gathered the sizing information I used in this post.
      Congratulations on dodging the average and not changing sizes.
      Calla Gold

  15. Ciara on April 4, 2013 at 9:32 pm


    Just a little weigh in on this-

    Gold and platinum will hold its value and will change in size – but they also change in appearance. They require a lot of maintaince.They scratch. They bend! Any beautiful intricate work- especially custom work will likely wear over time. What is the point in spending money on a custom designed ring that will need touch ups, polishing and redipping? I understand where the author is coming from. I get the sentimental value of change in a ring- signifying change in a marriage but they are not te same. Your wedding ring is purchased. Your marriage is not. People renew vows. They can renew their rings.

    As for children inheriting rings- I personally have many inherited rings. None of which I would ever alter or sell- so the value of them to me is purely sentimental. They would be sentimental even if they were made of dirt! We have 6- yes SIX sets of wedding bands and 5 engagement rings in the family safe. We should have 8 sets but 2 couples had titanium or tungsten rings and since the value of them is minimal they were able to be burried wearing their ring (with out fear of theft). There is of a lot more sentiment in being able to wear your wedding ring for all eternity, than in your children keeping it locked in a safe.

    So yes it is a matter of how you look at it. For us we have two sets. One white gold set and one titanium set. Why? My husband works with his hands. Gold is just unsafe for him! My white gold e-ring and wedding band have diamonds not suitable for caring for an infant. We found we needed the titanium set way more than our expensive gold set! So please don’t just knock the titanium. It has many uses as a wedding band!

    A wedding band is the only piece of jewelry that has to function in your daily life! It must stand up to many challenges. You must select on functionality more so than on sentimental value! They will be sentimental no matter what!

    • Calla Gold on April 6, 2013 at 12:07 pm

      Hi Ciara,
      I’m reading your comment and pausing at the point where you say, “What is the point in spending money on a custom designed ring that will need touch ups, polishing and redipping?” I could ask you what is the point of buying a pretty car and then having to wash it, tune it up and care for it?
      People that I’ve worked with love their wedding jewelry and want it to be alterable if their taste changes, if their fingers change and to fix it up after they’ve worn it and made it look less perfect. My experience has been that people don’t mind if the ring that represents their love that they wear every day needs touch ups here and there.
      We tune up the cars we drive daily, why not our jewelry?
      Congratulations on having many inherited wedding rings. Your point is well taken that tungsten and titanium rings can be worn when the person is buried because theft wouldn’t be a problem. I hadn’t thought of that. Many of my clients has used Grandma’s ring or ring diamond and it means a lot to them.
      It sounds like your two ring style, titanium for work and fine metal one for the rest of the time is a very smart idea.
      Stubborn me still wants fine metal as a wedding ring.
      Ciara, I thank you for taking the time to re-butt my position in my blog post. You are articulate and make great points!
      Calla Gold

      • Eric on April 26, 2018 at 9:21 am

        “Stubborn me still wants fine metal as a wedding ring.”
        Fine metal is subjective but gold is softer and damages easier so which metal is really the “finer metal”?

        • Calla Gold on April 27, 2018 at 6:29 am

          Gold’s changeability is its superpower.

  16. Elaine on April 28, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Wow Miss Calla! Very helpful information about metal choices for wedding rings. I’m a huge fan of platinum, but haven’t made up my mind yet. This article was quite useful…

    You designs are BEAUTIFUL!

  17. Meh on June 9, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    Buy a gold/platinum ring at a jewelry store, then try to sell it back a few weeks later. Good luck getting back what you paid for it. You can wait years and the price of gold or platinum can go up a bit and you’ll still lose money. The markup is ridiculous.

    The only meaning a piece of metal has is whatever meaning you give it whether it costs $1k or $10. This goes the same for value. The jewelry industry has done a great job convincing the public that these metals are worth more than they really are. Many of them even hint that the more you spend on a ring, the more your marriage/love means to you. Hogwash.

    I think way too much importance is put onto wedding bands. Platinum and gold may last a lifetime but how long a metal last has nothing to do with how long marriages last. With about half ending in divorce, I wouldn’t associate the life of a metal with the length/strength of a marriage. If that’s the case, we all might as well get a tattoo of a ring instead. You can’t lose/misplace a tattoo.

    If titanium and tungsten were being sold for as much as gold and platinum instead of at a fraction of the cost, meaning jewelers would make just as much in profit, a lot less of them would tell customers to avoid these metals.

    The only thing that should represent lasting love is a couple’s commitment to each other, not some metal they wear on their finger.

    I do applaud the jewelry industry for using brilliant marketing tactics though. Seriously, if I made my living selling jewelry, I’d try my hardest to convince the public to associate their love with a piece of expensive metal as well so I can’t really blame jewelers for doing this. Financially, it’s a smart thing to do.

    • Calla Gold on June 10, 2013 at 5:14 pm

      Hello Meh,
      Happily I’m not afraid of contrarian opinions as your comment is full of things I disagree with. But my son is a philosophy major and we have discussions regularly and no opinion is dismissed out of hand. We do however have rebuttals.
      As to trying to sell your gold ring back a few weeks later for the gold value alone of course you’ll get less money. It was created, worked on planned out and sold at a store. Is a business person selling gold a charity and not able to make a profit? If you buy a coat at REI can you sell it for it’s value a week later? No. Would anyone try to? I doubt it.
      I won’t argue about what the value is of a ring. Each person has their own relationship with their wedding ring. I value mine way above its actual value. But I like my diamonds!
      My focus on a ring lasting has to do with the fact that I can change it. I have nothing against tungsten and titanium as jewelry, just as wedding jewelry because it can’t be sized.
      Respectfully I want to have the commitment and the nice symbol of it.
      Thank you for writing. You are a passionate and articulate person. May your marriage be happy and long loved.
      Precious Metal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  18. Sandy Boothe on June 11, 2013 at 9:34 pm

    We have resized hundreds of titanium wedding rings, mostly rings that we did not make. There are limits to how much bigger or smaller we can make the rings but for most people, the amount their finger size might change is something we can deal with.

    • Calla Gold on June 12, 2013 at 6:15 am

      Hello Sandy,
      I went to your website and see that to size titanium bands a bit smaller you add material to thicken the inside and to make a ring larger you scrape from the inside to thin it and make it a bit larger.
      This is good to see what it is that you are doing.
      This is an interesting addition to the conversation.
      Calla Gold

  19. Caitlin on July 8, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    Just words for thought, people in the military can wear black tungsten in war zones because they do not reflect light which is why my fiance requested a black tungsten wedding band.

    • Calla Gold on July 9, 2013 at 7:06 am

      Hi Caitlin,
      That is pretty fascinating. Thank you for sharing your military use for tungsten wedding bands.
      Calla Gold

  20. Louis on July 24, 2013 at 9:52 pm

    Just a veiled way to get people to buy jewelry that you, and other jewelers, will charge (and make) more for. Pretty easy to see through. I’ve had gold and Tungsten, and I’d go with Tungsten any day of the week. You shouldn’t complain when other professionals take advantage of you out of self-interest, as you are plainly doing the same. I hope the extra profit is worth it to you.

    • Calla Gold on July 25, 2013 at 5:53 pm

      Hi Louis,
      In the interest of letting all views be seen and heard I am approving your comment. In your comment you reference me complaining. I am stating my opinion and have no beef with designers who use titanium and tungsten. You can read from the other comments how various people have reasons to really like them. I just don’t want to symbolize my love with a ring that can’t be sized. That’s it in a nutshell. I am also in an economic place where I can make that choice.
      In no way do I feel that any professional is taking advantage of me and I really don’t follow your thought.
      Thank you for visiting and expressing yourself Louis.
      Calla Gold

  21. Jane on July 25, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    Titanium can also be symbolic of your love as well. My fiancee and I are both aerospace engineers and we work constantly with our hands. We are designing aircraft grade titanium wedding rings (they can be re-sized, you just have to know where to go) incorporating diamonds and carbon fiber. The materials are symbolic of who we are as a couple and as individuals, and they are durable to hold up to the rigorous demands of our jobs and hobbies. Both of us a propulsion systems designers and we have been known to spend all day in an engine bloc. Gold or platinum rings would be destroyed in an instant. The rings are just as beautiful as a gold or platinum band, but with the benefit of us not having to spend all day with them in our pockets, and our future children will be delighted to inherit them.

    • Calla Gold on July 25, 2013 at 5:57 pm

      I loved hearing about how your work would necessitate keeping your rings in your pockets and how titanium allows you to wear your ring. I see your point and applaud your career and ring choice. I personally do not consider grinding out metal on the inside to increase the opening a viable sizing solution. I only say that as with some men over time they may need more than 1.5 sizes of increase to their ring size. However some have commented that their ring size stays the same.
      You sound like a smart couple. May you enjoy your titanium rings for all of your life.
      Calla Gold

      • Eric on April 26, 2018 at 9:26 am

        At the cost difference between gold rings vs Tungsten ($2000 vs $300 on average) couldn’t you buy 6 Tungsten rings at different sizes and still come out ahead?

        • Calla Gold on April 27, 2018 at 6:35 am

          Hi Eric,
          A $2,000.00 gold wedding band would be very wide and very thick. Perhaps you are thinking of a multiple colors of gold band with diamonds? A typical comfort fit gold men’s wedding band does not cost $2,000.00.
          Maybe $1,100.00 depending on the width of it.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

  22. Jamie Goodwin on July 30, 2013 at 10:01 am

    I highly recommend Titanium or Tungsten bands for anyone who works in construction, or mechanics. If you want a gold/platinum ring for everyday wear, then get one of those for work. I would have lost my finger had it not been for my titanium ring. I had a truck fall off of it’s jack, my hand was adjusting the spring, the weight of the truck came down on the spring, and my ring held it, for me to remove my hand. I had jack the truck back up, to retrieve the ring. I know that gold and platinum are heirlooms, but I prefer having my finger, and wearing a titanium ring over not having my finger and wearing a gold/platinum ring. For work, there is no better material, as far as long lasting, and such, as the titanium, or tungsten rings. That way you don’t damage the better rings. Just a suggestion.

    • Calla Gold on July 30, 2013 at 8:10 pm

      Thank you Jamie for your excellent story with a happy ending with the titanium. If you’d been wearing a tungsten ring with it’s shattering problems I worry that you wouldn’t have had that happy ending. A tungsten ring can break when dropped, hit with a hammer and shocks similar to that. Titanium is known for it’s strength.
      It does sound like a great ring for your construction work. Where your gold or platinum ring later!
      Calla Gold

  23. Michael on August 5, 2013 at 10:33 am

    How do you see tungsten as cheap? titanium I understand and I will give you that, they’re easily broken but not tungsten I’ve had my ring for over 5 years and there is not a scratch on it (because they don’t scratch) hitting it with a hammer will break it? WHY ARE YOU HITTING YOUR RING WITH A HAMMER lol? my opinion is they look nicer, don’t scratch like gold,platinum,silver etc…

    • Calla Gold on August 5, 2013 at 4:45 pm

      People have dropped Tungsten rings on cement and had them break. You don’t have to hit it with a hammer to break it. Enjoy your ring.
      Calla Gold

  24. Luis Ibrahim on August 12, 2013 at 9:14 pm

    Thanks for highlighting the cons of tungsten or titanium wedding bands. One should opt for wedding bands made of platinum, white gold or yellow gold to wear the jewelry forever.

    • Calla Gold on August 13, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      Hi Luis,
      Thank you for coming by and weighing in. I couldn’t agree more with you!

  25. Jeffrey on August 27, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    Wow… It is surprising how NOT impressed I am at the moment… hehe.
    Let me explain.

    You have 5 arguments for which we should not buy titanium.
    1 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
    2 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
    3 : Titanium does not take value with time.
    4 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
    5 : Titanium does not take value with time.

    I actually see only 2 points here… broken down in 5 different sentences/examples.

    But unless you are simply trying to promote your gold/platinum/silver business.. This article that we just read… was NOT written to help us, customers, to get specific information on why WE SHOULD NOT buy titanium…

    You are obviously just trying to convince people not to buy it.
    This article was not written objectively with solid arguments.. is what I am trying to say.

    Oh… also, you might have forgotten to say that even though it does not take value over time… how incredibly CHEAPER titanium is than gold and platinum… no?.. Oh well..

    My opinion.

    • Calla Gold on August 27, 2013 at 8:14 pm

      Hi Jeffrey,
      You remind me of my son the philosopher. He breaks everything down to individual points and rebuts them one by one.
      I stand by my points regardless of how artlessly they me be perceived.
      Yes value is important to me.
      Yes I don’t like cheap metal. That’s my opinion.
      All of my writing is my opinion. I’m just an opinionated jeweler.
      Thank you for your sharing your opinion Jeffrey.
      The stuck on Noble Metals thank you very much Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  26. Dana on August 27, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    I think this is ridiculous. Most of the arguments are based on monetary value. Love should not have a price tag. Both Titanium and Tungsten, as well Cobalt, are all far stronger than either gold or platinum and will last far longer. They will outlast you by a long time, making them nearly eternal. Gold and platinum both dull, wear and deform over a very short period of time. Pure Titanium also 100% hypoallergenic and recommended for people with allergies. You cannot make a pure gold ring, it’s too soft. Before anyone says that gold is also hypoallergenic, we go back to that last statement. 18k gold is only 75% gold and 14k is about 58%. 14k gold contains copper, zinc and nickel. 18k adds silver and rose gold adds a lot more copper. These are reactive and some people react poorly to them, especially copper and nickel.
    I actually prefer Titanium because it is nearly indestructible, maintains it’s luster, is lightweight and maintains its shape.

    • Calla Gold on August 28, 2013 at 6:22 am

      Thank you Dana for weighing in. I have no axe to grind with the many pluses of Titanium. I merely have the opinion that if your wedding ring should need changing that it ought to be able to be changed. Gold and platinum can be changed, altered, sized five sizes worth if needed. In the end you have this meaningful ring that has gone through life with you and your spouse and can last into the next generation.
      Now a titanium band may last into the next century, but if it fits no one and just sits, a neglected symbol of love, where is the love value in it?
      I am a very romantic person. My original wedding ring has had to be sized about three times. I started wearing it when I was nineteen as an engagement ring. I was a skinny thing and maybe my hands hadn’t stopped growing. Maybe my wonderful husband’s excellent cooking helped me quit being skinny and got me normal sized or helped me finish growing.
      I then had my sweet ring sized larger when I was 25.
      Then I got pregnant and my wedding ring had to be sized larger. A year after my son was born I had to size it smaller.
      Maybe all that sizing is not the norm. But that ring is the most important piece of jewelry I own, as is my anniversary ring I received years later. Which has had to have its size altered.
      I do not want to quit wearing those rings because I gained weight. Or grew, or got pregnant.
      I believe you wear your wedding ring regardless of what your weight is doing. Your ring is not a trophy to prove that your body weight remains the same. It is a symbol of love whether you are in shape, out of shape, have no kids or three kids. It’s your love ring and should be worn. If it is made of titanium or tungsten you may have to go buy a new ring. If you go again with titanium or tungsten it won’t cost much. But how does it make you feel? Not wearing the ring your pledged your love in? Having the ring blessed by that sacred ceremony sitting in your jewelry box unworn. To me it’d feel wrong.
      I stand by my sentimental as heck opinion:
      Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.
      Calla Gold

  27. Rob on August 30, 2013 at 2:26 am


    After reading all of the comments, I am disappointed with the blog in general.

    My wife and I are looking to replace our current rings with Titanium for the strength and durability. Not to mention the price isn’t bad at all on any Titanium rings.

    But…you say that the wedding rings should be symbol of love, and I agree with that statement. If you think about the history of the wedding ring the circle represents the symbol eternity. I don’t know about you, but I do not want my marriage getting bent every time I hit it just a little too hard on the table or counter top.

    Now on to the fact that I kept reading Titanium was good for a “right hand ring” in many countries in Europe it is customary to wear the wedding band on the right hand.

    I guess what I’m trying to say is why would you try to convince other of what kind of ring to buy by saying “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands”? Is the profit not good enough for you on those types of metals? Would you rather be buried with your rings, or have one of your descendants sell them because they do not care about the rings?

    Basically, it is not the rings that you are going to have on so why not help the customer to best of your ability instead of looking out for you check book.

    • Calla Gold on August 30, 2013 at 6:47 am

      Hello Rob,
      I’m sorry that my opinion piece on the wearing of titanium as wedding jewelry has disappointed you. The price of titanium is great compared to platinum and gold. If price is a primary concern then by all means go with titanium. It will also be fairly inexpensive each time you order a new one in a different size as your hands and fingers subtly change shape over the course of your marriage. I wrote this piece because of a very unhappy client response to the statement, “no your titanium ring cannot be sized two sizes larger.” My client Joe had a calcium deposit form on his wedding finger after a work related injury. His titanium ring had diamonds in it and wasn’t cheap because he had a lot of custom detail worked into it. This design was his creation to uniquely celebrate his later in life first marriage.
      He was very upset because he got married in that ring and hadn’t realized that if the size needed changing up it needed to be ground out a bit from the inside as opposed to cut, have metal added and soldered closed like gold and platinum. He didn’t find this out while looking into titanium and felt blind-sided by this turn of events. His need for a two size enlargement was more than grinding out could accommodate.
      We ended up replicating the ring in white gold and diamonds. Unfortunately since that time it needed to be sized larger again as his knuckle keeps growing. He was so relieved when I sized his white gold band. His attachment to his wedding ring and unique design and what it means to him was one of the events that prompted this blog post.
      Maybe you don’t mind just buying a new one or two in the future. Or maybe your hand will not need a larger ring. If so you’ll be successfully bucking the odds. But there are people that don’t just want to buy a new one when their fingers change size. I wanted this information out there so people can make an informed decision. I put out my opinion and not everyone will agree with me. And I respect that.
      As to your comment that you don’t want your ring to bend every time you hit it too hard on a table or countertop, I don’t know where you got a ring in gold or platinum that bent when you hit it, but a properly made gold or platinum ring created for daily wear doesn’t bend when you hit it hard. Fifteen years ago I custom made my husband an 18kt yellow gold hammered comfort fit band ring to wear hiking, rock climbing, mountain biking and the like. He has a dressier wedding ring with lapis in it that’d had gotten damaged in a hard hit, the lapis cracked, the gold was fine.
      His new ring has gotten wedged in monzo-granite, pounded and abused. It looks great, has never bent and he loves its toughness.
      I will clarify when I suggest that titanium is fine for a right hand I speak of the American tradition that wedding and relationship jewelry goes on the left ring finger and personal rings expressing your personality go on the right ring finger.
      Rob, I do not offer alternative metals in my custom wedding ring making practice. I specialize in wedding rings made from gold and platinum. I truly believe they are the best choice.
      Jumping onto my Gold and Platinum Soapbox,
      Calla Gold

  28. J-MAN on September 14, 2013 at 4:40 pm

    “If This was Your Titanium Wedding Band, Once You Got it Off, You’d Have to Get a New Band. Your Band Would be Done!” In that pic I don’t care what metal you use it needs to be cut off. I was married 17 yrs and never needed a resize and have never heard of anyone that did. “was married” I wont make the mistake of spending a ton of money next time just to prove that I love someone. The ring is a symbol of love not the love of expensive things. Titanium is so much cheaper you can buy another ring if it ever doesn’t fit.

    • Calla Gold on September 14, 2013 at 5:12 pm

      Hi Joe,
      Thank you for writing.
      My point in that picture was that if the ring that had to be cut off was gold or platinum, I could fix it and they could wear it again. If it was titanium and it got cut off it would not be re-usable.
      You are right that regardless of metals it would need to be cut off.
      Calla Gold

  29. J-MAN on September 14, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    I respect your passion and sentimentality in your work. That’s great for couples who are marrying for the first time because they believe it can and will last forever. I felt the same way when I married for the first time and I spared no expense. Now I have a simple gold band that I paid $600 for 17yrs ago that is worth $100 at a pawn shop today. Its worth the spot price if you are lucky. So the notion that there is value gained by buying gold is silly. I would happily sell you my 17 yr old band for what I paid for it 17yrs ago.

    • Calla Gold on September 15, 2013 at 5:41 am

      Hi Joe,
      I’m still married to the man I married at 20. My wedding rings mean a lot to me. Perhaps I wouldn’t feel that way if I was divorced, but I am happily married.
      The ring I got married in started to look too small as my hands aged, so at year ten I asked for a new wedding ring and helped design it.
      At year 25 I designed a new one which I am wearing this minute. I realize that I am probably more emotional about this, but I have gotten so much pleasure over the years from my rings.
      I keep the ones I no longer wear sized up correctly for me so when I feel sentimental I can wear them. They have a value to me that can’t be measured.
      Looking at my rings makes me feel loved. I am writing from that perspective.
      When I speak of value in gold and platinum I do not mean to say that if you get a divorce you can get your money back for whatever you paid for it. It was retail after all, it was a designed ring and the metal meltdown cost will not be the same as a created ring.
      But it does have monetary value. Tungsten and titanium do not. There’s no “We Buy Tungsten and Titanium” store down by the Piggly Wiggly.
      Thank you for telling of your experience.

  30. J-MAN on September 14, 2013 at 10:07 pm

    I’m sorry I paid $600 for both but they were about the same weight. So $300 for something I can get $100 for today.

    • Calla Gold on September 15, 2013 at 5:42 am

      Hi Joe,
      Thank you for clarifying. That makes more sense.

  31. Henry on September 15, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Great article! I have to thank Google for taking me to this page. This is valuable information for someone currently looking at wedding bands.

    • Calla Gold on October 2, 2013 at 8:03 am

      I appreciate that after reading the blog you were kind enough to leave your very appreciated comment. Lord Google has taken me to many places I am glad to have found. I’m so pleased you were led to my door! Please come again.
      If you are a Facebooking kind of person you could check out my page with on-going projects:
      Calla Gold

  32. Kathleen on October 2, 2013 at 5:48 am

    Hi Calla,
    I read this post with interest and first, I am amazed at some of the really cutting and quite ‘mean’ comments about your opinion of the the ‘less noble’ metals. More amazing is the fact that you can respond in a very civil tone to each and every one! My hat’s off to you and I’ll try to emulate your spirit when I answer some of the same type comments I have to respond to from our website.
    I just LOVE (NOT!) that people think they should get the full value of their gold or platinum back when they sell their precious metal jewelry! As a chainmaille weaver, I hear this often – God forbid that we should be paid for all of the time we spend designing, fabricating, manufacturing, refining design, setting stones, polishing, etc, etc, etc – some people seem to want to pay the spot market price for their jewelry. They just don’t get that that dollar price is for raw, un-refined, right out of the ground ORE! And, don’t get that once they sell that jewelry for scrap, they’re only going to get a portion of that cost back. The precious metal market is SO volatile – you and I know that, but most people don’t.
    I do like titanium for it’s light weight and ‘toughness’ and the fact that it’s a reactive metal which we can anodize (like niobium) but I would never make my wedding ring from it. Cost aside, the wedding ring is a symbol of a ‘precious’ union and in my mind is not to be taken lightly or tossed aside in favor of something less precious. That being said, my husband doesn’t wear his gold ring when working around machines as it could cause great harm to his finger if he hooked it on something. Some of the folks who touted the other metals, might give a second thought to the fact that a ring of any sort could ‘de-glove’ a finger with very little effort.
    I sure wish my finger hadn’t ‘ever’ changed sizes over the years – I can’t wear my wedding ring right now because my finger is larger than when we married almost 24 years ago. *sigh*
    Keep up the good work! Your designs are so exquisite and I love your stories about how new rings come from old, loved, cherished jewelry. Your passion is contagious!!!!

    • Calla Gold on October 2, 2013 at 8:15 am

      My Dear Kathleen, Chain Mail Maker,
      I adore your well thought out comment on people’s expectation that they should be able to buy finished jewelry for near the cost of raw ore. Happily there are people who honor the artist’s skill and time.
      I love your words so much. To hear from you, a fellow artist in jewelry is such a pleasure.
      Thank you for speaking to the comments that are blasted all over the comment section. It’s a source of consternation for my mom, amusement for my husband and sociological interest to me. It’s really just this particular “no on titanium and tungsten wedding bands” post that has pulled the opinionated from the cracks in these great numbers.
      Your mention of sleeving of a finger is a smart one. Having seen a picture, I was horrified. Having a titanium band on in that situation would be worse than gold as it’d take longer to remove. But I digress into the gross. Stopping now.
      I’m wondering Kathleen if your sweet, but too small wedding ring can be sized larger? I’m guessing your sweetie got you a new one if you’re not currently wearing your original. I’ve sized my original twice. But I am a jeweler, so I have one husband and four wedding rings. Three of which I’ve designed. I like putting on my original for sentiments sake now and then so I keep it altered size wise so it’s there when I need it.
      I got engaged and started wearing it at 19 and well I’ve been married longer than you and my hands have soooo changed!
      You have made my day with your kind words and having this beautifully written comment on my blog elevates the conversation.
      I thank you Kathleen,

  33. Mark C. on October 20, 2013 at 7:24 pm

    I’d like to introduce little bit of REALISM:

    -as opposed to some of the crap I read in the previous comments regarding tungsten and titanium and what they are.

    1. Pure tungsten (density 19.2) is not heavier than pure gold (density 19.3).

    2. “Tungsten” rings are absolutely not made with tungsten metal but with tungsten carbide, which is a ceramic.

    3. Tungsten carbide’s density is around 15 and is thus lighter than say a standard 18 karat gold alloy.

    4. “Tungsten rings” are made by sintering (using laser heat to create change and combine with other powdered ingredients) tungsten carbide powder with a metallic binder based usually on nickel or cobalt(in very low proportions).

    5. There is a LOT of confusion on the web and MANY companies who sell exotic alloys and ceramic rings often lie through their teeth and spread false informational sales pitches, and thus it is important to remind the public of certain actual facts. As an aside any engineering materials book that covers these said ring materials will back up these points easily.

    6. Some gold rings are as synthetic as ceramic sintered rings, for the simple reason that novelty intermetallic compounds coined “black gold”, “blue gold” etc. are made by sintering gold powder with other metal powders such as nickel and aluminum in order to obtain a product that has a certain luster, the feel of gold but a totally novel color and aspect. Unfortunately this type of “gold” cannot be sized as it is extremely fragile (such as banging against a hard surface) and worse reacts to simple detergents and other household chemicals.These gold “alloys” (in fact intermetallic compounds) are mostly patented and protected.

    7. -Some companies go a step further in the “high end” ceramic world and order from the supplying company new ceramic compounds which are blends of ceramics, which can be oxides and or carbides, some of which are even patented. They end up by selling them under ODD NAMES which are MISREPRESENTING the end product because they cite metals and not the ceramics truly used in the fabrication. One example is “black titanium”.

    8. One way to produce it is simply to have any standard metal alloy (steel, titanium) coated with a type of carbide (diamond like carbon -deep black- , titanium carbo-nitride -brownish color- , etc) , or simply to have a specific blend of ceramic powders and metal binders all sintered together. Sometimes metal binders can be omitted if the ceramic is isostatically hot pressed for example, as for almost pure silicon carbide or silicon nitride. Decorative items made with these two materials exist and I wouldn’t be surprised if rings do too, or will hit the market in the near future. With new hyped and misleading names no doubt.

    9. Of course, on novelty ring websites, the ceramic blends are being poorly documented or not even briefly explained to the online customer. In some cases this leads to the customer being completely lost, thinking he will be holding some sort of “magic metal” with “magic properties.” When in fact it may be either very brittle, not resistant to wear and specific chemicals (such as those found on sweat) or it may simply be a scam presenting a cheap ceramic as a novelty tailored material. Silicon nitride for example is not expensive to produce and bags full of perfect spheres can be purchased for use as replacement ball bearings.

    10. Cheaply made gold rings exist as well, they are poorly mass produced by some unscrupulous third party. They produce “jewelry” and are practically not “worked” at all: they simply copy existing ring designs and cast a quasi final shape by wax casting thinner copies of original designs. When future repair soldering is done, which is inevitable, due to the unworkableness of their horrendously bad quality manufacturing techniques, the solder “blobs” are visible. And the jewelry will need multiple repairs.

    11. In these cheap online jewelry products you’ll find low value synthetic diamonds, lead filled rubies and sapphires if not simply just colored cubic zirconia, parading as genuine gemstones. You may also receive moissanite parading as diamond. Or titanite and other diamond simulants.

    I’m glad you wrote this blog post and I had a chance to express my opinion.


    • Calla Gold on October 21, 2013 at 8:43 am

      Wow Mark,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your engineering and chemical knowledge with my readers. Your grasp of the compounds in Tungsten sure outstrips mine.
      I had to look up “sintering” as I wasn’t familiar with that term. For readers here’s the Wikipedia on it:
      Each of your points was well thought out. Having to repair some of the knock-off jewelry that people are purchasing on trips has shown me that making jewelry without any regard for the happiness of the end client makes for one difficult repair, I can tell you. Solder blobs aren’t the half of it.
      I appreciate the time that you took in responding. I hope you’ll forgive the little bit of editing I did to make it easier for my readers to follow your points.
      Calla Gold

  34. Epi on October 29, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    You do beautiful work that I’ve looked at in your gallery. In this post you tackle and seem to piss off a lot of people. I laughed a lot while reading the comments. Needless to say my sweetie is not getting that titanium band he sent me a link to on cheap-ass Just kidding that’s not really a site. Is it? Anyway he’s getting white gold! Thanks for the great info and the laughs! Well done!

    • Calla Gold on October 31, 2013 at 6:50 am

      Hi Epi,
      You made me laugh!
      I’m pleased that your sweetie is getting a ‘forever’ white gold wedding band, not a ‘for a while’ titanium wedding band.

  35. Person with a mind on November 1, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    Geez, who is this person to tell others to buy certain items! Its sooo obvious this person’s value system is completely distorted. This is the product of our education system BTW!
    Lets look at everything from a scientific angle, rather than a monetary angle. Once you take the “monetary value” out of the equation, gold and platinum are cheap contenders in the world of sustainability. WAKE UP !
    Thinking Person

    • Calla Gold on November 3, 2013 at 6:28 pm

      Dear Thinking,
      I’ve read your comment. I’m not sure if you are speaking of my value system or recent commenter Marc who gave a super scientific comment. Care to clarify?
      Curious Jeweler Calla

  36. Derrick on November 29, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    Wedding ring prices are absolutely ridiculous and a total sham. You have a job simply to clean and update a symbol of someone’s relationship. If people put more emphasis on their marriages instead of just the symbols of their marriage then the divorce rate in the United States wouldn’t stand at higher than fifty percent.
    A wedding ring is disposable. That’s right. It’s your marriage that is important and the ring is just there to show others of your commitment to each other (and also give yourself daily reminders).
    I love Tungsten and when it no longer fits I will keep the old one and replace it. I don’t need to pay you thousands of dollars and then pay hundreds a year after that just to keep it going.
    You just have to come out with stupid blogs like this to protect your line of work because if everyone knew that your job was pointless you wouldn’t have one. And don’t compare a ring to a car because a car has a function and if I don’t maintain it I will end up on the side of the highway.
    A ring? It will look ugly, God forbid. Don’t waste your money people and think for yourselves.

    • Calla Gold on November 30, 2013 at 7:27 am

      Hello Derrick,
      I see that in writing up my opinion in this blog post about titanium and tungsten bands, I struck a nerve with you. As I am, you are entitled to your opinion.
      I do not consider that my job is simply to clean and update symbols of love. Designing meaningful rings to represent love is an honor that I cherish. Every custom ring that I make gives me such joy.
      Your statement that wedding rings are disposable I take exception to. I think they have great meaning.
      Many a time a client (and I) have shed tears on the delivery of their special ring. Rachel had a diamond from her Grandmother as her center diamond. Her grandmother had emigrated years ago and sold all of her jewelry to get her family out of war-torn Europe. Her Grandmother was separated from her husband and feared he was dead. He was re-united with her three years later in what the family lore considered a miracle. As their family grew and their fortunes improved, life returned to normal. On Rachel’s grandmother’s 50th anniversary her grandfather gave her a beautiful diamond ring. He said it was to replace the first one he gave her that she sold all those years ago. That ring meant so much to the family because of the story it symbolized.
      When Rachel put on that engagement ring with her grandmother’s diamond in it, there was a lot of emotion in that room. Her fiance got on his knees and proposed again. I felt honored to be there and to be a part of creating a ring to symbolize such hope for the future and respect for the past.
      Derrick, I am an emotional person and that’s why it’s hard for me to see a wedding ring as disposable.
      I say, don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands, because they give me no emotional pleasure as metals and as disposable rings.
      Calla Gold

  37. C J on December 4, 2013 at 6:42 am

    In my experience having a ring re-sized is not a good idea and I’ve had a few done. I’d rather put my ring on a chain if it became too small or big. Gold is over priced nowadays and people are not getting value for money. I have a gold wedding ring and it is scratched and has bent to the shape of my finger. I also have a titanium ring which is solid and heavy. I like both my rings and although you are entitled to your opinion it doesn’t really hold any justification and your argument is all one way. There are pros and cons to all purchase items, so people may I suggest that you buy what’s right for you and what won’t cripple the bank balance as a marriage is based on love, commitment, trust and friendship. It’s not based on a piece of jewelry. There is no one more emotional than me when it comes to sentiment. However, it’s my husband that is the value to me and not my wedding ring. I know several couples who have gone out and spent a fortune on wedding rings and are now divorcing several years later.
    Spend your money on making memories that you can share together and splash out more on the honey moon than the ring. Your memories are far more precious than a ring that will scratch, dent, and bend over time. So if you want to purchase a titanium ring, go for it or if you want a gold ring, go for it. Because all that really matters is your love for each other. People there are pros and cons to both gold, platinum, silver and titanium, which is why the opinion is very miss leading and therefore cannot be justified.
    Beware if you have a ring re-sized with stones in it. I have had two rings re-sized, by very good jewelers, and within a couple of days of having my rings back, the diamonds fell out. I had to pay extra to have them replaced, but where is the sentimental value in that because the original diamonds have been lost forever? It cost me more in the long run. So make sure you research all pros and cons, because my jeweler took no responsibility for the stones falling out. Even though it was the re-sizing that had caused them to fall out, so just be careful as re-sizing with diamonds, in my experience, has not been good.

    • Calla Gold on December 4, 2013 at 9:32 am

      Hello CJ,
      Thank you for taking the time to write. I appreciate that you read the post “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands” and responded. Being the opinionated jeweler that I am I will respond to your points made.
      Your first reason for not needing gold or platinum seems to be that sizing them is not a good idea. I have been sizing rings for 30 years. I size gold and platinum rings weekly.If your ring is out of round in the shape department from being worn it could be one of two potential problems; one your ring may be too thin and therefore will go out of shape or two it may be too big for you. For some reason when rings are too big it is easier for them to go out of shape.
      Sizing is a very safe operation for rings to go through. I do not get complaints from my sizings. A good jeweler working on a well made ring should be able to size your ring seamlessly. Check out this blog I wrote on ring sizing prices for pictures of sized rings, Each ring does not show the effects of its sizing.
      Gold costs at least $500.00 less per ounce than it did a year ago. So gold is a better value today.
      Your statement that your titanium ring is heavy makes me think you may have a tungsten band as titanium bands are extremely lightweight which is why is used by NASA for tool making for space ships and stations. Tungsten bands are heavier.
      If you got your gold ring and tungsten wedding band at the same time and needed to size your gold ring, it seems that you wouldn’t still be able to wear your tungsten band. As it cannot be sized.
      I agree with you that the love you have for your husband is the most meaningful thing to cherish in your relationship.
      Regarding your diamonds falling out after sizing there are reasons that may have happened. See my blog post: One of the points I make is to avoid :shared prongs.” I don’t know if your ring had shared prongs. When I size rings with shared prongs I always point that out to the person before doing any work as it is a design that is not great for daily wear. It is less great for a ring needing sizing. For that reason I usually design with 4 prongs not shared prongs. If your jeweler did not point this out to you that is not OK in my book. If shared prongs were not the culprit and the settings were fine before the sizing your jeweler should have helped you solve the problem he may have caused.
      I recommend using a jeweler with a good reputation for sizing and discussing what might happen to side diamonds and who is responsible and for how long. It seems if you have a problem in 30 days the jeweler should replace them for free. However that is just my opinion.
      Continue in your happy marriage whatever ring you wear!
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  38. C J on December 4, 2013 at 7:12 am

    In relation to the story about the Grandmother above, I’m pretty sure had the ring been a titanium one then the same emotion and meaning would have still been there as the emotions are in the story behind the jewelry of keeping the family together. Titanium might not be as expensive as gold, but it can still have meaning behind it because it’s about the person behind the ring and that’s what it’s all about. People are losing sight of that because weddings are becoming more for show on who can have the biggest ring or the best dress. And the flash cars. People should not start their married life in debt. Jewelers are even starting to give out credit now.
    I don’t disagree with you that you have sentimental values. The above story is lovely but most jewelers are just in it for a profit and have jumped on the band wagon of filling people’s heads that they have to have expensive wedding rings.
    My sister paid thousands of pounds for her platinum, diamond wedding ring for her September wedding in the luxury hotel with all the trimmings, yet by Christmas she was skint and couldn’t afford Christmas presents for her kids. This was because the jeweler filled her head with a load of waffle.
    Her rings cost more than her dress and bridesmaids dresses put together, so if you want to promote gold then that’s OK, but please do not slate titanium as there is nothing wrong with a nice titanium ring either. It can also have the same sentimental emotions behind it. My sister’s rings are platinum and unless you were an expert in the field of metals, you wouldn’t be able to tell if they were silver, white gold, platinum or tungsten because they are dull. She can’t afford the upkeep they require. And who wants to be taking their platinum rings to the jewelers to be re-buffed every six months? Yes when you get a car you wash it etc, but even that is a pain in the butt. However, if I had to take the car in every so often to get it paint sprayed I’d get rid of it and use the bus. The fact that white gold has to be dipped/ rhodium plated yearly or so is also a pain. And when the kids come along in a marriage, then who the hell has time for all that? Not me that’s for sure.
    So look at your lifestyles and do your research guys because like I’ve said there are pros and cons to everything 🙂

    • Calla Gold on December 4, 2013 at 8:18 am

      Hello Claire,
      Thank you for writing and sharing your views. I have to respond to your comment on the story of the grandmother’s wedding diamond and it’s wonderful meaning in a ring I designed for my clients. If the grandmother had had a titanium ring it would have been worthless and wouldn’t have been able to be sold to help with her desperate flight. Now it’s true that the diamond was the real value. You cannot set a large valuable diamond on titanium that is why they are sold mostly as bands.
      To be fair you may be referring to the ring I designed being able to be titanium. Since it can’t be cast and worked by me with heat and only machined I cannot work with titanium. Again you can’t set a nice center diamond up on a titanium band. Part of the reason for using gold, white gold and platinum is that these metals can be worked by a jeweler. Jewelers came to be as artisans through the gift of these metals and people’s desire to have them worked for body adornment.
      Regarding the dullness of your sister’s platinum ring turning dull, I address that in my blog post: There are solutions beyond just constant polishing that I address in this post.
      Regarding your feelings about having to rhodium plate white gold once a year to once every three years to brighten its white color, it is not an expensive or time consuming process. ( my post about it:
      There are people whose never re rhodium plate their white gold rings and are perfectly happy. It is not a ‘have to’ type of maintenance. It’s merely suggested.
      I stand by my noble metals as the best choice for wedding rings. I still say don’t buy tungsten and titanium wedding bands.
      Thank you for writing.
      Lovin my gold and platinum kind of gal,
      Calla Gold

  39. Don on December 9, 2013 at 4:19 am

    For me, I chose Titanium for my wedding band, my wife elected to go with white gold as the design we wanted wasn’t feasible at the time in titanium. We remade it about three years ago in titanium and using sapphires instead of diamonds. Cost roughly a third of the original ring, but some surprising differences:
    1) My wife doesn’t work with her hands, but even so the elaborate white gold ring got severely damaged often, losing stones (not repairable by most jewelers, we had to send it home to SA for repair several times).
    2) My own ring is still in perfect shape, and I’ve had it resized twice. Yes, titanium has been resized. No, not in a local jeweler, I had to send it away; but the cost was still very much lower than the white gold band my wife had resized and repaired constantly.
    3) The titanium band my wife had made is far more delicate to the eye, yet has not even warped, bend, curved, etc. Her white gold ring had already bend a few of the carvings/moldings? by the first year.

    In the end, I recognize you need to protect your business; but discrediting a material that’s cheaper, lighter, and far more durable (and YES adjustable too), isn’t the way to do it.

    • Calla Gold on December 9, 2013 at 7:37 am

      Dear Don,
      Thank you for your titanium story. Your wife’s experience with her white gold band is an interesting one. It sounds to me like her ring wasn’t made for daily wear. See my blog on “Wedding Jewelry: Daily Wear VS. Occasional Wear”:
      Her ring with her gentle wear style sounds like its design was for occasional wear not daily wear. Or possibly the sales person at the store didn’t know she’d wear it daily or didn’t realize that the particular design she liked was unsuitable for daily wear and hence didn’t tell her or you.
      I’ve seen many intricate and pretty designs that have fallen apart fairly quickly when worn as wedding rings, yet not been designed for that purpose.
      Only a light weight white gold ring, too lightweight for daily wear will bend like that. Titanium will not bend like that because it is super strong. And you are right, it is a less expensive metal.
      Regarding your “sized” band, per my earlier description in my post, your ring was not sized in the sense that a gold or platinum ring is sized. It’s gouged out thinner from the inside to make it bigger or has a sheet inserted inside to make it tighter. That works but only for a small sizing. If you need to go larger by two sizes they have to make a new one. I have no ax to grind with titanium, there is the reality of our fingers changing size over the life of our marriage and as titanium size adjusting is so limited I find it unsuitable for wedding rings.
      I do not write this to protect my business, I write it because it is my opinion. I still say “Don’t Buy Titanium and Tungsten Wedding Bands.”
      Calla Gold

  40. Kimi on December 9, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    Obviously on a subject as trivial as this one, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. For those who want a more durable ring, and who maybe want something (can only afford) something cheaper, it is fine for them to buy titanium and tungsten. If that’s their preference they aren’t breaking any moral code. If someone feels like Gold and Platinum . . . great for them. That’s why God gave us variety in life.

    1)Personally I was happy to find out about Tungsten, I’d never heard of it. My husband and I aren’t too keen on wedding rings in the first place, but wear them only to show others we are not available. We loose rings easily and don’t want to waste any more money on expensive pieces of jewelry.

    2) So what if my finger grows over time, I’ll buy a new ring. Styles change over time, and I wouldn’t want to be stuck with an outdated ring anyway.

    • Calla Gold on December 10, 2013 at 7:48 pm

      Hi Kimi,
      Thank you for your comment. It seems that tungsten is the perfect choice for you both. You know what you are getting, you’re willing to replace it if you outgrow it and you might like a change anyway in ten years.
      In your case go for tungsten wedding bands.
      I appreciate your viewpoint and I’m sure my readers will want to see your opinion.
      Calla Gold

  41. brieanna on December 17, 2013 at 11:48 pm


    ITANIUM can be resized you just have to find a SKILL jeweler who can work with it. Most sales people would rather tell you it cant be resized and make you buy something more expensive. I have had my titanium ring for 43 years and I have had it resized twice. But I will admit they cannot be resized as easy as gold or silver but they CAN BE RESIZED.The amount it can be resized depends on the thickness of the actual ring

    • Calla Gold on December 18, 2013 at 9:29 am

      Hello Brieanna,
      Thank you for writing. That is amazing that you’ve had a titanium ring for 43 years. I am guessing your finger has just changed a very small amount in that time.
      When titanium has its size altered it is either ground out in a machine shop setting or a piece is machined and wedged in to make it smaller. Sizing as jewelers do it involves open fire soldering or laser soldering. Titanium cannot be soldered only ground by machine shop type machines. That is when typical jewelers do not “size” titanium.
      We are not trying to be elitist. Or make people spend more money. We do not have the machines needed to do this work.
      Further, the grinding only works for one size or so.
      I recently sized a platinum ring from size 7 to size 4.5. This was a very challenging job since there were many tiny diamonds and their settings to consider.
      I was able to use laser soldering and careful work to make this ring look just as beautiful for a size 4.5. If that ring had been titanium it would have been unusable for the recipient of the gift.
      Titanium cannot be worked with jewelers tools and cannot be changed with heat.
      And there is a limit to how much you can change the size. The amount it can be changed is a very small amount and in many cases people’s fingers will change size too much over the course of a marriage to be able to continue wearing a titanium wedding band.
      When you mention the thickness of a titanium band you have a good point. If you have a very thick band then in the future there is more depth that can be ground away to make the ring bigger. I would point out that a very thick band would most likely be pretty uncomfortable. Once ground out to make it bigger it’d be more comfortable. I do not see starting with an uncomfortably thick titanium wedding band so you’ll be able to grind it out larger is a good solution to the reality that our fingers often get larger as we move through life.
      Calla Gold

  42. Mike A on December 20, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    Tungsten carbide FOR THE WIN. If you lose weight then suck it up and spend another $90. My shit survived Afghanistan.

    • Calla Gold on December 21, 2013 at 7:30 am

      Hi Mike,
      I’m pleased that you and your wedding ring survived your tour in Afghanistan.
      I’m curious Mike, if it’s a guy thing, but are you sentimental about the actual ring you got married in? I realize that you are $90.00 away from a new ring that will fit you if your finger size changes, but that new ring isn’t the same one you were married in.
      What will you do with the one you pledged your vows with? Sell it on Ebay? Craig’s List? Stick it in a drawer? What about thirty years from now? Will you have a collection of 2 or 3 rings rotting (not literally) in your jewelry box, unable to be worn because they no longer fit?
      Is that at all weird for you?
      I’m asking as a sentimental girl. I’m really attached to the specialness of the ring I got married in. I’m attached to the ring my husband got married in. I like that they have both been able to be sized. I like that my kid and his future kids would be able to size them and use them if they want. Or sell them if they need the money. I like that our rings have value and don’t become obsolete because my body changed.
      What is your take on these consideration? As a guy?
      Curious Calla

  43. SW on December 24, 2013 at 9:32 am

    What a shill article. Titanium, Tungsten and other untraditional metals, are very interesting and are just as meaningful, if not more so, than the gold or platinum that 99% of people get (because that is what they are “supposed to get”).

    You are probably posting this because you are concerned that alternative metals wedding bands are becoming a trend, so you decide to disseminate some fear uncertainty and doubt about these perfectly good materials.

    Your reasons for doing so are just plain wrong. Specifically the one regarding the weight of the ring? Please! Have you ever felt a tungsten ring?

    I hope people see through your advertisement.

    • Calla Gold on December 24, 2013 at 5:18 pm

      Hello SW,
      You are of course entitled to your opinion. I did not write this article to slam titanium or tungsten as rings for the right hand.
      I merely feel that as a daily wear ring that needs to changed with you over the years it is unsuitable. I personally don’t like the lightweightness of titanium. It is a personal thing.
      Calla Gold

  44. Raealistic on January 10, 2014 at 12:08 am

    So your reasons for not getting a Tungsten ring is that it’s not as expensive as other metals, and if you get fat or lose bunches of weight you’ll need to get a cheap and easily purchasable replacement?

    The wedding ring is a symbol of marriage, and that’s it. By your reasoning the more expensive the ring, the more it matters in the long-run. I just don’t agree, and I think that’s kind of an awful, materialistic way to look at something that’s starting off your life together as a couple.

    • Calla Gold on January 10, 2014 at 6:54 am

      Dear Raeanne,
      Thank you for your comment. Regarding your viewpoint I’d like to say that for most people even with no weight gain or loss in their married life their knuckles keep growing. After you’ve been married a while you just need to have your ring sized differently.
      My personal opinion is that you should be able to wear the ring you got married in. This isn’t some materialistic greedy kind of thought.
      Our grandparents who struggled during the Great Depression found a way to get gold or platinum rings with diamonds on them. When I see how those rings are cherished and the diamonds re-used for new designs I am moved by the generational love these rings symbolize. Over and over again, I hear from young couples statements like, “they were happily married for 60 years and this ring was there the whole time.” Or, “My grandmother wore this ring everyday for 68 years. It means a lot to me that she gave it to me.”
      No one will say that about your tungsten band. Your grandkids aren’t going to say “wow, how nice of grandma to leave me her tungsten band.” Of course it doesn’t fit, but,… yeah.
      Not one young couple coming to me to design a ring with their grandma’s diamonds every talked about how materialistic their grandparents were. They talked about how they created a family and stayed together. That gold band of grandpa’s and that diamond ring of grandma’s were the most important pieces of jewelry either one of them had. They stood for their love, their sacrifices and their partnership for a life.
      I say don’t buy tungsten or titanium bands and I stand by my opinion.
      Calla Gold

  45. Wolfram on January 24, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    In my opinion your reasons for not buying Tungsten are weak and unconvincing.

    – First Tungsten is heavier than gold.
    – Fat fingers ? Put the fork down (your bones do NOT grow after you hit 23 y/o)
    – Tungsten is one of the most durable materials in the world and will not scratch, which will be best fit to represent strong marriage.
    – Gold / Platinum are overpriced, will scratch very easily and super soft metals which will deform and damage your finger in case of accident, where tungsten is to protect it.
    – Tungsten is affordable and virtually indestructible and still can be engraved.

    • Calla Gold on January 24, 2014 at 9:07 pm

      Hello Wolfram,
      Thank you for writing and specifying your issues with my blog post about not choosing tungsten and titanium bands for wedding rings.
      1. In my article I specify that titanium is lighter than gold and platinum. I do not lump the heavier tungsten in that statement.

      2. I discussed why many people need their rings sized over the life of their marriage, near the end of this Blog post:

      3. Tungsten may be hard, but it is brittle and can break. See this article about a tungsten ring breaking a half and hour after this guy made his marriage vows:

      An important part of this article is the acknowledgement that tungsten does break by industry professionals. It has happened to many married couples. Tungsten’s brittleness and ability to break when hit or dropped just the right way, makes me feel that it is not a good representation of a strong marriage.
      Here are the quotes from jewelry industry regarding the break-ability of tungsten:
      Helena Krodel from Jewelers of America confirms:
      “Tungsten carbide (which is not actually a metal, it is a metal matrix composite) does in fact shatter if exposed to an extreme blow. Unlike other precious metals like platinum, gold or sterling silver, tungsten carbide will shatter not bend if exposed to a high impact blow.”
      The Jewelers Vigilance Committee, which mediates disagreements between jewelers and consumers has had no complaints about tungsten rings breaking, but president and CEO Cecilia Gardner says, “I certainly have heard about this happening.”
      Even some of the Tungsten websites admit it:

      Q. Can Tungsten Carbide or Zirconia Ceramic shatter or chip?

      A: Yes – While extremely strong and scratch-resistant, Tungsten carbide and Zirconia Caramic are a bit more brittle than traditional metals used as wedding bands. The metals properties behave more like a marble or a concrete then a metal.

      4. You say that gold and platinum are over-priced. Gold is an amazing metal and has been used in jewelry making since the beginning of decorative metal working. It is also used in many other industries as well. Its price is based on demand and availability. The fact that it can be designed with in many ways and sized and repaired as needed makes it an ideal metal for long lasting wedding jewelry. Gold’s warm beauty and platinum’s appeal are worth it in my view.
      A properly made wedding ring will not deform. Neither 14kt gold or Platinum are “very soft” metals.
      Your mention of tungsten being protective to your hand in case of an accident is an iffy statement. It might break in that accident.
      Your comment that gold and platinum scratch easily is interesting. Would you not buy a car because the paint might get scratched? Would you get mad because your card that you drive daily needed a tune-up? I find the patina of wear quite attractive on my ring. It gives it a slightly soft and warm look. I only repolish my 18kt yellow gold ring every three years or so. Just for a change. Not that I object to the patina of wear.
      Tungsten is affordable, it is not indestructible. titanium and tungsten can only be engraved by laser. Gold and platinum can be engraved by machine and hand engravers as well as by laser. Titanium and tungsten cannot be sized. If you plan to be married a long time the chances of your fingers staying the same size are slim. Then where will you be with the ring you made your vows over?
      I say don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.
      Calla Gold

  46. kevin on January 30, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    “I realize that you are $90.00 away from a new ring that will fit you if your finger size changes, but that new ring isn’t the same one you were married in.”

    – says the person on her third gold wedding ring.

    You totally lost me after you posted that you got a new wedding ring for your 10 and 25th anniverseries. 3/5ths of the reasons in your blog are that tungston and titanium rings cannot be resized. But the simple fact is tungston and titanium rings are significantly cheaper and can be replaced if they are lost or your finger changes mutliple sizes.

    So what gets me about your postition is that your response to everyone that posted about the benefits of having a cheaper ring, that it can be replaced, was based on the sentimentality of it being the ring you were married in despite the fact that you are on your third ring yourself.

    If it’s such a big deal to you that your wedding ring be the one you are married in, why would you repace yours twice?

    Also your reasoning regarding the value is misguided. Yes gold is much more valuable that tungston and titanium. But as you admitted yourself, the cost of a gold ring far exceeds the value of the materials. So if I buy a $1500 ring work $900 in materials, how is that a better value than buying a $90 ring regardless of the value of the materials. Even though goal/silver/platiumum are commodities, the value of the gold/silver/platiumun in the ring will never be more valueble than if you had spent $90 and invested the $1400 in something else, like stocks, mutual funds, or even gold, which is a traded commodity.

    So $90 ring and $1400 or $1500 ring worth $900, you pick which has more value.

    • Calla Gold on January 30, 2014 at 9:45 pm

      Regarding having three wedding rings. I’m a jeweler and I love each of them and switch them around. As a jeweler I love to lavish my design skills on my rings. Each ring means a lot to me. They are all precious metal. None are titanium or tungsten as those metals do not speak to me as marriage metals.
      Respectfully, if you are fine with ordering a new band when you can’t fit into your old one, by all means do that. It’s not something I’d do. That’s me.
      I wrote this because there are those out there unaware that they cannot size adjust titanium and tungsten rings. I am fine with them making an informed choice. But I’m not going to stand by and say nothing. I have been thanked by many men and women who like titanium and happily wear the rings on their right hands. They appreciated being put in the know so they could decide for themselves. Interestingly 85% of them want a ring they can size and alter if they need to.
      Regarding my plethora of wedding rings, I don’t feel the need to apologize for the fact that I love more than one ring from my wonderful husband. I’m a girl and a jeweler, I’m surrounded by beauty and have a lot of love in my heart.
      Regarding your comment on the fine ring costing $1500.00 with $900.00 worth of materials. It’s kind of like saying “that car cost $40,000, but if I took it to a junkyard to sell it for the metal value I’d only get $2200.00. What a rip. I believe that if a designer creates a ring that they are entitled to be paid for their work. Do you work for free?
      As far as investing goes, since my wedding ring is the most valuable piece of jewelry in my heart, I’d spend my money on it before I’d put my money in the stock market. Somehow the stock market doesn’t say love, trust, faith and forever true to me.
      That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in investing in the stock market. I do. But not with love money. My love money goes to my love jewelry. The value in the pleasure I get in wearing my wedding ring, which ever one I choose to wear is priceless. My wedding ring is not a commodity, it is a symbol of love. I treat it with respect and love it. Therefore if my husband says, “Babe I’ve saved up $2,000.00 to buy you a ring as a symbol of my love. Or I could get you some bonds to put away for a rainy day.” I’ll take my lovely symbol of love thank you very much. I’ll take that in gold and platinum and not in titanium or tungsten.
      Calla Gold

  47. Maarten on January 31, 2014 at 5:30 am

    Or you could just get 20 titanium wedding bands in all sizes instead of just two.

    You do not need to worry about losing them or people wanting to steal your expensive ring.

    Then you never need to visit a jeweler again in life unless you feel like it.

    Also its stronger leighter more durable and non-allergic material then platinum or gold.

    • Calla Gold on January 31, 2014 at 8:24 am

      Hello Maarten,
      I’m thinking you are not a fan of jewelers. That is too bad. Of course you could buy 20 titanium bands and have an absurd amount of rings. And never see a jeweler again. But what is the point? As a romantic woman I want beauty and versatility. I do not want a disposable symbol of love. Having a box of cheap replacement rings does not say “special” or “meaningful” to me.
      Years ago I got a dog and he came with a perfectly bomb proof nylon leash. I fell in love with my dog Snooper and I wanted a beautiful leather leash for him. My step dad argued that the nylon one was just fine and would be more durable. And he would not pay for it. I was about eight at the time.
      I saved up and got the leather leash. It went in the ocean by accident, it got dragged through dog poop.(By accident.) A lot happened to that leash. But I always cleaned and saddle soaped it and cared for it.
      If I’d used the nylon one I could have thrown it in the dishwasher or the washing machine. (My mom would really have liked that the time it got dog poop on it.)But I wasn’t looking for utilitarian-ness or the cheapest price. I was looking for a symbol of my love for Snooper. And for the record I got a constant barrage of crap for spending my money on leather from my step-dad. I guess your comment reminded me of that time.
      I do not regret buying or caring for that leather leash for Snooper.
      When the divorce happened, Snooper stayed with my step dad and we moved away. I was pretty sad. I noticed that my step dad kept the leather leash. Maybe its attractiveness and need of care and non-bomb-proofness were not a deterrent to having it and using it.
      I share this story with you to try to explain why something special that costs a little more can feel meaningful. My dog didn’t care about what kind of leash he was on in the big city. But as the giver, it made me feel good. All these years later when I see Snooper in my mind’s eye I’m running with him, looking down the leather leash. That I saved up for and got for him.
      I doubt my husband looks at my ring with the same feelings. But when I look at my ring it makes me feel like I am special to him. Having a bunch of copies of it in my jewelry box. Not so special.
      Not having any titanium or tungsten on my wedding finger thank you,
      Calla Gold

  48. Mike on January 31, 2014 at 11:41 am

    While I do understand the reasons you have for recommending against titanium and tungsten, I have a comment that has not been addressed (surprisingly) so far. I have an allergy to Nickel which is in pretty much any standard ring out there. So I have not choice but to go with an alternative metal. I know that my finace loves me very very much but there is no way we are buying a platinum wedding band so Cobalt, Titanium, and Tungsten are my only real options.

    • Calla Gold on January 31, 2014 at 9:40 pm

      You bring up an excellent point! Having a nickel allergy and having a daily wear ring do not a good pair make! The EU countries have passed legislation addressing nickel in jewelry. Here’s an excerpt from Askville about nickel in jewelry making:
      The European Union countries have enacted legislation (under the EU Nickel Directive) valid from the 20th January 2000 that limits nickel release from jewellery and other items in close and constant contact with the skin. Thus, in Europe, nickel white golds are being phased out and being replaced by palladium white golds, although low nickel alloys that meet the nickel release requirements of the Directive are still in service. This does not guarantee that a nickel-sensitised person will not suffer an allergic skin reaction if wearing jewellery made from such conforming, nickel-containing alloys!

      Japan and China have taken a similar position on nickel. The USA is taking a more relaxed approach, requiring jewellery to be labelled as nickel-containing. Many other countries have not taken a stance on nickel in jewellery and nickel white golds are still widely sold.
      (From :
      Many responsible jewelers and designers have used nickel-free white gold for years. I am one of these jewelers. So Mike, white gold is an option for you as long as you work with a jeweler who will either custom make your ring in nickel-free white gold or source a ring for you in nickel-free white gold.
      A white gold band would be significantly less expensive choice than platinum.
      I appreciate your bringing up such an important and you are right, so far not covered, subject.
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  49. Amanda on January 31, 2014 at 6:35 pm

    This is the worst informercial to buy more expensive metals from a jeweller that I have ever read. There is nothing wrong with titanium bands. Not everyone wants that $5000 diamond solitaire plus matching band. Using the example of being able to change out a gold setting to accept a larger diamond in the future…what a ridiculous thing to do. “Sorry dear, this one is too small…let me take it back to the jeweller and make it the way I want!” HAHA.Not everyone cares if their band gets too small – put the original one away and buy another one! It’s just a physical item. Many married people do not even wear a band.

    • Calla Gold on January 31, 2014 at 9:15 pm

      Hi Amanda,
      I am sharing information some people may want and not have. The fact that they can’t have soldering done on their titanium or tungsten bands. Further I share my perspective. It’s OK that you do not share it.
      It is a fact that after years of marriage some people are in a financial position to upgrade the size of their diamond. It’s a celebration of their partnership in life and their success. It is not someone being greedy and being demanding. At least the clients I deal with are doing this from a place of love and celebration.
      I guess I’d better feel complimented that my blog is the worst infomercial to buy more expensive metals you have ever seen. Do I get a prize? A titanium trophy?
      You are right that there are people who do not wear their bands. I’d say this blog post is not for them. It is for people who wear their bands and cherish them.
      Thank you for taking the time to let me know I’m creating an effect with my writing.
      Jewelry blogger,
      Calla Gold

  50. Nick on February 3, 2014 at 1:40 am

    Reasons #1, 2 and 4 are the same issue. Reasons #3 and 5 are the same. Your cleverly marketed “five reasons” are basically two: sizing and value.

    Regarding value, not all titanium and tungsten rings are worthless. I’ve seen titanium bands with platinum, gold and silver mixed into the design pattern, either as an inner or outer band. Also, titanium is extremely light-weight which is a value to many professionals like myself (musician) who can not work with heavy rings. Finally, jewelry as inheritance is extremely old-fashioned thinking. There are many other, more modern ways to give your children an inheritance.

    Regarding size, I saw your comment quoting some anonymous doctor about “ears, noes and knuckles never stop growing” … ridiculous. If that were true then all our elders would have humongous noses and hands (and they don’t). Ears droop. Cartilage sags. It does not grow. Everyone knows the re-sizing of rings is due to weight gain/loss. It is also a source of revenue for your jewelry store, so naturally you are opposed to rings which you can’t re-size.

    • Calla Gold on February 3, 2014 at 6:39 am

      Dear Nick,
      I’m happy with the way I stated my five points. But if you chose to look at them as two main reasons that is fine. Regarding value I like a re-usable ring. Even though some titanium rings have gold and platinum in them that doesn’t make them wearable for the generation that would inherit them. That leaves the value of the band, if you pulled the precious metals out of the wrong size band, the value of the titanium, negligible, and the platinum or gold, which will only be valued as scrap metal. I personally like the idea of being able to actually size and wear an inherited band. There is meaning in a wedding band that is inherited. Many of my clients have used an inherited ring from a beloved grandfather to be their band. I could see how special that was.
      I believe from the amount of inherited rings I have sized, polished and repaired or mid-life tuned-up for couples getting married that it is an important and helpful gesture for a family member to have access to an inherited wedding band. I see how much they appreciate the connection to their family. They would miss that were they to inherit titanium or tungsten. The chance that it’d fit them perfectly is so slim.
      Of course there are other things your kids or grand kids could inherit, but would they mean as much as a ring you wear daily? I think not Nick.
      Regarding size of fingers. I have observed many women who hadn’t gained weight whose fingers had enlarged. I thought the doctor I spoke to perhaps had a point because I size so many rings larger. But perhaps he was theorizing. The fact remains that as a 31 year jeweler I am in the unique position to design wedding rings and then have to size practically every one of them ten years or so later. It is very real to me that to be able to have your wedding band sized is important if you have a sentimental attachment to your band.
      As a musician I can see that you like your lightweightness of band.
      Happy to stick to gold and platinum wedding bands,
      Calla Gold
      My only objection to your comment is the personal attack that I give my reasons merely out of economic consideration.

  51. Nick on February 3, 2014 at 2:11 am

    PS: In reading your comments, I see you argue that gold isn’t “soft” but you are wrong, gold is very soft. That’s why gold coins wear down much faster than silver, nickel, brass, etc. You argue 14k gold is hard – but 14k is ONLY 58% GOLD.
    Of course the karat with the least amount of gold will be harder than, say, the 22k or 24k rings you typically sell (which are 92% gold or better, and therefore softer).

    You are careful to use certain words and not others. You think this wins over the readers, but I believe they see through the snake oil.

    • Calla Gold on February 3, 2014 at 9:39 am

      Hi Nick,
      For wedding rings which need to be strong I typically use 14kt yellow or 14kt white gold. This is as you say 58% pure soft gold and 42% harder metal alloys. This gives the gold great strength. This 14kt gold choice is very strong. One of my clients had me re-polish his ring. In an inattentive moment a door tried to close on his hand. The gold was marked by the collision, but not bent. Gold alloyed this way is very strong.
      If you were to included rose gold in this conversation, I’d say that 14kt rose gold is the weaker metal since it uses so much copper in the alloy for the wonderful color.
      I’m not sure what words you speak of that I am “careful” to use. But I see that you are characterizing me as some grasping greedy person by writing this blog post and dismissing titanium and tungsten for wedding bands. I did not write this post for personal gain, but to inform those of the cons of choosing these metals as wedding bands.
      I do not sell titanium or tungsten wedding bands and have no ax to grind with the makers of these rings. Perhaps you are such a maker? Perhaps that is the reason for the personal attack?
      I recently sized a 14kt gold wedding band from size 7 to size 10 for nice strapping young man who was given it from his grandfather. He was very pleased that I was able to make it larger. He loved his grandfather, who was married happily for over 50 years. Had his grandfather given him a titanium or tungsten band size 7, it would have sat forgotten in a drawer. That would have been sad.
      As it stands he has a wonderful wedding band and a fantastic reminder of his loving grandfather.
      Calla Gold

  52. edward matson on February 8, 2014 at 8:58 pm

    Calla Gold..if your noble metals are so wonderful, why did you start a mud-slinging contest by saying “Don’t buy titanium or….”

    That is so unprofessional.Also, I know many, many people who could buy platinum and prefer titanium. Why anyone who has got their eye on building wealth would piss their money away on platinum or gold is beyond me.

    • Calla Gold on February 9, 2014 at 7:33 am

      Dear Edward,
      I wrote my blog post to inform people that a wedding band that can’t change and grown with you in your married life or be shared with future generations might be a poor choice as a wedding band. It is my opinion. People have been pissed when their finger expands and they can’t change their titanium or tungsten band. I’ve heard, “if I had known that I wouldn’t have bought it.” One female client sat with me and cried while they decided to order a white gold band. She said, “I wanted the ring I gave him to last our whole lives.” She felt pretty devastated that the titanium band she’d chosen no longer fit him.
      He’d hurt his hand at work and his finger was bigger. He was comforting her and saying, “babe I’ll love my new ring. I’ll wear it always.” The sentimentality of a wedding band is that it is supposed to be the ring you can have your whole life.
      I wrote this post to inform people of the limitations of titanium and tungsten as a lasting band from a size perspective.
      My purpose was not to start a mud-slinging contest. And for the record the other side has done some serious mud-slinging in the comments section. Which turned it into mud-slinging with insults and personal attacks.
      For my part I take great strength from my long marriage. I didn’t economize, but saved up for my sweetie’s wedding band. I’m glad I did. Wealth building is something we can do together as a team once we are married, was my thinking at the time. I enjoyed saving up month after month so I could afford a nice wedding band for my husband. It was important to me. That band has been sized about three times. As we’ve been married many years.
      I love looking at it and being reminded of my wedding day. The happiest day of my life. My nice mom paid for my wonderful backyard wedding. Her friend did the food, another friend did the flowers. We weren’t made of money. I was very proud of the fact that at 19, I earned and saved up the money for his ring. If tungsten and titanium had been available I would have been tempted to buy them for him. They look good, they feel good, they are a wonderfully affordable price and they are pretty great. But if I also were told at the time the limitations that I have shared in my titanium and tungsten blog, I would have said, “no, if it’s not going to be able to be worn for sure in ten years because his finger changes no. I’ll get a really nice metal that can be altered, that he can keep wearing.”
      Some people do not know the limitations, so I wrote this blog post so couples planning to marry can be informed. And yes I expressed my strong personal opinion about it.
      Romantic and opinionated jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  53. edward matson on February 8, 2014 at 9:03 pm

    Furthermore, I had a band from Tiffany and Co. that was platinum. After about 2 years or less, it looked like something out of a cracker jack box. The person wearing the ring is the only one, probably, who could discern what material it is made from , so if it makes you feel better to have platinum, good for you.

    And I am happy you can choose what metal you can afford. So can I ..I can also choose the jeweler..Cartier, VanCleef, Tiffany..can you ?

    • Calla Gold on February 9, 2014 at 7:49 am

      Ah Edward, you are back.
      Regarding your complaints about your platinum Tiffany wedding band, I write about the malleability of platinum in my blog post here:
      You make a good point that a plain shiny platinum band has an annoying habit of dulling up way faster than for example 14kt white gold. I address in that blog the idea that platinum wedding bands will look better with a design, whether it be carved in or engraved on. Sparkly little diamonds will also be very helpful as well in helping platinum look livelier.
      Otherwise you’ll need to polish it regularly to keep the high polish showing. As you’ll see by that post Edward I am opinionated about platinum as well.
      There are pros and cons to many wedding band metal choices. I’m blogging to inform people of the various issues surrounding wedding band choices and metal choices as well.
      I’m figuring by your mentioning your choices of jeweler that I am supposed to feel what, offended? I don’t get your point. Of course you would not choose me as your jeweler, which is fine.
      I find that by freely giving jewelry choices information, I have attracted an intelligent, well informed type of new client. Happily the perturbed ones, such as yourself, do not call and ask me to custom make them jewelry.
      You are entitled to your opinion as I am to mine. That’s one of the things I love about our country, even though some of us differ wildly we can all express our opinions. May it always be so.
      May your wedding band give you great good feelings as you wear it!
      Calla Gold

  54. John on February 12, 2014 at 8:57 pm

    As I understand it, platinum was discovered in the 18th century, so I question your claim that it was valued for thousands of years.

    • Calla Gold on February 12, 2014 at 9:07 pm

      Hello John,
      I should have been more specific. I was referring to gold in my 1,000’s of years comment. Good catch.
      Platinum, according to Wikipedia ( was first referred to by Scalinger in 1557 as an as yet unnamed metal.
      In 1741 Charles Wood wrote about it.
      Calla Gold

  55. Brian P on February 17, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Hello Calla, I totally agree with this. I do not understand how people can be so cheap and casual about a ring that is suppose to be significant and the most important piece of jewelry we will ever own. “Ahh its no big deal, I’ll but a tungsten one for 40 dollars at Walmart, i can smash it with a hammer and if it breaks i can go buy another one, even open beer with it”… really? You have to be kidding me. I went with beautiful yellow gold, a rare precious metal that’s been used since the infancy of humans. Think about it folks, imagine if King Solomon got cheap and made God’s temple with iron because “Ahh I don’t feel like wasting the money, it’s no big deal”.. Think he would have accepted it? Get a job, or work extra hours, whatever it takes, but do not be cheap on this people.

    • Calla Gold on February 17, 2014 at 1:58 pm

      Hi Brian,
      Thank you, thank you. I so appreciate your opinion in light of what I’ve been reading in the comments column lately. We’d never ever have learned of King Solomon’s mine or temple if it had all been iron. Of course we would have been spared a movie in my top ten worst movies of all time “King Solomon’s Mine.”
      But I’m willing to have sat through that horror of a movie that I might remember the splendor of King Solomon’s temple.
      I’m with you, go for quality, it will reflect your respect for your partner in love.
      Calla Gold

  56. Brian P on February 17, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    I’m sorry, but my fellow guys, I’m ashamed of not just the cheap metal, but the attitude you guys have with it. C’mon! Work some extra hours, it will be worth it.

  57. edouard on February 19, 2014 at 9:03 am

    I am a jeweler in France and manufactures gold and platinum jewelry for 20 years. Unfortunately your articles is completely useless. There are tens reason to prefer Titanium something else. Mainly depending on the volume of jewelry, everyone can not afford a jewelry 10 or 20 times more expensive than titanium. Some persones can not wear jewelry Gold 750/000 because of the silver in the alloy which can cause allergies, I can ennoncer of tens of reasons or create a stupid page titled “do not buy from gold or platinum “.
    I have a patent arts and crafts gems and know my trades and sells titanium jewelry. I advise you to deepen your knowledge.
    thank you to excuse my english, the french are not good in a Foreign Language

    • Calla Gold on February 19, 2014 at 10:24 am

      Bonjour Edouard,
      Merci for responding from France to my blog post “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tunsten Wedding Bands.”
      It sounds like you are an experienced jeweler. Other than the fact that titanium is less expensive could you share with my curious readers what some of the other ten reasons are that titanium is superior to gold and platinum.
      I certainly am the last person to argue that if you have $50.00 in your wedding budget for a wedding band that titanium can’t be beat. However that is but one reason. And the disposable nature of titanium, lacking much actual metal value and needed to be put aside when your fingers change size, makes that $50.00 purchase a waste of money from my perspective.
      I have personally never known a person who was allergic to 18kt yellow gold. I have allergic clients that order their custom rings in 18kt yellow gold and do well. If they want white metal I recommend platinum with its hypo-allergenic aspect.
      Being a jeweler for 31 years (as of January 2014) I have sized many people’s wedding bands numerous times. I have been asked to size titanium bands. Sometimes the husband has only had it for a year and it’s getting too tight. Even though he can send back to the factory and trade it in for the right size, he feels that he wants to wear “his” ring, not a stand in. That is one of the reasons I wrote my blog post.
      I just wrote a new one, It’s about safety and alternate metals.
      Let me know of some of your other favorite reasons for liking titanium and we can discuss it.
      I’m impressed that you communicate so well. I could not write to you in French.
      Your Fellow Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  58. Brian P on February 20, 2014 at 12:26 am

    It’s one reason being poor and buying titanium rings for that special person, but from what I’ve read here in this comment thread, it’s mainly cheap non-sentimental men (and women) who are just cheap.
    Question, I am allergic to white gold, I assume its the nickel alloys in white gold, would 14k yellow gold do the same or does it lack nickel?

    • Calla Gold on February 20, 2014 at 7:11 am

      Thank you again for your pointing out that there is a non-sentimentality in a number of the complaining comments.
      Regarding your question, many custom jewelers do cast white gold without nickel. But it is best to ask and get it in writing in case you have a reaction.
      Yellow gold does not use nickel in the alloy process. White gold did more so in the past than in the present because nickel imparts a nice white look to the white gold. White gold these days looks slightly less white than its older counterparts due to the lack of nickel in the alloys.
      I have used nickel free white gold in my custom designs for years.
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  59. Brian P on February 20, 2014 at 1:06 am

    Final Message, do not be cheap guys, treat your lady right with gold if you can afford it. =)

    • Calla Gold on February 20, 2014 at 7:20 am

      Nice Brian.
      As much as I might have said, “Oh you don’t need to get me anything special. Your love is enough,” where a gift or a ring is concerned, what I really wanted was to have my honey show me how he valued me. I may say, “Oh don’t get me a gift for my birthday, we’re economizing,” but I am hoping that he’ll figure something out.
      I may be old fashioned, but many times I’ve denied myself something because we were economizing or we had some reason going on and my husband would figure it out and manage to stay on budget and get me a treat. He’d say, “I wanted you to have something you like from me, because I like to treat you the way you deserve.” Those might not have been his exact words, but for him to find a way to get me something special made me feel loved and protected. Like someone is looking out for me.
      And for the record I’ve worked extra to get him something special too. So your message about treating your lady right makes me remember that I am a lucky wife and it makes me feel happy knowing it.
      Happy Wife,

      • That Guy (TM) on June 13, 2017 at 4:14 pm

        You don’t like cheap metal because it’s cheap? Or you don’t like it because it’s not good? A banana is cheaper than a slice of bacon, and its good for you too.
        You say it holds value, but admit in a response to a comment that its a ring, not an investment. I lose $40 on a titanium or tungsten ring, but $400 on a gold or platinum one. Selling it for $1200 when I paid $1600 is not “holding value”, and good luck getting $1200 for your $1600 ring anyway.
        Sizing is an irrelevant metric- a copper ring could be resized by a plumber, but you don’t sell those.
        “Don’t buy it because you can’t resize it” only applies to the expensive metals, that are made symbolic by a ceremony that has basically nothing to do with the expense of the metal. I won’t spend my hard earned money on a product that relies on ME to make it sentimental in the first place. I can make ANYTHING sentimental. A wedding ring, being on the hand, needs to perform a huge amount of utility if it’s to be worn at all times. If you agree that the ring should only be worn on special occasions, I argue that you’re not as sentimental as you think. I laud Titanium’s ability to handle everyday, no matter how mundane or rough your everyday can be. I haven’t taken my ring off in nearly 9 years and it still looks as good as the day she bought it for me. With NO maintenance. I’ve never been without it. You take yours off and hide it and call it sentimental. You only wear it on special occasions because it’s fragile. You took a significant financial loss on its purchase, though you claim you’d never sell it, so it’s actual value is COMPLETELY irrelevant. I think you’re crazy. You are, however, entitled to your wrong opinion, even though I’m reasonably confident that the main reason you promote precious metals is because you earn a living off them.

        • Calla Gold on June 13, 2017 at 7:46 pm

          Dear That Guy,
          I feel like I just read a comment that has everything but the kitchen sink in it.
          The first issue you raise is value. You have a point when you sat that when you buy for example a gold band retail, but can only sell it wholesale, you don’t get all your money back. When I was writing that, I was thinking about when Grandpa leaves you his wedding band. It can be sized and has a value and can be re-used. But if you bought a ring last week at a store and then try to re-sell it, you won’t get your value back that way. So point to you in that situation.
          I don’t mention copper as it tarnishes very quickly and is not a metal people request from me for wedding jewelry. I have however fixed people’s copper jewelry.
          You say that not being able to re-size rings only applies to expensive metals. I do not know what you mean as gold and platinum can be re-sized easily.
          If you do not want to spend you money on gold or platinum that is just fine with me. I am not personally benefiting from people who are buying gold and platinum as I am read all over the world. What I am doing is letting you know what can and cannot be sized in case you want to factor that into your choice.
          I do not agree that a wedding band should only be worn on special occasions. I wear mine daily.
          Titanium is an amazingly hardy metal. It’ll put up with a lot of abuse. That is great that you are happy with it and haven’t needed to have it sized. I’m not getting where you got the idea that I take my ring off and hide it. Nope. I wear it all the time.
          And in the thinking I’m crazy department, I have opinions, that doesn’t make me crazy. At least last time I checked.
          Enjoy your titanium band.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

  60. Calla Gold on February 25, 2014 at 5:28 pm

    Hi Calla,
    It was a pleasure meeting you at the wedding showcase on suday
    I wanted to thank you for your great advice and expertise!!! as I explained Sunday I brought my fiancé, a Titanium riing for our engagement, unexpectedly knowing I just got the wrong size I took it home in excitement to surprise her by proposing. Upon giving her the ring and trying to fit it on her finger I realized it wasn’t a fit but that’s Ok! we can just get it resized right? WRONG!!!!! No one told me upon purchasing this ring that It could not be resized. This was not only devastating, but a total disaster too….. Thanks to Calla there is hope of fixing this mess I’m not only going to purchase a ring from her I’ll know exactly what im getting From my money!

    (The moral of the story titanium sucks)!!!!!!

  61. jeffrey on February 28, 2014 at 6:20 am

    wow… Now i will look for GOLD ring for my wedding. You answered the questions in my head?!haha and you explained it well. Brilliant! a million thanks! Godbless.

    • Calla Gold on February 28, 2014 at 7:25 am

      Hi Jeffrey,
      You are most welcome. I’m so pleased that gold is in your sights!
      I appreciate your taking the time to leave your nice comment!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  62. nick on March 6, 2014 at 6:28 am

    This thread shows exactly what jewellery is – opinion. I sell rings of almost every metal. And Gold is one of the fastest shrinking products we sell. Why? Because its just not exciting anymore. The advantages of metals like Titanium and Cobalt, and in particular black titanium, are beyond the scope of this post. But dont think for a moment people are buying titanium rings because they are “cheap”. THEY ARE BUYING THEM BECAUSE THEY DONT LIKE GOLD!
    Say what you want, but this is what I hear all day long in my store.

    The OP also contradicts herself with one of her points. “Dont buy Tungsten, yet platinum and gold are heavy? Um hello, care to tell us how much Tungsten weighs compared to platinum and gold?
    – Hot tip, Titanium is easy to work on. Its not the 1970’s!
    And finally, who are you to tell people “dont buy titanium rings for your wedding band”
    why should the general public listen to a gold and platinum peddler?
    best of luck!

    • Calla Gold on March 6, 2014 at 9:07 am

      Hi Nick,
      I see from the way you spell jewelry, “jewellery” that you are from maybe the UK? It is interesting to hear your perspective on the popularity of gold in your store. Other UK jewelers I’m in touch with on Linked In have said that gold is strong for them. So I imagine that there are many differing views on the popularity of various metals where you are from.
      My “opinion” is that I want to inform people about the sizing issues involved in alternate metals and that you have to grind and not solder these metals to make a ring up to 1 size larger. I have men I’ve sized wedding band for over the years who have changed from a 7.5 when they got married to a 9 today. That kind of size change is in no way supported by the alternate metal industry. Their solution is to make a new one. That’s fine if that’s what you want. However many men and their wives are attached to the ring they made their vows with and don’t want an essentially disposable ring.
      If this doesn’t bother them then my “opinion” is a waste of their time. If this is a concern, I’m here to educate them so they can make an informed decision.
      I recently ran into a man at a wedding fair who was righteously pissed off that he wasn’t informed when he purchased his stainless steel wedding band that it couldn’t be sized. It’s already feeling too tight on him. He asked if titanium could be sized. I mentioned the grinding out of the inside that the makers can do. And the limitedness of enlarging that that allows. He then said what about tungsten. I said no sizing at all for that metal.
      He said “a number of my guy friends talk about how great and cheap these rings are and so I got one.” He’s bummed and is getting a white gold ring from me that can be sized smaller or larger whenever over the life of his ring.
      As for your comment about the heaviness of tungsten, my lightweight reference was for titanium not the heavier tungsten.
      Regarding your hot tip on how easy titanium is to work on, I have yet to see it. It needs to be worked in a machine shop like setting. Not at a jewelers bench.
      Thank you for speaking your mind Nick!
      Choosing Gold and Platinum over titanium and tungsten, thank you very much!
      Calla Gold

  63. neel chaitanya paleti on March 20, 2014 at 8:02 am

    hi Calla…..
    the article was nice and informative as i was searching web for pros and cons of selecting a titanium ring as a wedding ring.Although I wish to mention that i am from India.,where we Hindus,generally do not consider a wedding ring as a bond(apparently it was not our custom to have weddings in such a fashion,as exchanging them in our wedding ceremony),but thanks for the it gives an idea about the characteristics of titanium.thanks again

    • Calla Gold on March 20, 2014 at 11:01 am

      Hello Neel,
      Thank you for writing from India. It’s nice to see that my blog is read there! I appreciate your input on how wedding rings are viewed in your culture. I’m glad you enjoyed the information.
      American Jeweler,

  64. Rainier on March 26, 2014 at 9:54 pm

    I’m VERY sentimental, and I think it’s very important to wear the ring I got married in. That’s why I chose titanium.

    I love that titanium is lightweight. Gold rings felt too heavy for me, as I was not a ring wearer prior to being married.

    I can wear titanium everywhere. Whether I’m at a fancy theater, or working under the hood, I get to wear my wedding ring everywhere. No way would I want to have to swap wedding rings everytime I needed to go do some work with my hands. Titanium allows me to wear my ring 24/7/365. I barely notice it.

    I intentionally bought a ring that was a little too big. Not big enough that it would fall off. But I assumed that getting married I would probably gain some weight. So now my ring is a little too small. Guess what… it’s time I lost some weight.

    I love my titanium ring, and I love that when other guys have to take theirs off, I don’t have to worry about it getting scratched up or bent. It’s means a lot to me that no matter what the situation, the ring I was married in is on my hand.

    • Calla Gold on March 27, 2014 at 6:01 am

      Dear Rainier,
      I’m glad you are enjoying your choice. My guess is that you will need to replace your titanium band at some point in the future as your hand enlarges. That hurts us when we are sentimental not to be able to wear our rings. I have observed even in people who do not gain weight that their hands or rather fingers just enlarge over time.
      You were wise to get a too large size initially, but that is not guarantee that five years from not it will still fit regardless of your weight.
      Thank you for letting me know what you like about your titanium band.
      Still digging the gold,
      Calla Gold

  65. Kate Anderson on March 28, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    Amazing article Calla! This is fruitful to me as I recently decided to sell estate jewelry through my local market.
    I also wanted to get a wedding band for my sister’s wedding.
    I searched a lot through the internet and Googled a good bit about Gold vs. Platinum vs. Titanium. I never found this particular useful information until I read your post. You make sense about the sizing and sentimental issues surrounding wedding bands. Thanks again for your great guidance and facts.
    Kate Anderson – 66 Mints – San Francisco

    • Calla Gold on March 29, 2014 at 6:41 am

      It’s always nice to hear from people in my industry. I’m glad that you liked the information about the differences between gold, platinum and titanium.
      I visited your site. It looks very nice!
      Your Fellow Jeweler,

  66. Katy Perry on March 28, 2014 at 10:59 pm

    Few days back, I decided to look at the idea of selling my old gold to help me buy a new engagement ring. I see that this can be tricky.
    I noticed how much less expensive titanium was and considered it for my engagement ring. After reading through this amazingly informative article by Calla, which throws light on the idea and the perspective about how not to be confused by cheap Tungsten and Titanium based bands for long run, I decided not to go with a cheaper metal for engagement. I want a ring to last through time.
    As a shopper I welcome her invaluable tips.
    Katy P.

    • Calla Gold on March 29, 2014 at 6:50 am

      Hi Katy,
      Thank you for your feedback on my blog post on why we shouldn’t buy titanium or tungsten for wedding bands. I appreciate your kind words too.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  67. Daniel Jones on March 30, 2014 at 5:43 am

    I have just purchased my wedding band over the last week.
    I was looking at a 7mm Court Platinum with a cost of over £1800. I mention that I am a civil engineer that works outside for a living. A jeweler suggested that I buy a titanium replica to wear and keep the platinum one safe from my work and wear it when not working.

    This is a waste of money. I want to wear the ring I get married in. I do not want to have to wear a replica 6 days a week and have to worry about taking it off and where I put it when I took it off.

    After some thinking I have seen that the Titanium band costs under £50.

    There are alot of people saying don’t be cheap get gold. I can afford platinum I’m not being cheap, I am being practical.

    If you could provide any reasons apart from ability to resize why I should get platinum over titanium then let me know.
    My other half is having a custom made white gold wedding ring to match her engagement ring.

    This is the ring I have to wear the rest of my life, it’s not my kid’s or their kids it’s mine.

    • Calla Gold on March 30, 2014 at 7:23 am

      Hello Daniel,
      I’m not sure why your outside work would necessitate you having to have a replica ring. If you have a thickly made platinum band, it should put up with whatever rigors your work puts it through. White gold with its hardening alloys, can be a sturdier choice and many of my car mechanics and construction workers choose it because it holds its shine better.
      These hard working men wear their white gold bands while pounding around their hand work intensive work happily. Men who work with their hands are more likely to need to size their rings larger sooner. You mentioned that if re-sizing was my only issue to answer you with not to bother. I’m wondering if that is because you feel you can just order a replacement online when your hand grows. If that is your solution then I can see that the sentimental value of having a wedding ring that can change as you do isn’t a priority for you.
      Many of my commenters have proclaimed the wonderfulness of how cheap titanium is. This is true. However you mention that cost isn’t your criteria for thinking about titanium. If I could afford a noble metal, a metal that looks good, that can be altered if needed because my fingers have changed sizes I would choose that.
      There is an additional reason that platinum or white gold (if white metal is your preference) is preferable to titanium or tungsten, and that is the safety issue. Read my post, “Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety” –
      Thank you for asking my opinion. My final word to you Daniel is that as a woman, the ring my husband wears is really important to me, it stands for our love and our bond. I’d never want our bond to be represented by a cheap and static and unchangeable metal. That’s just me, but I thought I’d say that.
      Loving those noble metals,
      Calla Gold

  68. Daniel Jones on March 31, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    I have seen many a construction worker with bent and chipped and marked rings. I work with my hands with products suck as concrete steel bricks and many others. Also I play cricket which results in flat rings due to a hard ball hitting the hand and squashing it.
    I think you need to look more into the emergency removal of titanium and tungsten carbide
    and with titanium i have a brother and uncle who are fire officers and 2 sisters which are nurses and have had no problems ever removing a titanium ring in fact out of the 4 of them they have even only had to cut 1 ring off as they use an elastic band which works perfectly to take a ring off.
    I have been wearing another ring on my right hand for the last 10 years and never had to have it re sized so i am pretty confident that my fingers are not going to change that much ver the rest of my life apart from if i eat to many pies and cakes and you know what that is my fault not the rings and i should work out more.
    My marriage will not be built on how much i spent on a ring or the metal it is made from it will be built on the actions i do while wearing that ring and for all i care the ring could be a ring made from twine.
    You are a ring maker so i will never persuade you that i am making the best decision.

    When people see your hand what do they see???
    They see a wedding ring nobody else cares what it cost or what its made out of. when i see my ring i will not think oh i could have spent more and had platinum.

    And im sorry but you must be really shallow if you would not accept someones love if they did not show it with noble metals.
    I think Tungsten and titanium look just as good as paladium / platinum / white gold so that is not an issue.

    • Calla Gold on March 31, 2014 at 7:19 pm

      I am aware of the elastic method of ring removal. There is a post I did with many methods of removing a tight ring. Here it is:
      If you are happy with your alternate metal wedding band and feel your finger will not change size then you have the right choice for you.
      It is too bad that you feel the need to say unkind things about my opinions and choices.
      I’m not a fan of that darker look of tungsten or titanium. But that is personal taste.
      Calla Gold

  69. Michael on March 31, 2014 at 8:21 pm

    Your case against tungsten sounds like “don’t buy tungsten cause I don’t like it very much.” I love my tungsten ring. It’s beautiful, durable, and cheap enough that if it does break or my fingers get fatter I can get another. Several years into my marriage, I’ve gotten older and more broken down, but my ring is still as perfectly round and unblemished as the day I got married. How’s that for ‘meaning’?

    It’s just a thing.

    • Calla Gold on April 1, 2014 at 8:24 pm

      My biggest beef is the disposableness of tungsten. I am sentimental and replacing a ring because it can’t be sized bothers me. I am glad that you like your ring and hope you never need a different size for your wedding finger.
      It may be just a thing, but it is also a symbol of a very important bond in your life.
      Calla Gold

  70. Jesse on April 7, 2014 at 5:27 pm

    Girls, don’t think us guys don’t always think and feel as deeply as you. When I chose my ring, expense had little to do with it. Let’s face it, “gold” is comprised of other non-precious metals as well. Platinum? I’m too lazy to look it up.

    I wanted a ring that was not only masculine in color, depth and weight, I wanted a ring that was strong, hard, resistant to outside forces. Are you getting me yet? I wanted a ring that looks and feels like new every year that goes by. I wanted a ring that represents value, as in money not squandered on myself. My choice was Tungsten.

    That said, every woman deserves diamonds and gold. It’s the least we can do for requesting that you put up with our sorry butts for the rest of your lives. The way I see it, it’s a win-win.

    BTW, my ring size hasn’t changed in 30 years.

    • Calla Gold on April 9, 2014 at 7:11 am

      Hi Jesse,
      Thanks for weighing in with your two cents. I do love that you grant us ladies our gold and diamonds.
      The fact that you haven’t needed a ring re-sized in thirty years is awesome and amazing. You seem to be in the minority as I look back on 31 years of being a jeweler.
      In your case wearing titanium is working for you. Carry on.
      Lovin’ my gold and diamonds,
      Calla Gold

  71. Joe on April 16, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    “Hi Joe,
    I’m still married to the man I married at 20. My wedding rings mean a lot to me. Perhaps I wouldn’t feel that way if I was divorced, but I am happily married.
    The ring I got married in started to look too small as my hands aged, so at year ten I asked for a new wedding ring and helped design it.
    At year 25 I designed a new one which I am wearing this minute. I realize that I am probably more emotional about this, but I have gotten so much pleasure over the years from my rings.
    I keep the ones I no longer wear sized up correctly for me so when I feel sentimental I can wear them. They have a value to me that can’t be measured.
    Looking at my rings makes me feel loved. I am writing from that perspective.
    When I speak of value in gold and platinum I do not mean to say that if you get a divorce you can get your money back for whatever you paid for it. It was retail after all, it was a designed ring and the metal meltdown cost will not be the same as a created ring.
    But it does have monetary value. Tungsten and titanium do not. There’s no “We Buy Tungsten and Titanium” store down by the Piggly Wiggly.
    Thank you for telling of your experience.”

    Those are your words. If The ring you made your vows in is so important and sentimental why are you on your third wedding ring? Where are the other 2? Rotting in a drawer.

    • Calla Gold on April 17, 2014 at 9:00 am

      Hello Joe,
      Thank you for quoting me and asking me where my other two wedding rings are. Since they all fit me, I switch around and wear each of them. I wore my original wedding ring the other day paired with another ring. The original got to a place where it looked a bit thin on my aging finger. When I combined it with another ring of mine it looked like a traditional wedding set and that added width made my original wedding ring look prettier on my hand.
      I wore it that day because I was feeling sentimental about when my husband and I were first together. I felt younger all day because that ring is full of memories. And I thought of him often.
      Because I could size each of my wedding rings I can and do switch them around. As a jeweler I like to have jewelry choices. Because I love my husband in so many ways I love wearing each of my wedding rings. Maybe it’s a jeweler thing.
      Calla Gold

  72. Joe on April 16, 2014 at 11:12 pm

    Essentially I could take the tungsten or titanium rings that don’t fit anymore or that I don’t like. Store them in a drawer and get the same emotional effect that you cling to with your “precious metals”

    • Calla Gold on April 17, 2014 at 8:32 am

      Hello Joe,
      Thank you for writing. One of my jewelry mottoes is “Wear it Don’t Warehouse it!” The fact that you’d have to store unworn, a no longer fitting titanium ring or two or three in a drawer is really sad to me. I believe your jewelry is to be worn and celebrated for the symbol it is. Whether it symbolizes married love or the love of a friend who gave it to you, or the happy memories from a trip.
      Your jewelry wants to be worn, not stored away in a lonely and dark place. That is my opinion.
      I derive no joy from the jewelry I won’t or can’t wear. Therefore I chose precious metals that allow repairs and changes to be made so I can continue wearing them.
      Precious metal girl,
      Calla Gold

  73. Kristen on April 17, 2014 at 8:34 am

    This post is so materialistic and quite frankly, written only in the interest of a jeweler who can not only make more money off the initial sale, but continuously make money on something that is in constant need of repair. The only actual reason cited for choosing gold over tungsten is that it can’t be re-sized. I thought I was going to read an article that would make me regret my tungsten band decision but it did not even scratch the surface – kinda like tungsten metal 😉

    As I type this, I look down at my black & white diamond engagement ring set in silver, and on the other hand a black tungsten band and a white gold ring with white diamonds. The silver and gold look pretty rough and they’re only a year old. The older tungsten ring looks beautiful and I’ve never had to clean it or polish it. I also don’t need to spend unreasonable amounts of time polishing my relationship either because we just fit well and tungsten fits us well.

    Eh, my love doesn’t need to be comparable to the value of a hunk of metal. We’d rather not start our marriage in debt for financing expensive rings. My engagement ring was only 300 bucks and it’s the most beautiful ring I’ve ever owned…except that it’s silver and thus all scuffed up already.

    White gold rings I’ve had in the past are scratched and scuffed easily too.

    A black tungsten ring I got for my birthday has zero scratches or scuffs and I wear it every single day.

    We bought our tungsten wedding bands for $18 each and if we decide to grow obese together, we can just get new rings, it’s really not a big deal. We can both decide not to wear them, for all we care, there’s that whole trust factor and not particularly materialistic enough to care what the monetary value of our accessories are. And for those who are materialistic, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind getting a new one!

    If your body changes enough to require a different ring, then you’re probably a different person than you were when you got the ring so why not change it up? And an 18 dollar ring replacement does not define the love in our relationship. My ring size has changed from a 7 to a 6.5 after losing 40 lbs but my size 7 engagement ring can still be worn on my 6.5 finger without any issue- I know because I wear it daily. Also, my e-ring can’t even be resized. Not all silver and gold jewelry can be resized; as a jeweler, you know that.

    And being lightweight is a con??? What? On what world? I can’t even bear to wear necklaces too long because it’s just obnoxious to have something hanging off my neck. I don’t want my hand to be weighed down by the symbol of our love. If we’re going the symbolism route, what does that say? I don’t think of my fiance as a ball and chain.

    I like diamonds and all but a ring that I’m going to wear loyally everyday doesn’t need to be a distracting extension of my finger, it needs to be comfortable and reasonable and functional. I don’t have to worry about it being stolen like I would an ugly gold ring and it stays beautiful. I’d rather spend my time making sure my marriage is polished than having to maintain some piece of jewelry or wear a scratched up ring out of a sense of duty. Tungsten doesn’t lose its luster over time and won’t need nearly as much “repair” as the “precious” metals.

    Our love is kind and humble and we don’t need to symbolize it any other way.

    • Calla Gold on April 17, 2014 at 8:53 am

      Hello Kristen,
      Thank you for writing. You are quite articulate, if a bit judgmental. Your characterization of what kind of jeweler I am based on a popular opinion blog post is well pretty “judgey.”
      That aside I’ll address your aversion to metal that scratches. As I look at my yellow gold wedding ring that hasn’t been polished in over a year I see a fine network of little scratches that I think of as patina of wear. It’s a pretty effect and in no way diminishes the ring’s beauty. It adds character.
      At some point I’ll checks my settings, give it a good cleaning and polish it just to change things up. But not because the scratching is obnoxious, because it isn’t.
      Re your comment that not all gold and silver can be sized, (“Not all silver and gold jewelry can be resized; as a jeweler, you know that”), I really wonder what situations you might be referring to.
      I recently sized larger a diamond eternity band that my new client had been told couldn’t be sized. Another client had an inlaid opal with diamond ring that she hadn’t worn in five years because, “You can’t size rings with inlaid opal.” Well you can. The gold can be sized and the opal can be replaced. One of the three inlaid pieces cracked under the pressure and was replaced. We knew going in that we’d need new opal. Now she wears that ring with joy.
      I’ve sized silver, gold and platinum and mixed metal rings. I do wonder what precious metal rings you say cannot be sized.
      I care deeply about my marriage, and have a precious metal with diamonds ring is a symbol of love that I love very much. I’ve had to alter the size because my hands have changed a bit. I’m so happy that I can change my ring if I need to. For the record I did not tell my boyfriend before he proposed that, “I want only gold or platinum and I have to have diamonds.” In fact after he proposed and I said yes, I told him I’d have taken a twisted bit of tin if I had to because being married to him was what I wanted. Happily he chose gold and diamonds on his own.
      That is a good thing that you are pleased with your tungsten ring and thank you for coming by the blog and sharing your viewpoint.
      No titanium or tungsten wedding bands for me,
      Calla Gold

  74. Kristen on April 17, 2014 at 8:54 am

    I’m reading all these comments and just…laughing at the rebuttals to the pro-tungsten comments. If you were only about to give us ONE reason, then you can’t possibly feel THAT strongly about it. The resizing argument relies on water retention, arthritis, and obesity.

    On the note of the company who doesn’t resize tungsten but instead replace it…um, yeah, because they can, because chances are, they can just re-sell the ring you return because it will still look brand new.

    Apparently jewelry that stays beautiful is inferior to those hung up on sentimentality of material possessions because you might get arthritis. It’s not the symbol that’s important, it’s the meaning that allows the symbol to exist that matters.

    The money we’re going to be saving by not having a huge wedding and expensive jewelry just bought us 5 acres of land so we can build a house. That’s the foot I’d prefer to start my marriage off on.

    • Calla Gold on April 17, 2014 at 7:46 pm

      Hello again Kristen,
      I’m responding to your comment that fingers change size because of obesity, water retention and arthritis. This is not the reason most of my clients come to me for re-sizing. I’ve noticed that excluding your “reasons” I still have plenty of people whose fingers just expand.
      Regarding how cheaply a tungsten band can be replaced, I don’t want a disposable ring for myself.
      Congratulations on your five acres. I do not feel that creating your American dream real estate-wise and having a pleasing ring are either or choices.
      Calla Gold

  75. Kristen on April 17, 2014 at 8:59 am

    I also don’t appreciate the comments calling our men “cheap” really? It’s a wedding band so if you have a healthy marriage, then chances are, you made the decision on your wedding bands together.

    If I don’t want an expensive ring and my husband is now able to buy me a house instead…who’s cheap? Instead of me having “value” on my finger, we have the ability to offer a good life to our future family.

    It’s not about being cheap or lacking sentimentality. It’s about being rational and making wise decisions that will provide for a better future. Unfortunately, jewelry isn’t a necessity for ANYBODY, but I think you are doing a good job bashing the type you don’t make money on. Keep up the good work.

  76. Kristen on April 17, 2014 at 9:07 am

    You don’t need to call me judgmental because you know your comments have come from a very judgmental place. Even international jewelers are disagreeing with you. I’ll keep in mind that the hail dents and shattered back windshield on my car simply add character. I am still curious to see more than one reason. I honestly don’t believe that you prefer gold over an unscratchable metal for jewelry because it can be completely rebuilt. Is it still sentimental if the gold is melted down and turned into an entirely different piece of jewelry? Is that the goal with wedding jewelry? I don’t understand your reasoning at all. Please give us more reasons because I’m not seeing any of the cons of tungsten outweighing the pros and I’m not seeing the pros of gold outweighing the cons. Please, that’s all I’m asking for, a comprehensive article, or at least one that fits its title.

  77. Kristen on April 17, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Additionally, as a jeweler, I believe it is your responsibility to spread the pros of all jewelry metals in an unbiased way so that the customer can decide what works best for them. Just because it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it won’t be their preference. You mention nothing good about tungsten and titanium here, leading anyone to believe that their are no pros even though the list far exceeds that of other metals. It’s okay to admit that it’s good for a variety of reasons. I’m not judging, just offering input towards future articles. It’s much more respectable when you provide a full story for the good of the customer.

  78. Sean on April 18, 2014 at 7:15 pm

    This is hilarious. It’s like reading a blog written BY Microsoft, telling me how wonderful XBOX ONE is, and why Sony’s PS4 is horrible, and why I shouldn’t buy it. PT Barnum anyone?

    • Calla Gold on April 18, 2014 at 9:39 pm

      Hello Sean,
      Thanks for writing. Am I Microsoft, Sony or just PT Barnum?
      Calla Gold

  79. Joe on April 19, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    Regarding your response to Kristen. How do peoples fingers just expand spontaneously? I had my same band for 17 yrs and so did my ex and never needed resizing. That included weight gain over the years. I also see Sean’s point. Seems like a a campaign to instill an idea to profit from. Kind of like the De Beers cartel…

  80. Joe on April 19, 2014 at 8:06 pm

    I would compare your reason for this whole “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands” the same as an artist saying don’t buy mass produced art from the big box stores because they are not original and don’t have any sentimental value even though they are beautiful and are easily replaced if they are stolen or damaged. They are just things. Life is more than just things in my opinion.

  81. Joe on April 19, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    You seem very superficial. Items seem to be what are important to you. I guess I just don’t get it. Actually I take that back. Your motives are clear. You intend to profit from your position on alternative jewelry and your arguments to those alternatives are weak. The big name jewelry shops see the trend and are selling alternatives.

  82. Joe on April 19, 2014 at 10:15 pm

    My point with the De Beers comment was to make the point that things are valuable because we have been told that they are. Diamonds are not rare!! The market is fixed by withholding the truth and limiting the supply. You should not make broad statements on what to buy and what not to buy based on one argument. “resizing” If your wedding band gets lost does that mean your marriage is over? I think not!

    • Calla Gold on April 20, 2014 at 7:03 am

      Hi Joe,
      I appreciate the time you have taken to see the conversation started by my blog post, “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands.”
      I’d like to speak to the popularity of diamonds. De Beers had a monopoly on diamonds back in the day. The no longer own the market. They have re-branded to separate their diamond quality from others since they no longer control the supply chain.
      The reason diamonds continue to be chosen is the fact that they sparkle when dirty, they don’t chip, scratch and dull up like other gemstones. They hold up to daily wear better than other gemstones do.
      Joe, you harp on the wrongness of my dissuading people from choosing titanium and tungsten bands because they cannot be sized. I chose to write this blog post because people weren’t being told that they couldn’t be sized by their sales representative and it left very upset feelings.
      If someone knows it can’t be sized and they don’t care then fine, buy titanium and tungsten. I wouldn’t, but your wedding band is your choice not mine. But you deserve to be alerted to the fact that if your fingers change size you will not be able to wear the band you pledged your vows in. That is an important thing to many of my clients.
      This blog is where I state my opinion, I’m not sure why you say I should not give my opinion. It’s a blog. I have opinions. I see that you do not agree with me and I’m fine with that. It is probably very helpful when people read the comments on this post to see the dissenting views posed here.
      There may be a guy thinking, “Well gee, she has a point, maybe I’ll get white gold.” Then he reads your opinion or someone elses and asks himself, “Do I care if I can’t wear my band throughout the life of my marriage because my finger may change size and the ring won’t change with me?” Maybe he doesn’t care. If that is the case he may choose titanium.
      He may ask his fiance, “Babe, do you care if I get titanium and if my finger changes I have to order another one online? It’s cheaper, then we can spent more on yours!” She might say, “no, sweetie, I want you band to be special. I want us to decide how it’ll look like we did with mine. I want to be able to size it or fix it. I want it to be something we can pass on to our kids.”
      I say this because I see this conversation roll out in front of me with couples. Women especially value having a man’s wedding band that is changable, inheritable and lasting.
      Thank you for writing.
      Calla Gold

  83. Nick on April 20, 2014 at 2:19 pm

    Surely the first two are the same but reversed. Therefore only four reasons…..

    • Calla Gold on April 21, 2014 at 5:24 am

      OK with me. I just wanted to be clear.

  84. Joe on April 20, 2014 at 8:03 pm

    If that is how you truly feel then you should rename the title of your blog to “Why I like gold and Platinum” instead of “DON’T BUY THIS OR THAT” The majority of the people who have responded to this blog are on my side so just accept that times are changing and don’t push your agenda in a one sided way.

    • Calla Gold on April 21, 2014 at 5:23 am

      Joe, Does buying a new pair of jeans also constitute superficiality. I’m all about choices. I want people to have choices and be informed and happy with their choice. I see that my liking choices would not make me an ideal mate for you. I’m thinking it would make me a poor jeweler choice for you as well.
      My guess is that a lot of the commenters to this blog who trash me for writing this blog and no doubt wish it would go away are commenters who make or sell titanium or tungsten wedding bands. I knew this post stating that people shouldn’t buy tungsten or titanium could be a bit of a lightning rod in my industry. I guess I under-estimated how much response I would get that would be personal attacks.
      When I disagree with someone I disagree with their points and do not make value judgments about their personality, their values and their worth to take up space on this earth.
      That’s kind of like Dan Akroyd’s response to Jane Curtain on Point – CounterPoint on Saturday Night Live –
      Now don’t get me wrong, I love Point CounterPoint, but I feel a bit like the Jane Curtain character here.
      THe times they may be a-changin’ but I have noticed a very high percentage of my clients choosing noble metals when given the choices and the pros and cons.
      Do some of my clients choose tungsten or titanium after I give them my opinion. Yes they do. A very small percentage. They thank me for the information and choose the alternate metal and I’m fine with that. I’m also gratified that the couple’s thank me for the information regardless of the metal choice they make.
      For the record 100% of the women choose gold or platinum.
      Calla Gold

  85. Joe on April 20, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    And coming from someone who has 3 wedding bands your opinion rings hollow. When I was married my band was fine and would have been for the rest of my life if not for the divorce. My initial comment of you being superficial still stands. “my ring is tooo small for may hand” “It’s been 25 yrs I need something new and better” etc… etc…

  86. Joe on April 20, 2014 at 8:31 pm

    I realize now that you are not sentimental. You are superficial.

  87. Katie on April 23, 2014 at 8:32 pm

    I’m sorry, but you’re a jeweler. It’s within your goals and benefits to sell me the reasons why Carbide is not an acceptable material for a wedding band, and to sell me a more precious metal which costs more. Your job is to convince me to buy pretty metals and shiny rocks. This is something you can bend all you want, but in the end it’s true.

    Perhaps I’m just the minority in all this, but as much as a ring is a nice “symbol” of my love, it is nothing more than that- a “symbol”. What bothers me is that my love is being held under the account of a materialistic item and that for some reason it’s suppose to show my love generations from now (which, hey, Carbide can do, so that’s not a problem.)

    My love, to me, when I get married next month, should be shown in the laughter lines on my face, the smile on my lips, and the happy memories of us that swim in my head. I hope our love is captured, through photographs, our stories, and our children’s children.

    I’m sorry, I find your arguments very goal oriented and one sided.

    Also, on the argument of not being able to be resized. I’m sorry, but if your finger changes that much in the course of your lifetime you have some serious health issues or seriously let yourself go… Or seriously became anorexic or something drastic happened. I’ve been up and down in the course of 40 pounds and worn the same ring size just fine.

    • Calla Gold on April 23, 2014 at 8:49 pm

      Hello Katie,
      An interesting thing about your argument against my opinion that I prefer the noble metals is your comment that carbide will last. Yes it may last, but will it fit anyone? I have resized so many rings from guy’s grandfathers that they now wear as a wedding ring. The love the connection to their family. It feels so very special. When you leave the gift of a carbide band unless it fits, it’s not a gift that could be used.
      I agree that laugh lines, smiles, memories and great children are the most important part of a marriage, but I like to have a nice ring too.
      I am amazed that with your weight change that you needed no ring sizing. I can’t count the number of wedding rings I’ve re-sized. It’s not always weight gain that causes it. Hand injuries, medical drug side effects, bone growth due to arthritis or just random growth. I had a client that was only five pounds heavier at her 20th anniversary than the day she got married. But we had to size her ring larger. She didn’t have any obvious reason, her finger just got bigger. It happens.
      My goal as a jeweler is to help my client design or find a memorable piece of jewelry they are proud to show the world, and happy to look at as a symbol of their love. I do not sell titanium or tungsten or stainless steel or carbide. It’s a personal choice.
      Loving those heirloom possible wedding bands,
      Calla Gold

  88. deepthi on April 24, 2014 at 12:09 am

    I changed my gold wedding ring to a beautiful titanium tension setting ring. I found the light weightedness of titanium to be more of an advantage. It is highly durable, doesnt scratch easily, and requires zero maintanence. It hasnt even lost its shine. You are ofcourse entitled to have your own opinion. I am voicing mine. I definitely find titanium to be much more trendier than having the usual platinum/gold ones. They are cheap, look good, very practical option for daily wear, and are extremely durable. And yes, they are unique. I prefer not to follow the 99% of the crowd and get gold or platinum just because they are expensive or traditionally used. Titanium rocks!

    • Calla Gold on April 25, 2014 at 9:43 am

      Dear Deepthi,
      Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective.
      Calla Gold

  89. Joe on April 25, 2014 at 9:14 pm

    “For the record 100% of the women choose gold or platinum.”
    You should reread your blog and count the women who choose alternatives. It isn’t even close to 100%. Your 5 “2” reasons would carry more weight if you didn’t come off as so smug and convinced that you know best. Basically your argument is that gold and platinum can be resized and that titanium and tungsten are cheap and not worthy of showing your love to your partner in life. You wonder why you are attacked here, it is because you make statements like that.

    • Calla Gold on April 26, 2014 at 6:48 am

      Hello Joe,
      When I said 100% of the women choose gold or platinum, I meant of the women I have worked with. Some of the couples choose titanium for him and I send them to another jeweler who carries that as I do not. Some of the female commenters on this blog definitely have chosen titanium or tungsten bands. But in my jewelry circle, no woman or girl has ever opted for titanium or tungsten or stainless steel bands.
      I did not mean to speak for the rest of the world about women’s wedding band metal choices, just my part of the world.

  90. Joe on April 25, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    And as far as the jeans comparison goes, yes it would make you superficial if you were telling everyone her that they should only buy $150 designer jeans because the ones at Kohls for $25 don’t show everyone else how much you care about how you look and how those jeans are way better.

  91. Joe on April 26, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    Fair enough. Your clientele is probably unique. But you have to admit that if Kay and Jared are selling alternatives, then the trend toward less expensive and more durable options is in full swing. I prefer durability and less cost. We obviously differ in opinion. You see the rings as long term sentimental pieces that can be passed on. I see them as symbolic and easily replaced. I will admit that I bought my girlfriend a 14kt gold engagement ring, but with a 1 ct. moissanite instead of a diamond. I guess I am more practical than traditional. Yes she knows it isn’t a diamond but if you put the 2 next to each other you can’t tell and both will last forever. Unfortunately for you the increasingly high price of precious metals is driving the new market. Same goes for the relatively new moissanite which is a fraction of the price of a diamond. And when Charles & Colvard’s patent expires the market will change again.

    • Calla Gold on April 27, 2014 at 7:52 am

      Hello Joe,
      I have noticed that Kay and Jared are selling the alternate metals. I’m not trying to be a dinosaur jeweler here, but my thought process here is that if I feel that strongly about what wedding bands stand for, I cannot sell titanium and tungsten bands.
      If someone chooses them knowing about the issues with them, then fine. I’ve laser engraved many of them.
      Precious metals do cost more it is true, but you’ll see as well that even though you could find a white dress at H & M or Marshalls, a women wants a proper wedding dress to mark her day. Before you rise up and attack me for generalizing, I realize that not all women spend bridal gown prices on their dresses. But those dresses mean a lot. Mine is boxed up in my garage with special storage methods so someday it might be used by someone I know. My memory of wearing that dress on my special day makes me feel so happy. I love that dress. My mom helped me pick it out. There is so much love and memory wrapped up in that dress. If I’d had to choose some really plain white dress I would have regretted it.
      My point here is that economic concerns are not the only ones to consider when choosing wedding bands. This is the most important piece of jewelry you’ll ever have. It’s not just a good looking accessory, it is a symbol of love. It is how you tell the world you are married.
      Joe regarding your choice of moissanite. I sell moissanite. I have no ax to grind with moissanite. I even wrote a blog about using moissanite in your wedding ring:
      In it I discuss – “The Six Hella Right Ways to do Moissanite” and happily in discussing your center stone choice with you fiance you did it hella right. I had a theme going in that post!
      Thank you for writing.
      Calla Gold

  92. Kim Yuna on April 29, 2014 at 11:57 am

    I don’t think titanium are really useless because not every person is rich and wealthy and they might have no money to afford such high priced rings, and just because your finger grew bigger doesn’t mean you have to throw it away, you can wear it as a necklace too and i am sure no matter what the metal is, if the person that gives you the ring has pure love for you than that piece more valuable that gold and platinum.

    • Calla Gold on April 30, 2014 at 5:48 am

      Hello Kim,
      I have to say I never thought someone might put a no longer fitting titanium ring on a chain around their neck, but I see that that is something someone could do.
      If someone was very poor, then these alternate metals could indeed be the difference between a wedding ring and no ring at all. And you are right the pure love is what really counts, in your heart.
      Fine Metals Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  93. Jeri on May 1, 2014 at 6:41 am

    I PREFER my Tungston wedding band, I am so rough I always have bent any of my other rings, but this one, still looks brand new, same shine, same shape, I will never buy gold or silver again. Titanium and Tungston are so much less expensive, yet hold up to almost anything. And just as pretty.

    • Calla Gold on May 1, 2014 at 9:04 am

      Hello Jeri,
      With well made, and by that I mean thick enough for daily wear, gold bands I have not seen bending. With thinner gold bands and thinner platinum bands I have seen bending. When I work with someone for daily wear wedding bands I guide them in the direction of comfort fit and a band that is nice and thick.
      I’m am happy you are pleased with your choice.
      Calla Gold

  94. Fox Lee on May 3, 2014 at 11:02 pm

    Did you seriously just argue that one of the reasons to go with more expensive metals for wedding rings is because they are /magical/? Good grief. Sentimentality is all well and good, but you really can’t argue for a particular course of action based on a property that can’t even be shown to exist.

    Likewise, assigning arbitrary value to something just because it has a tradition of being assigned extra value is a poor argument. Ancient civilisations also typically valued misogyny, war and religious genocide, but that doesn’t make them good or valuable. Just because ideas are tenacious, doesn’t mean they are worthy.

    Finally, who would buy a wedding ring based on whether it will gain or lose monetary value? How disturbingly mercenary. I and my husband of ten years have sterling silver wedding rings that both cost less than $40, because we were broke students when we got married. If you think there’s something wrong with that, just because the rings are worthless to the /rest/ of the world, you have failed to understand why a wedding ring exists in the first place.

    Don’t get me wrong, these are all great reasons for YOU not to get a tungsten wedding ring, since they are obviously important to you. But you’re trying to use them to tell other people what to do, and they are nowhere near as universal – or factual – as you seem to think.

    What you want your ring made out of is like everything else in a marriage – subjective and personal, not one size (or substance) fits all.

    • Calla Gold on May 4, 2014 at 5:38 am

      Dear Fox,
      Yet another comment to add to the heaping of abuse I have gotten for writing this blog post.
      I’ll respond to your silver rings. I like that you chose bands that could be sized if needed. You obviously value your rings as well as your commitment. My only problem with silver is the porosity problems I’ve seen develop over time with daily wear silver rings.
      But since some of my commenters have miraculously avoided needing their fingers sized in twenty years of marriage, perhaps you two have avoided getting porosity, little pitted areas that look like black dots, on your rings.
      I’ll take gold thank you,
      Calla Gold

  95. Joe on May 3, 2014 at 11:03 pm

    I bought a ring like that almost 20yrs ago, it is a comfort fit. It was thick and it did last. It measures 9.5 grams. I’m sure it was 10 or more when I bought it. The stamping is all worn off now. The problem is that a band like that today would be $800 to $1000. I can get $200 in scrap. I’m thinking about getting it polished and selling it online. It is very worn and scratched. I know it is 14k gold. Cant it be re-stamped?

    • Calla Gold on May 4, 2014 at 5:44 am

      Hi Joe,
      A gold band can be repolished and will look brand new when it is. I’m not clear if you are speaking of a design on top that wore off or if an interior stamp of 14kt worn away. The 14kt stamp is easy to re-stamp inside the shank of your ring.
      If your ring had a design on the outer part that was engraved that can be re-done. Without knowing what kind of design you might have worn off if it was on the outside I’m not sure what method would be needed.
      I recently re florentined a 60 year old gold band. Florentine is a cross hatching of lines popularized many years ago. My client found a picture with a lot of detail and wanted to replicate that finish. I did it.
      I’ve also replicated various engraving designs on bands over the years.
      Calla Gold

  96. edward matson on May 4, 2014 at 2:12 am

    Hey, guys, relax…..Even Tiffany & Co. is selling titanium and even stainless steel jewelry, designed by none other than Paloma Picasso……so, if it’s good enough for Pablo’s daughter and my beloved Tiffany’s, it’s good enough for me….

    • Calla Gold on May 4, 2014 at 5:56 am

      Hi Edward,
      I’m not surprised that Tiffany is selling alternate metals. Having Paloma Picasso design them is a brilliant merchandising move on their part. But Tiffany is a class act in our industry as far as design goes. And I appreciate the way they try new things.
      That doesn’t mean that everything they do is brilliant. For example their Rubedo metal which is an inexpensive rose colored metal. It’s cheaper than gold and has about 5% gold in the mix of metals. But that’s not enough to keep it from tarnishing like any old base metal piece of costume jewelry. And it is certainly priced higher than it’s small quantity of gold would suggest. I’m not a fan.
      I’ll stick with 14kt, 18kt, and higher karats of gold myself.
      Just because a company makes something doesn’t make it an “of course” proposition.
      Calla Gold

  97. edward matson on May 4, 2014 at 4:34 pm

    You hit on an interesting point..”brilliant merchandising strategy” know, Tiffany is a publicly traded company on the NYSE….they are very clever in their marketing..personally, I was heartbroken when they started to deal with titanium, stainless, etc…no matter who designs it. I know that sounds like I am a snob,and I’m really not….I have had 750 gold (18kt) and platinum from Tiffany’s before. I didn’t like the way platinum aged, it gets so dull and lifeless looking…however I find that 18kt gold is beautiful..that dark, buttery yellow is so rich looking. I have a titanium ring that I actually reminds me of platinum in it’s coloring but doesn’t get that dull look platinum can get. I suppose it’s the alloy maybe ? cobalt, iridium, ruthenium…Tiffany uses ruthenium, but my ring still looked dull. I actually am not a fan of tungsten at’s been compared to titanium color wise, but it’s much darker, I think and I dislike it color wise. I also am not crazy that it is actually a ceramic either which is why it will shatter. As I said, Titanium reminds me of platinum..color wise. It is very light, however..weight wise. I want to apologize about my earlier posts being a little sarcastic and, perhaps, rude to you. I don’t think before I type sometimes. Actually, you remind me of my mom…if she cannot have 18kt or platinum, she would prefer nothing at all. ON a side note, have you noticed that Cartier and Van Cleef have not dealt with alternative metals, and I do not believe they will. I always thought that Cartier was a little “euro-trashy” but Van Cleef is a class act. As far as Tiffany and Co. goes, it’s actually a little funny…they go from a 6 Million dollar necklace that is breathtaking…to a $125.00 stainless ring little disconcerting !! Anyway, I understand where you are coming from.. I guess I took a liking to this little titanium ring of mine…maybe someday, I’ll take the leap and invest in 750 gold or platinum again…Nothing feels like the good stuff !! Ciao

    • Calla Gold on May 5, 2014 at 5:24 am

      Hello Edward,
      How nice to hear from you again. Since I don’t sell titanium, or tungsten or stainless steel, I admit that I wasn’t paying attention to Van Cleef or Cartier and their policies on what metal they sell.
      It seems that Tiffany takes chances. On one hand they want to be equated with class, exclusivity and fine elegant design. That is a high end message. Then they sell alternate metals. They are either really smart or diluting their brand.
      I wonder what a branding expert would say about their choice?
      It seems to me that the titanium bands I have seen do not have the platinum color. I’ve just seen ones that are a darker metal. Sort of like platinum with a tan.
      It’s not my cup of tea.
      Calla Gold

  98. edward matson on May 4, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    Also, in a previous post, you mentioned something about you not sounding like a “dinosaur jeweler,” or something like that…you are not a dinosaur…you are old school..and that is something to be very proud of. You appreciate beauty and quality and you should NEVER be sorry for that !!!!

    • Calla Gold on May 5, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      Re old school vs dinosaur, yay, I like what you said very much! I do appreciate beauty and you’re right I shouldn’t apologize for that!
      Personal Jeweler,

  99. Joe on May 7, 2014 at 6:31 pm

    People change who they are married to like some people change their socks. Lets face the facts here, most people don’t stay married anymore, its not fashionable. So who cares if the ring is made out of Tungsten or Titanium, it only has to last for 5-7 years, then you throw it away with the last mate, and get a new one. Its actually more economical that way.

    Just saying!


    • Calla Gold on May 7, 2014 at 8:49 pm

      You are so yanking my chain here. I know a ton of couples who are married longer than that. Just like show jumping horses I believe you throw your heart over with all your faith when you marry someone. I’m with my one and only and have been for over 30 years.
      I say buy the ring that is supposed to last forever and fill it with love and hope. If you buy a ring in case your marriage fails you’re kind of pre-deciding it ain’t gonna work out.
      That is no way to choose your ring or your mate. And no reason to go with titanium or tungsten.
      Calla Gold

  100. Clif on May 15, 2014 at 10:58 am

    I’m sorry, but how can you say that people who do not buy “precious” metals are not sentimental. Those who buy titanium can still be sentimental about their marriage, their bond with their partner, and probably the most important: Their vows and commitment to each other! I personally do not like wearing jewelry, but I am very sentimental about my upcoming marriage and the choices we’ve made for writing our vows and having symbols and reminders of our commitment in our ceremony and other keep-sakes from the wedding day… like a bench that we will put the final nail in at the ceremony and our vows will be inscribed on it and a hand embroidered ring pillow that will sit on top of it as well. Although I haven’t completely decided on what to do for rings (although we’ll probably have titanium bands as a back-up), one idea that I have is to make a wooden ring each year. They are inexpensive, very comfortable, and still very custom. I plan on making a shadow box with at least 60 hooks on it and hanging each ring up at the end of the year. Sure some may break and need to be glued back together, or get worn down a lot. But, each year I can make a new ring and symbolically “renew” my commitment. At the end, when I look at the filled up shadowbox, I’ll see all the years, the wear, the experiences. So, I understand your point about wanting sentimental symbols and that precious jewelry is ONE of many options for people to symbolize their marriage. Point being, it is that it can be incredibly personal and a piece of nothing wood can be just as meaningful as a gold ring. Same goes for titanium. If your fingers change size, you can get a new one and keep a collection.

    • Calla Gold on May 15, 2014 at 5:11 pm

      Hi Clif,
      I appreciate you sharing how you are a sentimental guy and you are OK with having to change your wedding ring regularly. Your idea of wooden rings is certainly a creative one and making a new one would certainly show your continued commitment. Your bench idea is so creative as well.
      You are definitely not representative of the average person. A wedding ring is symbolic and very personal. My personal sentimentality involves being able to change my ring and not being denied the joy of wearing the ring I got married in if I wish to 25 years later.
      Loving my gold,
      Calla Gold

  101. Clif on May 15, 2014 at 11:02 am

    To add: I think it is not necessarily superficial to want precious jewelry to celebrate your marriage; however, it IS superficial and shallow to look down on others who choose to do things differently than you and claim that their sentimentality and feeling towards their marriage are less than yours. SHAME ON YOU!

    • Calla Gold on May 15, 2014 at 5:16 pm

      Hi again Clif,
      I do not look down on people for their metal choices. I am here to inform people so they choose based on all the data available. I have run into people who are quite upset that they didn’t know that their titanium ring cannot be sized. That is not a problem for everyone. I don’t judge. I give my ‘opinion’ as to what I prefer. And I give information to help people about their potential metal choices in choosing wedding bands.
      Calla Gold

  102. James on May 16, 2014 at 11:35 am

    as a former Tank Commander in the British Army, I gave my wife the core of a tank shell…..a piece of solid Tungsten Carbide….it was manufactured into half a wedding band….the other half is made of 14k gold. We had to go with a cheaper 14K rather than the 18K I wanted since they are TWO separate rings that fit together….the Tungsten would have destroyed the much softer 18k in the long run.

    Because of having one of the most unique wedding bands EVER, symbolizing my past as a Career Soldier and my future with a traditional wedding band both at the same time, I feel am I more than qualified to say the following:

    I HAVE to correct you on one thing…..”gold or platinum feel substantial”…Please specify which. Ti (Titanium yes….is considerably less dense.) Tu (Tungsten on the other hand is only this side of Au (gold) and Pt (Platinum) My rings are identical size and the weight difference cannot be felt by the human hand.

    Also, five years later, my gold ring (a measly 2 1/2 on Mohs scale) is scratched from normal wear and tear and needs regular cleaning….the Tungsten (at 9.5 on mohs scale and at that level, the only thing most of us interact with that will scratch it is a DIAMOND) part of the ring is still a shiny and scratch free as the day it was forged and will shine for a thousand years or more to show my undying love for my wife!

    So….. if you criticize something, you should not necessarily just point out the flaws!

    All the best! 😀

    • Calla Gold on May 17, 2014 at 5:27 am

      Hello James,
      Thanks for writing. What a fascinating story of connecting your military career and your commitment to love in your wedding ring. You called to question my phrase that gold and platinum feel substantial. I was referring to the fact that titanium is very lightweight. Tungsten on the other hand is quite heavy.
      Gold may scratch because it is lower on the Mohs scale of hardness, but that part of your ring will allow the ring to be sized as needed for you or your heirs. It is true that tungsten, being higher on the hardness scale hold its shine amazingly. I find that I like the patina of wear that gold develops.
      If however a high shine is important to you and you don’t mind not being able to change your ring tungsten is quite amazingly hard. That amazing hardness however can raise its own risk factor in a ring worn daily. Harder metals are harder to remove from your hand in an emergency. See my blog post:
      James, I very much enjoyed your story and hearing your voice in this ongoing conversation!
      Gold and Platinum loving jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  103. James on May 18, 2014 at 8:02 pm

    Hi again Calla. I hope I didn’t offend you in any way. I think a lot of the work you display on your website is absolutely amazing and you are a fantastic artisan. I especially liked a pair of cufflinks in your gallery! From that point of view, I completely also understand where you are coming from since Titanium and Tungsten are virtually unworkable by an artisan such as yourself and require machining. My wife is a Doctor and not too long ago, dealt with a case where a man broke his finger, really badly and both hospitals were not able to cut off his tungsten ring. All they could do was smash the ring with a hammer, breaking his finger even worse but by doing so saving it. If I have to choose between Titanium and Tungsten I choose Tungsten BECAUSE it is more brittle….allowing for this extreme case to happen….better a badly broken finger than a missing one right? 😀

    I personally don’t like the “worn gold patina” look but that’s because I am a 100% block soldier mentality where everything has to be clean…spick and span! I DO like Gold though….I have a hand me down Vacheron Rose Gold watch that I absolutely ADORE but am usually too petrified to wear it since It’s worth more than my car!

    Either way, keep up the good work!!! You truly have a gift for what you do and I’ve genuinely enjoyed looking at your work in your gallery. Shame you’re not closer!

    All the best,


    • Calla Gold on May 19, 2014 at 8:54 am

      Dear James,
      Wow, what a lovely message. If you’ve read some of the previous responses to my emotion based opinions on titanium, you’ll know that I try not to get offended when people slam my blog post about not wearing tungsten and titanium for wedding bands. You never came close to offending me James. You are communicating your viewpoint.
      You love of the spick and span and shiny due to your military service is totally understandable. Gold does patina up and platinum flat out dulls up. Titanium and tungsten hold their shine way longer. You’ll appreciate this. I had a client referral to someone who’d worn a titanium band on the right hand for about ten years. It had gotten scratched up after all that wear.
      He gave it to me to try to polish. Happily my polishing wheel brought it back to its old shininess. My new client said, “See ya in ten years!” Then he called me back a week later and said, “Just kidding, we have pearls for you to restring and want a ring that my wife inherited to be fixed up so she can wear it.” But I know I won’t see that titanium ring for a loooong time. And I’m cool with that.
      James, I’m so pleased you took the time to see some of my work on my website. Your kind words make me smile.
      Thank you for your story of the unfortunate guy with the broken finger. I plan to share that next time I post about that blog on the safety or lack thereof for these dense metal rings. Hearing of your Dr. wife’s experience is very real and scary. I’m with you, tungsten with its brittle make-up would be the safer choice as you can break it with a vise. It can explode toward the finger and cause damage, but at least you get it off!
      James just so you know, I do work for many clients who are all across the nation, the EU, and Canada.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  104. Evil Larry on June 4, 2014 at 7:15 am

    First of I would love to know where you are getting your drugs from and can you hook me up. It must be nice to be completely delusional and make a ton of money by telling people not to buy a cheaper yet vastly superior metal. I am of course referring to the fact that not everybody can afford your precious gold/platinum.
    Second, where do you get off claiming the picture of the guy with the “wrong sized ring” is an actual picture. That has clearly been photo shopped. For one, the dude’s finger isn’t even red. If the ring was really that tight, his finger would have been so red/blue, and the pain would’ve been so bad, he wouldn’t have been standing still enough to take that picture.
    Third, and probably last, when did marriage turn into how expensive a ring can I buy? This is quite obviously what you’re pushing, greed. I mean, why else would you come flat out and say “don’t buy titanium or tungsten.” People like you really make me sick.
    And finally, this one goes out to Brian P. Just who the hell do you think you are?? Saying “don’t be cheap” and “work some extra hours, it’ll be worth it.” Last I heard women wanted equality and shit. Since when is it a man’s job to pander to women? I’m all for treating women with respect and kindness and love. But telling other guys to buy a trinket for thousands of dollars, for a marriage that will likely end in divorce, is complete stupidity on your part. You, along with the person who wrote this farce of a blog, have both earned the coveted jackass off the week award.
    Have a nice day.

    • Calla Gold on June 4, 2014 at 8:10 am

      Hello Evil Larry,
      You may have won the award for rudest comment I have received on this post. Blue ribbon dude!
      Just a bit of rebuttal here:
      I do not do drugs, I do however have strong opinions. A trait we evidently share.
      As a solo-preneur I do not make a ton of money. I donate to local charities, am active in local civic and non-profit organizations and recently won the Spirit of Entrepreneurship award. I mention this to speak to the kind of person I am.
      It seems that because I have advised against wearing titanium and tungsten wedding bands that it automatically means that I am a horrible person/jeweler. I bet to differ.
      The picture of the person with the super tight ring came from a blog post by the person discussing their ring problem. I once sawed a West Point Ring off of a 70 year old man. It was dug deep into a groove in his finger. The center lab made gem had broken out and he needed it fixed. His finger was amazingly dented and yet his finger had perfectly OK blood flow. Our bodies are amazing at their ability to figure out solutions to challenges. The blogger who used their finger in their blog seemed to be a legitimate blogger, with multiple posts of a personal nature. Having seen my 70+ client and seeing the proof in that an incredibly small ring can stay on someone’s finger successfully, I felt that this photo was a true representation of fact.
      I believe that your wedding ring or rings are your most valued piece of jewelry. They are worn daily and sing to the world the happy news that you are married. I am not pushing greed, I am suggesting value.
      One of the reasons I say “Don’t buy titanium or tungsten” is that I want to be clear up front what my opinion is. I did a follow up blog post on the safety issues connected with super strong metals being used as daily wear wedding bands, “Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety” :
      As far as comment-er Brian P. goes, he too is entitled to his opinion. I like it!
      In an interesting rebuttal to your comment that “since when is it a man’s job to pander to women” many women pay for the lion’s share of the ring that they want so that their desire for the ring of their dreams doesn’t financially hurt the man they love.
      Your assumption that a marriage will end in divorce and mercenarily deciding to cut your losses ahead of time buy chosing a cheap metal wedding band saddens me.
      I wrote this blog myself Larry. I stand by my opinion and my blog post.
      Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands,
      Calla Gold

  105. Ofir on June 14, 2014 at 11:49 pm

    Hi Calla,

    While I disagree with your article (I’m planning on buying a Tungsten ring and purchasing a new one if my ring size changes over time), I don’t think you deserve the hateful responses you’ve been getting here. I appreciate that you take the time to write long and meaningful responses to all on here, even the terrible ones.

    On the plus side, I was going to completely dismiss your advice but because of hateful idiocy like the comment “Evil Larry” left, I have decided to consider what you’ve written. Perhaps I will get the Tungsten and my fiance will get gold.

    Thank you for not falling victim to the dark side of the internet.



    • Calla Gold on June 15, 2014 at 6:48 am

      Hello Ofir,
      Of all the blog posts I’ve written and I’m pushing 300, this has been the most polarizing. I very much appreciate that you are making your decision as an informed person. Thank you for sharing that. I further appreciate your validation of my commenting. I have been called terminally polite. Yeah, I’ll cop to that.
      I’m assuming that you read my post on the lack of safety of super strong metal rings? This one:
      In case you didn’t, just don’t wear it backpacking or in a backwards medical care area, because of the difficulty of removing super strong metals compared to the ease of gold and platinum without special equipment.
      I’m very pleased you’ll be getting gold for your fiance. I have a client, female, who has a titanium ring that was custom made for her and has worn it for five years or so. It’s getting tighter and the color is not great against her skin. She’d really like to get a white gold and diamond ring now that they are doing better financially and out of grad school. She regrets getting the titanium ring as she feels it is cheap and ugly and doesn’t make her hand look good. The thing that really bugs her is that after she agreed with her fiance that she’d do titanium, he went on the internet and found someone to do this custom design. It cost a good bit and he’s really proud of it. If she’d known he was going to do more than just a cheap band she would have said, “I’d rather have white gold.”
      So I’ll be waiting to see what happens. She really wants precious metal. And believe it or not the fact that she has gained weight and has to tell her husband that her finger size is getting bigger really bothers her.
      May your marriage be long and fruitful.
      Sticking with my precious metals,
      Calla Gold

  106. Dee S. on June 19, 2014 at 10:47 am

    I do not agree with most people on here about wedding rings. People place so much value on a piece of metal that cannot go with you when you pass away. I have yet to read any research papers that state a person was wearing jewelry when buried and weeks/months/years later that the jewelry was gone with the person’s spirit.
    A ring does not soley represent the couple’s love. It is commitment/honesty/faithfulness etc that represents the love between the two individuals. Priceless acts are what counts not a piece of jewelry that cant get lost/stolen/or damage.

    • Calla Gold on June 19, 2014 at 8:44 pm

      Hello Dee,
      You are right that many priceless actions define true and lasting love. A wedding and engagement ring may be just things, but to me they are a wonderful symbol. I love my wedding ring. I look at it and instantly think of my husband whom I love.
      It is the most special piece of jewelry I own and it means the most.
      We also do treat each other with love, respect and help and support each other. I just love to have a symbol with me at all times I can peek at and smile.
      I plan to leave my ring to my child for when I’m gone. I like that I can do that and I know what it stands for will be cherished.
      Thank you for sharing your views here. I’m told frequently that people read these comments. Your voice is important.
      Loving the priceless and the gold,
      Calla Gold

  107. Seth on June 26, 2014 at 5:53 am

    Despite my love for high-tech materials, when i divorced some years ago, i couldn’t destroy my titanium wedding band as easily as i hoped! But tossing it in the trash felt just as good.
    This time around i’ll most definitely go for a gold band, if not with a small diamond in it.

    • Calla Gold on June 26, 2014 at 6:35 am

      Hi Seth,
      Thanks for telling your story. I can imagine that hammers and hacksaws and other tools of destruction were of little notice to your super hard titanium band.
      Well I guess you got that out of your system. The titanium band had the value of your marriage. Now in the trash.
      Next time may the woman you marry be wonderful and your gold ring long lived and cherished!
      Calla Gold

  108. sterling on June 30, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    Tungsten is great for newlyweds especially men . You will most likely lose one band before your 5th anniversary. I lost mine , tungsten , but I did find it in the street a few weeks later . Unscratched , although my wife was still upset I lost it .

    • Calla Gold on June 30, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      Hi Sterling,
      I know you are aware of my lack of enthusiasm for tungsten and titanium for wedding bands. I do not think that it is a forgone conclusion that you will lose your wedding band in the first five years of marriage. A properly sized band will not get lost.
      Thank you for visiting and giving your input!
      Calla Gold

  109. Sinclair on July 2, 2014 at 3:37 am

    1 – I’ve had a gold one for 20 yrs. My fingers are the same size. Advice, don’t get fat. If you swell, buy another.
    2 – True. Tungsten Carbide basically doesn’t need repairing. Again, can buy another.
    3 – True. It also invites being mugged. Many pawn theirs if money is tight. So get something that won’t come off every time you need some groceries or worse.
    4 – The ring should be given meaning by your commitment, not the other way around. The other metals look fine and last longer if you do any work with your hands.
    5 – Your kids can inherit your house or savings. They don’t care that much. Surely there’s something else sentimental…like family photos or something. There’s no such thing as a “special metal.” Some have more electrons, protons and neutron. It means only what your mind thinks it means.

    Make your love and service the thing you offer your lover, not possessions. My sister lost her diamond twice because she had a small farm. My dad’s gold band worth thin after years of labor. Mine’s fine since I do a lot more office work. In the end, it’s the love you need not a gold band. A rugged ring will let the world know you and your partner are taken. Lighten up, be practical, and you might even stay married longer than most! 🙂

    • Calla Gold on July 2, 2014 at 5:06 am

      Hi Sinclair,
      Thank you for your voice in this conversation. I really liked what you said about making your love and your service the thing you offer.
      I can’t get that sentimental about a house. I can’t wear a house. This is my opinion and it was written because my ring means so much to me.
      My kid will get my house and be very pleased, but my wedding ring will mean a lot as a tiny symbol of love. I’ll be delighted for him to have it. A concentrated piece of beauty that means how much I loved his father. He might want to wear his dad’s band when the time comes. Both are gold and custom designed.’I very much enjoyed your logical numbered response!
      I believe in being practical and sentimental.
      Calla Gold

  110. Joe Schmoe on July 3, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    One should never take advice on purchasing a product from someone whose interests directly conflict with that product succeeding.

    Listening to your advice on rings that directly diminish your business is a mistake by the reader.

    It’s like taking advice from Pepsi on why water is a bad beverage choice.

    Or listening to an oil producer on why renewable energies are bad for the environment.


    • Calla Gold on July 7, 2014 at 6:17 pm

      Hello Joe,
      The reason I as a jeweler give my opinion and advice on why not to buy titanium and tungsten wedding bands is because I have been in the wedding ring trenches and I’ve seen people who are genuinely upset that they can’t size their ring or make changes to their ring. I felt like the points I made that people should consider in making their choice weren’t out there. So I wrote my opinion and made my points.
      There are guys who ask my opinion and then go out and buy titanium or tungsten anyway. I’m fine with that. They are making their choice from an informed place.
      Interestingly enough it is usually the women who object to the disposable nature of titanium and tungsten, not their fiances who are just looking at price.
      I wrote this because of the various reasons people came to me and talked about their problems with titanium or tungsten. I didn’t just get up one day and say, hmm, I think I’ll trash tungsten and titanium wedding bands, gee what can I make up?” No, it came from my clients and their experiences.
      I’ve been stunned and amazed by the number of responses I’ve had to this blog post.
      If you take the time to look at other posts I’ve written, you’ll see I try to be educational and not controversial. This is my most controversial post to date.
      Thank you for writing and giving me the opportunity to respond about why I wrote this very popular post.
      Calla Gold

  111. Anna on July 8, 2014 at 2:15 am

    I thought I read a while back that you can have a white gold ring plated with Titanium? Is that true?

    I have had heaps of trouble with my white gold engagement ring… every time I wear it for more than an hour, my finger flares up so badly that it can even begin to weep clear fluid. It’s so painful and feels like a burn. I have tried everything over the past year, also with great consideration into the possibility I am getting soap behind it (I am not… I had the ring ultrasonically cleaned and was then SO careful, but very soon after that, maybe 2 days, tops, it was red raw again.) I have tried wearing my sterling silver ring and even forcing soap under it, and the rash just didn’t happen, so I am really sure it must be the white gold (nickel?)

    I stumbled upon this post and thought it was very interesting. I had thought you could plate white gold with titanium, but it sounds like you can’t do much with it at all!

    I don’t know what to do with mine… I might have to get the ring re-made in platinum or palladium (don’t like yellow gold.) Hmm.

    • Calla Gold on July 8, 2014 at 5:18 am

      Hi Anna,
      What an unfortunate situation you have. You may indeed have a nickel allergy.
      You cannot plate any metals over tungsten and titanium as far as I know.
      I’m going to guess you’ve tried the clear nail polish on the underside of your ring tactic? If not you might try it. It can create a barrier at least in the short term between your skin and the metal.
      Another thing to try, since a white gold wedding ring is valuable, would be to rhodium plate your ring. Read my blog post about it:
      Rhodium is in the platinum metals group and is used to plate metals the white gold color. I’ve tried it with mildly sensitive clients and had good success with many of them.
      Platinum being hypo allergenic would be a good choice if you wanted to use another metal to re-make your wedding ring.
      Good luck,
      Calla Gold

  112. laura on July 28, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    This obsession over material objects is asinine! It’s just a ring, people. If your love is really dictated by the type of metal your ring is made of, you might want to step back and reevaluate your idea of love.

    For the record, my man has a titanium spinner ring – because he’s always loved spinner rings. I have a koa wood white gold ring, because I’m from Hawai’i. If either of us lost our rings tomorrow, it wouldn’t be such a big deal. Just get new ones when we want. Maybe something different, maybe something the same.

    • Calla Gold on July 28, 2014 at 6:59 pm

      Hi Laura,
      I feel you are being a tad harsh on people who want to have nice quality daily wear rings. My blog post is meant to give information so people aren’t blindsided by the downside of titanium and tungsten and stainless steel for that matter.
      At some point when his ring doesn’t fit comfortably anymore or when the wood in your ring degrades you’ll probably want to get new rings. I’m glad you’re fine with this. You seem to go at your wedding ring choices with your eyes open.
      May your marriage be long and happy.
      Sticking to my gold,
      Calla Gold

  113. Justin on July 30, 2014 at 3:17 pm

    I’m likely to lose my wedding band. My fiance would have got me a nicer metal, but I insisted on Tungsten since it will be replaced at some point(s).

  114. laura on July 30, 2014 at 8:32 pm

    Calla –

    This is nothing against you personally – nor anyone else. It’s just the fact that everyone is arguing over a metal. A metal! Why does anyone really care that much about each other’s rings? As I said, mine is white gold with a koa center and his is titanium. I hold no particularities over any metal, design or what-have-you.

    And if someone gets a nice ring, why should they feel upset if they lose it? Sure, it’s your wedding ring, but does it make anyone any less married? Even if it has sentimental value, how do you think it makes your spouse feel if you place such high value on a ring? I know it’d make me feel really crummy.

    Material objects are easily replaced. Love, friendship and a deep soulful connection is not.

    Just as you, Calla, should accept that not everyone loves gold, everyone else should accept that not everyone loves alternate metals. And regardless, we should stop placing such a value on such an insignificant piece of our humanity.

    I hope I opened someone’s eyes in this convo. Enjoy your life, but don’t sweat the small stuff. 🙂

    • Calla Gold on July 30, 2014 at 8:44 pm

      Hi Laura,
      Thank you for adding your views to this convo. It has at times gotten quite heated. Laura you’ve checked out the comments I’m thinkin’. I wrote this article to head off the disappointment someone might feel at not knowing going in what the limitations of alternate metals are.
      Then I put in my opinion. I don’t expect the world to agree with me, and boy did I find out that some didn’t agree with flames coming out their ears. At least I think that’s where that came from!
      I appreciate your civil tone and kindly way of putting your views. You are welcome any time and I hope to hear your voice again.
      Personally I’d be upset if I lost my ring. I do attach special significance to it. It symbolizes my and my husband’s love. I value as well my life’s friendships and my love with my husband.
      Gold loving jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  115. Raven Lee on August 3, 2014 at 4:57 pm

    Titanium and Tungsten rings are much harder than Gold or Platinum. Tungsten is much harder than Titanium, but more brittle and prone to cracking. However, they are both much more durable than Gold or Platinum. So comments about how people can crack Tungsten is disingenuous, since gold or platinum is much easier to break.

    Also, while Titanium is lightweight, Tungsten is much, much heavier. If you value weight for a ring, then you’ll value Tungsten.

    In addition, Titanium and Tungsten are so inexpensive that you can buy a dozen rings for the price of 1 gold ring. So if you need to resize, you can just buy another one and wear the other ring as a pendant.

    • Calla Gold on August 4, 2014 at 5:15 am

      Dear Raven,
      The hardness of titanium is actually one of the problems with it. Please see my follow-up blog post:”Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety”
      Here’s the link:
      Harder metals pose a safety threat to your fingers and for me the fact that any podunk emergency room can saw off a gold or platinum wedding band in an emergency is a plus.
      The fact that tungsten is heavy feeling doesn’t change the fact that it cannot be sized and is basically a disposable ring because it can’t be sized. When you drop a gold or platinum band it will not break. It’ll bounce. You can however break a tungsten ring by dropping it. There are numerous videos online showing how easy it is to break a tungsten ring including a wedding video I watched. Can you imagine the ring you want to pledge your lasting love breaking when accidentally dropped during your wedding? I would be so horrified. I don’t want my love represented by something easily shattered.
      Your comment about gold or platinum being easier to break is not substantiated. As a thirty one year jeweler I have worked on hundreds of wedding bands. Mostly sizing them larger. On only a couple of occasions have I seen a cracked wedding band. Invariably it was a super thin band that had been inherited and worn for about fifty years first before cracking.
      Normal thickness gold and platinum bands don’t crack or break and are quite strong. But within reason. A super hard cheap metal is just that hard and cheap and unchangable.
      Not my idea of a great choice for a daily wedding band.
      A wedding band should be able to change over the years if your body changes. It should not pose a risk to your finger if you jam your finger while backpacking and it swells up out in boony nowhere.
      Your ring should be precious to you and not an interchangeable piece of cheapness. Getting married is not a contest to see how can we do this the cheapest. Our rings should not be disposable symbols of cheapness and inflexibility.
      That’s my two cents,
      Calla Gold

  116. Viking Girl on August 4, 2014 at 4:42 am

    Barf at the article.

    i prefer titanium over gold/platinum and other crap because A. i love unusual material. B. traditional stuff sucks! yeah i know about hardness of titanium by the time i outgrow my ring we will have lots of people working with Titanium
    Yes it is all about the bond but I asked my 2 exes to put titanium on my finger. LOL they became exes. Titanium Rules. screw gold and platinum!

    • Calla Gold on August 4, 2014 at 5:16 am

      Dear Viking,
      It sounds like you mowed through those exes. I guess titanium was right for you.
      Calla Gold

  117. Raj P on August 5, 2014 at 11:12 am

    I’m going to assume this article is targeted at men, since I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a woman getting a titanium or tungsten ring.

    While I agree that rings cannot be resized, I disagree with the discussion about metal values. You may be right on paper, but in real world transactions I’ve seen people try and resell their gold jewellery at a tiny fraction of the supposed value, therefore losing far more than the “throwaway” cost of titanium or tungsten. Resizing costs are also quite pricey, and many gold rings that I’ve seen with carved patterns can’t be resized anyways. I also don’t ever foresee myself passing on a men’s wedding ring to any of my children.

    I’d think the money could be better spent on a high end watch that would retain and likely increase in value over the years. That’s an heirloom that I think most men would prefer and value over a wedding ring. Just ask Christopher Walken in Pulp Fiction.

    • Calla Gold on August 6, 2014 at 7:24 am

      Hi Raj,
      Although men are the only ones who seem interested in titanium bands, it is my female clients who want this information. Many men get their fiances beautiful rings to symbolize their love and commitment. They thoughtfully understand that a lot of women have dreamed of getting married and dreamed of their ring and their dress. I did!
      Many men have said, “Hey babe I’m not all into that stuff, just get me a titanium band because Joe has one and said they’re cheap and I don’t care.”
      Many times the woman gets the man his wedding band. Many times it is a meaningful gift for her to give. Many of my female clients when they find out what I share in this blog post about titanium and tungsten bands are upset if they bought one or change course and veer away from buying one. For many women myself included that ring he wears is really important. He’s hopefully going to wear it every day. His kids will see it. And one day inherit it.
      I wish I could share with you the conversations I’ve heard about the meaning of a grandfather’s ring given to his grandson. The fact that it was a long and happy marriage, just talking about it can choke you up.
      I believe that a symbol of love that is worn daily should be able to be changed as needed as your body changes and kept and cherished.
      I feel that a watch, though useful and good looking is a gift and will never rise to to important level of a wedding ring.
      The many women I have spoken to have wanted the ring on their man to have value and be lasting and feel special. Plastic is not special, titanium is not special or rare or a good choice in my book.
      That is my opinion and a lot of women have thanked me for educating them on the cons of choosing a titanium or tungsten wedding band.
      Calla Gold

  118. Mr. Norton on August 15, 2014 at 7:45 pm

    Gold is a valuable metal, true. Buy a gold certificate or bullion and put it away in a deposit box for that inheritance. Then, get 2-3 full sizes of the same Tungsten ring for 1/10th the price of a gold ring, and there you go. No more worries of ring size changing. Your kids get the payoff when you die, you don’t lose the thing on the beach, in the garden, or working on the car.

    Women’s jewelry is a bit different, as they rarely work hard with their hands, and take much more care of their Jewelry.

    For guys? Gold is a waste.

    A nice, heavy, polished or brushed tungsten ring will last forever unless you’re giving it major impact blows, and will not scratch nearly as easily as gold. I agree Titanium doesn’t have that lovely heavy weight, so stick with the tungsten.

    Even if it can’t be worn, it can certainly be passed down with sentimental value.

    I’m not saying gold rings aren’t lovely, but in today’s world, in today’s economy, is it really worth the risk to walk around with $1000’s on your finger that can slip away? Not for me. Save the cash and put it to better use.

    • Calla Gold on August 15, 2014 at 9:12 pm

      Dear Mr. Norton,
      Thank you for weighing in with your opinion.
      I separate the value of an investment as separate from a symbol of lifelong love. I did not buy my husband’s wedding ring as an investment, but as a symbol of love that he’d find beautiful. When our son inherits it it can be sized to his chosen finger.
      I personally think that inheriting three identical titanium or tungsten bands in three different sizes. That can’t be sized and have little actual value is a crappy inheritance.
      That is my opinion. Since I’m giving my opinion, I wouldn’t feel the value in giving my husband a cheap metal disposable ring. I want him to wear gold. It is beautiful and I see that symbol of love I am proud to have him wear. I would and did have a low cost honeymoon that I enjoyed because we watched our pennies when we got married, but he had a beautiful gold wedding ring, because that meant a lot to me and he loves it.
      Whether a ring scratches matters little to me. My husband’s band gets nicked up and the patina of wear is very visually textural and pleasing.
      I’ll pass on the tungsten thank you.
      Gold jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  119. Christine Beeler on August 23, 2014 at 4:31 am

    I personally believe that a person’s love isn’t based on the ring that they choose to give one another. It’s more about the love and commitment that you make to each other. For that reason my husband and I picked out something we both loved, and we got 2 Tungsten rings with Lord of the Rings runes on them, because we are lovers of the books!

    • Calla Gold on August 23, 2014 at 6:59 am

      Hi Christine,
      Thanks for writing your choice. That design is very cool. Hopefully your fingers don’t change size so you can wear your bands for a long time.
      If not and you choose to go with gold at some point, your Lord of the Rings runes design would be able to be engraved by laser onto gold.
      May your marriage be long and happy.
      Calla Gold

  120. Edward on September 6, 2014 at 3:52 am

    Okay, I really think it is time to bring this thread to a close, Calla. At first, I could almost see the point you were trying to drive home, but now, I truly feel as though you enjoy insulting people. You have such a dismissing tone that I cannot stand it. You come right out and call other people’s rings “cheap,” or refer to a “crappy inheritance,” because the ring may be titanium or whatever. You remind me of my second wife. She, too, was a wannabe..her mother was a waitress and her dad was a mason. She always longed for more…then she latched onto me..she saw a guy who came from a very old, very good New England family with pedigree. It never worked out, however. My mother was right..she just wasn’t one of us, I guess. She, like you, had a way of sugar coating insults. She, like you , was a snob..but a backward snob. This means a snob who has no reason to be. I admit you might have made a little money being a so called personal jeweler, but, to me, there is an air about you that suggests you probably grew up very poor. The thing is, Calla, you are so rude…so ill bred.. You try so hard to sound upper crust, but in the end I would bet my trust fund that you are no more than one generation away from poor, white trash. So what if people want titanium or tungsten. You need to get some manners.

    • Calla Gold on September 6, 2014 at 6:23 am

      Hi Edward,
      This is quite a good example of a personal attack comment. And so well written. It’s sad that you had a marriage that didn’t turn out well.
      I am admittedly an opinionated jeweler. There would be no blog here otherwise. I give my opinions in this post and freely say so. The society will go the way it goes in its wedding ring choices and traditions on its own.
      From where I am observing, I’m not seeing that alternate metal wedding bands are sweeping gold away.
      I find it interesting to watch the choices made when people are informed of the limitations of titanium and tungsten. Do I have clients that go out and get tungsten or titanium wedding bands? Yes I do. Do I provide them? No I don’t. For every twenty people who come to me considering alternative metals in their wedding band I’d say one or maybe two at the outside stick to their desire to get tungsten or titanium. The huge percentage choose gold or platinum.
      I’ve been thanked numerous times for telling people about the sizing issue. It’s a pretty big deal. I recently had a guy come up to me at a wedding fair wanting to have me size his titanium band. He’d gotten his finger sized locally, and then ordered a band online and it was too snug. He was visibly upset that it couldn’t be sized. I don’t know if the site hadn’t mentioned it or he hadn’t read the information available on titanium. But this guy was pissed.
      I wrote this blog to inform and to give my opinion.
      Gold Jeweler,

  121. May on September 6, 2014 at 5:20 am

    After reading most of the comments it sounds to me like you value and love your rings and diamond/s more than your marriage honestly. I’ve been married for eight years, my ring size hasn’t changed since I got them (when I was 18), and I have two sets, a yellow gold and a 14kt white gold set which is my current one. I have the white gold set that I got for our five year anniversary. Personally I’m not a fan of yellow gold, or silver. I really love my white gold set, yes I like the fact they can be re-sized and altered. They hold a great sentimental value as well as a symbolic one, but if something were to happen to them like them being stolen or me losing them I wouldn’t mind at all replacing them with Titanium. I know what my marriage means to me and how much love I have for my husband, I don’t need 14kt white gold wedding rings or diamonds on my finger to make me feel loved.I love my marriage and husband more than my rings and stones. Yes they are beautiful and precious pieces, but what matters more isn’t a material thing. If I knew about titanium before I’d probably chosen that over my white gold, if for whatever reason I needed a different size I’d just buy a new one and that’d be the end of it. I know the sentimental attachment of your very first rings cannot be replaced but at the end of the day what really matters more, what type of metal the rings are made of and the diamonds? Or the fact that you still have a healthy marriage. If you’re more worried about being able to keep the same ring for ever and ever then you obviously love the rings way too much and, it’s not even about what they represent anymore. If you truly cherish your marriage it doesn’t matter much what type of metal your rings are made of, or what stones you have on them, what’s important is that you have something on to represent that bond.

    • Calla Gold on September 6, 2014 at 6:09 am

      Hi May,
      Thank you for sharing your opinion. Like you, I value the love in my long marriage very much. It sounds like you have a great marriage. Like you I love my husband more than my wedding rings. But I love that they remind me of him during the day when we are apart. Last year I sized my ring a half a size larger, it was getting a bit hard to remove. I was happy that I could still wear it and not have to replace it.
      Have a great rest of your married life May.
      Jeweler Calla

  122. John Collinson on September 6, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Greedy greedy jeweller!! There’s nothing wrong with Titanium except it doesn’t line your pockets as much!!!!

    • Calla Gold on September 6, 2014 at 11:31 am

      Hello John,
      I’m sensing a theme in the last few comments. I have my reasons for not liking titanium and I stand by them.
      Liking my gold,
      Calla Gold

  123. Amin on September 21, 2014 at 9:47 am

    For the last 12 years, I’ve worn a platinum (men’s) wedding band from Tiffany’s, inscribed “© 1999 Tiffany & Co. PT950”. It’s got countless tiny scratches on it, contributed to by the fact that I enjoy tapping it on all sorts of things while I wear it.

    I’m intrigued by tungsten and titanium bands as they are a bit darker and will better match some of my titanium wrist watches. The scratch resistance of tungsten seems like a bonus, and I’ve gone ahead and ordered myself what looks to be a very fine tungsten carbide ring from Amazon for the grand sum of $19.99 plus $3.99 for 1-day shipping.

    To me, the ring is a symbol of my marriage, but it’s not the material that matters. If a more costly or precious material made it more meaningful, then I’d have a bunch of big diamonds in there. Not tempted in the least. If I like the tungsten ring, I’ll happily rotate in with my original band. My wife doesn’t mind in the least.

    • Calla Gold on September 22, 2014 at 5:53 am

      Hello Amin,
      I understand that the appeal of the color to match your watch is strong. Keep in mind that titanium and other new hard metals have a safety issue that I discuss in my post:Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety
      These metals are without a doubt less expensive and you have indeed found one with the price of a gourmet hamburger. Do keep the safety issue in mind when choosing which one to wear.
      Congratulations on your long marriage Amin!
      Digging my gold and platinum metals,
      Calla Gold

  124. Amin on September 23, 2014 at 6:59 am

    Hi Calla,

    Thanks for your reply. I understand the safety issue with titanium, but with tungsten carbide in an emergency, can’t they just whack it with a hammer and it will crack into pieces?

    I’m having second thoughts about the tungsten though, even though it’s cheap as chips. Deep down I’m a little more sentimental about my original band than I let on in my first post.


    • Calla Gold on September 23, 2014 at 7:24 am

      Hello Amin,
      Thank you for responding! You are right that tungsten isn’t as difficult to remove if it is stuck on. The recommended way is to put it in a vise, (with your finger in it) and tighten it till it cracks. The only bummer is if it cracks explosively it can imbed bits in your finger which then need to be removed.
      You melt my heart when you speak of your sentimental connection to your ring. Thank you for that. I really understand that, being sentimental myself. I look at my wedding ring when I’m apart from my husband and it makes me smile.
      Your Sentimental Jeweler,

  125. Amin on September 28, 2014 at 7:38 am

    So I probably won’t be wearing my tungsten carbide ring, but I’m really glad I bought it.

    Why? Because, amazingly, rubbing this $20 ring against my platinum band has restored the platinum band to a high polish!

    Actually, what I did was 1) use green Scotch Brite to finely brush the finish of my platinum ring, taking out the bigger rub marks and scratches; and 2) polish by rubbing with my tungsten ring.

    10 minutes later, my platinum band is like new again, and the tungsten ring and green Scotch Brite will be ready to perform again when called upon. Nice!

    • Calla Gold on September 29, 2014 at 8:31 pm

      Hello again Amin,
      I love your life hack with the tungsten ring and it polishing your platinum band. I never heard of that or tried it. Pretty cool!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  126. Waldo on September 30, 2014 at 2:41 am

    Its the best rings for warriors

  127. Joe on September 30, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    I am concerned with the lack of true information of tungsten carbide being shown on this forum. Also I am shocked from the so called expert. He mentions that Tungsten (in its true form) pure Tungsten is soft and brittle, but what is not mentioned is the rings that are produced are Carbide. The chemical symbol for Tungsten Carbide is WC. WC can be prepared by reaction of tungsten metal and carbon at 1400–2000 °C.[8] Other methods include a patented lower temperature fluid bed process that reacts either tungsten metal or blue WO3 with CO/CO2 mixture and H2 between 900 and 1200 °C.[9]
    WC can also be produced by heating WO3 with graphite: directly at 900 °C or in hydrogen at 670 °C following by carburization in Ar at 1000 °C.[10] Chemical vapor deposition methods that have been investigated include:[8] Tungsten carbide is extremely hard, ranking ~9 on Mohs scale, and with a Vickers number of 1700–2400.[16] It has a Young’s modulus of approximately 550 GPa,[6] a bulk modulus of 439 GPa,[17] and a shear modulus of 270 GPa.[15] It has an ultimate tensile strength of 344.8 MPa.[18] It has a Poisson’s ratio of 0.234. A Diamond is Mohs of 10.
    The issue of some Rings shattering when dropped is due to a cheaper make where the cheaper and more brittle metal cobalt is used in the process to create the carbide. Now yes a Pure Tungsten Carbide ring where only carbon is used can still shatter when enough force is applied, but so can anything with a high Mohs ranking even Diamonds.
    The biggest plus to the Tungsten carbide ring I see is for many of us who are Military, or in an industrial work environment. A Tungsten carbide ring will survive the harsh environments many military members will face.
    To add I do not agree with you poor argument and I would like to state you should listen to your son. Plus your history of the wedding ring is way off and was one view of one form of the Christian religion, and nowhere near to the history of the catholic history where in the past rings where wooden. Gold itself is viewed as a metal of Satin and is a sign of greed. So that argument of yours for gold and other precious metals being firm in marriage history is invalid. Anything can be the symbol of two peoples love. I will attach a few sites that have valid and true information for your reading as well as for others.
    All I say is please learn and read as much as you can. All in all your argument is only an opinion, and not one that is backed by much fact or information.

    • Calla Gold on September 30, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Dear Joe,
      Thank you for sharing your opinion. I am not a scientist, but a jewelry designer with an opinion that I have chosen to share.
      Your technical information on tungsten is interesting.
      The part of the history of wedding jewelry that I care the most about is the part where we wear gold and platinum.
      It is a fact that titanium and tungsten cannot be sized. It is a fact that a great majority of long married people will need to have their ring size altered at some point in their married life. It is a fact that many people want to have their ring change with them.
      It is a fact that a great number of people who are married like the idea of leaving their happy marriage rings to their children after they are gone. I would imagine that is why we do not wear wooden rings anymore.
      Opinionated jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  128. Joe on October 1, 2014 at 6:13 am

    Fact Number 1 difficulty to resize is a given. Anything with a High density like a diamond will not be easily resized with conventional jeweler technology, but that doesn’t mean it won’t one day be possible. One thing that is being done by tungsten manufactures to one lower cost, and two make sure that your ring is no different in the materials use… is to remanufacture the ring from the Tungsten of the original. Plus what difference does it truly make. If someone was to damage a Gold or platinum to a certain point it self would have to be remade and truly won’t be the same ring. They certainly never hold there shape that’s for sure. Fact stated number 2 Which I would like to view some kind of chart or graph that can prove that supposed fact or see a reference. Most of the time I have seen the engagement ring is passed down for use of the start of the wedding process so the suitor will have time to pick out and pay for a wedding ring of there own. Also a new trend has been seen where people will use that heirloom and create a new ring from it to save cost. People can still pass down a tungsten ring just as they can pass down anything that is a value to the owner of family. Just because something is not of high dollar value does not mean it is not worthy of value of its meaning. Most people who accept a heirloom normally do not ware it Diamonds can not be resized either, and yet that stone is a long time supposed symbol of love. Most people now a days upgrade there rings. Budget hits everyone and a lot of times most guys can not get what they really want to get there wives. Anniversaries come to mind when that is the case, and this is an example of a symbol of growth in a relationship. Sentiment over a material item itself is a form of sin within the true nature of the Catholic religion. Also it most western cultures this is look at being materialistic. Meaning for one to value an item over any person. All I am doing is trying to pass as much information I can in rebuttal in order to properly educate consumers. Now as far as Safety. Gold or Platinum which is a chemical element with symbol Pt and atomic number 78. It is a dense, malleable, ductile, highly unreactive, precious, gray-white transition metal. Its name is derived from the Spanish term platina, which is literally translated into “little silver”. Look at the fact that it is “Malleable” though the metal has a high density and is considered a Nobal metal on the periodic table, the fact that it is malleable, or shapeable means it does not rate on the Mohs scale of hardness. Gold and Platinum can smash into a persons finger causing more damage then being De-gloved. Any ring being worn can de-glove a finger when being striped away at 10 pounds of pressure or more which is what is rated necessary to pierce flesh, but gold and platinum can bend into the bone. Things that have been seen over seas in the past which has cause regulations for men to take off all watches and rings in any Shop or deployed combat environment shows that no matter what the metal its never safe to ware in such circumstances. This is another case for which most men are moving to Tungsten Carbide. They can easily slip the ring off and put it with there dog tags, and have no worries for any damage to happen to it. I have seen otherwise for gold and platinum rings where they end up deformed from the heat and pressure of being tucked away under a shirt and body armor. Now enough of Tungsten Carbide… A newer trend is starting as well of the rubber anodized ring. A ring that will last longer, bend, stretch, and shrink with the size of the wearers finger, and I can even tell you that most places are starting to perform studies of safety for possible ability to ware wail working in industrial/work shop settings. So all in all instead of knocking all other rings. How about use all this new knowledge to better help those few tough customers select a ring of a different material that can be better suited for there lifestyle? Below is a few more links including that of the rubber ring which fire departments have allowed to be worn on the job. In the end nothing is truly safe, but this new rubber ring may have gotten a first step in the direction.
    It should be noted I want to help the customer be aware of the faulty pure Tungsten rings or cheaper tungsten carbide made with cobalt. To better educate them for why some have failed on them wail others even prove the strength of a true carbide.

    • Calla Gold on October 1, 2014 at 7:07 am

      Hello again Joe,
      That is interesting that the tungsten manufacturers are looking into remaking your same ring into a new sized same band ring. Very fascinating news. It doesn’t make me like it any more than I did, but when that technology is broadly available it may make a difference in people’s minds.
      Since this blog post is about wedding bands, and you speak of damage to gold and platinum rings, I’ll just say that a nicely made comfort fit band holds up to many types of wear. I won’t speak to military or firemen and the rigors of their jobs. But the people I have dealt with in 31 years have been delighted with the wear and lasting value of their gold or platinum wedding bands.
      My observation with passed down wedding bands is that they are often worn on the right hand ring finger after being sized. Or in the case of a client of mine used in another way that honors the giver. See my post on the repurposing of Debra’s mother’s wedding band:
      When someone uses a gift of a relative’s wedding band it is helpful whether it is worn on the left hand, the right hand or used to help pay for a new ring.
      A tungsten or titanium ring that didn’t fit the recipient would fill none of those needs.
      As a woman I have to say that sentiment counts for a lot me. I love my wedding ring and I love my husband. The way I was raised it was not considered a sin to be sentimental about “things”. One time my grandmother gave me a pin of a horse. It was to recognize my love of horses. I felt like she really “got” me and that little pin had great sentimental value. It is especially nice to have it now that she is gone as a reminder of her love.
      As far as your statement that a persons gold ring or platinum ring can bend into a person’s finger. We are talking about the kind of force that I can’t imagine. In 31 years of being a jeweler I’ve had two stories where the man’s wedding band saved his finger. Once when some part of the car fell down on his hand. His ring bent slightly and he called to tell me how happy he was that his ring saved him from injury.
      Another was a house door slamming incident. Again the wedding band saved my client from injury. The ring was dinged but fine. Again these aren’t military grand situations, but they illustrate that a properly made gold wedding band stands up quite well to impacts.
      The idea of a rubber wedding ring is quite interesting and again new to me. I’d probably recommend the fireman get the rubber ring for work and have a gold or platinum wedding band for the rest of the time.
      Thank you for sharing your information Joe.
      Gold and Platinum kinda gal,
      Calla Gold

  129. Joe on October 1, 2014 at 10:14 am

    Thank you to Calla It was a delightful debate. I am glad in the end we both can see each others views and come to a understanding, and both are better from it. You take care and good speed to you!

    • Calla Gold on October 1, 2014 at 6:14 pm

      Hi Joe,
      It is fun to discuss and unearth new viewpoints and new information. It was delightful!
      Thank you for that.
      Calla Gold

  130. julai on October 5, 2014 at 8:17 am

    huh? all in all youre just telling me not to buy tungsten bec of just ONE thing – cant be resized. is that just it? when you resize the gold wedding ring, to me it becomes a whole new different ring, over the years if i feel like my tungsten ring doesnt fit to me anymore, i can just wear it in my necklace or keep it, it’s stronger, cheaper, ALOT cheaper, maintenance is just soap, water, cloth. never tarnish, never gets old… and one thing i love most on it, i cant pawn it or sell it to anyone no matter how i need money.

    • Calla Gold on October 6, 2014 at 5:11 am

      Hello Julai,
      I have to take exception with your assertion that a gold ring becomes a whole new ring when sized. First of all the design stays the same on the sized band. Second of all we are adding gold in the same color and karat. It is the same ring, it just can be worn because it fits. I have sized my wedding ring three times.
      As far as saying that you can wear your tungsten ring around your neck, I personally would want to wear my wedding ring on my wedding ring finger.
      As far as your talking about tungsten not tarnishing, you won’t have that problem with gold or platinum either.
      For your final point that you can’t pawn it or sell it to anyone else, you are right. I’m not thinking that’s a good thing, for you I mean.
      Sticking to my gold,
      Calla Gold
      There are more than one reason for not using tungsten as a daily wear wedding band.

  131. Helen on October 7, 2014 at 9:16 am

    I found this article whilst looking for information on resizing my titanium wedding band locally (which for the record I have since found)

    I take issue with a number of things printed here, first, as previously pointed out your article states the same thing as several points which is just irritating.

    But secondly and most importantly is this ridiculous idea that if you don’t buy your loved one a rock or ring that costs a bomb you some how don’t love them as much?

    Yes, titanium is less valuble monetarily than gold or platinum. But so what?
    If your marriage is based on how much the wedding ring cost it sounds a bit doomed to be honest.

    Personally I’d rather have my cheaper ring, that is stronger, and tougher than any precious metal. Can be worn no matter i’m doing, be it swimming or rock climbing without fear of damage. And have the rest of my money left over for useful things. Like bills.

    Additionally, what’s wrong with replacing a wedding ring?
    Sure I’d be heartbroken if i lost mine, but no more so than if I lost my laptop. (actually I’d probably be more heartbroken about the laptop, it has a lot of stuff on it.)
    A ring does not represent my marriage or the state of it. It’s just jewellery and it;s replaceable, if it gets to small or to big, or has to be cut off or gets lost I’ll buy a new one. I’d hope to never have to but life happens, and my ring is a sign to other people I’m married, not the be all and end all of the marriage itself.

    Of course everyone is entitled to their opinion and if you prefer gold or platinum then chose that.
    I just expect more from an article emphatically entitled ‘DO NOT DO THIS’ than an inaccurate statement and several opinions from someone with a vested interest in making people like they have to spend loads of money or they don’t love someone enough.

    (that and the idea that the strength of your relationship is related to the money you spend on weddings has always irritated me.)

    • Calla Gold on October 8, 2014 at 6:29 am

      Hello Helen,
      Thank you for sharing you thoughts and responses to my blog post. The first item is your stating that you wanted to get your titanium wedding band sized and finding someone local to do it. I am very curious about how you made that happen. Since titanium can’t be heat worked this only way to make it larger is to grind out material from the inside in a metal shop environment. The only way I’ve heard of to make it smaller is to wedge in an inner band which would make it thicker and bulkier.
      I would very much like to hear the amount you needed your band sized and the method used and the type of person who did it. I know a lot of jewelers and they’ve all said, “I can’t size titanium or tungsten or stainless steel or any of these hard industrial metals.”
      In no place in my article to I say you have to buy and expensive rock to prove your love. I am reminded of the amazing amount of comments I have received calling me “greedy” because I do not sell tungsten or titanium wedding bands. As if my preference for gold and platinum were only a financial consideration. As if I’d be on board with titanium and tungsten only if they cost more. Let me state here that cost is not a factor. Even if titanium and tungsten were more expensive than gold and platinum, I’d still choose gold and platinum. I like the work-ability of gold and platinum. I feel gold and platinum are true metals for adornment.
      What’s wrong with replacing a wedding ring you ask me. Picture yourself getting married and saying your vows and having your wedding band slipped onto your wedding finger in front of your family and your friends. Your union is blessed. One year later your hand has changed sizes and you haven’t been able to wear your ring for a month. You order a $25.00 or $50.00 titanium band. The Fed Ex guy drops your package off in the rain by your door. You enter through the garage so it takes you a couple of days to see it.
      You open the damp uninsured package and there is another band. You put it on. It’s not the band you got married in. What do you do with the band you said your vows with? Stick it in your jewelry box? Five years later your finger is changing size again…now there are two unworn bands in your jewelry box. Too bad you didn’t have gold or platinum, then you’d still have the ring you said your vows in. For me it matters. That is why I wrote this article. That is fine with me if you do not have an attachment to your wedding band. I’m not built that way.
      When you say you might be more upset if you lost your laptop than your wedding ring I can see that we are different. I wrote from my perspective.
      About a year ago Stacie called me. She had lost her wedding band in the ocean on her honeymoon. She and her new husband came to me to arrange for a new one. Stacie was crying while I sized her and telling me how devastated she was to have lost her gold band. Her husband was really bummed too. Stacie thought the size was a bit loose when she’d picked it up from another jeweler, but didn’t think anymore about it. We ended up spending more time on how to bless her new wedding band with commitment and love than talking about how wide it should be, how thick it should be and the inscription engraving she wanted on it. Once she and her husband had a plan to make this ring special, Stacie was a lot happier.
      Stacie ran up to me a couple of months ago and showed me her ring. She looked so happy. She told me about their mountain top ring blessing they had done and thanked me for understanding how important this ring was to them.
      Stacie is not the only person I’ve worked with whom the wedding band meant a great deal. I really understand the depth of feeling you can have for the symbol of your one true love.
      For the record Stacie’s ring was a thin rounded straight comfort fit band. It cost $169.00. It was not an expensive ring, but the meaning behind it was priceless.
      Helen, I am not forwarding an agenda of spending to prove your love here. I’m all about having a wedding band that can change with you in the years to come and symbolize your love.
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  132. Jack on October 18, 2014 at 1:47 pm

    This article sounds like the sales pitch the person at Zales was using to get me to pick gold over titanium or tungsten. As a chemist and materials scientist I know my metals very very well. Titanium and Tungsten are viable options, especially for men who work with their hands. I have personally known a lot of men who have bought a gold wedding ring and it got scratched up within a few months and they changed to titanium or tungsten.

    Also men’s rings rarely hold the same sentimental value to children that a women’s ring does. My wife’s wedding ring cost over 5k and will be an amazing heirloom, while my titanium ring was about 200 bucks. Does this mean we cheaped out for my ring? No. I loved the look of titanium and most importantly I knew it wouldn’t get damaged in my line of work. At the end of the day I need something that will last to the end of my life, not get scratched every few weeks and constantly need repaired. If any thing that is more of a sign of a strong marriage then going for “precious” metals spiel every jeweler and their grandma tries to cram down our throats.

    Golds value by the way is heavily dictated by the market. Sometimes its cheap, other times its much more expensive. Titanium and tungsten will stay steady in value and actually go up as more and more industrial applications need them. Let them women have their precious metals and decked out rings. Most guys just need something strong that will last.

    • Calla Gold on October 18, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      Hello Jack,
      I’d like to start by speaking to your complaint about gold getting scratched. Gold does scratch and titanium and tungsten are way more resistant to that. The scratches on a gold band create a nice patina of wear. I’ve had men who when they had me size their gold bands bigger asked me not to polish their band because they liked that soft patina look and “didn’t want it all shiny.” I haven’t heard the complaint that men wished their gold bands didn’t get scratched.
      Sometimes a man and wife will have both of their rings cleaned and buffed to look new before a High School reunion or something like that.
      Some guys who know they’ll scratch their bands have me put on an interesting design finish that’ll look fine with the scratches to come.
      I have sized and polished and engraved at least three wedding bands for men in the last five weeks. Each of these men were very happy to have their in these cases Grandfather’s ring. It meant a lot to them. I know that men in general aren’t as sentimental about their wedding rings as women, but I have seen plenty who place great sentimental value on their wedding bands. In educating men about the different metals I have found many men who felt that having a fine metal that could be sized and passed down to their kids and that they could have sized as needed over time was very important to them.
      For the record you mention as well as scratching, which I find barely an issue the need for repair. I’ve made gold bands for men and they never need repair. I just see them if they want them sized. Only a thin and poorly made gold wedding band would need repair. A gold wedding band made for daily wear won’t bend, crack or otherwise have a problem.
      My biggest beef with titanium and tungsten is that they won’t change and last a lifetime for you if your fingers change size. I personally don’t like the kind of greenish tone that I’ve seen develop over time.
      Gold and platinum is strong and it lasts and can be sized and passed down.
      Diggin my gold,

  133. SteelCowgirl on November 1, 2014 at 7:42 am

    What a bunch of garbage. Sounds to me a jeweler is just trying to downplay tungsten because she can’t make any money if she doesn’t sell a $3000 ring. My husband and I ride motorcycles and our tungsten represent the lifestyle we have. We were engaged with a simple tungsten band and used it to get married. It fits our personality and was a beautiful choice for us. Yes, he has recently bought me the most beautiful diamond (that he designed to reflect our lifestyles, also), but I wouldn’t trade my tungsten wedding band for anything in the world. Don’t let society tell you what should and shouldn’t represent your marriage and lifestyle. Like he said, “if we enjoyed wood, we could have had a wooden band made and that would have represented our marriage!!”

    • Calla Gold on November 1, 2014 at 8:08 am

      Hello Steel Cowgirl,
      My issue with wood, stainless steel, tungsten and titanium is that they can’t be sized. This means that in the future as your finger size changes that this ring that means so much to you, that you love and that represents your steel cowboy love forever, is not a forever ring. The ring you said your vows over before roaring off into the sunset with screaming decibels with the freedom and wind in your hair with your lifetime love, is destined to be disposable. It can’t be sized throughout your married life. That bugs me.
      I want your wedding ring to be one that you can wear through all the changes, the children, the weight fluctuations, the finger fluctuations from basketball jams and enthusiastic living.
      Your tungsten ring is an immovable and unchanging object. Life is more fluid. I like a wedding band that can roll with the punches, flex with the changes and be that memory from the day you swore your vows.
      That is why I make this stand. Not because of my bottom line. Most of the people reading this article aren’t in my area and aren’t my clients anyway. Many who read this honestly want to know if titanium and tungsten are good choices for a wedding band. I say no! Use it on your right hand where the need to chuck it for a new one now and then won’t be a sad event.
      Wood is a romantic idea, but won’t last a lifetime of wear. Choose a metal that’ll change with you like gold or platinum.
      My choice,
      Calla Gold

  134. SteelCowgirl on November 1, 2014 at 8:03 am

    By the way, I weigh the same at 43 as I did at 25 after having 4 babies. My husband is 49. He, too, weighs the same as in high school. Maybe our obese society should consider staying healthy and the notion of having to resize your ring wouldn’t even be an issue.

    • Calla Gold on November 1, 2014 at 1:45 pm

      Hello SteelCowgirl,
      Many of my clients have seen their rings needing sizing due to sports injuries and arthritis. Congratulations to you two for bucking a trend in the need to upsize your rings.
      I’ll take exception to your rant on people who have gained weight. We don’t know what glandular issues, genetic pre-disposition, demands from family precluding exercise time, or personal issues or personal pain lead to obesity. I found that unkind.
      Weight gain is not the only reason a person needs to size their ring.
      If it were the only reason then I’d sit on my hands and not write what I have. But sadly there are many people sizing their wedding bands larger as they age for a variety of reasons. Many of them are healthy and active. If so many people didn’t need their rings sized then they wouldn’t call me.
      But they do and so I have my opinion based on 32 years of sizing wedding bands.
      I say no to titanium and tungsten wedding bands,

  135. Heather Mo on November 13, 2014 at 5:40 am

    I weigh twice what I did when I married 34 years ago, my wedding ring has never been off my finger in all that time. The only way I could get it off now is to either cut off the ring or the finger. Why do people need to resize their ring? The fat I’ve gained has been laid down above and below the ring. Under the ring I’m as slim as I ever was.
    The point is whatever the metal of the ring it’s only a symbol of the marriage, buy the metal that suits you and keep the ring on your finger. It takes effort but its worth it.

    • Calla Gold on November 13, 2014 at 10:19 am

      Hi Heather,
      As a jeweler who has sawed off many rings, not fingers and sized wedding rings regularly for many of my married clients I’ll say that you are an anomaly. Most of my clients don’t like the muffin top look they get with the too tight ring. Your wedding band is supposed to be an attractive accessory for your hand. Many people find the puffy look that a too small ring creates on the finger to be unattractive.
      This may not be the case for you.
      The other problem is the occasional sports injury or spider bite or medication reaction. Your finger has adapted to save the blood flow function to your finger tip. It was a challenge to do so since your effective finger size has increased quite a bit.
      By wearing a ring you cannot physically remove, you have inadvertently placed yourself in harms way. Should swelling occur your ring will need to be removed quickly or circulation will be cut off which is a huge medical emergency for your wedding finger.
      Since you are responding to my titanium wedding band article I can only guess your wedding band that you haven’t sized must be titanium. Know that an electric rotary ring saw is necessary to remove or saw off a titanium wedding band. Not all municipalities have invested in this machinery as it’s one more in a myriad of medical devices needed to help people in need.
      If your town’s emergency room doesn’t carry this equipment you may need to drive until you find an emergency room that can remove your titanium ring.
      I would highly recommend for your safety that you remove your ring and wear one that will come over your knuckle.
      Thank you for writing. May your marriage continue through the years and may your ring fit!
      A Sizing Ring Kinda Gal,
      Calla Gold

  136. Tony DiTino on November 14, 2014 at 7:23 am

    Hi Calla Gold,
    Thank you for the great information! After carefully reading all of your posts I finally decided on a titanium ring!
    Best, Tony.

    • Calla Gold on November 14, 2014 at 8:30 am

      Hi Tony,
      Is your wife to be OK with the non-changablity of your wedding ring choice? I find that a lot of guys are like, “so what??” And their fiance’s are like, “This ring has such meaning, babe, come on, let’s get one we can size. Let’s have it last all our lives and be able to give to your grandson.”
      I was just wondering.
      Gold loving wedding band jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  137. Drew Baye on November 24, 2014 at 8:02 pm

    The sizing is not a problem if you don’t stuff your piehole and get fat sausage fingers.

    • Calla Gold on November 25, 2014 at 9:38 pm

      Hello Drew,
      I went to your website which promotes weightlifting and fitness. I find your statement a bit combative and unkind. However I also feel you are entitled to your opinion regardless of how isolating I believe it is.
      Each person has their own give and take and challenges they rise to in their lives. Working out regularly and eating healthy foods can take a back seat to child rearing and the responsibilities in our lives.
      There are many reasons a person needs to have their rings sized. A wedding band is supposed to stay with you through the years. A ring that can’t be altered is a poor choice in my book.
      No titanium for me thank you,
      Calla Gold

  138. Heidi on December 6, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    OMGeeee people!!!! I ran across this blog when looking up the value of titanium vs gold. I found this blog to be very informative and helped me in what I needed to know!!!
    To all you people with negative or argumentative comments… GTFO!!!! For real? SMH!!!!! It may be your right to YOUR OPINION but let this women have HER OPINION!!!!
    Why do you need to pick apart her wording or her personal views or OPINIONS!?!?! I read about half the comments, then GAVE UP!!!!! Stop the negativity! Get a life and stop worrying about this women liking gold vs anything for that matter!!!
    Calla Gold…. I admire you for not losing you cool to half these people one here!!! I actually appreciate a LOT of your wording and comments which totally make them look like a-holes to begin with!!! This blog has been getting attention for a long time already, and I’m glad I ran across it and you replying back to each and every person is awesome and shows that you support your article 110% and not many people out there can show that dedication and commitment!!! Good for you!

    • Calla Gold on December 7, 2014 at 7:32 am

      Dear Heidi,
      Like a light in the wilderness you have thrown some sunshine into this comments thread. I really appreciate your statement of what you liked. That is so cool. I also am pleased that you found the blog and read the discussion that has sprung up on the comments thread. This particular post has the most comments of all of my over 300 blog posts.
      At the advice of a friend I wrote another follow up post that was more just the facts and no opinion. What do you know no one cares! Or maybe the Google algorithms died of boredom and don’t give it as a result when people ask.
      My husband thinks that some of the more fiery comments come from people who make their living making titanium, tungsten or stainless steel rings. Who knows?
      You rock Heidi!!
      Happy Opinionated Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  139. Damon B. on December 17, 2014 at 10:22 am

    I’m not going to win any popularity contests with your industry (wedding ring designing jewelers) saying this, but – just buy $15 Tungsten rings in 5 different sizes, recognize Tungsten is awesome, and you won’t have to worry about any of that.

    • Calla Gold on December 18, 2014 at 7:36 am

      Hello Damon,
      For your right hand, yes. I have no ax to grind with tungsten or titanium. I do object to a “disposable” ring for the wedding finger. That is all. Yes for any finger except the wedding finger.
      Your wedding finger is not about “the deal,” “going for the cheap and practical,” “saving money” or “hey $15.00 for my cheap ass wedding band.” Your wedding finger holds the ring that symbolizes love, caring, creating and nurturing. That wedding finger holds the piece of jewelry that is a symbol to the world that you have love and connection.
      Don’t put plastic, paper or alternative metals on that finger. Love is sacred, love is a gift, love is a trust and it’s worth waiting for, fighting for and working for. We change, we grow, we have children and grandchildren. That ring is a symbol and will be cherished by them. Don’t leave them 5 $15.00 crap rings in different sizes. That does not work for me.
      Calla Gold

  140. Wayne on December 25, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    LOL who actually determines value? Its a label we put on stuff at random. In truth the “value” of an object would be determined of physical strength and beauty depending on the use of the object of course, a rock solid pillow would be useless. Also the “magic” of a talisman has more to do with the energies and experiences put into it. Any ring is just a cold circle, everyday the ring or object grows in “power” as you put more energy and experience into it. Lol closed minded Bottom line, no one ring type is better than any other one, this article just feeds a public wealth status. That being said, I do agree that gold and platinum are better for being change for future sizes but personally I think they look like crap. My tungsten is $250 so not exactly $15 secondly my wife has a black gold pink diamond ring for $3300. Personal preference. Also Onyx was once believed to have magic properties, that stone is cheap, real cheap. Actually believed to reduce a woman’s suffering if placed on her stomach during child birth in medieval times. Now I am rambling.

    • Calla Gold on December 29, 2014 at 11:44 am

      Hi Wayne,
      Ramble on dude. I enjoyed your comment very much. Your wife’s ring sounds beautiful. I’m sure it means a lot to her. You’re right that the relationship itself and the love and the stories a couple creates imbue that ring with its goodness and love.
      I disagree that they look like crap. I think gold and platinum are beautiful, especially when designed interestingly.
      As far as onyx goes I too have read of its properties. It is however vulnerable to breakage and cracking. I have replaced many pieces of onyx. Enjoy your wedding rings. And come to the blog again. You are most welcome.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  141. not much help on December 29, 2014 at 12:59 am

    What “five” reasons? 1,2 and 4 are the same reasons: it can’t be resized. It should just be “three” reasons.

    3 says to buy the metals that has history as wedding rings…why should that affect your decision if it didn’t already?

    5 says not to go cheap because your kids will inherit it. Uh…why? Why am I giving it to my kids anyways?

    Your wedding rings is a SYMBOL of your love. The cost and material shouldn’t affect it at all. The whole idea of more money = stronger love is ridiculous. If you want to spend more money to display your love, go ahead. I’d rather take that money and go on a trip with my spouse.

    The only point I see even arguable is that it can’t be resized. But I usually wear it on a necklace anyways, especially since it’s less likely to get lost or broken, so reading this did nothing for me.

    Don’t waste your money following traditions if traditions are not important to you. That’s what the marketing is telling you, because they want your money!

    • Calla Gold on December 29, 2014 at 10:17 am

      Dear Not,
      I hear you about the five reasons. My husband calls this “the girl’s version” when I go into great detail about some story or opinion that he’d state in a much shorter way.
      Others have similarly called me to task for being opinionated. Yes, I am an opinionated jeweler. However for those of you who want to focus on the sizing issue especially I wrote another version of this post where I shortened the reasons why. This is that post:h
      You ask why you’d give it to your kids. Well, it’s true you’ll probably live a long time. What I often see is a young man coming to me who will be getting married. He has been given his grandfather’s ring and it means so much to him. That is what I am speaking of. It is a wonderful thing in my mind to think that my long and happy marriage ring and diamonds may be used in the future when I’m gone to symbolize the love of a child or grand child or great grandchild of mine. Perhaps they’ll only use the diamonds or maybe they’ll use the ring as it is. I’m OK with whatever they do, it is a gift and if it’ll help them and be an occasional reminder of the family who loves them and came before, then I’m thrilled.
      I never said that the money you spend is equal to your love. Or makes it stronger. I feel that your wedding ring is the most important piece of jewelry you have because you wear it daily and it is a symbol of your love. Personally if my husband to be couldn’t afford a nice ring, we’d save up for it together till we could at least afford a simple gold band.
      Tungsten and titanium bands just are wrong in my book for wedding bands. These bands are so cheap that I could make a good profit on them. I choose not to sell them even though it’d be profitable.
      I am a woman and I am sentimental about my wedding ring. I wouldn’t find a trip or some other expenditure more important than my love ring. I’m hoping if you do not feel the same that you don’t assume that your lady love is as logical and unsentimental as you are sounding here. Her ring will mean a lot to her and if you try to give her a super cheap ring it may come across to her that this is not a big deal to you.
      That’s my opinion.
      Calla Gold

  142. ethan on January 10, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    I love my carbon fiber inlaid tungsten carbine wedding band it is very durable as I work on my cars a lot and it has never gotten a scratch that wouldn’t buff off. It cost 10 bucks so I bought 5 of them in diffrent sizes for when I diet. I drive a race car and tungsten carbide is the material used in machining tooling and carbon fiber is all over my formula car so it really fits my personality well. For men I feel a cheap ring is fine I am happy as long as my wife is happy.

    • Calla Gold on January 11, 2015 at 2:52 pm

      Hi Ethan,
      Thanks for your viewpoint. You do seem suited for the metal choice you have made.
      Calla Gold

  143. Corey on January 15, 2015 at 9:04 am

    hey don’t tell me what to do

    • Calla Gold on January 15, 2015 at 9:59 am

      Hi Corey,
      This is an opinion blog and you have read my opinion. You needn’t take my advice. But now you know the reasons why you might not.
      Calla Gold

  144. Nick Thompson on January 17, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Thanks for the great article; this is great advice about why titanium and tungsten bands for marriage aren’t the best choice!

    • Calla Gold on January 17, 2015 at 12:56 pm

      Hi Nick,
      Thank you for coming by. I went and visited your site and blog. You too have helpful advice!
      Come by again!
      Your Jeweler Friend,
      Calla Gold

  145. Steve on January 17, 2015 at 8:16 pm


    Platinum is an incredibly useful metal for electronics and catalysis. Every gram of platinum you waste on jewelry is less platinum we can use on fuel cells for hydrogen-powered cars or other green technology. There is already not enough platinum in the world to do all we want to do, please don’t make the problem any worse.

    • Calla Gold on January 18, 2015 at 4:49 pm

      Hello Steve,
      I was unaware that platinum was running out. It’s price per gram had actually gone down over the last year or so. I figured that that was an indicator that there was plenty of supply. Prices usually go up when supply is down and demand is up.
      I plan to continue making platinum jewelry at this point.
      Calla Gold

  146. Charles on January 18, 2015 at 9:08 am

    Calla Gold,

    Your dedication to responding to comments is unprecedented anywhere else on the internet. Truly amazing. Especially since most of them are vitriolic nonsense.

    However, in my opinion, you are just resisting change. People are beginning to realize that “precious metals” are only precious because other people tell you that they are. Other kinds of metals are inherently “precious” due to their utility. In my opinion, utility will always supersede persuasion.

    • Calla Gold on January 18, 2015 at 10:31 am

      Hi Charles,
      I appreciate your polite addition to the discussion. You may be right that viewpoints may change over time to accept alternate utility metal wedding bands.
      My biggest impetus in writing this information was to stop the heartache I saw repeatedly when people especially the wives realized that the ring they’d gotten their husband was now that it didn’t fit essentially disposable. It hadn’t much in the way of value, it couldn’t be altered to continue fitting.
      I had a woman cry and say, “This is the ring we pledged our vows together with, I am so sad that he can never wear it again.”
      This client chose white gold with a pretty custom worked in design. She chose it because she wanted her husband to wear the same ring from then on. She told me that she made a little ceremony for the two of them and pledged to love him always when she gave it to him.
      She is really happy that it can be changed, sized, and given to someone in the family years from now as a symbol of their long life and love.
      Many people feel the tradition of a wedding band should be held to a higher level of performance than other rings. I see precious metals holding a strong pull on the couples I work with as wedding rings. This is why I wrote this.

  147. Brian on January 19, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    Hi Calla, truthfully I came to your site just to see “why” and I say this because during the recent holiday I received a nice titanium band. I love it, she loves it. It’s not gold, it’s not silver – it’s darker, more like a nice gun metal – but that’s me, I don’t wear gold or silver. I feel it’s a little more “rugged” in it’s appeal. True it might not be traditional, or for everyone – but it does work for me. It also showed me that she gets me, understands my likes and personality. Her on the other hand wants nothing but white gold and platinum – I have no issue with that. But I like that she knew me enough to not go traditional and get something that is more me. I have lots of friends with plain gold bands and wish they had more say in what they received. In the end – the ring doesn’t (and should never) reflect your love. Your feelings for someone isn’t reflected in a price (although all would say love is priceless) – the ring is a token, with great meaning – but a simple ring should mean the same as the most intricate custom piece. But I’m rambling =) I just wanted to say that I did receive one, love it, it’s more me than a traditional ring and while it may have been more true in 2012 (when I saw your first post was)the sizing issue with my ring doesn’t seem to be an issue. I have free lifetime sizing and scratch replacement (they send a new ring should my fingers get fat/skinny over the years). True this might be as long as the company survives but hey – my love will outlast the company and we could buy a new ring if we have to =)

    Great site – please don’t think I was trying to argue or anything. I was just offering you my personal experience. The wife would be the first to say that jewelry is very personal (and she’s very picky about what she likes – I don’t guess or try to surprise too much – easier to get what she likes).

    Take care.

    • Calla Gold on January 19, 2015 at 7:17 pm

      Hi Brian,
      Thank you for your thoughtful opinion and sharing your ring gift and how much you like it. Good for you. You both have your eyes open on the sizing thing, so I’m good with that.
      You are quite articulate and I see your viewpoint on the unique look that you want.
      I also love that you are respectful of her liking white gold and platinum.
      May your union be long, happy and fruitful!
      Calla Gold

  148. Kate on January 21, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    Interesting article. I enjoyed reading your point of view on the titanium/tungsten metal rings vs. gold/silver/platinum, and there have been some great comments posted that are both in favor & against.

    I think a ring is a very personal decision, as evidenced by reading the comments, so the one thing I really disagree with here is the word “Don’t” in the title.

    Personally, though, I choose not to own a or wear a wedding ring or a ring symbolizing some sort of romantic connection with someone. Granted, I am not married, but my boyfriend and I have been together for over three years now, and we agreed that we both plan to never get married (and not have kids either.) That’s just us, though. For him, he has problems with his hands and cannot wear rings. He also hates to wear to jewelry in general.

    I am not usually a fan of it either primarily because I tend to lose things so often or break them somehow. But, I’m considering purchasing a titanium ring for myself with a cool design on it just to wear for fun. I take solace in the fact that if (WHEN) I do eventually lose it, that it wasn’t *super* expensive and can be easily replaced.

    Additionally, I work in the aircraft manufacturing industry, and thus, I possess something of a fondness for “tough” metals like titanium that “get the job done.” So for me, titanium seems like a really great option for jewelry. It can be really expensive, and it can also be affordable. I think the word “cheap” could imply there wasn’t much care/thought put into the crafting of such an item. And yes, mass production and manufacturing comes to mind when one hears the word “titanium” or “tungsten.” But that’s why I love it. Easily replaced if lost or stolen. The sturdiness is another nice quality too. Does not necessarily mean lots of time, thought, care, and craftsmanship (or craftswomanship!) *won’t* go into a titanium ring or a ring of any other like material.

    Of course, I am speaking from the prospective as a “casual jewelry wearer” whatever that means to you. 😉 And also I had no idea about the whole needing a new size thing. I have been the same ring size since I was 12, and I am now 26. Maybe that will change in the future, but I really had no idea, so it was good to learn about that.

    Another thought that came to mind – the possibility of 3D printing jewelry is a rather exciting concept to me. Imagine being able to design your own ring in a 3D CAD program and then programming your 3D printer to make it! Very cool.

    Most of the jewelry I *do* own is really funky stuff custom made by etsy sellers or ebay sellers, or even local artists. They may not be ‘gemstone/precious metals experts’ but I do love the time and thoughtfulness that went into making each piece. Even if that meant programming a laser cutter to make the design in wood, they still came up with the design and picked out the materials.

    That said, I’d probably be more likely to wear “expensive” jewelry if there were more design options. Anytime my dad would drag me into a jewelry store, I’d groan seeing what few options they had. Want a cool pendant that is shaped like a miniature spinning wheel, or earrings with little skulls on them? Well too bad, all we have are squares, circles, and ovals. Not too exciting, but then again, I’m a weirdo who would probably wear a necklace made of human teeth a la Ke$ha. 🙂

    But maybe this better explains why folks choose to purchase “inexpensive” material jewelry…there seem to be more design options, at least from my experience. But not a day goes by that I secretly wish some of my earrings weren’t nickel plated crap, but titanium instead, or even silver. Less prone to metal fatigue and breakage.

    Lastly, I have an industrial piercing in my ear, and the metal the piercing salon recommended was titanium because it is hypoallergenic, and such material is also utilized in the medical industry to prevent the body from rejecting an implant. That’s pretty darn fascinating, IMHO.

    All in all, titanium seems like a really “practical” choice, and the best option for me. That does not mean it is for everyone. I respect that others may wish to have silver, gold, platinum, or some other type of material or alloy in her or his jewelry. 😉

    OK – sorry I rambled a lot but I was really excited to contribute my point of view to this discussion. 😉


    • Calla Gold on January 22, 2015 at 7:43 am

      Your thoughtful opinion is most welcome here. I appreciate and I’m sure my readers do too that you checked out the conversation that has grown on my don’t buy titanium or tungsten, etc blog. It is my most commented on article on my blog. You are most articulate. For the record I put “Don’t” in the title because I wanted to be honest in my stand. It is definitely an opinionated article. I have opinions and that’s probably why I just posted my 354th blog post.
      I thought long and hard about that “don’t” just so you know. I knew I was being controversial and I felt if I’m going to be opinionated and controversial go big or go home.
      Many of my commenters called me to task for being opinionated. I responded by writing a more restrained version:
      I was also aware that alternate metals can pose a hazard in some cases when quick removal is required. I knew that people weren’t aware of this so I also wrote:
      I never meant to spend so much time and space talking about tungsten, titanium, stainless steel and other alternate metals, especially since I don’t sell them. But it is a most interesting topic and I have no ax to grind with these metals. I just personally as a sentimental person feel that a ring that changes with you as your hands change is important.
      More and more people are making very creative and artistic jewelry and using alternate metal. That is nice that you patronize artists on ETSY. By supporting these artists you help their unique work proliferate.
      I like that you work in the aircraft manufacturing industry. I can see that you are exposed to different metals and would naturally gravitate towards them.
      Thank you for sharing your views Kate.
      Noble Metals Gal,
      Calla Gold

  149. Kate on January 21, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    As a follow-up – clearly the owner of this business is trying to sell more gold/silver/platinum jewelry.

    And there is nothing wrong with that. I am a firm believer in a free market and 1st amendment rights to free speech. She is allowed to say whatever she wants on her blog. Whether it helps or hinders her sales is another matter.

    Personally for me, if I had a business and I was concerned about losing customers due to whatever reason(s) I’d maybe want to consider “why?” What is the untapped market here?

    Perhaps the answer is to sell jewelry (for weddings or otherwise) that IS made of alternative materials… not just tungsten or titanium, but what about composite materials? Other types of alloys? Silicone? Lucite? Polymer-based materials? Something strong and sturdy yet still beautiful and resilient?

    What are some new/underused technological advances for the purpose of jewelry making that could help to achieve these goals? 3D printing? CNC cutting? Laser engraving? Chemical milling/etching? Anodizing, electroplating, or conversion coating? Perhaps the jewelry could have a dual purpose, like the new custom smart watches being sold by high-end watch dealers? Something functional yet aesthetically pleasing and interchangeable?

    Instead of pushing away the new and different, maybe it would be profitable to embrace those things, knowing that younger generations may not choose to purchase ‘traditional’ metals such as gold/silver/platinum?

    Where is the jewelry industry going to be in 10, 20, 30, 40+ years from now? Will newer generations even bother to wear wedding bands anymore? Perhaps they will use some other type of jewelry to symbolize a union? Or perhaps no jewelry at all?

    Most importantly – What does statistical data show for purchasing trends over time? The newer generations should probably be the target group for establishing a future customer base, I’d imagine…”the children are our future,” right?

    Perhaps during a period of recession or hardship, a more affordable option is desired? (For the record – my grandparents could NOT afford gold wedding bands. So when people ask me “what about your grandma’s wedding ring?” I reply that she did not have one. And if she did, I am sure it was an “inexpensive” material due to the depression. Doesn’t mean my grandpa didn’t love her. They were just trying to do the best with what they had.)

    … anyway….

    Just some points of discussion, food for thought, and so forth. It’s disappointing to see bashing of one material vs. another since like I mentioned above, jewelry/rings are a very personal choice.

    There is something for everyone. Perhaps this business owner chooses to rep her best-selling product which happens to be gold/silver/platinum, at present, and there is nothing wrong with that, but there are other options out there, as well as the option to abstain from purchasing and wearing wedding bands/jewelry entirely.

    So yeah… in any case, find someone who is passionate about what they do. Clearly this individual is passionate, and that is good to see. I would be a little concerned if she was not quick to defend/promote a product or service which she is providing to the market. Just my 2 cents. (From a self-proclaimed lover of titanium, composites, and industrial materials.)

  150. Chuck Schulz on February 16, 2015 at 8:39 am

    While the cost of gold or other high price bullion can be cost prohibitive, I own two titanium rings for occasional water weight gain. I sell custom made one a kind individually milled rings for $69. Do the math.

    • Calla Gold on February 17, 2015 at 9:17 pm

      Dear Chuck,
      The point of my blog isn’t math, it’s sentiment and lasting use and memory.
      Calla Gold

  151. Lauren on February 17, 2015 at 2:43 pm

    I have been married for 33 years, have three kids, been a number of different weights and never once have I needed to re-size my gold wedding ring. HOWEVER it is bent, dented, thinned and scratched. Thinning on my husband’s ring cut through his finger a number of years ago so he no longer wears it. We are getting tungsten rings since they look so nice and are so durable!

    • Calla Gold on February 17, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      Dear Lauren,
      Congratulations on your long marriage. It is a general rule that weight gain and weight loss change your finger size, but it looks like you have dodged the normal and are different.
      One thing to consider besides the durability and in fact the other side of durability is the safety of wearing alternate metals.
      I wrote this post about your finger’s safety, something people don’t think about when choosing a daily wear ring:
      I wish you many more years of married happiness and pleasure in whichever wedding rings you choose to celebrate your love with.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  152. Dr K on March 4, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    As a chemist, let me share some info – parts of which have briefly, although not entirely accurately, covered.

    First, Tungsten Carbide (WC). In its pure form, WC is a powder which has to go through a process of sintering to bind it into a metal-like composite material. It’s not a metal at all – rather a piece of ceramic. The outer polished or brushed surface is like a piece of granite that has been polished. Break it in half and inside it is a porous rock. WC rings are very similar in this respect. The binding metal now being nickel (there is much about how bad Co-WC alloys are)creates a more stable alloy/composite, but as someone else commented, there are many different grades, and durability, hardness and corrosion resistance will vary. As will its so-called hypo-allergenic nature. The cheaper Tungsten rings will over time leach nickel, especially due to levels of chlorine in tap water, swimming pools etc, and other alkaline chemicals, show signs of stress corrosion and be more prone to cracking, chipping, breaking, not to mention gradual discolouration. Some say diamonds can crack too but the difference being that a diamond can be re-cut into a smaller gem. A broken WC ring goes into the trash. Even recovering the Tungsten is too costly given the difficulty in extraction. However, a good quality WC ring has depth and a colour that doesn’t pretend to be anything else other than what it is. And not all people like the colour of platinum, white or yellow gold. WC has a unique black-grey colour.

    Titanium is far more corrosion resistant and in terms of durability is close to WC. However, it will not break or shatter and as you have pointed out, resizing is not worth the hassle when you can buy an exact replacement of the ring for silly-bucks. Again, Ti has a unique colour, not pretending to be white gold or platinum. Due to its corrosion resistance there are plans to build spent nuclear-fuel containers under the ocean bed which could last thousands of years. No other metal has that property (expect perhaps Zirconium) and the passivating oxide layer on Ti (TiO2) will protect the more reactive Ti underneath. I wear a simple Ti Band with an inlay of black enamel simply because the grey and black appeal to me. However, Ti will scratch. Not deep scratches of which silver and gold are prone to but scuffing due to the oxide layer being a darker colour to the metal beneath it, hence the contrast. It can be easily re-polished or given a brushed look.

    There is also Cobalt which is actually an alloy of chromium, molybdenum and various other metals, including I believe TUNGSTEN! Being an alloy, again, the quality will vary according to price. I don’t personally like the look or feel – it pretends to be a plastic-like copy of white gold/platinum. The hardness being somewhere between WC and Ti means that it is one of the hardest materials to remove in an emergency. It has to be cut off using a diamond tipped saw and will take longer than removing a steel or Ti ring. It is similar to stainless steel alloys in that there are many different grades of quality. Also, many stainless steel 316L @surgical grade’ rings are found to leach nickel over time and should not even be called stainless steel, let alone surgical grade. It is why many people develop allergic reactions when they have piercings using cheap ‘surgical steel’ studs.

    All these alloys when dissolved will break down into a worthless sludge of mainly carbon, some chromium, cobalt and molybdenum, which cannot be viably exacted into something of intrinsic value. In the case of Ti, dissolving it in sulphuric acid will precipitate the oxide, which to turn back into Ti is extremely difficult without using an inert or Nitrogen atmosphere. Ti will actually burn before it reaches its melting point (1941K) in air.

    Lastly, one of the principle virtues of gold, silver, platinum and other noble metals is their ability to be completely dissolved (usually mixtures of HCI and nitric acids called Aqua Regia) and then removed out of solution and filtered into a powder form which can then be melted back into the pure metal. This ability to be recycled and the corresponding malleability of these precious metals is the reason you jewellers love to work with them I believe. And this trend will continue – as will the popularity of alternative metals like Ti.

    Regards from London.

    Dr K

    • Calla Gold on March 4, 2015 at 9:35 pm

      Dear Dr. K,
      Thank you for the master class in the science of titanium, tungsten and stainless steel. I especially appreciated that you spoke to the nickel content and occasional problems caused thereby.
      The next time someone asks me a technical question about one of these metals I will go to this comment, bone up on this knowledge and craft my answer. I am delighted you came by the blog and sent your excellent comment.
      I don’t know if you saw my follow up post on the safety issues with alternate metal wedding bands, It is about what you mentioned in your comment, the difficulty of removing these metals.
      I understand a man being attracted to the corrosion resistance, scratch resistance of these titanium, tungsten and stainless bands. For me I don’t want my husband’s hands near those kind of chemicals. And those qualities aren’t important to me. The ability of the metal to be reworked trumps all that for me.
      I liked how you described the way gold and platinum can be recycled.
      You have elevated the conversation with your contribution. As a jeweler I lack the training you clearly have. It is a real pleasure to read what you have so generously taken time to write for the many readers who are visiting here to learn more about titanium, tungsten and stainless steel bands.
      My hat is off to you good sir,
      Calla Gold

  153. Amelia on March 8, 2015 at 5:29 pm

    I have a few things to say about this. I am glad you want to stand by your opinion. You should. That is your right. However, it doesn’t make the others wrong either. Their opinions are also very valid. I also have an opinion. You should be able to pick what you want as a wedding ring and not feel attacked just because you chose that metal. Some people can’t afford gold and platinum. That doesn’t make what they choose any less meaningful. One thing to keep in mind above all else, as I am sure this has been mentioned before but it’s important enough to say again, without love all of them are just bands made of a metal anyway. Love is what matters. As someone else said… it is the bond that matters. You like gold and platinum? Fantastic! I, however, don’t care if my wedding ring is a bread tie as long as I get to stay with the man I love for the rest of my life. He feels the exact same, because he is the one who said these words to me first. Love is what matters the most.

    • Calla Gold on March 9, 2015 at 5:38 am

      Hello Amelia,
      Thank you for writing. I too believe that love matters above all else. I also believe if one knows the potential future problems of titanium and tungsten and goes ahead and chooses them that it is fine. I merely do not want someone to be blindsided by future problems and be upset.
      Making a decision with your eyes open is a great way to go.
      Finding the love of your life and going for it to make a life together as a team is a beautiful thing. Amelia, I wholeheartedly agree with you there.
      I like that you referenced some of the other commenters here on the thread. I do appreciate their opinions and welcome their viewpoints to this conversation.
      Loves gold,
      Calla Gold

  154. Dakota on March 17, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    My ring is neither gold, platinum, titanium, or tungsten. It is a very simple design with no patterns, no writing, no inscriptions, and no engravings.
    Since it is not a soft metal like gold (I am allergic to the nickel used to strengthen gold, and the nickel in silver) I wanted to have my ring, and the ring of my wife, mean something very special. So I forged our rings myself. They are made of tantalum-hafnium carbide.
    Due to its high melting point, it would make altering the sizes difficult, I agree. But being a carbide, some might argue that it is breakable (like tungsten carbide). Yes it will shatter. But only under extreme conditions, like being in a 10,000 lbs hydraulic press. It’s non-ferric. It’s an insulator. If introduced to an electrical current, it will heat up, but extremely slowly (you would have to introduce it to a high-rise power line coming out of a plant.)
    My point is, what makes my, and my wife’s ring, special is the countless hours of sweating and slaving over extreme heats to literally shape and make them myself.

    • Calla Gold on March 18, 2015 at 6:23 am

      Dear Dakota,
      You are embracing the maker movement. How cool that you made the rings for you both. Yellow gold does not contain nickel. Nor does platinum or pure silver. I just mention that so readers of the blog post comment wall know.
      Your loving and hard work in the making of your rings certainly shows love, creativity and skill. Hopefully they will fit for a long time since sizing would be nearly impossible.
      Thank you for sharing your unique story Dakota.
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  155. Canon on March 22, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    Temporary? I got a titanium ring for my husband for the very reason that they DO last FOREVER and look like new throughout. 15 years and counting and on my 5 yr anniversary, I got one too as my gorgeous platinum one was scratching too much for everyday wear. And here is the best reason to buy titanium. My husband had a chain-saw jump and hit his hand. It barely scratched the ring and a couple surrounding fingers and the Dr. said if his ring were NOT titanium, he would have lost three fingers. The ring saved his hand because that metal is so hard. Buffed out the scratch and it was good as new. Buy titanium if you want the strongest, longest lasting ring there is and it’s light weight which he finds to be a big plus.

    • Calla Gold on March 22, 2015 at 9:12 pm

      Dear Canon,
      What a story. A chainsaw? That is amazing. If your husband’s finger never changes shape then you are in great shape with his titanium, if it does change then you’ll need to get a new one. After your experience I imagine you’d be happy too.
      For the record I’ve had clients hands saved by both gold bands and platinum bands. But admittedly these were doors in houses and cars. Not chainsaws.
      Thank you for sharing your story.
      I’ll keep my gold and avoid chainsaws,
      Calla Gold

  156. James Settles on April 6, 2015 at 3:38 am

    I like my tungsten ring. I doubt after 64 years I am going to change much. In fact the only change I am likely to make is die. Women change, they marry with the expectation that the man is a work in progress. In other words they want and expect them to change. I am not changing. When I got married I married a woman as is. I did not and will not expect her to change. It is not what I bargained for. If she wants to change OK. I will throw the ring away and she can go elsewhere. If she wants me to change just refer to the ring. We aren’t going to change. I never take my ring off no matter what I do and I work with my hands alot. My ring is mine. It is as fine looking as the day I bought it. I don’t need to take it off for any reason. As far as anyone else wanting it when I am gone, go buy your own ring. My ring is as true as I am, maybe more. It does not have to be expensive. It will always be here tough as ever.

    • Calla Gold on April 6, 2015 at 6:01 am

      Dear James,
      I see that you are as unchanging as Mount Rushmore as opposed to transient as the drifting sand in the Sahara. As much as you want to stay the same, when your finger changes you’ll need to order up a new tungsten ring. That will be change. But if it looks the same you can call it no change.
      I’m sad to read that if your wife changes you might throw away your ring and go elsewhere.
      Gold and Platinum and Changability for me,

  157. Nessim on April 9, 2015 at 7:33 am

    Hi there,

    I really think there is nothing to discuss about concerning the material comparison.

    Science and engineering is here to tell us that the more the material is hard the more it will be durable overtime, but the more it is hard and the brittle it is.

    Measurement give us all the answer a person can look for.

    Moh’s scale of hardness tells us which material is the more durable (Hard and scratch resistance). Diamond has a value of 10 (the hardest) and a fingernail has a value of 2.5 :
    Gold : 2.5 – 3 (can be scratched by a fingernail)
    Silver : 2.5 – 3
    Platinum : 4 – 4.5
    Steel : 4 – 4.5
    Titanium : 6
    Hardened Steel : 7 – 8
    Cobalt Chrome : 8
    Tungsten Carbide : 8.5 – 9

    Gold and Platinum are clearly out of league even if they are the most exclusive and prestigious materials.

    But at some point, the excess of hardness cause the material to be brittle (a Diamond with a value of 10 can be easily shattered if thrown on a floor for instance). In materials science, ductility is a solid material’s ability to deform under tensile stress.

    So, the best choice if you are looking for a durable material is the one that gives you a material hard enough to be scratch resistant and soft enough to resist cracking and shattering.

    My personal opinion :
    Cobalt Chrome alloy is one of the hardest metallic alloy on earth (Tungsten is a kind of ceramic and Gold/Platinum are from far left behind). Cobalt Chrome rings don’t shatter if they fall on a tile and are strong enough to easily resist a life time. The most advanced and best material to use now a day in jeweery is by no mean CoCr alloys :
    1. 5x harder than gold
    2. Can be resized!!! (the main argument of this article is lost here)
    3. Shatter proof (Tungsten Carbide is as brittle as ceramic and so, not suitable for an object to last a lifetime)
    4. as white as Platinum and White Gold and will stay a life time.
    5. used in critical aerospace industry, used in medical applications.
    6. 100% hypoallergenic (CoCr is safe unlike “Cobalt binding”)
    7. Very clever choice for the geekiest and smartest of clients (even to brag about)
    8. very cheap

    Google it and make your choice.

    • Calla Gold on April 10, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      Dear Nessim,
      First for anyone that believed that throwing a diamond on the floor will shatter it, this is completely false. If you throw a tungsten wedding band on the floor a few times you’ll shatter that. Perhaps that is what you were thinking of Nessim?
      You are right that cobalt is super strong. If I wanted a flashy car part decoration or some other machined metal that needed to be hard I’d get really excited about cobalt chrome alloy. However a super strong metal for your wedding band poses a danger to your finger. Please see my blog post about it including a true harrowing story about a commenter, Jennifer Parks’ dangerous problem with a hard metal wedding band:
      These alternate metal rings cannot be sized. To make them smaller they add an inner thin layer making the ring more bulky. To make them larger they grind out the inside a bit. This is not legitimate sizing from the viewpoint of this jeweler. It only allows for slight size changes.
      If someone wants cheap, super strong metal that may pose a danger to their finger, go for it. These are not the people I am speaking to.
      Thank you for all of the nice scientific information that is a very nice addition to the conversation Nessim.
      Not feelin Tungsten, titanium or cobalt chrome alloy for wedding bands,
      Calla Gold

  158. Nessim on April 11, 2015 at 3:00 am

    @Calla Gold
    Hi again and thanks for the reply.
    “throwing a diamond on the floor will shatter it, this is completely false”
    As you are probably more technical in the jewelry industry, i cannot argue about that fact, but what I only wanted to state, is the fact that, the more the material is hard, the more it is subject to shatter and not bending in case of extreme force applies to it. Maybe not throwing a Diamond on a floor, but let’s say hitting it with a heavy object (hammer like).
    Please have a look at that article stating it better that i could maybe do :
    “Please see my blog post about it including a true harrowing story about a commenter, Jennifer Parks’ dangerous problem with a hard metal wedding band”
    I read this very informative article and I have to admit that this argument is not only valid, but something to consider seriously before choosing our wedding band. But in the same time I really can see that kind of situation as very rare and true in extreme/rare conditions.
    “These alternate metal rings cannot be sized. To make them smaller they add an inner thin layer making the ring more bulky. To make them larger they grind out the inside a bit.”
    I really think we cannot speak about “alternate metals” as they were the same thing for Tungsten Carbide (WC), Titanium, Hardened stell, and Cobalt Chrome (CoCr). Each have their pro and cons and I agree in the fact that WC is really not suitable for a wedding band and should be avoided (brittle, not resizable, …), but as I said CoCr is a super alloy to really consider (aforable, resizable, Platinum like aspect, tarnish proof, bend resistant, …). CoCr rings are in fact resizable as stated here :
    “…however, Cobalt Chrome bands can be resized to fit your finger if its size happens to change over time. This can be done without adding or removing any metal and makes this kind of ring very attractive.”
    Source :
    “By heating cobalt rings to an extreme temperature, they can be resized without damaging the rings.”
    Source :
    How can a person can accept to buy an expensive and important object (Gold/Platium rings) and not feel bad about the ring looking like that after a while :
    It’s a fact that the traditional materials has history but technology gives us better and smarter alternatives that will really last a lifetime.
    Personally, I just got a CoCr wedding band from my wife (I’ve chosen the metal and style) and i’m only very happy to keep in mind that my ring will not shatter if I let it fall accidentally on a tile floor, that my ring will not go out of shape and I’ll have to readjust it by hand each time I’m upset to see it bend like a spaghetti (really not the idea people have of a durable object we have to admit too). I like to know that if I’m able to live till 80+, that my ring would stay as shinny and in shape as the day my wife gave it to me.
    How can someone could really compare such a wedding ring to a car part and not honestly think that a speghetti like platinum/gold ring is not cheap (I’m not speaking about the price)?
    CoCr allow aspect is as premium (if not more) than platinum. CoCr allows are not plated to keep their premium aspect, they are naturally “white golded”.

    Thanks again for your reply and point of view.

    • Calla Gold on April 11, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      Hello again Nessim,
      I will not argue that a hammer smashing against a diamond will break a diamond. I don’t think anyone is expecting a diamond to put up with being smashed by a hammer. I went online to see if I could find out just how high of an “extreme heat” is needed to size a cobalt chromium ring. Chances are no regular jeweler can do this. By the way it can only be sized a half to a full size maximum if you can find someone who has super high heat gas to do it. That means that if your finger changes more than one size your ring is toast. I still object to non-gold or platinum for wedding rings for this reason.
      People’s fingers often change more than one size in a twenty year time period. So the difficulty of finding someone to do extreme heat work to size this cobalt and the limited amount of change that can be effected would keep it off my list.
      Additionally this very strong metal is a clear danger to the wearer as it requires a diamond tipped ring saw that is powered to get it off. I can get a gold or platinum ring off with my little hand turned ring saw.
      The fact that platinum and gold can bend is no biggie in my book. Get a thicker ring if you are bugged or have your jeweler heat it slightly and re-round it. It’s no big deal. I just love the look and feel of gold and platinum.
      Your excitement over your metal is understandable. However I am personally unmoved by the advent of yet another super hard metal that is being put out there as a wedding ring.
      Gold and platinum for me,
      Calla Gold

  159. JK on April 12, 2015 at 12:00 am

    Men’s platinum band, ~15 grams, plain / polished

    Men’s 18k gold band, ~10 grams, plain / polished

    Platinum bullion, 15 grams
    $500 (3.6 times less expensive)

    18k gold, 10 grams
    $280 (3.2 times less expensive)

    The look you get from your loved one when you get to relive your youth and give them a new non-gold/platinum ring a few times in your lifetime using all the money you earned with gold/platinum investment metals instead of jewelry…

    • Calla Gold on April 12, 2015 at 5:49 pm

      Hello JK,
      Comparing the difference in raw gold to a finished piece of jewelry is like comparing a bale of cotton to a finished dress. Or like comparing a barrel of crude oil to 42 gallons of refined gasoline. Or like comparing a bushel of raw wheat to a number of loaves of bread. When you take into account quantity of scale, the differences are even more pronounced.
      Harvesting, mining, drilling, refining, manufacturing, marketing, and delivery all cost money. It makes total economic sense that the finished product costs more than the raw material.
      I think your point is that you’d rather save money on the ring she’ll wear everyday of her life to represent your love. And invest it.
      Me personally, I’d be ticked if I got stuff in a safe deposit box to represent my husband’s love. This is just me, but I’d want gold. What’s priceless to me is having a ring I love and am proud of and that can be sized, and changed and is pretty. That my girlfriends like and that my mom likes.
      No titanium for me thank you,
      Calla Gold

  160. JK on April 13, 2015 at 12:53 pm

    Interesting. What’s priceless to us is our actual love and not the bling that represents it. Its sad that impressing your friends and your mother with jewelry is that important to you. There were a few studies done recently that show that the more expensive the wedding rings the more likely the couple is to get divorced. That makes so much more sense to me after reading your response.

    • Calla Gold on April 15, 2015 at 8:35 am

      Dear JK,
      I guess that sounded like I’m this shallow, walking in lock step with society person. I am not that person. If all my friends dress in a conservative way and as a professional in my day to day work my peers dress in a conservative manner I will not be wearing a skull wedding ring. I’ll be wearing something that I feel is beautiful and will not stand out as I’m this rebellious person. Because I am not rebellious. I love my life and my work as well as my husband. If I were to wear a plain titanium wedding band it would look utilitarian to me. Too plain. I also don’t like that gunmetal grey color or that slightly green tinge I’ve seen on some of the older titanium bands that I have polished for my clients.
      I like the bright colors of yellow gold and the white of white gold and platinum. I don’t like the darker hue.
      My vision of beauty is influenced by how I was raised, what other people wear that I think is pretty. I’ve made some very rebellious looking wedding rings with skulls, thorns and spikes. I enjoy them, but would not wear them because they would not be me.
      Nor does my desire to wear something I deem pretty make me shallow or love my husband less. I adore him and show him as often as I can that I appreciate all he does in creating our team and helping to keep our love strong and our life happy.
      Gold and Platinum over titanium kinda gal,
      Calla Gold

    • Calla Gold on April 15, 2015 at 8:38 am

      Dear JK,
      I’d like to see that study by the way, because I haven’t seen that more expensive rings equals divorce in my jewelry practice. What I do see is a lot of ring upgrading as couples move up economically. Have you a link? Please share it with my readers so they can see it here too.
      Calla Gold

  161. Kris on April 18, 2015 at 2:28 pm

    While I agree that some jewelers are true artists and their craftsmanship can have deep meaning and value, the tone of the original post (the picture of the painfully constricted finger?) and the defensive rebuttals only serve to highlight Calla’s irrefutable financial interest in her own livelihood. It certainly presents itself as a blatant attempt to shame people who make choices that don’t directly support Calla and her skillset.

    Would you trust a car salesman to tell you which brand to buy when his or her self interest is clearly tied to their own brand? Then by all means trust a goldsmith to be honest about the true merits of tungsten or titanium.

    I own many items of sentimental value. The material of which they are made plays no role in their value to me. Place value in your commitment and may your marriage be as durable as the materials that Calla wants you to be ashamed to wear. Gold, platinum, silver, tungsten, titanium… all are equally valid choices. Make your choice and spend your energy (and whatever money you have left after that wedding) on the love of your life.

    As far as personal experience goes, my wife and I currently have gold wedding bands. Hers is a custom design that was dear to both of us until gold’s true nature as a soft and malleable metal made it prohibitively expensive to continue to maintain and resize in today’s gold market. If you can afford it, more power to you but we will be chosing another material… and I don’t feel that our marriage is one jot less “magical”.

    • Calla Gold on April 18, 2015 at 3:11 pm

      Hello Kris,
      For the record if someone in Peoria reads my post and decides to buy a gold or platinum wedding band that will not financially benefit me personally. This blog post was not written because I was searching for a payday, I had an opinion, I shared it. I had no idea that I would open the floodgates of negative comments about my opinion from some of my commenters. I was encouraged by one of my fans to not post the comments from people who cast me as some grasping villain.
      That’s not my style. I’m happy to give you a voice. Do I wish your comments here were about my opinions and not my personal self? Of course. But if I’ve learned anything about being an opinionated person, it is that others will jump into the fray and give me their opinions back.
      I like gold and platinum, I’m not going to apologize for that bias. I am a designer and a fine jeweler, of course I’m going to prefer metals that I can work and that I feel are noble. That is my opinion. My thrust to write this post was the fact that I met people who were upset about the fact that titanium and tungsten didn’t act like gold and platinum. They were upset. At the time I wrote this post I couldn’t find someone that raised these points in one place. So I wrote it. Some jewelers aren’t very happy with me because they make their living selling these products. I asked one of them, “what do you do when they need it sized?” “Just order another one, no biggie.” Well excuse me, it is a “biggie” to me. What are you supposed to do with the old one that doesn’t fit you or anyone else in your family. Save it? For what? What if in 40 years you need to replace it five times because your finger changes? Do you throw it away? Ugg.
      Your comment about how expensive it is to fix a gold band. If it was that expensive I can only guess it had been a super thin and problematic one because it doesn’t cost a lot to fix a gold band ring. Less than the cost of a titanium band!
      I have no problem with other people buying what ever metal they want. I just want them to know what I think the downsides are. If they aren’t downsides for you then by all means go for it.
      Your marriage is magical regardless of the metal you symbolize your love with.
      Calla Gold

  162. Kris on April 18, 2015 at 4:44 pm


    Sadly, it *was* quite a ring and we will miss it.

    For the record, I looked at your site and you do lovely work. I would not characterize you as a grasping villain by any stretch of the imagination. I also salute you for allowing dissenters like me their voice in your forum.

    You are, however, biased by your own admission and your post is filled primarily with opinion and rhetoric, working to bury valid counterpoints. You also have a gift for inflammatory language. (e.g. “grasping villain” was nowhere in my language)

    In many ways, the materials you disparage as “temporary” are more durable than the ones you defend, for example. The reason you have numerous vocal opponents is that they recognize the bias in your writing. As an expert in your field, you should recognize that there are valid reasons to chose a variety of materials. Be *honest* about the benefits and shortcomings of every option and your customers and readers will thank you.

    Ask yourself if you would be happy shaming a paying customer into buying a gold ring when they might truly be better served by tungsten or titanium, even if they are in the minority of your clientele. As an artist and businessperson, I sincerely doubt you would be.

    I wrote both of these comments because I found your site hoping for an expert opinion on an important impending purchase and I felt you did the topic a disservice. I’m not the only one. Don’t get defensive… get balance.

    • Calla Gold on April 19, 2015 at 7:29 am

      Hello Kris,
      I’d be curious what happened to your wife’s lovely and beloved gold wedding band. Did it have a continuous and meaningful design on it? Was it 14kt, 18kt or even the most malleable 22kt?
      Thank you for taking the time to look at my work on my site. As far as the “grasping villain” phrase, I was referring to my surprise about the blizzard of comments I received generally from the writing of this blog. There are now 312 comments on this post, many of which are my responses. I was referring to other comments when I used that term not to you in particular as you are right to point out.
      My bias against tungsten, titanium, stainless steel, and any other super strong metals you care to choose is that they are considered jewelry by the uninformed – mostly everybody, and there is an expectation that garden variety jewelers can fix them and change them. I’ve had quite a number of people get upset when they realize that I cannot size their tungsten wedding band with the Celtic design they specially ordered. They got married in that ring and they want to wear the ring they got married in. They consider it jewelry like the jewelry they grew up with, it could be fixed, it could be changed, it could be sized.
      These alternate metals are a whole new animal in the jewelry world. They offer much scratch resistance which many people like. They offer different colors which other people like. But they do not offer the most basic attribute of gold and platinum, the ability to be worked on by your jeweler.
      In seeing the disappointment, the anger, the upset feelings of the people I mention here, I was prompted to put out the information so that it would be more broadly known that there are trade offs when you abandon the old noble metals and jump to higher tech new metals.
      I have been thanked on numerous occasions by people who dodged a bullet, by reading my blog and choosing gold or platinum.
      It isn’t about shame, I don’t disrespect someone who is choosing to wear titanium or tungsten for their wedding band. I see it and I’m hoping they know that they need to buy a new one if their finger changes too much and won’t be blind-sided by the fact that while all their friends with gold and silver can size and change their rings, that alas they cannot.
      I actually re-wrote this post in response to my visitors castigating me for being so opinionated. Silly me I thought I could be opinionated on my blog. So I wrote a follow up where I distilled my reasoning. This is that blog post:
      Weirdly enough people don’t respond much to that one. I guess the search engines like this one better.
      It will be interesting to see if the next generation gets used to a more disposable style of wedding ring and everyone goes to titanium and tungsten and the other alternate metals. Nobody uses rotary phones anymore and many of my Apple loving clients get the latest Iphone, so getting the newest model is definitely more of a “thing” now than when I was growing up. Perhaps my opinion that a wedding band should be lasting and usable in the next generation will become obsolete. If that is so so be it. But that is not what I’m seeing now. I’m seeing thoughtful young couples wanting to custom design special rings with meaning that will be able to change in the years to come and one day be meaningful heirlooms and worn in their turn when they are gone.
      Perhaps it is the area I live in. This is my observation and my experience. This is the basis for my opinion. I’m not a scientist, I’m not a metal shop grinder of cheap metal, I am a jeweler and I love creating wedding bands with meaning and longevity. This is my balance.

  163. Shannon on April 26, 2015 at 12:35 pm


    Thank you for sharing your expertise and experience as a jeweler for over 30 years.

    I am weighting options on white gold. The issue is that I want the brightness to maintain its lustre over it’s lifetime.

    There seems to be a new technology that will maintain the whiteness/lustre of the white gold called Star White Gold that is supposed to be brighter than regular white gold and will last a lifetime.

    What are your thoughts on Star White Gold and it’s merits?


    • Calla Gold on April 26, 2015 at 6:50 pm

      Hello Shannon,
      I Googled Star White Gold. I only found one result for a particular jewelry store. My guess is this is gold using palladium in the alloy to make it more white. Nickel which is often used to make white gold among other white metal alloys, it has the problem of yellowing as a metal over time. Rhodium plating is a finish I put on all the custom white gold rings I make. I always tell my clients that rhodium plating will be part of its maintenance over the life of the ring. I talk about this is my white gold alloys blog post:
      I discuss palladium white gold alloy for white gold rings vs. nickel in this blog about a whiter white gold:
      I am guessing the Star White Gold is a name for using palladium white gold. No one else in the industry seems to be using this name so it could be chosen by the store talking about it online.
      If you read the second blog post it will give you the data you need to make your white gold choice. This will also allow you to use any designer or store that offers palladium white gold as a choice.
      I offer this choice to many of my clients. Note that palladium white gold is a bit softer than nickel white and more costly.
      I hope that helped!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  164. Dr K on May 5, 2015 at 7:08 am

    Dear Calla

    I dropped by your blog to read subsequent posts, following my original one above.

    Recently in the UK there was a ‘find’ of Silver coins thought to be Anglo Saxon. The coins were in ‘mint condition’, from where this phraseology originates. Any alloy of Tungsten or Cobalt Cr would not have survived. (Titanium is an exception because like Silver it is a ‘pure’ element, not an alloy.) Gold too would obviously last thousands of years, but not in its alloy form of 9ct (here in UK), 14 or even 18ct. Any alloy will have inherent weaknesses and will be subject to a gradual breakdown. 22ct being over 75% pure gold may just survive the test of time.

    So what actually happens to these alloys? Pitting and microscopic corrosion will increase the likelihood of alloyed gold cracking and breaking. If claws are holding set stones they can become brittle and break – as I’m sure being a jeweller you’ve encountered before. Chlorine in tap water and swimming pools will react with most alloys (mainly due to Nickel), and Tungsten is most at risk. Whereas Silver will tarnish when exposed to say bleach (Sodium Hypochlorite) and form a protective oxide, which can then be cleaned, gold alloys will not. Therefore gold alloys are subject to more damage over time. Tungsten alloys will lose their inherent strength and will be more prone to cracking and breaking. The colour of the Tungsten alloy will also darken but many people will not notice as it is so gradual and naturally a dark hue. I have tested expensive and cheap Carbide alloys and can tell you that although there is a difference in density (the cheaper ones containing less Tungsten and therefore lighter), mild pH values and Chlorine will cause irreparable damage regardless.

    Titanium is a clear winner in terms of corrosion and is impervious to chlorine unless at high temps. Someone mentioned Cobalt Cr alloys and although they are far more corrosion resistant than Tungsten, they too are attacked by chlorine and the alloy is subject to a process of breakdown and weakening. The bright white of the Cr is also subject to gradual discolouration which is far harder to clean than gold or silver. Tungsten cannot be cleaned once damaged and the argument about its durability is actually very flawed. I’ve read that it maintains its shine and polish for a ‘lifetime’ which is clearly a load of bull, unless it is never worn on your finger and kept in its box.

    Platinum is not attacked by Chlorine at ordinary temps and it is also extremely resistant to acidic conditions. Natural elements don’t like to be ‘alloyed’ with other elements and this is the moral of their longevity. I believe most Platinum jewellery is 95% pure (with some naturally occurring Iridium).

    If you want to choose an inexpensive material, choose Titanium, bearing in mind it cannot be resized. Otherwise, pay for 18ct Gold or Platinum. Palladium is also becoming popular but cost is still an issue. The ‘purer’ the metal the longer it will last, notwithstanding its ‘hardness’ (which is too much to cover here but someone mentioned Mohs Scale above, comparing metals to the hardness of Diamond).

    I could write much more but I think this is enough! Those considering an alloy like Cobalt Cr really should also bear in mind that being so hard and ‘unbreakable’ means it needs to be removed with a diamond-tipped saw cut in two places, which in a medical emergency could cost you more than a cheap ring.

    Regards and hope business is good!

    Dr K

    • Calla Gold on May 5, 2015 at 7:33 pm

      Dear Dr. K,
      Once more you grace the comment thread with fascinating and learned information on corrosion, and the lasting qualities of different metals. I loved reading this as I’m sure others who check out the comments section will be.
      I look forward to your further contributions!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  165. Miss Confused on May 6, 2015 at 8:33 pm

    Hello Calla! My fiancé and I are trying to figure out what bands to get for our wedding. In researching Tungsten rings, I ran across your blog and found that most comments as well as your rebuttals have merit which makes me more confused…We are considering Tungsten rings because of the price and looks, and good qualities for perhaps a few years and then upgrading to white gold or Gold. I would love your professional opinion and maybe a suggestion on an affordable alternative to white gold/gold that’s not tugsten or Titanium….Thank you!

    • Calla Gold on May 7, 2015 at 6:09 am

      Dear Miss Confused,
      It seems that you are not bothered by the fact that his wedding band will not be his wedding band for life. If that is not a concern that really cuts you loose from white gold or platinum. I’m that sentimental girl and couldn’t go that way. But that’s me and this is you and your situation.
      I plan to blog about this metal. It is palladium. It is in the platinum metals group. It’s lighter in weight and therefore less expensive. My beef is that the one time I had a wedding set cast in palladium it had a bit of a darker hue to it. I was not happy. Lucky for me my couple liked it very much. I hear from other jewelers that it is white when cast and doesn’t need the rhodium plating finish to keep in white looking.
      My experience wasn’t good, but I think that may have been an anomalous experience.
      Palladium can be a bit trickier to work with as a metal than platinum or white gold, but it can be sized.
      On the subject of palladium I am a bit confused myself. But if I’m naming a less expensive metal alternate for you I’m calling for palladium.
      Or titanium.
      If you’d like to read more, just Google palladium education to find data, not sales pitches.
      May your marriage be long and happy!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  166. Lagos on May 14, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Don’t fully agree with you but I’m glad that you take the time to interact with just about every commenter, whether they agree with you or not.

    • Calla Gold on May 14, 2015 at 5:57 pm

      Hello Lagos,
      I appreciate you commenting and sharing your nay vote.
      I’m sure the other commenters appreciate that you check out their various opinions.
      Gold Loving Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  167. Caleb on May 27, 2015 at 9:15 am

    Calla, I am not sure if I fully agree with you either. The cost of a new tungsten ring still costs less then what it would cost to resize your gold or platinum ring. Tungsten rings are hard to break, titanium rings are hard to tear, and precious metals are easy to bend out of shape. I think advantages of titanium and tungsten outweigh all the other metals, especially if you’re seeking long lasting durable metals.
    On an up note, precious metals hold their value in weight whereas imitation jewelry does not. My vote is going towards tungsten carbide rings. I surely compliment you taking the time to interact with your audience.

    • Calla Gold on May 30, 2015 at 9:10 am

      Hi Caleb,
      Thanks for writing. I keep hearing again and again from the fellas how inexpensive titanium and tungsten are. Do you as a man feel that the cost of your ring is a huge factor in choosing it?
      You are of course correct that a $50.00 tungsten ring is cheaper than sizing a platinum ring. That might cost $70.00. But seriously why not just wear a $5.00 plastic ring and just buy 30 of them and chuck them every time they break? Could it be that a disposable ring doesn’t somehow seem right for symbolizing love?
      I’ve been hearing some of my commenters ragging on the bendability of precious metals. If you are buying a wedding band to wear daily chances are your jeweler will point you to one that is comfort fit and strong enough for daily wear. In which case it will not bend. OK after wearing it daily for fifty years it may bend and I’ll just re-round it, no biggie.
      Thanks for writing Caleb.
      Calla Gold

  168. Mark on May 28, 2015 at 4:01 am

    I pick up a real attitude from you Calla Gold. Your opinions will always be opinions. “As we age, knuckles continue to grow.” Yeah sure Calla whatever you say. I have no opinion about the rings but I have a hard time tolerating ignorance.

    • Calla Gold on May 30, 2015 at 8:59 am

      Hi Mark,
      You are right, I am opinionated. That is why I wrote this post. I am sharing the fruits of my observation. My observation of alternate metal bands and my observation of sizing tons of men and women’s rings. I’m not going to wait for Harvard to do a triple blind, 50,000 person study on how many people’s knuckles change size between age 20 and age 50 to state that it happens. Maybe there are exceptions and some of those exceptions have commented on this very thread, but in the main hands change.
      For a wedding band you want a lasting symbol, not a disposable thing. It’s for love, not for co-habitating. Not for as long as it’s convenient. My opinion is that you shouldn’t use titanium or tungsten to symbolize your union. The day may come that the ring you got married in is too tight. You want to be able to alter it and keep wearing it. It’s the ring you said your vows with, it should be as special and lasting as your promises of love.
      Yes titanium is cheaper and scratches less. So what? What does cheapness or whether you buff the metal of your wedding ring or not have anything to do with a symbol of lasting love? If your finger grows a size or more you can’t wear that titanium or tungsten ring anymore. What will you do with it?
      Yes I have an attitude. My attitude is that wedding rings are important. You wear them every day. I feel that you should choose one that will last your loves lifetime and beyond.
      If you feel that having an opinion is ignorance, I admit I don’t get it. I am quite aware of the various attributes of titanium and tungsten. So wear them on any other finger but the one with your love’s promise.
      Intolerant of titanium and tungsten on your wedding finger for sure,
      Calla Gold

  169. Aisha on May 28, 2015 at 6:24 am

    Wow, what utter bullshit about the whole comittment through material things. Good point about the titanium or tungsten, but honestly, I do not care for jewelery or the like. You don’t need to spend any money to show comittment, you do however have to show love and care. Also, feelings don’t change depending on how much money you spend on a ring. Temporarily yes, but in the long run, if the love between you truly is unbreakable, no ring can enhance or decrease that, same goes for any other thing we wear. Another thing, don’t buy diamond rings or diamond jewelery. Diamonds are just a scam from the DeBeers cartel to make you think they are valuable, but go to any pawn shop with a diamond ring and they will tell you that the diamond itself is worthless, they only give you money for the gold itself.

    It is however a good idea to go with gold because gold -does- hold value in both financial as well as historical views. Also, it is a very nice metal. if the choice was mine, I’d go for plain gold any day.


    • Calla Gold on May 30, 2015 at 8:47 am

      Hi Aisha,
      You are right that the committment and love a couple shares is more important than the physical symbol of that love. But that said I want a pretty ring and love. It’s who I am. I don’t have a big center diamond as my style runs more low set multiple diamond band, but it’s pretty and I love it.
      The rings you choose don’t effect the love or longevity of your relationship true, but seeing a beautiful sparkly ring that you adore is a constant reminder of love.
      For the record, the DeBeers “cartel” has been six feet under since the 1990’s when Australia and Russia chose not to renew their agreements to sell their large diamond output through DeBeers.
      “De Beers’ market share of rough diamonds fell from as high as 90% in the 1980s to 33% in 2013, having resulted in a more fragmented diamond market with more transparency and greater liquidity.” Source Wikipedia:
      If you went to a pawn shop told you a diamond is worthless then ask them to give you a 1ct G color VS clarity diamond. Diamonds are holding their value nicely thank-you.
      I too like gold very much, even when white gold and platinum were on practically every hand, I was wearing yellow gold. It just goes better with my skin tone.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  170. Mark on May 29, 2015 at 3:20 am

    In the jewelry business 30 years and you tell people their knuckles continue to grow as they age lol.

    • Calla Gold on May 29, 2015 at 7:52 am

      Hi Mark,
      I’ve been a jeweler for 32 years and I’m sizing men’s and women’s rings larger all the time. Many of them haven’t had weight gain.
      I have sawed off three wedding rings in the last two weeks to re-build larger.
      It is real to me that the wedding band a man buys in his twenties will be too small by his fifties.
      Are you saying that you’ve not seen this? I noticed you LOLed this idea. I am curious if your clients are 30 year clients or walk in the door clients. I have many clients that I’ve known for at least twenty years and I’ve watched their hands change over the years.
      Sizing jeweler,
      Calla Gold

      • Ariel Wolkowicki on November 4, 2016 at 9:14 pm

        i have had the same ring size for 20 years.
        i do not like the gold colour. being jewish the ring has to be without any holes in it. I would like a gun metal or black wedding band? what metal would you go with?

  171. JAX on May 31, 2015 at 11:21 pm

    gold will always be precious and have value tungsten and stainless steel is for everyday wear and for young people fashion and will never have true value and end up in trash when it tarnishes and brakes… gold is a precious metal and eternal and used for precious moments and special occasions… will always have value …gold has been valued by humans since the recorded history and many ancient civilizations who thought it had magic property’s that wards off evil and brings luck….i have a 22k signet gold ring and its really hard not soft and it doesn’t bend its about 23 grams yes it does scratch but i have a special cream that takes care of that

    • Calla Gold on June 1, 2015 at 6:31 am

      Hi Jax,
      Thanks for sharing your love of gold and your opinion on alternate metals. I was interested too to hear how nice and strong the 22kt gold of your signet ring is.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  172. JAX on June 1, 2015 at 3:50 pm

    Sorry for my English it’s not my first language…Thank you Calla….ignore the nasty and mean people..I agree with you 100%

    • Calla Gold on June 2, 2015 at 9:08 pm

      Hi Jax,
      Thank you so very much. Your English sounds very nice to me!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  173. Caleb on June 1, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    Thanks for your thoughts!

  174. theshawn on June 10, 2015 at 11:28 am

    Some good points about re-sizing being big drawbacks to tungsten and titanium. However with divorces being 50+% of all marriages I find it silly to spend huge amounts on a ring even if you are blessed enough to be married 50 yrs.
    The whole “appreciation” of gold means nothing when you have to sell your ring and those same jewelers who took you for thousands offer cents on the dollar for it.
    I paid $400 for a 14k gold/white gold band from a good jeweler when gold was $375 per ounce, a big jeweler in town offered $40 for it back in 2010, I said it give it away before I’d take that for it. I still have it. The only thing gold appreciates is the price to buy it in rings, not to sell it. The appreciation mantra is a marketing racket by the jewelry frauds imo. It’s not as precious as it is marketed.

    • Calla Gold on June 10, 2015 at 8:14 pm

      Hi Shawn,
      I’m sorry your marriage ended in divorce. I guess if you could have rolled the dice about it ahead of time tungsten or titanium could have worked as you don’t need to re-size your ring if you don’t need your ring anymore.
      Just to speak to your point on the appreciation of gold, that’s not my point. Gold goes up and down. I like that it lasts. Not that I can pawn it.
      I would never say buy a gold band because you’ll make money when you sell it. Yes gold has value, but a ring is a made and sold thing. If you buy a brick of gold and then gold goes up, you’ll make money. I’m a jeweler and I don’t sell bricks of gold.
      I’m all about da bass, I mean jewelry.
      May your next union last 50 years.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  175. Nicole on June 14, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    You have a great website and blog, and it has been very informative for me regarding fixing up and maintaining some antique family rings.

    But I think this post does some people an injustice when it comes to alternative metal rings. I chose titanium, and I would do so again. Why? Because I have my hands in the dirt all day long, and while I adore silver, it doesn’t take long for them to look terrible and scoured under those conditions. I save my silver rings for nights out on the town.

    Why not gold? Well, I can’t wear gold of any kind. It raises horrible blisters within an hour of skin contact. No, it’s not the nickel for me. My Mom has the same metal allergy. We have a lovely collection of my grandmother’s gold rings and jewelry that neither of us can wear at all. And I doubt that even 10k gold would survive the abuse I put it through. The rock particles that make up soil are still harder.

    Platinum… well, we don’t have a platinum budget. Period.

    Titanium was the right choice for me. I wear a 5 in the winter and a 6.5 in the summer when the heat swells my hands, and I have a 5.5 for the in between times. No need to suffer a too tight or too loose ring; I just went ahead and bought 3 of them exactly the same. At under $10 each, why not?

    Our rings symbolize our marriage, they aren’t the fact of our marriage. Any ring will do; it’s WHY we wear it that makes it a wedding ring. And if you are looking for symbolism: the fact titanium is amazingly strong and light is pretty good symbolism!

    • Calla Gold on June 15, 2015 at 5:49 am

      Hi Nicole,
      Thank you for your perspective. The fact that you can’t wear gold is sad. But that you have found an alternate that is working for you is good news.
      You have made me grateful for the fact that I can wear gold. I was taking that for granted. Thank you.
      Gold Preferring girl,
      Calla Gold

  176. Shaynna on June 22, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    Unfortunately, you seem to have completely overlooked two key elements in why titanium and tungsten are so popular.First, if you have a husband who works in a factory, gold/platinum/silver are easily scratched and broken – my husband was working at Whirlpool putting together dryers when I bought his ring. Titanium is near impossible to break in these conditions and rarely scratches. Second, both of these “cheap” metals are HYPOALLERGENIC, where gold/platinum/silver are not because they must be mixed with more solid metals for strength. My husband CAN’T wear gold/platinum/silver because it LITERALLY eats his finger off. I chose titanium for these two reasons – I purchased his ring size and one of each of the sizes below/above his in the same design so he could change them as his fingers do.

    • Calla Gold on June 22, 2015 at 8:35 pm

      Hi Shaynna,
      Platinum is always considered hypo-allergenic as it is alloyed with iridium which is also hypo-allergenic. Platinum is usually used in a 95/5 purity or 90/10. Platinum would not give your husband trouble. However it would most certainly scratch!
      I guess if you’re going to choose titanium you did it the right way with multiple rings.
      Call me a princess, but I really like metal with value and meaning. And yes I know that is an opinion. And I am an opinionated jeweler.
      My husband recently hurt his hand. We were chasing around the house like a couple of teenagers and he banged his hand into a doorjamb. His wedding finger swelled. We decided to give it two weeks. If the swelling didn’t go down we’d size his ring. On the weekend before sizing day he tried it on and it slid on. His ring is hammered 18kt yellow gold with a lot of patina on it and it looks rustic and great. He had the biggest smile on his face when he showed me it was back on his finger. I had a goofy happy smile on my face too.
      One day that ring will belong to our son. And no matter what size our son is and whatever finger he may choose to where his dad’s ring on he’ll be able to knowing his dad wore it in love all his life.
      Calla Gold

  177. Steve on June 30, 2015 at 11:37 am

    I prefer titanium. I personally find it ridiculous that people put so much into the ring as a token of love. Some people are so infatuated with this moronic idea that they redo their vows over a new rings if one gets lost.

    I’d rather love bonds be stronger than the token of a wedding band.

    That being said. I prefer titanium for its strength, its color, machined look and light weight. Gold always looks to “soft” and frankly kinda cheesy to me.

    • Calla Gold on July 2, 2015 at 11:47 am

      Hi Steve,
      I’m afraid that I suffer from cheesy romantic moronic feelings. Guilty as charged.
      I’ll take the gold. Cheesy gold is my romantic forever ring.
      Gold Loving Jeweler,

  178. Cwiver on July 9, 2015 at 3:54 am

    Silly question – You say that 100% of the women you work with pick Gold/platinum. But you don’t sell Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Rings so therefore technically 100% of your clients would have no choice but to not pick these materials? If you sold rings in these materials and 100% of women STILL picked gold/platinum then this would seem to give more weight to your arguments.

    • Calla Gold on July 10, 2015 at 5:36 am

      Hello Cwiver,
      I occasionally run into women wearing titanium wedding bands. They were chosen for their low price. The women I see seem fine with their rings.
      The kind of women who come to me want a special ring, perhaps custom designed, but they want their ring to say they are loved.
      The guys who come to me want to express that they love their wives-to-be.
      The people who want to say “I’m married, but I didn’t feel like spending much on rings, because that’s not what is important to me,” would never come to me in the first place.
      That is how I get the 100%.
      I’ve also had guys come and say, “we got me a titanium band with tribal designs online for me. But we want platinum for my fiance.” Guys are a lot more receptive to alternate metal rings than women in my experience.
      A great number of the guys who have titanium or other alternate metal rings end up having me make them a “real” metal wedding band after going through the design process with their fiance.
      When the guys see how much it means to her and go through the steps, they often realize they want a more meaningful, sizable and just for them wedding ring.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  179. Keith Kair on July 25, 2015 at 4:20 am

    I think I just wasted the better half of a day reading this thread from start to finish. :|. All because I am trying to find my Tungsten band out in my front yard.

    • Calla Gold on July 25, 2015 at 6:54 am

      Hello Keith,
      I know it takes a while to get through the thread of comments. I am fascinated by the voices and opinions of my readers. I am hoping you were successful finding your lost Tungsten band good sir.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  180. Tampa bay Lightning on July 25, 2015 at 8:51 am

    The article here only really focussed on the fact that tungsten is not adjustable. Of course it isn’t – tungsten is one of the strongest medals on earth and it takes a lot of effort to “break it”. they’re also very in style, I have to say yellow and silver are out. And white gold and tungsten is the new “in”.

    I’ve already purchased mine for my band and plan to keep it bc I am not getting FAT and workout to stay fit. Oh yea and GO BOLTS GO!

    • Calla Gold on July 25, 2015 at 9:54 am

      Dear Lover of all Things Bolt,
      I applaud your optimistic vision of never needing to change your ring size due to working out. I’m reminded of a client that got pissy about some news I gave her. It was coming up on her 25th wedding anniversary. At her twentieth anniversary she’d received a new wedding ring which she put on instead of her original. For her twenty fifth she was having a big party. She had always worked out and planned to wear her wedding dress with hardly any other alterations. She looked great.
      She wanted to wear the ring she got married in at the party and beyond, but it wouldn’t fit on her finger. She was ticked at me because it wasn’t going on.
      I measured both rings, one was size 6 and the new one was size 6.5. I told her her ring finger had enlarged a bit. She said “not possible, I weigh the same as the day I got married.” I told her that your weight and your fitness do not stop your finger from any expanding it does.
      I sized her ring larger, she had a great party and now wears the two rings interchangeably.
      My point here is no matter how fit you are a time may come when your ring no longer fits. At that time you’ll need a whole new ring. You won’t be able to wear the ring you made your vows with. If that doesn’t bother you, then no problem.
      I wrote this blog post because it would bother me. And has bothered many people who were blindsided by this message of no alteration possible.
      Personally changability in my wedding ring is more important to me than strength. Happily my ring is 18kt yellow gold and quite strong enough for my lifestyle. And for the record as fashionable and trendy as tungsten, titanium, cobalt and stainless steel are, they belong on the right hand, not on your wedding finger. Just my opinion and I welcome you to disagree.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  181. Jeff on August 5, 2015 at 6:25 am

    You bring up valid points, however titanium and tungsten are very durable and much cheaper than the alternatives you suggest. It is cheaper to buy a new titanium ring than have a gold ring resized.

    • Calla Gold on August 5, 2015 at 6:50 am

      Hi Jeff,
      I have no problem with titanium and tungsten being used on the right hand. I just feel that a disposable ring is wrong for the wedding finger. We’re talking about your wedding rings here. They are the most important piece of jewelry you’ll ever wear. Make them special. Don’t make them an opportunity to “go cheap.”
      Value your spouse, value the symbol.
      That’s my opinion.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  182. Shawn on August 6, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    A flag isn’t valuable because of the material it’s made with, people haven’t died because the flag was made from the golden fleece, it’s what the flag represents. I can’t think of any reason why a wedding band is any different. If your wedding band is only valuable to you or your children who inherit it because it’s made of gold then that’s very sad.

    • Calla Gold on August 6, 2015 at 6:12 pm

      We don’t wear flags, we look at them fluttering in the wind inspiring us. Our wedding rings are worn at work, hiking, playing and living our lives.
      Our fingers change in size over a long marriage and I like the idea that your ring can change with you. That is why I wrote this.
      Thank you for your opinion.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  183. Tom on August 19, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    I have broken three gold wedding bands in 35 years of marrige ( we treated ourselves to expensive upgrades on our 20th anniversary because we could not afford alot when we married as young as we were). This 2nd ring broke twice and the jewlers said it would be cheaper to trade in the broken one on a new ring and have it inscribed again. That second ring broke after less than 5 years and is now lost as it fell off on our float trip this last weekend.

    After reading through this blog, I am convinced our decison to replace my ring with tungsten is the right one. I also know now to buy a couple sizes for seasonal changes and that there maybe some issues with getting it engraved.

    In our wedding ceremony, it was stated the ring is an unbroken circle. Well the jewelry did not last, but our love has. And will continue weather my ring is precious metal or not. Because my bride is precious to me, not what her or my rings are made of.

    • Calla Gold on August 20, 2015 at 6:29 am

      Hello Tom,
      First I want to congratulate your wonderful and loving attitude towards your wife and your marriage. That is the most important thing. I’ll just say that your broken gold bands tell a most unfortunate tale. If you’d had a comfort fit band ( with for example a 3mm deep at the center construction and maybe 6mm wide I believe that wouldn’t have happened. Not all gold bands are created for daily wear. It is unfortunate.
      If you’d been in my area and we’d talked when the first one broke I’d point you in the direction of a strong well made domed comfort fit band.In the blog post mentioned above notice the first pictured band. I made that for my husband when his original proved a bit unequal to daily wear. I wasn’t a jeweler when we got engaged and got zero advice on the fact that my choice for him was impractical for the long term.
      He still has it and I’ve sized it a couple of times and we are both sentimental about it and he sometimes wears it. But that new one is his favorite, he’ll wear it all the time including when rock climbing. Gold bands when made right will last a very long time.
      You are smart to get the alternate sizes in your tungsten metal rings Tom.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  184. Rachel on August 26, 2015 at 8:49 am

    I am sooo glad I read your post as I was going to buy a Tungsten ring but am not now. Could you please advise me. My partner Steve is a delivery driver and the chances of scratching his ring are very high ( hence the Tungsten ) I also think he would prefer something brushed rather than polished as he’s not a statement man, and I don’t think he will like one in sliver colour.I am also going to surprise him by getting on one knee hehe. So I was thinking I need something strong, that won’t scratch, and perhaps a brushed / matt gunmetal or yellow gold colour. Any tips or hints would be greatly taken aboard. Thanks 🙂

    • Calla Gold on August 26, 2015 at 4:50 pm

      Hi Rachel,
      I’m glad you liked what you read. I knew my husband would wear his ring doing all kinds of things so I made him a hammered gold band. He loves it.
      There’s a picture of it on this blog:
      I took the picture of it with the patina of wear on it. I like it better since he’s beaten it up a bit and personalized it. I chose 18kt for it so it’d get a softer look as it got worn. Because it is nice and well made there is no risk of bending or damage. Just don’t go for a light weight ring.
      I love that you’ll get down on one knee. Just between you and me I asked my guy to marry me a couple of times. He told me he’d do the asking thank you very much. Luckily he did ask. And we have now been married many years.
      Loving that gold wedding band for him,
      Calla Gold

  185. Bill Sweppu on September 14, 2015 at 11:09 pm

    Calla, you’re an angel.
    I plan on being in need of a wedding band soon 😉 and while I was aware of the safety hazards associated with the hardness of titanium and tungsten, my heart was pretty much set on tungsten for my ring. I share your view of the symbolism of a wedding ring and what it sentimentally represents and also plan to pass it on, which is the very reason I decided on tungsten – its strength.

    Having thankfully stumbled upon and read this informative blog, my heart has firmly changed course. It never dawned on me (duh) that tungsten and titanium cannot be repaired or altered in an way. And for something I hope to be used by more than one person throughout an untold number of years (not to mention my own lifetime’s usage), that is obviously unacceptable.

    The very reason I was attracted to Tungsten in the first place is also the very reason it would be a foolish choice given my views and intentions for its use. THANK YOU for this whack in the head of common sense! I would have been so pissed at myself the first time I went to have it altered, I would’ve had to kick my own ass like Jim Carrey in Liar Liar!! Much love and many thanks Calla!!

    P.S. Kudos for sticking up for yourself and your beliefs against these many feeble minds 😉 Funny how everyone’s a gunslinger on the internet, so quick to conduct themselves in a manner in which they wouldn’t dare if it were in person, isn’t it? I’ll never understand why people think the two should not be one in the same.. Ignorance sadly abounds these days.. *sigh* oh well, luckily those of us with intelligence and manners are too 🙂

    P.S.S. I commend you for your effort in responding to your comments. If it weren’t for that fact, I wouldn’t have bothered writing this one (I almost never do for the same reason). Much respect. Keep doing what you’re doing.

    Bill Sweppy
    Owner, Knights Ordnance and U.S Army Vet

    • Calla Gold on September 15, 2015 at 6:54 am

      Dear Bill,
      If my responding to commenters polite and not so polite prompted your generous and funny comment I will keep doing it. The fact that I discovered that you will not be kicking your own ass ala Jim Carrey and Liar, Liar just makes my day. And the fact that you’ll choose a ring that you can size, change the texture of, add a gem or in any way change or personalize it over time and pass it on makes me smile till my cheeks hurt!
      I also love that this is a “whack upside the head of common sense!” You are clearly a man of letters as well as one who has served his country well.
      On this subject of public discourse I agree with you. People will say some pretty raw things when the person who they are saying it to is a stranger and they are on a keyboard. I’ll never forget an experience I had years ago. I’m a peppy person with a bit of a higher voice and I am vocal. So a guy came into town for an event who needed a place to stay and the group we knew reached out to us. Evidently he told his contact that I was an airhead and wondered why we were friends. I had noticed that he was standoff-ish toward me and thought he was nervous around girls. So I asked myself what we had in common to break the ice. I’m a singer and he plays guitar. I talked him into a duet before he went to bed. We ended up singing and playing till 2am. After that he’d be all hugging me and including me in activities till he left. I heard later about his first assessment of me. I’ve never forgotten that and feel that each of the rude commenters on this blog is probably someone I don’t know that given a place to meet would be someone I could find something in common with and get along with. I don’t take it personally.
      I very much appreciate your kind words Bill.
      May your marriage be long and loving.
      Your Personal Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  186. Vedette on September 29, 2015 at 7:19 am

    I just happened onto this site. Looking & checking about Gold. I am tired of leaving a store feeling not so great about my purchases. Always questioning if I got robbed in any way. Then I noticed from that blog page I was reading a comment about Titanium. I have never heard of Tungsten. Anyway, my curiosity on the gold blog led me here.
    I want to thank you for helping the one’s who need it, learn & understand about metals. I originally bought a white gold wedding band with three diamonds that were channel set for my husband at a custom jeweler.
    Over time it needed tune ups. And eventually the jeweler told my husband the diamonds would fall out. It couldn’t take another tune up. Well, I then took my husband shopping and he loved the Titanium ring he spotted. So I purchased it for him. In the winter his fingers shrink in the summer his finger’s swell. There is no sizing for this awesome ring with special designs carved into it. My husband will take it off while working in yard or garage. He really loves it. So, I’m happy about that.
    I am also very happy about this site & Calla educating me. Although, it is a good metal. It is not for me. I wouldn’t invest my money into it for myself. But, hey some times the really big guys who are rough on their jewelry need the inexpensive stuff. I am so in love with Gold jewelry, my sweetie pie knows only gold for this gal.
    BTW, I am allergic & sensitive to some metals that make me break out in blisters. I can’t even wear white gold. So, for this reason I am a gold lover all the way!
    Thanks Calla Gold

    • Calla Gold on September 30, 2015 at 6:31 am

      Hello Vedette,
      I appreciate your opinions and your story. When you mentioned your allergic reaction to white gold I thought I’d ask if you’d seen my post on nickel allergy and white gold:
      That’s too bad that your husbands three diamond ring broke down on him. Men are traditionally harder on their rings than women. When I make wedding bands for men I like to use a lot of metal so they are thick and strong. I’ve had great results with using gold when making thick rings for men. I find they are lasting just great for years.
      Thank you for your kind comments.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  187. Cherrise on October 9, 2015 at 4:37 am

    Hi Calla

    I didn’t get through all of the comments, so please forgive me if I am repeating anything.

    Thanks for the interesting article, I am recently engaged and have a beautiful unique white gold ring with white and blue diamonds – I’m so spoiled! I’ve been looking online for any different and unusual mens wedding bands, as my husband to be is not your average human in many ways ! He loves anything black and I sent him a photo of a black matt tungsten band set with black diamonds… well he fell in love ! I looked it up and you can get black titanium rings too, and thus how I stumbled upon your article.

    What would you suggest with regards to how you view tungsten and titanium? Is there a way of somehow treating or dipping or plating gold or other precious metals to be black in colour ? If so do you think it’s worth doing ?

    Kind regards

    • Calla Gold on October 9, 2015 at 9:21 am

      Hi Cherrise,
      For the record there are a ton of comments and I sure wouldn’t expect you to wade through them all, as interesting as they are.
      Your white gold ring sounds gorgeous. And I see why you want to spoil your sweetie with a ring he’ll love.
      Your idea of coating white gold with black is a nice. It’s not an easy solution though. Here is a post I wrote about black rhodium:one
      This one is about a wonderful man who is graphic designer and we added black rhodium to his ring:
      Black tungsten holds its color as does black titanium, but they are as you have read not a good choice for a daily wear.
      Recently I custom made a man’s ring in white gold. He took up rock climbing shortly after getting married. His finger enlarged by a half a size. I’m thinking it is from him strengthening his fingers with the finger isolating pull ups on the bouldering wall. Anyway, he hadn’t injured himself, just taken up a hand intensive sport.
      I re-sized his ring and warned him we may need to re-size larger again as he develops the musculature of his fingers. He actually said, “good thing I didn’t get titanium!” He had been thinking about it before his fiance read my post on not buying tungsten and titanium.
      I’m glad you too are looking at ways to get your fiance a ring that incorporates black.
      Another idea is to do white gold or platinum with black diamonds to give him black with a contrasting metal to set off the black.
      I hope this helps.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  188. Sporto on November 6, 2015 at 7:46 pm

    I tattooed my wedding band. It will change size as I change size. It will never need to be cut off or removed. It’s a permanent testament to my commitment.

    Then I got a few plain tungsten bands in different sizes to wear over it to avoid weird questions. I spent the money I saved on trip to New Zealand with my wife.

    No regrets skipping a gold ring.

    • Calla Gold on November 7, 2015 at 7:40 am

      Hi Sporto,
      Thanks for sharing your wedding ring/ tattoo choice. That is definitely an option. Thanks for sharing it and your no-regrets. Your wedding tattoo is certainly permanent.
      I can see that if you are only using tungsten to cover your tattoo and your tattoo is your true symbol of love and marriage, you have found a way to make tungsten OK with me as a choice for wedding band. Camouflage!
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  189. S on November 8, 2015 at 6:56 pm

    This article paid for by gold, silver, and platinum jewellery sellers.

    • Calla Gold on November 9, 2015 at 7:18 am

      Dear Sok,
      This article is my opinion. I am a jewelry designer who hears input from clients all over the place. I write about the issues that I see come up and the questions that I frequently answer. After finding a number of people that had gotten titanium bands that were upset that they weren’t sizable like gold and platinum, I felt I needed to put that information out there.
      There is no conspiracy here. I didn’t get paid to write this. I’m am not paid to write any of my blogs. This is my site. I don’t even have advertising on my site.
      Just thought I’d set the record straight for you.
      Jewelry Blogger and Jewelry Designer,
      Calla Gold

  190. Jim King on November 10, 2015 at 1:22 pm

    What a load of horseshit. Of course you want people to keep buying the more expensive materials. It’s what it symbolizes that matters. You shouldn’t encourage people to buy diamonds, either, but of course you will because they’re expensive – artificially so, but still, they’re expensive.

    • Calla Gold on November 11, 2015 at 6:37 am

      Hello James,
      I do not advertise. My clients come to me because they want a symbol of love. I’m not out there on the street with a hooked cane dragging people in and forcing them to get gold and diamonds. It is their choice to work with me as a designer to craft a design that says what they want to say to the woman or man that they love.
      Even if you were in my town I’m sure we’d never cross paths. You would not choose to reach out to me. I am not now encouraging you to work with me. Your choice of wedding jewelry is entirely your own. I merely give you food for thought and share my opinion as a jeweler.
      I am entitled to my opinion as you are to yours.
      Not Your Personal Jeweler,

  191. will on November 12, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    wow a bad article. its all about you trying to sell the expensive “noble” metals with no real reasoning into why they are better. sure your ring size MAY change (though after 25 it rarely moes more than 2 sizes in a persons life) but the average tungsten ring is a fifth ofthe price maximum. for a ring which is just a token item int he long run of the marriage the price and quality is irrelevant. i prefer tungsten to bendable materials because it symbolizes what the band always was meant to. the unbreakable bond.

    if by some fluke of nature i need to vice it off due to finger swelling injuries sure i will be upset at getting a new one but at least i know its cheap to do. the average repair to resolder a wedding band is about on average to buyign a new tungsten (based purely on repairs to my signet ring).

    all in all a bad sales pitch article with no research behind it or knowledge of the market trends as tyo why the competition exists in the first place.

    • Calla Gold on November 12, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Hello Will,
      I am not a scientist, hence no scientific research is footnoted. I addressed the size issue as I’ve observed it in earlier comments. A wedding band is not a token item, it is the most important and meaningful piece of jewelry you’ll ever have. It’ll have great meaning for your kids or grandkids who will have it after you.
      I’m glad you find tungsten so great and I think it’s fine on any other than a wedding finger.
      This is not a sales pitch as I am not the beneficiary of someone’s decision to buy a wedding ring. My readers are all over the world and they will decide on whatever metal they wish to. They will doubtless buy local in their area. My opinions and observations will perhaps be a part of their decision. Or not.
      Loving my gold,

  192. will on November 12, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    and before you try linkign the “easy to break” video i will put some research back at you. YES tungsten is more BRITTLE than gold, however it has a 0 bend limit to the metal, it is a much harder and resliant metal than gold in nearly allt he same stress tests. yes you can shatter it and not repair it, however from my own use of tungsten rings this concept of it slipping from a finger and being broken is just a myth. unless you got a poorly made ring it can take a major beating. i have worked on cars and have punched parts with it, dropped it from a ledge on a 2 story house ontop concrete and even viced a tungsten ring. in all these cases no damage was done to the ring except for in the vice where no marks were shown until i applied enough force on the ring to break it into 3 parts.
    the force applied to the ring was more than enough to break a human hand and if it was a gold ring on a finger with that force the gold would have warped enough to embed into the finger.

    for all this i am not dissing gold at all, i respect the legacy value of it and resizing it for kids down the track, its just you strongly try to diss tungsten with no real reasons at all. basically your 5 are just 1 reason “i don’t like it so it must be bad”

    • Calla Gold on November 12, 2015 at 8:34 pm

      Hello Will,
      Thank you for your scientific input on the bend limit of tungsten.
      I’m dissing tungsten as a wedding ring because it can’t be sized and cannot be successfully left to the next generation and re-sized and cherished by them. I believe that alternate metals do not belong on the wedding finger symbolizing the love and the changes we go through. A disposable ring doesn’t do it for me.
      Noble metals for me,

  193. Mike on November 23, 2015 at 8:09 am

    I was looking for something since my 1st wedding ring broke after 5 years and I have no worn anything since due to working out with free weights, but was looking into something that would be stronger. Other option would be to get a gold ring and take it off when working out.

    • Calla Gold on November 23, 2015 at 9:08 am

      Hello Mike,
      I lean toward a nice gold ring and take it off for workouts.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  194. Alex on November 24, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    I am newly married and have a titanium ring, with a white gold /rhodium inlay running around the center with a wood grain. Which also adds some nice weight to it.

    I work *a lot* with my hands, and I will my whole life, which was one factor. The other is I could not find in the dozen jewelers I visited a design I liked (and in my price range, yes even wedding bands have a price to consider)
    Its Plain, simple, yet still interesting.

    I admit the idea of not being able to resize is something on my mind as I have wide knuckles and it is a slightly loose fit, however I’m not overly worried.

    If it does get too loose, I’m sure I’ll find a solution, but its never something that “just happens” you always have plenty of warning.

    I agree on tungsten and ceramic bands, they are impossible to expand full stop, a resin is involved to fill the inside to shrink it but that starts sounding very tacky.

    My wife on the other hand has fantastic white gold rings. But I love my titanium, I love it not feeling so heavy. And just like precious metals it will never deteriorate.

    As a humorous side note, when Aluminium was first discovered, it was an exotic, highly sort after metal.
    People marvelled at how light it was with Napoleon III having it turned into cutlery to impress dinner guests. It had a time where it was worth more than gold. No bull!

    Just an example to show that the value of something is not inherent, it is what’s placed on it by someone.

    • Calla Gold on November 24, 2015 at 9:00 pm

      Dear Alex,
      Thank you for your story about choosing your ring. I like that fact that you knew it couldn’t be sized and found the design you want.
      Your humorous side not cracks me up. That aluminum was once more precious than gold is just amazing.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  195. Adam on December 10, 2015 at 12:05 am

    I had a Titanium wedding band. I still have it in fact but I’m no longer married, so I don’t wear it any more 😉

    I got the ring from a manufacturer Jeweller around 2001, and it was a simple dull grey, not polished and as light as a feather. To me this was amazing, as it was to anyone that held this fairly chunky ring. You could barely feel it’s weight in your hand, it was hard to believe.

    I worked as a mechanic for a while, and once a rather heavy 4×4 gearbox I was removing slipped and tried crushing my hand into the floor… but the ring got in the way. There was enough weight on that ring that if it had been made of steal it would have bent, but not that ring. It certainly earns it’s name.

    Personally I wouldn’t bother with the shined up titanium rings. Why would you buy something like that only to have it look like silver?

    As for those that no longer fit, why would you throw it away? I would wear mine as a necklace, it’s closer to your heart, and you can always wear a replacement band as well.

    • Calla Gold on December 10, 2015 at 9:30 am

      Dear Adam,
      What an amazing story. Your ring really saved you. I’m reminded of the movie the Abyss which also has a ring saving a guy’s hand in it. I liked that movie except for the end.
      Thanks for your suggestion that a ring when no longer fitting can be worn on a chain around your neck.
      That was quite a story. I’d sure save that band whether it fit or not after that experience.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  196. Ben on December 20, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    What a biased article. It’s interesting that a lot of american sites behave this way “don’t buy X product, buy Y, and buy it from us!”

    Gold has had its day. The people I know, all in our 20’s, who have married off, have interesting rings and not just some gold+diamond that everyone used to get.

    I have a tungsten ring. It cost less, it’s not some magical talisman or whatever kooky/witchcraft thing you’re talking about. Seriously “warding off people getting between two lovers” is just hilarious guff. The words of a madwoman. But I know its stronger. If I was to use your way of thinking I could say “my ring is stronger than all the gold that God made when he created the earth 6000 years ago”.

    If you’re in a strong relationship get a strong ring to match. It feels much more modern to have a strong ring that was made in a very technical, advanced way.

    • Calla Gold on December 21, 2015 at 7:32 am

      Hi Ben,
      I’ll have to let my husband know I’m a mad woman. Actually I’ve had some practice as I was the Madwoman of Chaillot in my senior year of High School. Good times.
      Anyway I like your term strong. However if strong can’t be sized, I’m just not down with it. I’ll stick with gold. But you go ahead and enjoy your tungsten. Gold has had its day kinda cracked me up since I’ve been to a number of museum exhibits going bank to antiquity and what do they have? Gold. I like the way a beautiful buttery and warm metal has been celebrated for thousands of years and I celebrate it still.
      For the record I really don’t think anyone who reads my blog and I have readers all over the world is going to say, “Oh my gosh, I’m not going to get a tungsten or titanium wedding band so I’d better call Calla and have her find me a gold or platinum one.” No whatever choice my now informed readers make they will make with their local jeweler, not me. I didn’t write this as some how to get rich selling tons more gold wedding bands scheme. I thought of it as a public service announcement after meeting upset people who hadn’t been informed that alternate metals like tungsten and titanium do not react like gold and platinum and cannot be worked on by your local goldsmith.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  197. Hollyann on December 26, 2015 at 11:17 am

    I have been happily married to my husband for 27 years and we both decided to sell the original gold bands and replace them with titanium. I don’t understand why you call titanium a throw away metal. Its beautiful, can be made into shapes gold can not and it holds its form. Every gold ring I ever owned warped due to the softness and the expense of getting it repaired year after year was simple too much. I have not had to change my ring size in the titanium for 7 years now.

    I can only surmise that the reason you promote gold over titanium is too preserve your business and quality of life. Those are understandable, but belittling people who choose titanium as their choice band is uncouth and not very professional.

    • Calla Gold on January 3, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      Hi Hollyann,
      It is always interesting how certain people decide why other people do things that they can’t understand. You assume that I give my opinion about titanium because I want to preserve my business and quality of life. How many people that read my blog do you think are in my area? I have readers internationally. Writing this blog had nothing to do with drumming up business for myself. I gain nothing financial from this post. Actually I have had some jewelry designers who sell tungsten and titanium become quite irate with me over the fact that I wrote this.
      When I ask them, “will you be able to size their titanium band for them by 1.5 or 2 sizes thirty years from now?” They say, “They can just order something else.” Well a great number of my clients don’t want to just get something else or get another one. They want the ring they got married it.
      Plenty of men I work with are wearing their grandfather’s wedding band.
      I am giving my opinion about alternate metals. You do not have to agree with it.
      As to your gold falling apart, a well made ladies gold wedding ring can last generations. If your rings warped it is possible that they were beautiful and delicate looking while lacking the strength needed for daily wear.
      I am sorry you feel it is uncouth for me to state my opinion on my blog.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  198. Soumya Dey on December 27, 2015 at 3:45 am

    I must appreciate your patience in replying each of the comments (more than 380) spanning over more than 3.5 years of time!
    It’s really a popular article!

    I am thinking of buying a platinum wedding ring for my would-be wife.

    Thanks for the info.

    • Calla Gold on January 3, 2016 at 4:52 pm

      Dear Soumya,
      I didn’t realize it had gotten up to 380 comments. A lot of people who thought about titanium and tungsten didn’t know much about it. Neither did I until people started calling me begging me to re-size them because they ordered the wrong size or other reasons. I like to answer my commenters as I appreciate that they come by and take the time to communicate to me and the other members of this community.
      That is wonderful that your would-be-wife is probably getting platinum from you.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  199. Concordium on January 7, 2016 at 9:30 am

    1) This is an extremely biased article. Nobody denies that Gold and Platinum are great metals for wedding bands. 2) But this entire article plays to the strengths of gold and platinum while not only failing to mention the strengths of titanium and tungsten, but also making some pretty inaccurate negative claims about them.

    Gold & Platinum both have similar pros and cons just like Tungsten and Titanium have pros and cons. 3) This article’s validity relies on the assumption that the wedding band is the most important part of a marriage. It isn’t. Not by a long shot. Such a mentality only plays on the vanity and materialism plaguing modern society. 4) I have a Tungsten band. If it breaks then I’ll buy a new one. If my fingers get fat then I’ll buy a new one. What’s the big deal? 5) Tungsten will maintain its lustre and beauty far longer than gold or platinum. 6) So as long as I don’t intentionally smash it with a sledge hammer or I don’t start living an obese lifestyle, my ring will last me the entire span of my life as well as to whomever it is I decide to pass it on to.

    7) Also, as with any metal, you have to consider the quality. If you buy a cheap gold ring it is not going to have the durability, lustre, and overall appeal of a high quality gold ring. Same goes with Tungsten. Tungsten rings can range from $20 up to thousands. If you buy a cheap Tungsten ring it is going to contain low quality Tungsten bound together poorly. It is going to have low quality and will most likely shatter when you drop it. However, if you buy a high quality Tungsten ring made with high quality Tungsten Carbide and bound properly, it will take significantly more than just a drop on the floor to shatter it. There are plenty of videos out there that prove this. You get what you pay for. 8) So telling people that one person shattered their Tungsten ring by dropping it just goes to show that they bought a cheap ring. 9) And if the people buying in to your mentality of “A ring that shatters shouldn’t represent the never ending love” then perhaps they should tie that together with the notion that being cheap doesn’t really signify love very well. Unless, they don’t think that price = love. In which case, it would be retarded to hold that mentality while claiming the opposite and thinking that brittleness is somehow an indicator of love. Otherwise, you’d be a hypocrite.

    I work with a lot of metal devices. My ring gets knocked against other metal objects such as computers, routers, switches, etc. I didn’t want my ring being a collage of scratches months after I got it. 10) Tungsten has one of the highest resistances to scratches. Add to that the fact that most people are not going to be taking a hammer to their rings, intentionally. If they are, then I am pretty sure that the concept of “never-ending love” is not something that exists to them any more. 11) However, I have included a video for your review so that I can play along with your materialistic propaganda. 12) If a hammer bends gold, platinum, and titanium…..but not only fails to bend a Tungsten ring, but also fails to even scuff or scratch it, wouldn’t THAT be a better symbol of strength and endurance through the hammered tribulations of married life than the malleable gold and platinum rings you advocate? 13) Seems to me that when a ring is crushed under the weight of a burden, such a thing is not a good symbol of marriage. But when a ring stands proud and strong whilst receiving an even greater burden than the others….the symbolism is pretty self explanatory.

    14) I’d suggest, next time, write a blog that is more of an informative instead of an opinion piece. You will find that people will take you more seriously as a professional when you lay out the unbiased pros and cons instead of turning into another slapchop style infomercial spokesman.

    15) By the way, if a wedding ring is what guards against the evils of divorce then the marriage was over before it ever began. My band is NOT a talisman that prevents others from coming between my marriage and I. I am the sentry that prevents others from coming in. If I go out with my friends and forget to put my band on after I shower, I am not going to suddenly be more susceptible to infidelity. I define my marriage. I define my wedding band. Without me, my band is nothing but a hunk of metal. 16) You are placing far too much importance on the materialistic in an effort to validate your business model of preying on the vanity and relationship insecurities of others. It’s sad.

    • Calla Gold on January 7, 2016 at 11:22 am

      Dear Concordium,
      Thanks for coming to my site and stating your views.
      1. I am an opinionated jeweler.
      2. This is not a pros and cons article. I am speaking to points my young couples either ought to know or might wish to contemplate before making their choices.
      3. I said that your wedding ring may be your most important piece of jewelry. Mine is.
      4. I am more sentimental about my wedding ring than you appear to be. A difference of opinion.
      5. I do not find the patina of delicate scratching to be a negative. You are right in that if no scratches is an attribute you care about gold and platinum aren’t your best bet.
      6. There’s a very good chance that your finger will change size over the life of your marriage. Your heir is unlikely to have the same finger size as you.
      7. I see your point on the quality of tungsten.
      8. Yup.
      9. Again, scratches are a problem for you so a gold or platinum are not going to make you happy. My experience has been that my clients are fine with the development of a nice patina on their gold rings. Platinum, not so much.
      10. I agree that people aren’t going to take a hammer to their wedding bands.
      11. I watched the video. It’s big sell is that if you hammer tungsten it won’t go out of round and if you hammer gold and platinum they are ruined by becoming oval shaped. Just to set the record straight it is very easy for a jeweler to restore the nice round shape to your gold or platinum band if you choose to hammer it into an oval. Or if you keep hammering it into an oval and are sick of it, get tungsten and bang away.
      12. The fact that malleable metals can withstand more hammering than gold and platinum does not mean they are the better metal choice. I actually wrote a blog about the safety issue of having too strong a metal for your ring. It also includes a video and a story from a couple that had a dangerous experience with an alternate strong metal wedding band. See this post:
      13. Strength in this case can mean a trip to the emergency room.
      14. I actually wrote a follow up piece to this post in a more just the facts ma’am way:
      15. I like that you hold the line on your successfully marriedness whether wearing your wedding band or not. Same here.
      16. I am informing people that alternate metals have limitations and not to assume that an alternate metal band is like your dad’s band.
      My intent is not to coax people into spending stupid amounts of money or say that how much you spent is a symbol of your level of love. I’m saying before you buy tungsten and titanium be sure you are both OK with the fact that changing it isn’t an option and it’s a lot harder to remove in an emergency.
      My husband added in the bit about the talisman and I liked it. You can chuck that part for you. I know I find looking down at my wedding ring makes me feel good.
      May your marriage be long and happy and your wedding band fit well.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  200. Concordium on January 7, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    My issue is that you do actually coax people into one specific direction that while simultaneously claiming that you do not. If you want young newlyweds to be informed then you should be writing an informative article. Not a biased advertisement piece. Otherwise, you should advertise it as a biased advertisement piece instead of trying to tell us that you are providing “points my young couples either ought to know or might wish to contemplate before making their choices.” Your own article is negating that which you claimed in your response.

    Now my focus will shift to the story regarding removing a hard metal ring from a finger in an emergency situation. First of all, in this blog you talked about how Tungsten was so brittle that it can shatter just by dropping it on the floor. If it is so easily broken then why is it such a problem to get it off your hand? If your claim is true then just whack it firmly with a small hammer and it should break right off your finger. Right? That’s much quicker than going to a jeweler or ER and having it sawed off. Now, as we both know, despite your claim in this blog, high quality Tungsten rings are actually harder and will not break by simply dropping them on the floor. So the aforementioned strategy will not work. However, removing a Tungsten ring from your finger is still easier to do than with gold or platinum. Why? Well, most guys have a vise grip somewhere in their garage. Take a vise grip and progressively tighten it until it puts enough pressure on the ring to break it. Vise grips are built specifically to put large amounts of pressure onto objects. I have included two videos of this being done. One of those videos has a volunteer who actually puts the ring on his finger and then into the vise. Again, you are not providing accurate information about the qualities of Tungsten. You are instilling fear into consumers that is not an existant fear at all. You are using this misinformation to steer people toward gold & platinum.

    Removing a Tungsten ring:

    Furthermore, your updated article does nothing but continue where this one left off. It continued spreading incorrect information and warding off anyone who may have been contemplating a Tungsten/Titanium band. Again, you’re telling people to stay away from these metals because of hazards that do not exist. It will take me less time to grab my vise grip and crack my Tungsten ring off of my finger than it will for me to get to a jeweler/ER and have a gold ring sawed off my finger. Individuals who have fingers that swell and sit there with their fingers stuck overnight are people who are lacking the knowledge of what they purchased. If I’m in the woods and get stung by a wasp and my finger starts to swell up I will be grabbing two rocks, which are EVERYWHERE on this planet, put one under my ring finger and use the other to firmly strike the exterior of the ring on the top and bottom. It will not take long to break the ring this way. Especially if both rocks have a slight ridge on them to focus the energy. In that way, I don’t even have to leave my trip. I can just break my ring off, put ice on my sting, and go back to enjoying the outdoors with my wife.

    The issue here is consumer knowledge. If someone buys a Tungsten ring they need to know their options for removing it just like they would need to know their options for removing a gold/platinum ring. But you’re not spreading knowledge….you’re spreading biased opinions that just so happen to be what your business revolves around. How convenient that your business thrives on jewelry design and repair….but you steer new consumers away from rings that you will not be able to design, nor repair. I’m all for advertising for whatever it is a person’s business thrives on. But you should at least have some integrity while doing it. You’re just misleading people with both of your articles so that they can come to you and give you their business when, in reality, they could have been just as happy, or even happier, with a Tungsten or Titanium ring.

    My band makes me feel good too. I am out of the house 14 hours out of the day. I love looking down at my band and being able to take a few minutes to think about how happy I my life is. But my life would be just as happy without the band because the woman is what makes me happy. The ring is nothing more than a looking glass to her. As is the many things I keep close to me that remind me of her. Placing all of this shallow significance of how Tungsten shatters and so your marriage will shatter is ridiculous and only serves to enable to plague of divorces we see nowadays. We place so much emphasis on the symbolism of rings and the materialistic nature of flowers, extravagant weddings, white dresses, etc. that people have become blind to the real meaning of marriage and how it works. This article only serves to encourage such backwards thinking. Just like the “A diamond is forever” commercials. No, a diamond is for as long as you can tolerate each other within the superficial relationship you actually have while thinking about the endless love relationship you wish you had.

    Anyway, that’s my $.02. I’d just really appreciate it if you owned up to what you’re doing here. You’re posting online commercials for your specific business. Promoting your niche and libeling that of others like Tungsten and Titanium. It’s like a bad presidential campaign ad, trash talking the competition. As a fellow person that owns a business providing a service to people, I prefer that my customers remain well informed, even if that means they don’t require my services.

    • Calla Gold on January 8, 2016 at 10:56 am

      Dear Concordium,
      I spoke to my purpose in writing this blog in my earlier response to you, regarding why I wrote this post.
      You have made good points in your comments to me and they elevate and expand the points to view beyond what I wrote. My commenters have opinions and information that they add to the conversation and you have certainly added well thought out points to the dialogue.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  201. Concordium on January 7, 2016 at 12:26 pm

    One more thing, most reputable places provide lifetime warranties for their Tungsten rings. If they break, they will be replaced. So you won’t have to purchase an entirely new ring.

    • Calla Gold on January 8, 2016 at 10:42 am

      Hello Concordium,
      I am aware of these lifetime warranties. I am reminded of a company that had lifetime gaurantees on invisible set diamond designs. I thought to myself, “how is that going to work?” Invisible set diamonds will fall out with a direct hit. Having no prongs and being set from underneath is of course less protective of the diamonds. They conveniently went out of business about five years later.
      I’m not saying that your alternate metals ring makers would do that, but the future is after all in the future. One big difference is that alternate metals are less expensive than diamonds.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  202. Concordium on January 7, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    One final thing:

    Your article about Moissanite is much more of an informative article than this one about Tungsten rings. You use the words “depends” a lot, thereby allowing the reader to determine whether their desire fits with what aspects that particular stone has to offer. You give pros and cons for Moissanite as well as diamonds. You list some similarities between diamonds and Moissanite as well as differences. You put the information out there on the table for the consumer to pick up and apply to their own specific situation. You give them a guide on how to choose the desired stone and a guide on how to offset the color brilliance of a moissanite stone compared to a diamond. You talk about price points, endurance, quality differences, etc. You touch on a lot of informative aspects of moissanite and how it compares to diamonds. You didn’t do any of that in this article. Which sucks. Because from reading your Moissanite article, it seems like you really know your stuff. Your knowledge would be better served writing informative articles like that rather than biased advertisements like this one. I hope, one day, you can write an unbiased, and informative, article about all the various types of
    metals, like you did with Moissanite. I really enjoyed reading that article.

  203. ed on January 13, 2016 at 10:44 am

    Well, I find the ring thing absolutely unneeded.
    What do I need any sort of metall to symbolize anything?
    Its a waste of money, be it wedding band, e-ring or as a matter any sort of jewellery is useless blunder thats just a waste of money!
    If you resell it you dont even get half the horrible price you payed!
    So if think you this sort of simbolic stuff get titanium, its at least a cool metal.
    Also consider the ethical and environmental impact of something as useless as jewellery, talking blood dimonds, destruction of rainforests for mining stones, gold mining with poisenous arsenic that contaminates rivers and native people. Think if you aquired much less useless blunder this world might be nicer place.

    • Calla Gold on January 14, 2016 at 10:26 am

      Dear Ed,
      I do not think that my purpose is to live to work and to not spend much money because the gas I buy hurts one group and the coffee I buy hurts another and the hybrid care I drive has environmental issues with the battery. You can find an underbelly on unsavory detail in many industries. Am I going to go off the grid because of the possible effects each choice I make could create? No, I am going to try to buy local, shop green and help my community. Am I going to forgo a wedding ring because someone feels it’s not a green choice? Uh, no.
      One of the disturbing things I see in this informational economy for example on a Reddit/jewelry thread is some sweet young guy who is in love and wants people’s opinion about a ring he is thinking of purchasing. I go there to give advice like don’t get her a cz and why. I’ll see this string of comments like, engagement rings are a waste of money, she doesn’t need it, too expensive, get her a silver ring it’s cheaper and all kinds of don’t spend any money messages. I ask you why do we work, have careers and make money if once we get it we spend all our time stratigizing on how not to “waste” it? Do business people not have a right to make a living? Are you going to buy everything made in China off Amazon so the business person down the street can go out of business because it’s all about no one can charge a profit?
      I save up my money to get things to make my family happy. Gifts for my husband, an education for my son and caring for issues that are dear to me.
      Wedding jewelry is the most important jewelry in my mind. My wedding jewelry tells someone I am married so don’t waste your time. It makes me feel loved. It is the one thing I wear every day. I love it and it makes me happy. That is why you choose carefully what that wedding jewelry will be, because that is one of the many ways you say, “I join my life to yours in love and partnership and with this symbol I give you my love and my promise to be there for you now and ever.” It symbolizes what is most important in my life. Am I going to say, “yeah I could afford a nice one, but it’s cheaper to give you this cheap metal so I’m going to do that?” No I am not going to go there.
      Yeah, I’m rambling, so enough of that.
      Not Your Personal Jeweler,

  204. ed on January 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm

    Well,if a piece of metal tells you your loved and keeps others away, and not your saying sorry Im married, then if it makes you happy, fine.
    To me its an antiquated symbol of possesion of the person, my wife hates erings, wedding rings and any sort of jewellery present, she says that it insults her intelect getting jewellery as present!

  205. Brett Peabody on January 20, 2016 at 12:50 pm

    ALL SHE IS SAYING IS THAT TITANIUM AND TUNGSTEN RINGS CANNOT BE RESIZED BY MELTING A PIECE OUT OF OR INTO THE RING ITSELF. Almost everyone on here is missing the point. She is informing consumers of this important fact. (Thank you by the way.) I agree with her, a wedding ring has sentimental value, no matter what it is made of. Of course you can buy another one if the need arises, but then how do you stop believing the first one isn’t special anymore? The ideal situation is to use the old ring in the formation of a new ring. Some people don’t hold a special significance to the original ring, and prefer to buy another one. She is not speaking to those people. She is making a single point. Either you are capable of grasping it, or you are not.

    • Calla Gold on January 20, 2016 at 8:38 pm

      Brett, my knight in shining armor. I thank you kind sir.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  206. Melissa on February 3, 2016 at 6:57 am

    I don’t think people are missing her point. I think people are getting caught up on her very uppity, snooty, and judgmental attitude toward alternative metals. One woman asked her thoughts on tungsten for now with a later upgrade to gold, and the first sentence in her reply was: you don’t seem bothered by the fact that his wedding ring won’t be forever. Geez, judgy much? When I got married I got a white gold band with diamond inlay, my husband got a pretty cool looking titanium band. The reason? Because he hates jewelry, and couldn’t bear the idea of wearing a ring on his finger, which he finds gaudy, and he hated how they all felt. I do not believe that the ring is the most important part of the marriage. It is our commitment to each other that matters, and the ring is just a symbol of this. The supposed “value” of a gold ring is superficial. What is more representative of a strong bond than a strong metal such as titanium? I told him to chose whichever ring he liked the most, look and feel wise, and he chose titanium because it is so lightweight he can barely feel it (therefore less inclined to remove it due to irritation) and it is a gunmetal color that looks pretty awesome and cool. My ring on the other hand, hasn’t been worn in years. I did gain weight when I was pregnant, and I have had the stupid thing resized twice but I just doesn’t feel right. So much for the symbol of marriage when I never even wear it! For our anniversary we will be getting new bands, and I am getting titanium this time. Less costly, cooler looking, and more comfortable. Why on earth would I not?? And I don’t think it really matters if it’s the same ring you are married with or that you pass it down to your kids. I’m not trying to create an heirloom, I’m wearing it for me. And what really matters is that you wear it, and like it. The end! Considering you’ve been defending this blog for 3 years, you may want to consider taking down this post, or at least revising it so you sound less superficial and judgmental. Just saying.

    • Calla Gold on February 3, 2016 at 7:37 am

      Hello Melissa,
      Thank you for your views. My views are my views. I am a sentimental person and I love jewelry. This blog post is written through that lens. I had no idea when I wrote it that infusing my opinion and sentimentality would be such a cause of ire in some of my readers. In response to my commenters I wrote a follow up blog on the topic:
      On my blog planner is a “pros and cons of tungsten and titanium vs gold and platinum” post. It will come out in the next couple of months. I’ll try to be clinical and factual. Which bores me since I am who I am, but I also like to listen to my readers whom I do appreciate.
      And for the record there are pros to titanium and tungsten. I get it that not everyone feels the way I do about wedding rings. Interestingly the clients I am in contact with in my local area are often on my same sentimental page about wedding bands. But evidently what I observe locally doesn’t apply in other areas.
      I’m so pleased that you and your husband love each other greatly and are getting new bands to celebrate your love. And you are right it’s your ring and your kids and can get whatever they want in their time and you don’t owe them a ring.
      I had inherited my grandfather’s wedding band. It was the worst loss when I was robbed (yay, renter’s life). But I digress.
      The love is the same no matter the ring you wear. I do know that and don’t mean to come off as judgy.
      Enjoy a long and happy marriage whatever you choose to wear as wedding bands.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  207. Ashley Schaffer on February 21, 2016 at 1:12 am

    As a person who is in metal investment, I can say, that most of your “wedding” rings have very little actual metal in them or value. You wouldn’t believe the amount of these rings we buy for scrap metal. So, if you are interested in paying $2500 for a ring with $56 dollars worth of gold, be my guest. Or, you can get a decent value and go titanium or tungsten. A sound financial choice would be to buy less expensive rings and invest your money in actual 99.999 gold bullion. It’s something worth actually passing on to your children and increases value over time. Also, let’s consider the facts on sizing. I started my career in metal as goldsmith. If you need to size up, as of 2/21/16, you’re looking at a $160 dollar job. Save your money. Also, for anyone reading this, another piece of sound advice…. don’t buy diamonds. They aren’t rare, they are just controlled by a monopoly run by DeBeers. I believe they aren’t even allowed to directly sell to the United States on account of our monopoly laws. Sincerely, a person giving it to you straight about metal from the fine state of North Dakota. P.S. Don’t forget, jewelry prices are negotiable.

    • Calla Gold on February 21, 2016 at 7:28 pm

      Hello Ashley,
      The scrap metal value of a car is way less that the retail value of the car. That is because of the manufacturing process in making the car. The scrap metal won’t drive you to work so who would prefer scrap metal to a car?
      The scrap metal value of a ring is of course less than a finished ring. You have no idea of how much time and effort go into the making of each of the engagement and wedding rings I make. I lavish the detailed attention to give my couples their dream ring.
      If someone paid $2500.00 for a ring and sold it to you for $56.00 they clearly had gemstones in it that they removed as otherwise the difference would be criminal. So that is a big noisy and unrealistic example.
      I personally don’t say I love you with a lump of bullion. The whole point of giving someone you love an engagement ring is to show love, commitment and romance. A marriage isn’t a business arrangement, so giving a stock certificate won’t work.
      De Beers and their monopoly is old dead news. Their monopoly ended decades ago. Look it up. DeBeers sells diamonds in the US under the Forevermark label.
      Wedding rings are for love. Investment is for investment. It’s not to same.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  208. Patrick on February 25, 2016 at 12:12 am

    Tungsten Carbide ring jealousy… That’s all this article is.

    • Calla Gold on February 26, 2016 at 8:51 am

      Hello Patrick,
      If I was jealous of tungsten carbide I’d sell the stuff. I’d wear the stuff. But that’s not how I roll. I’m all about the noble metals.
      May you enjoy your tungsten carbide since it sounds like that is your choice.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  209. chris on February 25, 2016 at 11:01 am

    Ashley is saying the correct thing.
    Try reselling the thing, you will not believe it!
    Jewellery is in generall a rip oft!

    • Calla Gold on February 26, 2016 at 8:49 am

      Hello Chris,
      I agree that you do not buy a carefully crafted engagement ring as an investment. Nor are jewelers charities, they are artisan business people, making a living and providing jobs and spending money in your community just like you.
      Jewelry is not a rip off. However if your loving dreams have been ripped asunder and that pretty ring didn’t help you have a happy ending I’d imagine you’d be pretty bitter.
      But let’s not compare a stock certificate with an engagement ring. They are not the same thing.
      I wish you better luck in your next A) relationship or B) ring choice.
      Thank you for weighing in with your opinion.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  210. Jason on February 29, 2016 at 2:23 pm

    I used to have a gold wedding ring, but unfortunately I lost it. Since the losing of my ring was obviously a sign that my marriage wouldn’t last, I ran straight home and divorced my wife, because, you know, the ring was a token of magical power and the only thing that could possibly keep my marriage from failing, as you well know as you mentioned the magical properties of wedding rings in your incredibly unbiased and informative blog.. Now I have a tungsten ring and since my finger size has changed soooo much, as you obviously know since you mention it 847 times in your incredibly unbiased informative blog, the ring wont come off. But that’s a good thing right? It must mean that my wife and I will be married forever. Unless of course I brush my had against a wall and my ring SHATTERS into a million pieces, as we all know now that tungsten is prone to do, thanks to your incredibly unbiased and informative article. Hey I was thinking, maybe you can start composing blogs for the pharmaceutical companies explaining how name brands are vastly superior to the exact same generic drug because, well they are name brand, and even more importantly, because they are sooo much more expensive. Because, as your incredibly unbiased and informative blog informs us, if something is more expensive, it must be better. Money is love right. Hey quick question, if my ring does shatter, will I or my wife actually shatter, or combust or something, or will the marriage just end? Take your time, consult your spell books.

    • Calla Gold on March 3, 2016 at 7:39 am

      Dear Jason,
      So sorry to hear about your divorce. I didn’t realize that having an opinion on my blog could cause such a literal reaction in one of my readers. Yes I am biased, the whole point of that blog was my stepping up on my soap box about titanium and tungsten for daily wear wedding bands. And saying I say no to titanium and tungsten and this is why I feel that way.
      I got some static about it and wrote another less opinionated version. People barely comment on that one. It seems that the opinionated one is the one that gets all the love, or hate or whatever is going on that it gets more comments than any of my less opinionated and more educational blog posts.
      I’m thinking if your tungsten rings shatters, and you have to get the really cheap kind because the nicer quality ones don’t shatter when you drop them, (I didn’t realize that there were different grades when I first wrote this.) then I think spontaneous combustion is what happens to you. Or maybe you go up in a poof of smoke. Hmmm, possibly your head explodes from all the biased information you’ve been reading and there isn’t any more room in there?
      But seriously, I do cop to being biased and giving my opinion in this article. Yes, I was ticked off on behalf of a number of clients who were none too pleased to have bought a wedding band that couldn’t be sized. One guy was kind of angry with me. He said, “Look I ordered this ring custom made with inlay and there are no returns. It doesn’t frigging fit. One of you people sized me and it doesn’t fit.”
      This was said as if all jewelers are the same and I was to blame because he couldn’t get his custom ring on.
      “Now you’re telling me it can’t be sized? What kind of frigging jeweler are you?”
      I explained to him that alternate metals can’t be sized. I did mention that a shim can be put in titanium to make it thicker and feel snugger or it can be ground a bit to make it a bit bigger, but that that was machine shop work and not jeweler work.
      He argued with me about it. And insulted my skills as a jeweler. Maybe because of my thick skin I just let him vent. It was a phone call and I knew I could always hang up.
      He finally got it that alternate metals were manufactured in a different way and couldn’t be heat worked like gold and platinum.
      I sent him my blog post explaining that finger measuring had to take into account the width of the ring to be worn and that wide rings needed to be larger than narrow rings. He calmed down and decided that all jewelers were not crooks or whatever he’d been thinking.
      I’d been meaning to write a blog letting people know about the sizing problem. From what I was hearing from people calling me with alternate metal ring problems when they went online to order the alternate metal rings they were missing the memo on this sizing issue.
      I went on a bit about how special gold and platinum are. Yes I did that because it is what I believe.
      I’m not going to apologize for giving my opinion on my own blog. I will however let you know that in my blog calendar is a post with the pros and cons of titanium and tungsten vs gold and platinum. As a pro and con blog I will try super hard to keep my opinion out of it. Keep an eye on my blog for it and let me know if I managed it.
      May you and your wife and your sense of humor last long in this funny life.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  211. Walter W. on March 15, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    In an EMERGENCY, could you remove a ring with tools?… First please, what are the home remedies you recommend?… Then, what is your in-shop tool method? . . . Thanks for all your outstanding wonderful posts!

    • Calla Gold on March 16, 2016 at 6:15 am

      Hello Walter,
      If I got an emergency call from someone trapped in their titanium ring I’d have then call our local emergency room. I’d also refer them to my blog post with suggestions like using crushed ice to slim the finger, etc:
      I did a ring removal without tools in the woods once, in this post I detail the steps we took:
      When I removed a ring I use the hand turned ring saw which works great on gold and platinum, but not titanium. You need an electric rotary ring saw at a hospital. Some Fire Departments also have this piece of equipment.
      I appreciate your kind words about my blog.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  212. KDoGG on March 22, 2016 at 10:10 am

    Wow, there are a lot of funny posts on here about this article. Lol I like gold but dang, titanium or tungsten is a real man’s ring.

    By the way, I have a thick two tone gold ring to sell that I bought when married to my crazy ex-wife. Do you know where I can get a titanium ring? Willing to trade the gold one in for the titanium. Nice! Haha

    • Calla Gold on March 22, 2016 at 8:04 pm

      Hello KDogg,
      I have heard that the comment thread is a source of amusement and amazement for my readers. Since I do not sell titanium I can’t tell you who does. Your gold is probably going to give you more monetary value than the cost of a titanium band. Google local jewelers in your area who sell titanium bands, call them and see if they buy gold. Find out what they’ll give you for your gold rather than just offering it in trade for the titanium band that you’d like to have.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

      • KDoGG on March 24, 2016 at 1:48 pm

        I took my 14k gold ring to a jeweler the other day and it was so scratched up that they just gave me the melted refined value of the gold and then I purchased a tungsten ring. It’s awesome, looking forward to not having scratches all over the ring or always having to take it in for a buffing.

        The ring is a symbol, I agree, but it’s the marriage and the symbol that’s important not the specific material of the item.

        By the way, I didn’t pay any extra for a lifetime warranty on my tungsten carbide ring so if it ever breaks (not likely) or my fingers change, I can get a new one for no charge. The underhanded and ingenious ad campaign of the Debeers company created a demand and monopoly for diamonds. With the exception of industrial applications, diamonds are quite intrinsically worthless. In fact, my tungsten carbide has far more applications than diamond. Man, Debeers was smart with their ad campaign.

        Again, it’s the symbol that is important not actual material item. Although, I have nothing against gold, what a great metal.

        • Calla Gold on March 25, 2016 at 9:09 am

          Hello KDoGG,
          Thanks for telling me what you ended up doing with your 14kt gold ring.
          For the record DeBeers diamond ad campaign was decades ago and they haven’t advertised since about the 80’s when their diamond monopoly was broken up due to contracts not being signed for them to control the diamond sales for Russia and Australia to name a few. Canada never used DeBeers to sell their diamonds.
          The demand that DeBeers ads attempted to create with their ad campaign was successful because diamonds are the best gemstone for daily wear due to the fact that they still sparkle prettily even when dirty and they still stay strong when others scratch and chip. If they were selling an inferior item it never would have taken hold.
          Tungsten may be able to be used to make cars, rockets and satellites which diamonds do not, but what does that have to do with the appeal and lasting awesomeness of diamonds for wedding rings anyway?
          I do agree with you that whatever you wear for wedding jewelry, it is a symbol that stands for the much more important love that you feel for your spouse.
          Your Personal Jeweler,

          • KDoGG on March 28, 2016 at 1:55 pm

            Hi Calla,

            I only mentioned Debeers company because they had a monopoly on the diamond industry for over 80 years and created a demand when none existed before. They also supremely inflated the industry until they basically brainwashed the country into thinking a marriage was not complete until you put a diamond on your fiance’s finger. Hogwash. I was around in the 80s when they were still going strong on their campaigns so I witnessed some of it first hand. Unfortunately, their ad campaign stuck and created generations of people who felt they had to have diamonds and would never sell them or put back on the market. They also artifically increased the value with ridiculous insane Mark ups but I guess that is capitalism for us. Oh well. Let’s not even delve into the genocidal actions involved in mining diamonds and the thousands of people that are killed each day by the blood diamond industry (think Africa).

            My tungsten ring is just as shiny as a gold or platinum band by the way and it’ll never scratch up. I like that. Do buy tungsten or titanium rings, don’t be afraid of what other people might say or think. Again, your promise and commitment to your spouse is what is really important.

            And thanks for posting contrary facts and opinions to your own. It shows that you have integrity.

          • Calla Gold on March 29, 2016 at 8:52 pm

            Hello KDoGG,
            Thanks for coming back. Before DeBeers came up with their advertising campaign that increased demand and use of diamonds for engagement ring people did choose them, but in smaller numbers. I do not subscribe to your opinion that we were brainwashed by DeBeers. Plenty of people have cornered markets and tried to raise demand and prices. Remember the Hunt brothers and the silver gambit where they lost a lot of their fortune because they created a short term monopoly? It didn’t work because you can’t make people buy things and embrace things because you say so. People tried diamonds and liked them and told their friends who liked them and their awesomeness created a lasting desire for them.
            There is a dirty underbelly in the diamond industry which is being combated on many fronts. As there is in the oil and gasoline industry. But that isn’t the whole story. Schools and roads and health clinics and schools are quietly created as well.
            Your tungsten ring is a shiny wonder and may you enjoy it. People will desire the symbol they desire for love. Me I like diamonds, you, you like tungsten, me I like my little scratches that show a life well lived, you prefer and smooth not scratched surface. That’s fine.

            I appreciate your comment on my integrity which I deeply appreciate. I like that you are a good communicator. We can like what we like and love whom we love and symbolize it in our individual way. My your love last long and may you be happy.
            Your Personal Jeweler,

  213. Wedding Bands on March 25, 2016 at 6:13 am

    Oops!! Is tungsten or titanium not good for our selves? I hadn’t an idea about it. But you have shared an informative post for tungsten and palladium lovers. This post is like an alert message for them as I think. I would like to make the people aware of tungsten and palladium jewelries. Thanks calla.

    • Calla Gold on March 25, 2016 at 8:55 am

      Dear Wedding Band Site,
      Thank you for writing. Happy to talk about titanium and tungsten anytime. My palladium blog post is being edited and will be out in the next two months.
      Calla Gold

  214. Joel on April 8, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    Hi Calla, thank you for your insight and being objective on tungsten and titanium. To each is their own and it is the gesture that’s is important. That said however I am pretty sure my spark plugs are made of titanium. Tungsten and titanium appeal to demographic with less focus on Nobel metals or the idea of a eternal material. The beauty and feel of gold is undeniable.

    I read a post above about someone who is allergic to gold…that baffles me.

    People please consider what you doing before you buy a polished black ring for a $100 that looks like it was sold at hot topic. Have a little class.

    • Calla Gold on April 9, 2016 at 8:08 am

      Hi Joel,
      Thank you for your comments. Are you saying that car guys will prefer titanium?
      About that person allergic to gold, I’m thinking it is an alloy in the gold that she reacts to.
      Thanks for warning people about that black $100.00 ring. For dang sure it can’t be sized.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  215. Jo on April 11, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Jewely is a fine craft with beautiful artwork, but a luxury good. Deeming a married couple inferior or tasteless based on the quality of their rings is one of the most naive things I have ever heard of. Heck, we’ll probably get ours from Wal-Mart. I’ll make sure that his is tungsten, though, for safety since he works with a lot of heavy machinery. I worry much more about that than about “symbolism of eternity.”

    • Calla Gold on April 13, 2016 at 6:41 am

      Hello Jo,
      I don’t recall mentioning tasteless or inferior in my blog post. But granted it has been a while since I penned this little warning post about tungsten and titanium. But seriously, I know jewelry is a luxury item, I also know that many of my clients are sentimental about their rings. I want them to know about the difficulty and or impossibility of sizing which would ultimately, down the line, deprive them of wearing their ring. If you’re cool with that, then my job is done, you are informed and choose not to fuss about it and that’s fine.
      I think with your man working with heavy machinery tungsten is a good choice.
      Thanks for sharing your views.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  216. Jon on May 3, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    I think this article is crap. Sorry but your seeing the takeover of tungsten being the new metal to buy. It shines like white gold but does not scratch or tarnish. It also will not clamp on my finger like gold it will shatter ( believe me, I broke my fingers by dropping a steel block on my hand, the ring instead of clamping around my finger shattered. You are telling people buy my gold because of sentimental reasons? Anyone with a brain would realize you are targeting tungsten because its cutting in your sales. Greed Greed Greed that’s what gave you the incentive to write this rubbish. My rings tungsten, my watch is tungsten, my necklace Is tungsten and all I get is compliments, and I don’t need to bring It to someone like you to clean it or fix a huge gauge in it, I just use a rag and quickly go over it and BOOM looks like its right out of the box. Yep, clearly u are thinking about money and not your customers. $$$$$$

    • Calla Gold on May 4, 2016 at 6:40 am

      Hello Jon,
      What do you really feel? No seriously, you are entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to my sentimental ways. I’ll cop to it, I am a romantic and sentimental person. I’ve had my wedding jewelry sized numerous times, like when I was pregnant and after I had my son.
      I personally love yellow gold.
      It sounds like you have found the ring of your dreams and the metal of your dreams, clearly at the price of your dreams. Good for you.
      It may or may not have registered, but most of the people reading my blog are out of my Santa Barbara area and are not buying from me. But their need for information from which to make an informed choice is important to me. That is my purpose in writing it.
      I am merely speaking to wedding band choices because I know a couple will wish to wear their wedding bands for their whole life.
      I think tungsten watches and necklaces are great. It’s just that as a wedding band choice, I feel it is not a great choice because it cannot change size like your fingers might over time and it’s nice to wear the ring you swore your vows over.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  217. Munki on May 4, 2016 at 6:28 am

    Absolutely ridiculous article,
    Precious metals are over priced by greedy conglomerates.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with Titanium or Tungsten.
    Attempting to scare individuals with a few articles of individuals who have had their fingers damaged by said rings does not merit discouraging ownership of these rings.

    Fact is a ring is a gesture/symbol of commitment, price should be negligible.

    • Calla Gold on May 5, 2016 at 7:02 am

      Hello Munki,
      Thank you for weighing in about metals in this conversation. I happen to love gold, buttery yellow gold. Not everyone shares my enthusiasm. Some prefer platinum or white gold. And some like you like alternate less expensive metals. I’ve run into people who assume that as a jeweler I can do my jeweler magic on any metal they choose to buy. The fact that titanium for example is worked in a more machine shop environment and cannot be heat worked like gold, silver and platinum is not always a known factor to people choosing these metals.
      I want them to know that I cannot work these alternate metals. For a life long ring that may me a fact they would wish to know before they choose a wedding band that they’ll be wearing for years to come.
      A ring certainly is a symbol of love. This is not about price. It’s about what changes that metal can be expected to allow. It’s about knowing that one choice is less expensive and may need to be replaced one or more times when fingers change in the future. And another choice is more expensive but can be changed so you can wear it, love it, change it and pass it on, to in its turn be changed and worn by another generation.
      My task is to inform. Not to change your mind, but to present a viewpoint. The choice is yours.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  218. Shane on May 7, 2016 at 11:48 pm

    First let me start by saying I am the manager of multiple locations of a private jewelry company.

    I sell all types of wedding bands and engagement rings to couples when I do work the stores. While gold, platinum, or silver are most definitely favorites for women. Tungsten or Titanium are far more sought after by men.

    I show Tungsten bands to people every single day. I find it funny that you mention it can break so easily with a hammer or by just dropping it. I have personally seen people take hammers to tungsten rings over the years only to be left without a single scratch and while maintaining its shape. Yes there are obviously exceptions to this. As with any type of jewelry things sometimes happen. But the durability of Tungsten far outweighs that of gold. On the Mohs scale Gold gets a 4, Titanim a 6, Tungsten grades at an 8-9.

    I get that Tungsten can not be sized. For women gold is a solid choice for a band especially if they plan to have children. The swelling of fingers during pregnancy can often lead them having to go up a size or two on their ring finger.

    I will continue to recommend Tungsten bands to people who work a lot with their hands and even as a jeweler I have a tungsten band for my wedding band. It still has the same shine as the day I got it without a single scratch.

    To add one more thing. I’ve seen people talking about the mark up on gold and other products that jewelers charge. Most stores require a 300% mark up from what they paid for items in order to make the business profitable. I’ll give people some free advice. Most jewelry stores will ask for $100 per gram for gold in their price tags. Some will do less. However, most will also take $50 per gram bottom dollar. This does not include any diamonds or other stones that may be present in the piece. When A jeweler takes $50 per gram for gold, I can’t honestly tell you not much profit is being made off that item. Most jewelry stores make the bulk of their profits off of 925 silver, stainless steel, titanium, or tungsten even though these items are sold at a lower price then gold.

    • Calla Gold on May 9, 2016 at 8:48 pm

      Hello Shane,
      Thanks for your jeweler’s voice in these comments, you are most welcome here. The part about tungsten breaking is only happening from what I’ve heard poor quality creation of rings. So I say here that this is not common. For the people who have dropped the tungsten ring and had it break it is a shock. But again not a common occurrence. Regarding the MOHS scale of hardness. Brittleness isn’t measured and tungsten does have a brittleness to its make up, which is why they use vise like devices to remove them in hospitals if you get stuck in one. It is quite something in the scratch resistance department for sure. I did mention that in a follow up pros and cons of gold, platinum, titanium and tungsten blog post:
      It’s true that the mark up can be higher on less expensive alternate metals than gold which is basically much more expensive as a metal.
      Your Fellow Jeweler,
      Calla Gold

  219. Jdub on May 8, 2016 at 5:49 pm

    This is easily the least informative thing I’ve ever read.

  220. Cal on May 13, 2016 at 1:00 pm

    Interesting article and thank you for all your responses. I would however put forth that the opinion of the article does lend itself towards pushing someone into purchasing something above their means. Like Martha Stewart insisting you should only purchase cashmere or an automobile reviewer only recommending porsche. A bit irresponsible perhaps.

    • Calla Gold on May 14, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      Hello Cal,
      I’m thinking my smart readers can decide for themselves what is right for them. Many of my readers tell me they are deciding on alternate metals. My point is to ensure whatever decision they make, they won’t regret it due to not having all the information.
      Hopefully sharing information and opinions here is not irresponsible. That is not my wish.
      My mission is not to make couples overspend. It is to inform.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  221. chris on May 27, 2016 at 12:48 pm


    just to mention, Im happily married since 15 years and my wife was the one who started into titanium because she is very countious about environmental matters. She does not like any jewellery because she says its not needed and still destroys nature. I must say that I agree with her. Then she also had to sell her mothers jewellery after her mother had passed away and was more than surpriesed at the money she was offered for it. It opened my eyes as well and since then, althought I never bought her jewellery (she never wanted any because shes just not into it) we spend our money on other things, like ecological travel and experiences and not some bling that makes others (workers and natives) unhappy.

    • Calla Gold on May 28, 2016 at 7:44 am

      Hello Chris,
      It sounds like you and your wife have a pretty green existence. Good for you. Everyone of us is unique. I happen to be a jewelry loving one of those people and do my Prius driving, farmers market going thing.
      I would imagine your eco travel adventures are really fun. When you’re in the hinterlands adventuring you might get her to leave her titanium wedding band at home because it is much more difficult to remove than gold and platinum.
      I wrote a blog about the dangers of alternate metals from a removal standpoin:
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  222. Ken on June 16, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    White gold was the band of choice in my first marriage. I liked it at first but then had issues with it. It was too soft, constantly getting bent out of shape.

    It had a tiny bit of ledge in the design which would hold residue if I were to do an oil change or anything – constantly using a jewelry cleaning kit.

    Gold scratches easily. It was probably even more visible with the brushed center but made it look tacky in my opinion.

    For some reason, cleaners or abrasive graduals like from car wash soap would get trapped between my ring and finger. It’s like the white gold would hold onto that stuff for some reason. It caused great irritation. I got to where I’d only put my ring on when leaving the house to allow time for my skin to get a break.

    Sizeable, yes but with a caveat…everytime I got it sized (about once every 8 years) I could swear they took gold out of it. I went to what was considered reputable jewelry stores (in the mall or standalone) to do it but I was getting robbed which made my ring bend easier every time I went for sizing.

    I’m looking at getting married again. I’m thinking Cobalt this time. I doubt resizing will be as great of a need at this point in my life. Completely smooth is better to keep clean. Harder than gold…no bending. I’m hoping it won’t cling to abrasive detergents…and now I use rubber gloves for that stuff anyway. I don’t care anything about the monetary value. I do care about the quality, longevity, luster, and the maintenance free factors.

    • Calla Gold on June 16, 2016 at 8:03 pm

      Hi Ken,
      Thank you for sharing your experiences. As a rule when I make wedding bands for men I like to have a depth of at least 2mm, as these don’t bend. But if you have a wedding closer to 1mm deep I can see that with your active work lifestyle it could bend and otherwise be problematic. One of my blog posts talks about daily wear rings vs occasion wear rings:
      Unfortunately for your situation it’s more about ladies rings, but the concepts are the same.
      My point being if a daily ring is made daily ring strong in gold it shouldn’t have the problems yours did. But I am guessing since I don’t have your ring in front of me.
      There is also your problem with the cleaning products irritating your skin. I have seen this problem mostly with flat inside bands. There is a style called comfort fit which is a convex feel where the ring touches your finger. This is much less likely to trap moisture with soaps in it than the flat inside. When you choose your next ring I’d recommend asking for comfort fit inside so the water will wick away and not be trapped in a moist mess under your ring. This blog has cross section pictures that show the difference between flat inside and comfort fit:
      I didn’t know whether your ring was being expanded or made smaller. Most of the time it is going larger as our fingers tend to expand. One way that sizing can make a ring seem thinner is if your ring is stretched instead of having a gold piece added. I talk about these two sizing methods in this blog:
      I’d say that as we age I notice that I keep getting called by my clients for size alteration. Because we say our vows with a particular ring I recommend choosing a ring that can be altered just in case your finger changes sizes. That way you get to wear the ring that you got married in. It is meaningful to many of my clients.
      A well made, thick enough wedding band will scratch if it’s gold, but it’ll also change with you over the years. Often times your kids value your ring when your gone. Many kids and grandkids size the wedding band of their dad’s and grandfather’s as a meaningful keepsake.
      May your choice of ring metals work well and last long for you. Have a long and happy marriage.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  223. Don on June 26, 2016 at 5:31 am

    Not a lot to say about the subject. Just that i was interested in tungsten when i got married but went with white gold (had yellow gold my first marriage wanted something different this time) tungsten is too heavy. I have smaller hands for a guy so i found them to be heavy and too bulky and actually affected my typing at work. Also not being able to resize them was a big deal breaker.

    • Calla Gold on June 26, 2016 at 6:11 am

      Hi there Don,
      Thank you for adding your viewpoint to this conversation. Tungsten is indeed heavy. Enjoy your white gold wedding band.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  224. Jason on July 4, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    Dear Calla,

    The jewelry industry in and of itself is a.criminal enterprise and will remain so as long as you allow the debeers family to be involved. As for the type of metal a ring is.made of well something like 60% of all marriages end in divorce so the sizing issue is.invalid. Gold.and mans lust for it has caused more death and attrocity than everything except a belief in a god. As americans we have furthered this lust by placing value on a resource that we have a great abundance of but stymie the supply to drive cost.

    • Calla Gold on July 9, 2016 at 8:46 am

      Hello Jason,
      I see you’re not a fan. I’d say you forgot to mention a few other things we’re attached to that involve bad acts to provide it for us, oil, gas, batteries for Prius’s and I could go on.
      I’m thinking that your girl gets a titanium band and when your lust rises up or her finger changes size you’ll divorce her. You might want to mention that on your profile so gold loving girls can give you a pass.
      Let’s agree to disagree about your dark view about an industry the employs many and lifts many to a better state economically and brings much joy.
      Not Your Personal Jeweler,

  225. Drew on July 9, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    I have a gold wedding ring that was my original wedding band. But my job prohibits me from wearing any conductive jewelry. Tungsten was the perfect choice in my case. Like you said, it was 1/10 the price of my original wedding band and this way I don’t get used to not wearing my wedding band. I wear my gold band on the weekends and if we go out for the night. But just to show that there are needs for tungsten rings amongst the working man. I couldn’t see a woman putting diamonds on a tungsten ring though, kinda defeats the purpose of putting something so precious with something that’s frankly mediocre lol.

    • Calla Gold on July 10, 2016 at 6:53 am

      Dear Drew,
      Thank you for your story. Gold is indeed conductive and I’m really pleased that you found a way to wear a wedding ring at work. To me it feels good to wear my wedding ring, whether I’m wearing my normal diamond wedding ring or my plain gold one for bouldering and hiking.
      I appreciate your share here.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  226. Kevin on August 8, 2016 at 11:22 am

    Does this also apply to black zirconium?

    • Calla Gold on August 8, 2016 at 4:44 pm

      Hello Kevin,
      As cool looking, scratch resistant, black and all that that it is, a black zerconium ring cannot be sized. Therefore it is not on my recommended wedding band list. It’d make a great right hand ring.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  227. Kennedy on August 25, 2016 at 8:57 pm

    Tungsten can be resized, the width can be changed the thickness of the ring can be changed and the size can be changed. The ring shatters under intense pressure instead of clasping around your finger cause damage. They are definitely not cheap. Tungsten is considered a rare metal so it’s not like it’s got no value. It’s got plenty of weight. Sure it’s not “traditional” like gold is. But why not be unique? Who said anyone had to be traditional. Just cause its traditional doesn’t mean it’s better. And doesn’t mean that makes it more meaningful. I love my man with all my heart but just because there’s not a gold ring in his finger doesn’t mean our relationship is any less strong than someone else’s. Tungsten is a great metal. And this article just repeats itself 5 times over.

    • Calla Gold on August 27, 2016 at 5:58 pm

      Hello Kennedy,
      Tungsten cannot be sized. This is what Google says about re-sizing tungsten:
      Certain metals, such as Tungsten carbide, will be size exchanged as they cannot be resized due to their extreme hardness.
      Regarding the price of tungsten, this is from ebay:
      When compared to men’s gold jewelry, men’s tungsten jewelry are cheaper. A plain tungsten ring would begin at a price of about $50 while the same ring in gold could easily start at $300 – $400. Gold prices fluctuate while the tungsten price remains more or less the same.
      I am using web references so that I’m not just saying this again.
      If you choose tungsten you should know that it cannot be sized and that is my biggest beef with it. I’m pleased that you love your man. May your marriage last and be very happy.
      Thank you for your visit.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  228. Dave in Glasgow on September 3, 2016 at 2:18 am

    Well having read the posts some things are very clear:

    Cala states many times about the rings value so a few key facts here

    If you have a 1K ring of gold you are going to lose far more money than if you have a £10-200 ring that you need to sell due to spilt up so their logic is very very misleading. Yes gold will be worth more but that is only because you paid a lot more in the first place. A $100 ring might well be worthless but hay thats only $100. Think about how much you lose on a $1000 ring and it will be far more than $100 lol and think of what you could do with money you save.

    2: Love should not be about money so the value is irrelevant. Lets also face it you will only sell it if you split up and as you will lose on ALL wedding rings then it is a terrible investment. So any IFA will tell you to get a cheaper ring and invest what you save!

    3: The posts have 100% out me of Calla as it is clear to even an idiot that this is just trying to promote you spending more money so here is my Tip for people….

    Google how to block a website. This way you will never need to deal with these money grabbers in the future as when / if you make a mistake the site will be blocked.

    4: I know a jeweller and they work on between 100-300% margins so why is anyone shocked about their money grabbing views

    5: I asked on FB how many people had there rings resized and out of 48 reply’s not 1 said yes. They also added that if it did ever need resizing as it was so battered and scratched etc most would buy a new one with their partner and add the current one to a chain or in the box of other keep sake from special days and events ie baby teeth, love tokens etc

    Take these posts for what they are. A shameless Jeweller just trying to make more money by dissing cheaper solutions.

    Please remember to google how to block a website so you never buy from them!

    a shocking blog and google should block pople like this from having websites

    • Calla Gold on September 3, 2016 at 7:32 am

      Hi Dave,
      I am surprised that my opinions and views have made you wish my website would be banned. That’s kind of harsh. For the record I do not sell jewelry through my website, so I am not profiting directly from this blog post through sales on my site.
      I do not look at wedding jewelry as a financial investment, nor do I promote buying your chosen ring as a financial investment. I love my wedding ring and wear it daily and cherish it beyond what someone would pay me for it. As my most meaningful and cherished piece of jewelry I want it to sparkle like our love. I’m all about the love in a relationship and welcome you to choose any metal and gem of your choice. I’d just like you to be informed first. Informed, not convinced.
      As far as your Facebook survey of who needs to have their ring be sized, that is most interesting. I sized about 40 rings in the month of August. I’d say about 15 of them were wedding rings. I write about what I experience as a jeweler and that is the lens I am writing through.
      I know many jewelers and none that I know have anywhere close to a 300% margin. I’d say 50% – 100% would be more in line for the average. Keep in mind that they have staff, trained in the fine art of jewelry to do the work and salespeople who are knowledgeable enough to provide help especially to those who know little about wedding jewelry, traditions and best ideas. In order to pay for staff, rent, training, the stocking of a nice selection and all that demands, they charge a profit margin in order to function as a business. I do not expect the vitamins I buy at my health food store to have no profit margin, nor do I buy a blouse at Nordstrom and get angry to discover that I am not paying wholesale. For the record I could get those vitamins cheaper online, but I like to support my local health food store. They suggest things and answer questions and I want them to flourish.
      Do you consider all the businesses on your block to be money grubbing because they make a profit? Just curious.
      Thank you for sharing your views Dave.
      Not Your Personal Jeweler,

  229. bossman420 on October 12, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    why do you have to argue everyones point. there is absolutely no point. let people have their opinions. you are not always right.

    • Calla Gold on October 12, 2016 at 6:33 pm

      Hello Bossman,
      You are right. My son would certainly agree with you.
      There no argument.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  230. bossman420 on October 12, 2016 at 12:53 pm

    And yes,I know I sound like a child, but one person should not be right all the time. The reason why is because you become arrogant and you MUST refute everyone’s opinion. I have read almost every single comment and somehow you found a way to contradict almost everyone’s opinion. just let it go!!!!!

  231. bossman420 on October 12, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    I’m almost sorry but i just keep reading the comments and they make me more frustrated. i may sound childish, however you sound like the gently reprimanding mother who says that ,im right, and your augment is not important. but you say it in such a way that is sooo ‘sentimental’. an example can be found in almost EVERY disagreeing comment. and when,most likely if, you comment back, please do not act like the superior person, it is kind of annoying.

    • Calla Gold on October 12, 2016 at 6:30 pm

      Hi Bossman,
      I’m sorry you feel my answers are motherly or overly sentimental. I have had people say they appreciate that I respond to commenters. So I try to keep that up. I do not assume that each reader has read all the other comments and my responses. I try to give each person who takes the time to read my blog and comment their own individual response.
      I guess it is inevitable that if something in my style annoys you and you read me respond like I do over and over, you’d be really annoyed. Sorry to annoy you.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  232. Name on October 18, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    Hello, gold lady. I had a good laugh reading your post and this whole thread.

    I like how everyday people and experts point out your misinformation, bias and flaws in your logic and all you reply is like

    “I’m emotional and romantic so your fancy nancy logical points are invalid”

    “I know I’m wrong but I’m a jeweler, not a scientist haha”

    “My article is objectively bad, misinformative, biased but its an opinionated article so whats so wrong about it”

    “I am entitled to my own opinion so why bother correcting wrong facts guys go have fun with your cheap disposable rings”

    I see you’re on damage control mode from people correcting you by replying to every single comment, too bad that it comes as very annoying to many people.

    This post is a great example of bad PR and advertising. I wasn’t even interested in titanium or tungsten rings, I stumbled on this article randomly while researching about titanium. But after reading this post and the comments, the first thing I can conclude was that you came as very entitled and biased to your business. Should have put more thought and effort before making this post.

    • Calla Gold on October 22, 2016 at 6:44 am

      Dear Name,
      That is an excellent collection of “quotes” which are not quotes. I’m glad to have given you a laugh and some entertainment, since you were not interested in titanium in the first place.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  233. Love marriage, hate the indistry on October 24, 2016 at 7:49 am

    I recently got engaged and it was the most enjoyable process ever. Now that we’ve started wedding planning and ring shopping, I can say it is easily the worst experience. You want X, that’s $100. Oh, it’s for a wedding, that will be $1000. You don’t love her unless you spend more money (never mind we aren’t giving you more value).

    I love your counting method. (sarcasm).

    #1 your fingers change size
    #2 your ring can be resized
    #4 your ring can’t be resized.

    Those are the same reasons. So 1 reason so far.

    #3 gold/platinum have value

    So what? My fiance isn’t up for sale. I don’t view her as a price.

    #5 sentimental value. That’s actually the opposite of #3. If the value comes from the sentiment, #3 is now pointless (it’s the sentiment, NOT the value).

    So, basically, you have one valid reason. Good information to know, never mind it’s not entirely accurate information as people have pointed out and you have ignored.

    Over half of marriages end in divorce, and the single biggest cause is not infidelity, growing apart, etc. It’s money. $10k rings and $30k ceremonies, all so the next day you can love each other the exact same amount.

    Your industry is a huge part of setting couples up for failure. Heck, the tradition of the diamond ring was literally created by the diamond industry. If people want a harder material, that’s great. If they want shiny gold, sure.

    Calla, you don’t love your mother unless you buy my product. That is your industry in a nutshell.

    • Calla Gold on October 24, 2016 at 8:34 am

      Hi Bob,
      You certainly seem to have had a terrible experience with my industry. I am sorry that has happened. Clearly you have read the post and the comments and my responses, so I’ll not restate what I’ve already stated. My experience has been very different. My clients come up to me years later and hold up their hands with the rings we designed together and show me their kids. I love my work and the people I meet.
      I have people who do opt for alternate metals. Since I took a stand that they aren’t appropriate, I refer them elsewhere to buy them. If they know of the issues with these metals I’m fine with them choosing them. Just because I wouldn’t choose them is no value judgement from me against them. Any more than their choice of a Nissan and mine of a Toyota doesn’t impair our relationship.
      I wish you had had someone nice and mellow to speak to about your wedding ring choices.
      I wish you and your wife a long and happy marriage.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  234. Oyinsmart on November 12, 2016 at 6:38 am

    I am having a rethink already after reading your article on titanium wedding rings. I will go for gold. Thank you.

    • Calla Gold on November 12, 2016 at 8:07 am

      Hello Oyinsmart,
      I’m happy to know your reaction to the information.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  235. Brian S on November 17, 2016 at 10:18 am


    While I understand your point of view on the metals, I have various rings of various metals that I wear. My wedding band is the “Men’s Blue Diamond Ring, 1/2ct tw Round-Cut Sterling Silver” with a Black rhodium Finish in the channel that holds the 10 blue diamonds.

    It *was* beautiful when we first picked it up, however the Black Rhodium wears off every 2 to 3 months and it goes from looking like a $900 ring to a cheap pawn shop-quality ring.

    I work in IT and Radio so it isn’t like I’m doing much more than typing on a computer most days. My wife has a Black Rhodium-plated necklace with blue diamonds I bought for two years ago and the Rhodium on that hasn’t worn off, but she doesn’t wear it every day either.

    I DO NOT recommend Rhodium plating on a wedding ring that is worn every day. It wears away much too fast in my opinion. Looks great at first but like that cheap auto wax that used car sales lots use on their vehicles, it lasts about as long as it takes to leave the parking lot.

    Honestly, if it is a necklace or rarely worn piece of jewelry, I think Rhodium plating is fine. If it is an everyday ring, stay far away from Rhodium, unless you like going in every 2 months to drop the ring off to get replated. Wait half a month before it is returned, repeat in 2 months.

    I can respect your career choice and totally understand that Rhodium does make a beautiful black finish to make blue diamonds just ‘pop’ when looking at them, however it just doesn’t last.

    I can’t recommend anyone buy a Rhodium plated finish wedding ring.

    • Calla Gold on November 17, 2016 at 9:39 pm

      Hi Brian,
      I totally feel your pain on the black rhodium plated white gold wedding band. That is a disaster if there is no textural element to hold the plating on. Probably best if you love that dark look to keep the fancy one with blue diamonds for going out and ordering a titanium band for daily wear so you have that dark look that you prefer.
      Thanks for sharing your experience and for bringing it over to the black rhodium blog:
      People wanting that darker metal look go there and your story is a cautionary tale and should be read by my readers.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  236. UpNorth61 on November 28, 2016 at 11:09 am

    So you can buy titanium cheap enough to have a couple rings if you needed to change sizes.

    And then there are those of us who can’t wear metal. Titanium works, others I itch like crazy within a few hours of wearing it, and for hours after taking it off. 🙁

    • Calla Gold on November 28, 2016 at 9:08 pm

      Dear Up North,
      It sounds like you are a candidate for titanium.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  237. Jane C on December 18, 2016 at 1:41 pm

    Tungsten carbide is good material. Very loyal in wear application. Should consider use of carbide material in every day wedding band wearing. Please do not use gold because will brake. Tungsten carbide good if don’t have fat fingers. Stay thin.

    • Calla Gold on December 21, 2016 at 7:18 am

      Hello Jane,
      Perhaps this comment is the one you felt I didn’t let through. I haven’t moderated comments in a few days.
      Gold will not break if you get a nice daily wear appropriate style.
      I’ve been sizing grandpa rings lately for young men about to get married. One of them was 60 years old and in great shape.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  238. Jane C on December 18, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    You ignore my comments. Tungsten carbide is good if don’t have fat finger. Stay thin.

    • Calla Gold on December 21, 2016 at 7:16 am

      Hello Jane,
      I generally let anyone’s comment good or bad go through unless it contains profanity, personal attacks that are over the top or is off topic or trying to sell something. I do not recall comments from you that I have refused.
      To your point, our fingers do what they will and our bodies change over time. Just a fact of life.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  239. Manny on December 22, 2016 at 9:23 pm

    SUCH BS! Maybe 1991 when Titanium hit the scene, but in the 2000s for people to since believe that a Titanium ring is any harder to resize or remove than a gold ring it pure ignorance!!! Titanium ring CAN BE CUT!!!

  240. Ashlie on December 24, 2016 at 1:00 am

    I do understand the usefulness of this article pointing out how tungsten breaks, but in many cases, that’s why people are getting tungsten rings. I think people should be made aware of the possibility that tungsten can break but it’s also a lot safer for some people to have it. For example, my fiance is a mechanic in the navy and a couple of the people on his boat have had issues with their gold rings NOT snapping. The downside of working with machinery and wearing a gold ring is that it will bend and crush the finger and cause the person to get, what they call, “de-gloved”. Which is when the skin and muscle gets pulled off the finger. Gross. So many of them prefer tungsten because if it were to get caught in something, it could easily be snapped instead of it getting smashed and squashing the skin on the finger.
    I just think that people should be made aware of the safety pros that comes with wearing tungsten.

    • Calla Gold on December 26, 2016 at 7:30 pm

      Hello Ashlie,
      You certainly have brought a different idea to the table here.
      For the record I’ve heard a number of stories from my clients about rings saving them from breaking a finger with car doors and children doing weird things accidentally to their parents, and their ring saving their finger.
      Now none of these people was a mechanic so I can’t speak to them.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  241. Skip on January 4, 2017 at 8:22 am

    One other thought on the cons of tungsten carbide wedding bands. I have had my wedding band for 5 years now and got it because of the low price and that it is basically indestructible. The first issue was the fading of the shiny finish. I have not been able to find a process online or a jeweler that can bring it back. The second (and biggest) con is one that I seldom see noted or discussed. Since it is second only to a diamond in hardness, tungsten carbide can be very damaging. We bought new stainless kitchen appliances 9 months ago. I have virtually destroyed the handles on both the microwave and the refrigerator. I guess I could get into the habit of opening everything with my right hand, but old habits die hard. While this ring has emotional value, I have no choice but to replace it with white gold and will be doing so soon. Oh well.

    • Calla Gold on January 4, 2017 at 10:54 am

      Hello Skip,
      I really appreciate your bringing up the dark side of high hardness metals. That was something I knew but wasn’t thinking through. I am so impressed with the value of your comment I have added it as an update to the post.
      Thanks for contributing such a key issue that my readers will appreciate adding to their decision making process.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  242. Matthijs on January 8, 2017 at 12:41 am

    Dear Calla,

    Call me a millennial, but I want my ring(s) to be personal and creative, either creating the rings myself, or having it made to my design, giving them a story, something between my wife and me. Popular believe tends to look at love as a one time sealed deal. You marry once and then love stays forever, hence you should get a symbol that lasts forever.

    I’d argue the opposite is true, real love needs to be renewed over and over. A marriage is work, love is work. Both people change year after year. The romance is fun, but it’s not reality, and a lot of new couples break when the realize that love is not something that you don’t have to work on. In 20 years neither one is the same person (mentally nor physically) as the one they married. You grow together, and you rediscover the beauty of your spouse every day again.

    I like my symbol to resemble that. Every time I fall in love again with my wife i’ll give her a new ring, related to why. And this could be any material. maybe sometimes even a wooden ring, or a leather one. A tungsten one or a titanium one.

    I guess what I’m saying is there are more ways to look at this. I don’t see beauty in monetary value, or in comfort. I see beauty in stories and experience. Symbols that reflect your journey through life together.

    Now I do see a lot of negative comments on your article, I guess the problem is that it’s a bit one sided, since you’re the seller, not the costumer, it might be more useful for people to first give both pros AND cons, and in the end give your personal opinion. Than you give people the freedom to make up their own minds, while respecting yours, and not feeling forced.

    My respect for answering every single comment though.

    • Calla Gold on January 8, 2017 at 7:58 am

      Hello Matthijs,
      I love your idea of falling in love with your wife all over again multiple times and giving her a new ring, maybe even of wood. That is so loving and creative. I adore that idea. You sent me a comment with a link that I’m not sharing as I don’t share links on my comments.
      Back to your beautiful idea of love and marriage. As a woman married to the same wonderful man for 38 years, I know it’s work and I know it’s worth it and your words just struck a chord with me.
      I’m not trying to judge anyone, just give my opinion so they can throw it in the soup, stir it up with the other ideas and opinions and facts they find and select their own answer.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  243. Brendan on February 23, 2017 at 7:49 am

    I’m a practical man. Tungsten is cheaper and stronger. I do work with my hands and gold has not been kind to me since I bend the thing within the first week every time. I am currently 6 months into my tungsten ring without a single scratch. I know i’m going to have to replace it at some point in time. But I don’t have any emotional attachment to a ring. I have it towards my wife and as long as I can wear a ring don’t matter what material it still symbolizes my commitment to her.

    • Calla Gold on February 24, 2017 at 8:49 am

      Hi Brendan,
      Thank you for your viewpoint.
      As a super sentimental woman, I wrote from my heart. Everyone is different and happily there are many wedding band choices out there. It sounds like you are happy with your choice and full of love. Good for you.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  244. Felicity on March 2, 2017 at 2:17 am

    Hello Calla,
    I am allergic to all metals except surgical steel, titanium and tungsten. Technically im not allergic to yellow gold but I absolutely despise the look of it and it looks terrible on my skin tone. What suggestions do you have?

    • Calla Gold on March 3, 2017 at 7:22 am

      Hello Felicity,
      Platinum is a hypoallergenic metal. If you prefer a white metal to yellow you may find platinum to be a wonderful choice for you. It can be sized, changed over time and will look nice no doubt with your skin tone.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

      • Felicity on March 7, 2017 at 12:06 pm

        Hi Calla, thank you for your response but even though I love the look of platinum, sadly I’m still allergic to it. Same goes for rhodium, nickel, silver, etc. I’ve been tested and the only metal I can wear is surgical steel, titanium and tungsten in the silvery color. I’m starting to think I’m just plain out of luck 🙁

        • Calla Gold on March 8, 2017 at 7:03 am

          Hello Felicity,
          I had never met anyone before that is allergic to platinum. I thought it was hypo-allergenic. It seems that perhaps hypo-allergenicness is on a scale and there may be greater or lesser levels of allergic potential. Just guessing here.
          That is such a drag that you are allergic to the noble metals.
          Well get as pretty of a ring as you can in one of these metals and keep the makers name handy for when you need the same ring in a different size.
          May that be the only fly in the ointment of our happy marriage.
          Your Personal Jeweler,