Why You Should Engrave Your Wedding Rings: And What to Engrave

Why Should You Engrave an Inscription in Your Wedding Rings?

hand engraving

Before answering: what to engrave on a ring, it might be a good idea to first answer the question: why? It’s not required, right? The chaplain’s not going to inspect the rings before they’re exchanged, right?

I’ve never seen a pastor call a stop to the ceremony and make you engrave your wedding rings first. Many people haven’t thought to have their rings engraved, so why should you?

Engraving Makes it Special

Inscription engraving done by laser

Adding a personal inscription to your wedding jewelry adds meaning to the most important piece of jewelry you’ll ever have. It makes it yours.

It is a romantic gesture to engrave an inscription inside your love’s ring. And if you add dates you’ll never forget your anniversary!

Dates and Duke the Honeypot

thin wedding band inscription engraved by machine

2mm Machine Engraved

Now that I’ve convinced you your marriage is doomed to failure unless you engrave your wedding rings, what should you engrave? You and your betrothed names? The date you were married? A Biblical passage? Something prayerful? Something romantic? A message of undying love? Personal nicknames? The first five amendments of the Constitution?

Engraving Your Rings and Dragon Tattoos

Dragon tattoo

Engravings are similar to tattoos: they’re both meant to be eternal. They’re not completely, one hundred percent permanent and irreversible but…almost.

Just as the giant dragon tattooed across your chest was never meant to be removed, neither was the “I Will Be Your Honeypot Forever, Duke” engraving on the inside shank of your wedding ring. (Not that that would fit!)

Size Matters, (That is, the Length of Your Message)

Detail Picture Of Laser Engraving in Ring Shank

This Long Message Would Only Work With Laser Engraving

You also need to consider that with engraving, unlike Twitter, you don’t have 144 characters with which to play. If you want to be able to read things without renting an electron microscope, you’re going to have to limit the message.
Different engraving methods offer options of style, size and look. Read the engraving methods blog post.

This 5mm Wide Band Says Forever in Hand Engraving Script Style

Obviously, the smaller the ring, the smaller the message.

Without making the font so tiny as to be unreadable without that aforementioned microscope, you’re going to have to limit what you say.

Typically, a date and initials will fit, or very short declarations of love.

Font Matters (There’s Not a Lot of Room for Choices)

Ring engraving, script font

Script Font for Engraving

It’s a lot easier to read a block style font than a script style. Script is a pretty type of font, but it takes up more room on your ring. So if you’re just engraving the date and your initials there’s a good chance you can have it done in a pretty

script style. But if you’re engraving “Edward heart Bella forever” or something with more characters, you’ll probably need to go with the block style.

The Key to a Successful Marriage

Script font in laser engraving in a wedding band

Beautifully Scripted Message Laser Engraved in His 6mm Wide Ring

Thus…think what you want to say. Talk to your spouse-to-be. They might want in on the action and want a matching inscription.

Write down a list of possibilities and then narrow down the list.

Show the short list to your Jeweler so they can let you know what will and won’t fit inside your ring.

If you choose a 1.5mm width of ring not only will it be a candidate for future bending, but it’ll be hecka tough to engrave an inscription.

It’s Never Too Late to Engrave Your Wedding Rings

2mm Laser Engraved Band with Block Font

Finally, don’t despair if you haven’t engraved your ring prior to the wedding. It’s OK. It’s never too late to engrave your wedding rings.  In fact it’s quite romantic.

Give me a call! I’ll be happy to engrave your ring for you.


Your Engraving Jeweler,

More Posts in the Engraving Series:

Milgrain Engraving Explained

Restorative Engraving For Older Rings

Engraved Rings – Five Things You Need to Know

Engraving Your Signet Ring

Pinterest Page with Engraving Pictures

Signet Ring, What Should You Engrave? Vanilla or Chocolate?

Why You Should Engrave Your Wedding Rings: And What to Engrave

About Calla Gold

Calla Gold is a Personal Jeweler and Author who takes pride in working with clients one-on-one to integrate their personal sense of style and taste into custom designed jewelry and repaired jewelry pieces.   Unlike typical Santa Barbara jewelry businesses, Calla Gold has no brick-and-mortar location. Calla Gold comes to you, bringing you the jewelry collection you want to see and collaborating with you to create unique custom jewelry. Calla also works with at-a-distance clients.


  1. Alison on February 15, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    I thought everyone got their rings engraved. Phil and I just had the date engraved-so that when I’m 95 I can figure out how long we’ve been married.

    • Calla Gold on February 15, 2012 at 6:41 pm

      Alison, that’s great, you both will still be married then too!

  2. Alison on February 15, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    Oh-I forgot-we did have our initials also-next to the date.

  3. Santa Barbara Coach on February 16, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    Engraving is nice for more than just wedding rings. I was given a beautiful watch with personalized engraving by my folks when I got my doctorate. It was a huge milestone for me and I have cherished that watch knowing that it is associated with that day. When I have doubts it is a nice reminder of what I have been able to achieve.
    Thanks for the reminder of how personal engraving can further the meaning and importance of your jewelry. Always good advice from my Personal Jeweler!
    Dr. Lynn K. Jones, Certified Personal and Executive Coach

    • Calla Gold on February 16, 2012 at 8:25 pm

      Dr. Lynn,
      That is such a great story. Getting your doctorate was huge. I’m thrilled that you have a piece of jewelry to remind you of your amazing achievement.
      The fact that it is engraved is icing on the cake!
      Your Personal Jeweler and proud of it,

  4. earthy jewelry on February 17, 2012 at 6:01 am

    Thank you so much for your blog. Keep posting. Engraving info is important, but the guy with the dragon tattoo is really important!

  5. Allison Babb Phillips on April 12, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    Calla Gold,
    I just celebrated my two year anniversary and never thought about engraving our wedding rings. Thanks for this inspiring reminder that it’s never too late to engrave them. Gonna talk to hubby about doing just that. Thanks!

    • Calla Gold on April 12, 2012 at 7:07 pm

      I’m glad this post prompted you to think about engraving your wedding rings. I think it’s such a personal and sentimental touch.
      When I see some inherited 100 year old ring with the engraving intact, it is so moving to see.
      I just sized an inherited band ring for a client. It was way too big, but she didn’t want to disturb the engraving. I found a little area with no engraving and we sized it down and kept the engraving intact.
      It was the fact that it was engraved that made this band so special to my client.
      Calla Gold

  6. Jacqueline Shown on May 20, 2013 at 2:35 am

    Comparing Wedding Rings to Tattoos is a bad idea. At least for me, it turned me off to your services immediately. They may be both eternal but, unlike a tattoo, you can take a ring of anytime. A tattoo is there forever and tattoos are both dull and ugly. The same cannot be said for most wedding rings.

    • Calla Gold on May 20, 2013 at 5:33 am

      Hello Jacqueline,
      I’m sorry that my writing has turned you off to me as a jewelry designer. I like to try to be interesting in my writing and I decided to incorporate some humor here. I did not mean to cause offence.
      Calla Gold

  7. Carla Reeves on May 20, 2016 at 5:30 pm

    I personally loved the comparison of the tattoo and the engraving. My tattoos where done at specific times in my life and they are daily reminders of what I have been through already so I stay strong through whatever comes next. I married my Jr. High sweetheart and he was into to art so at 15 with a needle and thread he put his initials on my ankle. When we divorced I put a Ying Yang over it and I also got a sun and moon on my calf.

    The darkness was my past and the light my future. Years later my daughter was born with Down syndrome. Her twin died in my second trimester and 3 years later I had another miscarriage. I had the Latin words for No One But Death could part us and underneath are my children’s names. I have a cross on my neck.. I need something to remind me everyday that God is with me.

    After year long hospital stays with my 3 of my children I really needed that reminder. I’m getting a few new ones soon because my first grand child was born. And on the inside of my wrist will be a list of my illness and on the top will be the health alert cross.

    At 30 years old my immune system has gone to war with my body. Most medical bracelets can’t fit 8 deadly conditions on them but my arm can and they can make it small enough that my whole arm is not tattooed.
    And maybe one day I will win the lotto and finally get the money to buy a wedding ring and marry the man who didn’t say I’m sorry when he found out my daughter has down syndrome. Who has stood by me when both my parents had heart surgeries, and hasn’t run away when my Dr calls and say you need to come in it’s not good news.

    Tattoos for a lot of people are reminders of the bad and the good. That we did indeed survive. Or can save a life.( many are opting for medical tattoos verses necklaces or brackets that can break or have to be taken off in the er anyway.) At least if I’m unable to speak, the doctors can see that I have ITP a platelet disorder that thins my blood so much I could have a brain bleed by just watching TV and I’m also a cardiac patient and a narcoleptic with severe arthritis. I can even create a personalized QR code to be tattooed on me that will take them to a website with all my medical information and contact information right there.

    Anyway thank you for your blog. I was bummed to waste money on a black wedding set because it was suppose to be silver under some black metal. I didn’t realize that it would wear off quickly. Then I thought maybe tungsten. I love white gold, but I can’t afford it and I really want to have an engagement ring.

    Thank you for saving me from making a huge mistake on the tungsten too as steroids I’m on make you swell often.

    • Calla Gold on May 22, 2016 at 6:12 am

      Dear Carla,
      Thank you for sharing the idea behind your tattoos and teaching me about the medical alert and life saving possibilities of tattoos as well.
      I’m pleased that reading about alternate metals like tungsten on my blog saved you from getting a wedding ring that’d end up in the jewelry box and not on your wedding finger.
      I too hope one day you’ll get to where a nice wedding ring.
      I don’t know if you watch the Amy Schumer show on TV, but the one I watched recently had a guest who had down syndrome. She was articulate and I liked hearing her opinions. I imagine your daughter might enjoy that episode.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

  8. Tracey Bee on October 4, 2016 at 9:44 am

    Calla, this is great information all in one place. What is your favorite, if you have one of styles for the decorative style.
    I mean for a vintage looking design? Do you like wheat or something more flowing?

    • Calla Gold on October 6, 2016 at 6:23 am

      Dear Tracey Bee,
      I am all about the flowy. If a client gives me my choice I often choose a scroll or floral pattern over wheat. Although in tiny spaces I love wheat and sometimes use both.
      When my client wants the engraving to give a vintage look I always use the milgrain edging.
      Your Personal Jeweler,

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