Guys have you felt a bit nuts trying to guess which engagement ring design details your fiancé will like the best?
You’re right to worry about it. Not only will this ring be the most important piece of jewelry she’ll ever own, it symbolizes your love for her. So why not let her participate in the design process?
Just like you wouldn’t think of buying her a pair of pants, unless you’re psychic, chances are good you won’t easily be able to pick out her ideal ring.
"But I'm the Man! Aren't I Required by Law to Pick Her Ring?"
But you say, “I want to surprise her!” Not a problem. Here’s my advice on what you do. Propose to her with the center diamond you’ve chosen set in a simple four or six prong, thin band setting.
Tell her that you want her wedding ring to be something special that she’ll love forever. Explain that you want her to be part of the process of designing the ring that represents your mutual love.
Why You're Such a Awesome Guy for Including Her
You two are getting married. Cool. You're going to be a team and decide things together about your wonderful life together.
Why Your Wife-to-Be Should be Part of the Engagement Ring Design Process
Show her that her opinion matters, that you, the man, are going to consult her and listen to her. Let me tell you there is nothing more manly than a guy who is strong enough to listen.
Do Your Homework and Find a Great Jeweler
A while back I wrote a blog about choosing the right Jeweler for you. Check this out to help with that process: "Twelve Questions to Ask Yourself When Choosing a Jeweler."
Once you've found your Jeweler and chosen the center diamond for the proposal, you've done the heavy lifting.
Once you've proposed to her successfully, take her to your favorite Jewelry Designer and let them design the ring of her dreams. Note to guys: bring a book. They may be a while.
In case you are curious about the design steps, check them out here: "The Sixteen Steps to Your Custom Design."
A Happy Engagement Ring Includes Your Future Spouse
Because you are the man! Believe me, you’ll end up smelling like a rose. You’ll be a hero. And she will have a ring she loves to wear and a great story to tell.