Why Your Fiance Should Be Part of Her Engagement Ring Design Process

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Her Wedding Rings are the Most Important Jewelry She'll Ever Wear

Guys have you felt a bit nuts trying to guess which engagement ring design details your fiancé will like the best?

You’re right to worry about it. Not only will this ring be the most important piece of jewelry she’ll ever own, it symbolizes your love for her. So why not let her participate in the design process?

Just like you wouldn’t think of buying her a pair of pants, unless you’re psychic, chances are good you won’t easily be able to pick out her ideal ring.

"But I'm the Man! Aren't I Required by Law to Pick Her Ring?"

But you say, “I want to surprise her!” Not a problem. Here’s my advice on what you do. Propose to her with the center diamond you’ve chosen set in a simple four or six prong, thin band setting.

Tell her that you want her wedding ring to be something special that she’ll love forever. Explain that you want her to be part of the process of designing the ring that represents your mutual love.

Why You're Such a Awesome Guy for Including Her

You two are getting married. Cool. You're going to be a team and decide things together about your wonderful life together.

Why Your Wife-to-Be Should be Part of the Engagement Ring Design Process

This Ring Pops with Black Rhodium Finish

Show her that her opinion matters, that you, the man, are going to consult her and listen to her. Let me tell you there is nothing more manly than a guy who is strong enough to listen.

Do Your Homework and Find a Great Jeweler

A while back I wrote a blog about choosing the right Jeweler for you. Check this out to  help with that process: "Twelve Questions to Ask Yourself When Choosing a Jeweler."

Once you've found your Jeweler and chosen the center diamond for the proposal, you've done the heavy lifting.

White Gold Engagement ring with Halo

This Design Incorporates her Grandmother's Diamond and a Halo of Tiny Surrounding Diamonds. She loved designing her dream ring.

Once you've proposed to her successfully, take her to your favorite Jewelry Designer and let them design the ring of her dreams. Note to guys: bring a book. They may be a while.

In case you are curious about the design steps, check them out here: "The Sixteen Steps to Your Custom Design."

A Happy Engagement Ring Includes Your Future Spouse

Because you are the man! Believe me, you’ll end up smelling like a rose. You’ll be a hero. And she will have a ring she loves to wear and a great story to tell.

Calla Gold

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About Calla Gold

Calla Gold is a Personal Jeweler and Author who takes pride in working with clients one-on-one to integrate their personal sense of style and taste into custom designed jewelry and repaired jewelry pieces.   Unlike typical Santa Barbara jewelry businesses, Calla Gold has no brick-and-mortar location. Calla Gold comes to you, bringing you the jewelry collection you want to see and collaborating with you to create unique custom jewelry. Calla also works with at-a-distance clients.

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madeleine Vite
12 years ago

Its so important for a wife to be part of the engagment ring design process because the ring will be part of her life and needs to say this is her look.

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12 years ago

Simply a smiling visitor here to share the love (:, btw outstanding design.

Jackie Ruka
12 years ago

I think the designing part is the most fun , of course it should be an “us” experience when designing a engagement ring. Thanks Calla for sharing what men might think but do not always act on.

12 years ago

I know how I would feel if my Man picked out the ring design-disappointment. What if the design is something so not me? How do you deal with this problem, when it should be joyful and exciting?-not a letdown.

Vito Borrolli
Vito Borrolli
12 years ago

Truly great designing in addition to good subject matter. I’ll include my love when the time is right. You’ve left next to nothing unwritten in your steps.

Wilma Barbrick
Wilma Barbrick
12 years ago

Howdy! I’m at work browsing your blog from my new apple iphone! Just wanted to say I love reading through your blog and look forward to all your posts! Keep up the outstanding work!

Hulda Debona
Hulda Debona
12 years ago

Ms. Gold,
I’ve read several good blog posts here. It is certainly worth bookmarking for revisiting. I’m surprised how much effort you put into each post. I think you have such a great informative website.
I agree that your fiance should be a part of the design process. It’s more fun and they end up super in love with the ring that came from love and personal taste.

Choosing a wedding venue
12 years ago

Fantastic article. I found it really insightful. I recently wrote about wedding venues in my blog.
This post of yours on communicating with your future spouse and including her in her ring design is just great.
Well Miss Calla Gold, I will be back to see what other interesting jewelry topics you tackle.

Stefan Bradley
Stefan Bradley
4 years ago

You make a good point when you mention how you should communicate with your fiance when choosing an engagement ring. I am planning on proposing to my girlfriend soon, and I want to know what kind of ring I should get for her. I think it would be a good idea to include her in the process.

Kristofer Van Wagner
Kristofer Van Wagner
4 years ago

My younger brother is planning to propose to his longtime girlfriend this fall and he has been trying to design the perfect engagement ring for her. I like that this article encouraged men to include their wives-to-be in the designing process, as it shows that their opinions matter, while giving them a chance to decide as a team. I think I will advise my brother to first find a reliable jeweler and then encourage him to include his fiance-to-be in the designing process.