As a Santa Barbara Jeweler, I get asked often what to do with divorce diamonds. I say redesign with them! You earned that diamond, regardless of how your union ended. It shouldn’t sit in a safe or the bottom of your jewelry box.
Your diamond should be celebrated in a new way in a new setting and in a new design. This way, you can create new memories with your new jewelry!
Five Ideas for Setting Your Divorce Diamond
1) Set it as a pendant or as part of a necklace.
2) Make it one half of a pair of diamond stud earrings.
3) Put it in a non-wedding design ring for your right hand.
4) Create a bracelet with it using the diamond in the central design
5) If your ring had several diamonds then turn each into a piece of jewelry with multiple diamonds. Or give some little diamonds to family, like your daughter in a pendant or ring for a favorite niece.
“What do I do With the Original Ring Metal?”
Some of my clients don’t mind re-using the diamond, but don’t want to keep the ring’s setting.
You could set a colored gem in the old setting and give it to your daughter.
You could use that gold or platinum for a credit toward your new project.
Here are a couple of projects I’ve done in the past to redesign divorce diamonds.
Real Life Divorce Diamond Redesigns
Lauren loves vintage. Her original engagement ring had a very simple and modern design to it.
She was ready to leave simple and modern in the dust in her new piece of diamond jewelry.
I showed Lauren a number of style options and this art nouveau style captured her heart.
I modified this design to accommodate her nice long marquis cut diamond.
This design nicely worked to combine her love of curlicues, a feminine touch and art nouveau detail.
We used two different styles of chain that were simple yet went well with our vintage theme. Happily I found tiny baroque shape fresh water pearls.
I feel like the right pearls make a huge difference in a custom design like this. Too big and it overpowers little details and too small and it looks like a failed afterthought.
Lauren is a singer. What made me so happy is that I delivered it on a day she’d be singing and I loved that she planned to wear it happily to her gig.
The finished necklace is up at the top of the post.
A Sensuous Pendant From a Simple Engagement Ring
Back before I took before and after pictures, I did redesign jewelry. I found this picture of a fun redesigned engagement ring redesign.
My client had embarked on a more spiritual life after her divorce. She wanted her newly redesigned piece to reflect who she was, not who she had been.
I remember we wanted to create a flowing and beautiful pendant. I loved how it turned out.
Laura’s Break Out Ring
She was browsing Facebook and saw a ring on a friend’s Facebook page that just stopped her in her tracks. She’d been looking for a design for her divorce diamond in her town and surrounds for months. Her new design had to reflect her new direction, her new strength and new energy.
Laura has a, divorced, divorcing or thinking about divorcing, life coaching practice. Who better to help that conversation yield helpful insights than someone who has lived it up close and personal?
The ring she saw on Facebook was one of my trinity collection styles. She clicked all the right buttons, because even though she was in Fresno she found my page, then my website and then called me.
We connected over the distance and she decided to drive down for the design process, translating what she loved online to her diamond.
We had a blast and stayed in touch via email. When she drove down to pick up her ring it was an emotional experience. Laura felt that her diamond was truly hers and the style reflected her fierce, fabulous self. (My adjectives). I love that she did this for herself and went so out of the box in the details she picked.
“Can I Use my Divorce Diamond in a Ring Again?”
Susan called me a couple of years after her divorce. She told me that, “after 25 years of marriage he wanted the ring back! Can you imagine? Embarrassingly enough, I considered it, because I wasn’t feeling too friendly toward it at the time.”
Happily, she kept the ring. Her diamond was beautiful. After two years she looked at the diamond differently. She wanted it to be a right hand ring, but she wasn’t sure if that was something that was done.
I feel strongly that re-using a divorce diamond as a right hand ring is perfectly fine. The most important thing is that you use it! Just use it! Beautifully redesigned of course.
Susan’s ring turned out beautifully. I told you her story because I want to say that the wedding diamond is yours. It was a gift and it doesn’t have to hold memories good or bad. It’s beautiful and sparkling and should be worn with a smile.
“Can I use my Divorce Diamond in my Next Wedding Ring?”
Now we get into an area where some people feel that “you can’t do that.” I do not agree. If you’re worried about bad karma, bad juju or bad energy you can do something about it.
One of my clients is a very spiritual person and a self-described energy worker. She recommended soaking the diamond in sea salt water for a day and a night or burning sage around it.
I’m thinking that all the time it spends in my ultrasonic cleaner getting vibrated clean would bring it back to neutral, but I guess that’s why I’m a jewelry worker and not an energy worker.
As long as your new husband is OK with it, then it’s OK. Many people don’t go there, but I thought since we’re talking about what to do with divorce diamonds that I’d include this.
“What if I just Re-Use My Divorce Diamond and Old Setting For My Next Wedding?”
No one has asked me yet, but I’ll just say, “never get married to the new guy with the old guy’s ring.”
Take the diamond and create a new design for your new wedding jewelry.
If you did it, everytime someone asked about your ‘pretty ring,’ you’d either have to say, “oh, it’s from my first marriage.” Or you’d lie and say, “George and I picked it out.”
Neither of those options sounds appealing to me.
Do You Have a Divorce Diamonds Sitting Unworn in Your Jewelry Box?
OK, here’s my motto, “Wear it Don’t Warehouse it!” Pull out that ring and make an appointment with your favorite jeweler and make a piece of jewelry that is you! You in a sparkly happy diamond!
Setting Your Divorce Diamonds Happily,