Facebook Post Finds Lost Man for Wedding Ring. A short while ago a local resident, Jenn Ja Birchim, posted on her Facebook page that she’d found a gold wedding ring at Ellwood Beach near Santa Barbara.
On the inside it had a particular inscription, “My Love, My Life, My Lobster,” which intrigued her.
Two Years and Many Waves Later
Two years after it was lost Jenn found it. She was intrigued by the inscription. It was from a "Friends" episode.
She was curious who loved "my lobster." Jenn's Facebook post went viral and the original owners, Sarah and Greg Lindsay of Ojai, were reunited with their lost loose wedding ring.
That was amazing enough, but the newsworthy story also blasted nationwide in its own viral way and everybody ended up on Good Morning America! I first saw the article in Santa Barbara's own EdHat.
A Happy Ending or a Cautionary Tale?
Despite the happy ending and the husband’s “restored...faith in humanity,” all this could possibly have been avoided had he been wearing the correctly sized ring to begin with. I don’t know what the percentage of husbands vs wives who have lost their loose wedding rings, but from my observation as a beach town jeweler, I would say be it’s pretty high.
Quiet Mystery, Why do so Many Men Lose Their Wedding Rings?
Unlike women, I have replaced many a man’s lost wedding band over the years. The question is then: Why do so many husbands lose their wedding rings? The answer to the question is two-fold.
A wedding ring is often the first ring a man ever wears. At first, it can feel kind of “weird” and “tight.” Particularly because of this “tightness” feeling, there is a tendency for him to get a ring in a size that is a little loose-fitting, or what he'd call "comfortable." Often, he gravitates toward a size that will slip easily on and off the finger. Big mistake!!!
How Should That Man's Ring Really Feel for a Correct Fit?
Rings for guys should be a little tough to get on and off. Especially, the getting off part. Typically, a guy should have to rock a ring back and forth in maneuvering it over his knuckle. If he has to lubricate the process with a little water..all the better!
The other part of the equation has to do with the circumference of the knuckle compared to the circumference of the base of the finger where the ring rests. A large knuckle often acts as a kind of barricade, preventing a ring from inadvertently slipping off the finger.
If the knuckle and the base of the finger are the same circumference however, it becomes much easier for a ring to slide off accidentally. Men with fingers like this should pay special attention to making sure they wear extra-snug rings. The finger of this type will develop a little dent area where the ring will comfortably rest. This usually takes a maximum of three weeks to develop.
Dangerous Places For Guys to Wear a Loose Fitting Wedding Ring
Men (and women) should be extra careful about wearing their rings anywhere they might come into contact with cold water. Places would include, the beach, the lake and skiing areas. This guy has a properly fitting ring after losing his first one in the Caribbean.(Blog Post)
If you’re currently wearing a ring that easily slips on and off your finger, try leaving it on your dresser before engaging in any of these activities. Cold shrinks your finger a bit. A ring that would normally be ‘a bit loose’ on a normal day can turn on a wet and cold hand, into a lost ring. It just slips off.
So guys! Don’t be afraid to get a ring that feels a little tight. If that size 10 ring at the jewelry store feels “good,” man-up and try on the 9 ½!
Is This You?
Do you now wonder if your ring is too loose? Size it smaller, now! You can always size it up larger years from now if you need to. The good news is you won't have lost it!
Check out my blog post, establishing your correct finger size.
The Size it Right Jeweler,