Your beloved Grandma Lowena passed on. You are past tears and you are moving on with your life.Your lawyer Mr. Pender has given each of the family members pieces of her jewelry. You received her soldered together wedding set and clip-on pearl earrings.Hmmm, now what? You can't wear those clip-ons as they are.
And her ring overwhelms your hand.
"You're Not Changing That Are You?"
Your Grandpa Joe doesn't want you to change anything, so you've put everything in the safety deposit box.
You're thinking, maybe when your daughters turns sixteen you'll give them her great grandmother's jewelry.
Nope, nope, negatory, that's not the right answer.
Jumping Up On My Soapbox, or My Opinionated Opinion!
I have a soapbox to jump on here. I see too many neglected treasures on a regular basis. These are gifts of love and meant to be worn and talked about.
My mission is to pull them out of the safety deposit box and bring them up to date.
To change them to your taste. I want them to sing, so you'll wear them.
Wear It, Don't Warehouse It
Those were gifts of love, they need to be worn. And no, I don't mean you need to wear clip-ons if you have pierced ears.
I mean change it, alter it or do what's needed so you can love it and wear it.
In the case of the pearl clip-ons, my client liked the look of the earrings. They reminded her of her grandmother.
After sitting unworn for ten years, we converted the pearl and leaf design clip-ons into hanging ear charms.
Now she can wear them on three of her pairs of hoops.
Whose Gift is it Anyway?
When you are given a gift, it now belongs to you.
Other people can't tell you how to treat it or what to do with it.
That'd be like giving your daughter a bike and telling her she could only ride it on the sidewalk and never go beyond your street, ever.
Oh, you do that? Don't do that.
The Gift of Love Can't Give Love From a Safety Deposit Box
If that ring is too big and bold for your hand, re-make more than one ring!
In this case we separated the two curved diamond bands and restored the center ring. We made new straight bands for her daughters.
You can tell your daughters, these rings were from your Great Grandma Lowena's wedding set.
Then you can tell Grandma Lowena's story and those rings will be more special to your daughters.
What You Can Do To Wear Your Gift Of Jewelry
If you remove the diamonds from the old wedding ring and make something new, that new ring or pendant that you will wear will remind you of her and her love for you.
Re-using diamonds or gemstones is something I regularly recommend.
I feel that the energy of the person who wore that ring or earrings is in the gemstones. When a new piece is made, it's yours, but it will feel embued with the love of the giver.
What Really Matters?
It doesn't matter that you are changing it.
It matters that those were her diamonds.
She'd rather have you wear a memento of her, than keep her old ring like a shrine in a safe.
What About Grandpa's Feelings?
You can take the old setting of the ring and put Cubic Zerconia's (fake diamonds), in it and size it to your finger size and wear it in front of your Grandfather now and then. Seeing that ring will please him.
Honor the Love the Gift Was Given to You In. Wear It!
Create a new design that works for you, your fashion style and lifestyle with Grandma Lowena's diamonds in it.
Tell your daughter and your son and family about her and keep her memory alive.
One day the piece of jewelry you made from her wedding ring will be a cherished heirloom, perhaps to be changed into the style of the day by your heirs.
A Final Tale of a Pendant to a Pin Prettily
This beautiful Art Nouveau pendant came to my client from her mother.
She wanted to honor it. However she rarely wore necklaces.
Pendants weren't her thing, but she did love pins.
Wanting to honor the curvaceous style of the design, I came up with a top section for this beauty.
What Do You Do With Your Inherited Jewelry?
Wear it, share the stories and add priceless family significance to your inherited jewelry!
Wear It Don't Warehouse It!
There are a number of real life before and afters utilizing older and inherited jewelry in the photo albums at www.facebook.com/callagoldjewelry.
Other posts to check out: Using Inherited Diamonds in Wedding Rings, Using Inherited Pearls creatively. Click on the Revitalizing Jewelry category for more posts.
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