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Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands

By Calla Gold

I have updated this post, check it out and tell me what you think, click here: Titanium or Tungsten vs. Gold or Platinum Wedding Bands, Revisited

 

Don't Buy a Titanium Wedding Band

Don’t Buy This Titanium Wedding Band

Don’t buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands

I’m not going to win any popularity contests in my industry as a wedding ring designing jeweler saying this, but I say:

“Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.”

The Five Reasons I Say, “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands”

1. Your fingers will change size over the life of your wedding rings. Titanium and Tungsten are not solderable or sizable.

Titanium Band can't be sized

If This was Your Titanium Wedding Band, Once You Got it Off, You’d Have to Get a New Band. Your Band Would be Done!

2. Gold and platinum rings can be sized, repaired, soldered on and changed. Again and again.
3. Gold and platinum have actual value as metals and go back through history as wedding ring metals. Titanium and Tungsen are cheap.
4. Your wedding ring stands for your commitment and your love and your future. You don’t want to toss your ring in the trash and order a new one every time your finger size changes.
5. Your wedding rings are the most important jewelry you’ll ever have. Your kids will inherit your wedding jewelry. Choose a valuable, special metal like gold or platinum.

Titanium and Tungsten Rings: Near Impossible to Work On

Titanium and tungsten are almost impossible to work with. I can almost guarantee there’s nobody in your hometown able to size a titanium or tungsten ring. Call around and see for yourself. You might get lucky and find someone on the internet located in the middle of North Dakota who says he can do the job. Good luck.

Soldering an Engagement ring, Calla Gold

Calla Changing Laura’s Platinum Engagement Ring to Accept a Larger Diamond

Gold and Platinum Rings Can be Soldered and Sized

Gold and platinum can be soldered and sized and fixed by jewelers the world over. Ten years from now, when you’re ten years older, and your finger is two sizes larger, you’ll easily be able to size up your gold or platinum ring.

Want to replace your smaller center diamond with something bigger? No problem. Need to retip your worn prongs? Again, not a problem.

Know this: your finger size will change. They always do over time. Our knuckles continue to grow even if the rest of our body doesn’t. Weight gain often accompanies pregnancy.

Titanium Slab

A Titanium Slab. You Saw, Drill and File to Make the Wedding Band, Not Solder or Change it.

On the flip side, you may have reason to size your rings down. Finger sizes change. Will your titanium and tungsten wedding bands change with you? Nope.

Gold and Platinum: Time Honored Metals, Worthy of Love

Gold and platinum are the traditional, go-to wedding ring materials. Unlike titanium and tungsten, they’re valuable metals. They are called “Noble Metals.” They have been valued for thousands of years.

The Egyptians, the Chinese, the Incas, the Mayans, and every other civilization on the planet have always valued gold.

Gold and Platinum Feel Yummy and Heavy

Gold and platinum are heavier, too, especially platinum! I like the weightiness of them! Unlike the lightweight, titanium,  gold and platinum feel substantial and more precious.

Calla Gold Jewelry Engagement Ring with Three Main Diamonds in Platinum

A Special Custom Designed Engagement Ring in Platinum by Calla Gold

Your Magic and Meaningful Wedding Rings!

A wedding ring is like a talisman—an object, like a stone or a jewel, thought to give magical powers to the person that carried or wore it.

Your wedding ring is more than just a symbol saying “I’m married.” It’s like the talisman. It protects the union and wards off someone coming between you and your spouse.

It guards against the evil spirits of divorce. I don’t know about you, but in my universe the more valuable the talisman, the more valuable the magic.

Get a Good Wedding Band with Value and Versatility in it!

Getting married? Don’t Buy Titanium and Tungsten Wedding Bands. Get a gold or platinum ring. Leave the titanium and tungsten for your right hand. Or break it out to go hiking or rock climbing. But for the ring that represents your union and your love don’t go cheap and temporary.

Black Rhodium on White Gold Man's Wedding Band

White Gold His and Hers Wedding Rings Custom Made by Calla

Get the metal that represents lasting value and lasting love. Get wedding bands you can pass on to your kids. For your love, for the changing finger sizes in your married life, chose gold and platinum. Your love is worth it!

Your Designing Jeweler,
Calla Gold

 

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210 Responses to “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands”

William Conlin June 4th, 2012 at 9:36 pm


Wow! What a useful article! As professional wedding videographers I have had the pleasure of filming countless wedding rings of all shapes and sizes. Personally, I feel there is nothing like a beautiful gold or platinum ring and this article just reinforced my feeling about that! Thank you for bringing us these incredible insights Calla! They are greatly appreciated!

-YTS Digital FIlms

Calla Gold June 5th, 2012 at 4:49 pm


Thanks so much William for taking the time to respond. I imagine you’ve seen more wedding rings than I have as a videographer. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
Calla Gold

Tracey Mikami June 6th, 2012 at 1:20 pm


Great blog Calla…Personally, I agree with you and would only give my husband (to be) Platinum. Thanks for your informative and passionate posts!!! Keep up the awesome work.

Calla Gold June 6th, 2012 at 5:27 pm


Tracey,
I love that you dug my message of going for value. That’s great that you’ll go with Platinum for your husband to be. He’s lucky that you value him so!
Calla Gold

Dr. Lynn K. Jones June 10th, 2012 at 10:16 am


Great info Calla Gold.

Titanium and Tungsten are here to stay. I agree with you now that as wedding bands they are a “don’t buy!”

That custom ring you made is absolutely out of this world gorgeous!!! Always a fan of platinum and gold. Will share this info.

Lynn

Calla Gold June 11th, 2012 at 6:24 am


Thank you Dr. Lynn for reading and letting me know your thoughts.
Calla

Jackie Ruka June 11th, 2012 at 6:39 pm


I have always been a gold or platinum girl , yet men seem to like the titanium, must be a golf thing? ! Great for a club but not to wear as a wedding ring. Why don’t men get that? Good info! Thanks Calla!

Calla Gold June 11th, 2012 at 7:17 pm


Hi Jackie,
You’re right, it’s fine for golf, but not the daily wedding ring wear!
Calla Gold

Alison June 16th, 2012 at 9:56 am


Calla-I agree with Lynn that Titanium and Tungsten are here to stay-for eyeglasses.. not a precious wedding ring. Great advice!

Calla Gold June 16th, 2012 at 10:31 am


Alison,
Thanks for weighing in!
Calla

Ali June 25th, 2012 at 10:08 am


Tungsten wedding rings break very easily also!
I’m upset enough about it that I started a petition. Calla Gold Jewelry, thank you for your blog post on the inappropriateness of Tungsten Bands for representing the sentiment of your marriage.
Calla, please like this page on Facebook to let everyone know the truth about tungsten rings.
https://www.facebook.com/BrknPromises

Calla Gold June 25th, 2012 at 10:28 am


Ali,
I did like your Facebook page and loved the video of the six year old breaking the Tungsten wedding band. Who wants that representing their vows?
Calla Gold

Nadira November 26th, 2012 at 10:19 pm


The information shared here regarding Tungsten men wedding rings is very good. I think it is the most important thing to have wonderful designs. Thanks!

Calla Gold November 27th, 2012 at 6:41 am


Thanks for visiting Nadira!

caryl November 29th, 2012 at 11:16 pm


Ridiculous. Just more way for a jeweler to make money. My husband works with metals,and titanium is very durable, strong, and lasts much longer than a gold, diamond band. Better metals and much less expensive. It’s not the band, it’s the bond that counts!!!

Calla Gold November 30th, 2012 at 7:14 am


Caryl,
I have no problem with the strength of titanium. It is very durable and I think it is fine for a right hand ring. My experience with long married people however is that their fingers change size. Over the years whether due to weight gain or loss or just the inevitable growing of the knuckle (and Caryl they do continue to grow after adulthood is reached,) people’s wedding fingers do change size.
I object to titanium as a wedding band because it cannot be sized. Yes it will last a lifetime, but what good does that do you if it spends a good part of that lifetime in a drawer because it doesn’t fit?
My client’s want their rings to change with them and wear the ring they made their vows in.One day they may feel like changing it, but they want to make that choice, not have that choice made for them. They do not want to wear it until their finger changes size in five years and they are forced to stop wearing it.
A wedding band has great meaning. I stand by my opinion that titanium is the wrong metal choice for wedding bands.

Joe February 23rd, 2013 at 4:06 pm


1) You didn’t list 5 reasons, you listed the same reason five different ways!

2) Titanium and tungsten are very valuable… why you’d think otherwise is a mystery…

3) While it is true that tungsten can’t be resized, you’re wrong about titanium… likely not as easily as gold but it can be.
Joe

Calla Gold February 23rd, 2013 at 6:37 pm


Hi Joe,
Thank you for weighing in. I feel that I have given five reasons why titanium is a bad idea as a wedding band. I like it fine as a metal and for a right hand ring. I do not like it for a wedding ring for my five reasons. I’m glad you feel it can be sized. I’ve done quite a bit of asking and short of grinding out to gain a half size I’ve had no positive response to being able to size it.
As a thirty year jeweler I’ve sized a lot of wedding rings. My observation is that because our nose, our knuckles and our ears keep growing, our rings need to be able to grow with us in our married life.
I just don’t like metals that cannot be altered.
If I hear of a titanium ring needing sizing perhaps I’ll give them your email address.
I want to say I really admire the special finishes I’ve seen on titanium and it’s fine in it’s jewelry place. Just not on that wedding finger.
Calla Gold

Joel March 3rd, 2013 at 3:54 pm


Have you ever tried on a Tungsten ring? I doubt it, otherwise you would know that it is the opposite of lightweight. It is heavier than gold and closer to platinum in density.

Being lightweight is a fair criticism of titanium, but you should amend your article so as not to mislead readers about the weight and feel of tungsten.

Calla Gold March 3rd, 2013 at 5:02 pm


Joel,
Your point is well taken, I was speaking of titanium when I referenced the light-weightness of the metal.
Calla Gold

carrie March 3rd, 2013 at 9:51 pm


My wedding rings r platinum and I wouldn’t have it any other way! I want to pass them to my daughter and I’ve only had them 2 yrs and yes I’ve had to have them sized down 3 times! However, my husband is a master engine tech who refuses to not wear his wedding band at work. If not for his titanium band he would have smashed his ring on his hand countless times! He also has a tungsten band (a smaller size) for when his hand swelling goes down, without which when he was doing an electrical job, he would have melted his finger clean off if he were wearing gold or platinum! I am a firm believer in certain people requiring a tungsten or titanium band! No they can’t b sized, but he wouldn’t have a ring finger if he wore anything else! I would rather buy 3 of the same ring in different sizes than him loose a finger!
Carrie

Calla Gold March 4th, 2013 at 7:13 am


Hello Carrie,
You have written a good couple of reasons to rebut my blog post. I can see from your story why a man might want a titanium wedding ring in your husband’s field of work, strength and safety. And a reason a man might want a tungsten ring, non-electrical conductivity. I see your point and it is a good one.
Your daughter will be fortunate to one day have your platinum and diamond band. And you’ll enjoy it for a lifetime.
Thank you for your helpful to the discussion comments about tungsten and titanium wedding bands.
Calla Gold

Mal March 24th, 2013 at 11:58 pm


Tungsten World has a lifetime sizing policy. And I’ve been wearing the same ring size from my late teens and into my late 30′s. Gold is not always sizeable, either…consider celtic knot rings or mokume gane rings, for example.

My ring is of ceramic and tungsten and it’s heavy and doesn’t scratch, chip or wear no matter what I do to it. Tungsten is just about the same density as gold, to call tungsten rings light is totally incorrect, especially given that they’re rarely as thin and delicate as the female gold counterparts. My tungsten wedding ring is really heavy compared to my gold engagement ring.

Also: ” It protects the union and wards off someone coming between you and your spouse.

It guards against the evil spirits of divorce.”

…really.

Mal March 25th, 2013 at 12:02 am


Also the above poster is incorrect about tungsten “breaking easily”. My husband is military special operations and he puts his ring through serious strain. Anything that strikes the hand with enough force to break Tungsten is going to ruin the hand it is on, anyway.

Calla Gold March 25th, 2013 at 5:55 am


Hi Mal,
Thank you for writing.
I went and saw their lifetime sizing policy. And I quote, “Keep a copy of your invoice in a safe location. Then relax, knowing that no matter how much your finger size changes over time, we will provide you with a perfect fitting ring.” This doesn’t mean they “size” your ring. It means they machine up another one since you can’t solder and change them like you can with gold and platinum. My beef isn’t with the metal and the way they look. I am a sentimental person, yep, and I want my husband to have the same ring, not a replica when his finger changes.
I congratulate you on having the same ring size for the better part of fifteen years, you are the exception.
For the record I have sized Celtic knot rings. It is a lot of work to re-work the design detail, but I have done it and my clients have been really happy with the result.
I have not been asked to size a Mokume Game ring yet. You are right, that would be a pattern I’d not be able to deal with without creating an area of noticeable change. But that Mokume Game ring lover would end up with the same ring they made their vows in. That is really important to a lot of people. In sizing the Mokume Game ring I would make sure to minimize the look of change. The issue here is that though styles and designs may make sizing your gold or platinum ring more of a challenge, these metals can be worked and titanium and tungsten cannot.
In the department of how heavy tungsten is, I have eaten crow in a previous comment when corrected about tungsten and it’s heavy weight. My bad for writing that complaint. I really meant titanium and somehow lumped tungsten wrongly into that.
I share with you a video of a tungsten ring breaking: http://youtu.be/IjTwmBxYN8o
I do not hate these metals. I just am of the opinion that for a ring to last all your life, you want a metal that will change with you and not break. Your wedding ring symbolizes your love.
Wear tungsten and titanium on your right hand, but not your left hand ring finger. The ring of love.
Opinionated Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold March 25th, 2013 at 6:04 am


Mal,
Here is a video of a tungsten carbide ring breaking: http://youtu.be/IjTwmBxYN8o
I am glad for you that your husband has had good luck with his tungsten ring. Check out this Examiner article detailing newlyweds with their stories of breakage of their tungsten bands:http://www.examiner.com/article/exclusive-handle-with-care-tungsten-ring-break-shatter-and-crack-warning
Just because your husband hasn’t broken his doesn’t mean everyone else will be so lucky. I stand by my objection to these rings to symbolize love and your union. It’s just my opinion.
Thank you for letting me know yours.
Calla Gold

JT March 29th, 2013 at 10:45 am


I have had the SAME size ring finger since I got married! not sure where you are getting that the size changes… unless you are talking EXTREAM weight loss/gain. I even lost 50#’s and it is still the same.

this sounds like more of an issue of sales for you….

Calla Gold April 1st, 2013 at 5:52 am


Hello JT,
A doctor client of mine said years ago, “The nose, the ears and the knuckles never stop growing.” In my 30 years as a jeweler I have re-sized a ton of wedding rings. Interestingly, more for women than men. This is where I have gathered the sizing information I used in this post.
Congratulations on dodging the average and not changing sizes.
Calla Gold

Ciara April 4th, 2013 at 9:32 pm


Hi!

Just a little weigh in on this-

Gold and platinum will hold its value and will change in size – but they also change in appearance. They require a lot of maintaince.They scratch. They bend! Any beautiful intricate work- especially custom work will likely wear over time. What is the point in spending money on a custom designed ring that will need touch ups, polishing and redipping? I understand where the author is coming from. I get the sentimental value of change in a ring- signifying change in a marriage but they are not te same. Your wedding ring is purchased. Your marriage is not. People renew vows. They can renew their rings.

As for children inheriting rings- I personally have many inherited rings. None of which I would ever alter or sell- so the value of them to me is purely sentimental. They would be sentimental even if they were made of dirt! We have 6- yes SIX sets of wedding bands and 5 engagement rings in the family safe. We should have 8 sets but 2 couples had titanium or tungsten rings and since the value of them is minimal they were able to be burried wearing their ring (with out fear of theft). There is of a lot more sentiment in being able to wear your wedding ring for all eternity, than in your children keeping it locked in a safe.

So yes it is a matter of how you look at it. For us we have two sets. One white gold set and one titanium set. Why? My husband works with his hands. Gold is just unsafe for him! My white gold e-ring and wedding band have diamonds not suitable for caring for an infant. We found we needed the titanium set way more than our expensive gold set! So please don’t just knock the titanium. It has many uses as a wedding band!

A wedding band is the only piece of jewelry that has to function in your daily life! It must stand up to many challenges. You must select on functionality more so than on sentimental value! They will be sentimental no matter what!

Calla Gold April 6th, 2013 at 12:07 pm


Hi Ciara,
I’m reading your comment and pausing at the point where you say, “What is the point in spending money on a custom designed ring that will need touch ups, polishing and redipping?” I could ask you what is the point of buying a pretty car and then having to wash it, tune it up and care for it?
People that I’ve worked with love their wedding jewelry and want it to be alterable if their taste changes, if their fingers change and to fix it up after they’ve worn it and made it look less perfect. My experience has been that people don’t mind if the ring that represents their love that they wear every day needs touch ups here and there.
We tune up the cars we drive daily, why not our jewelry?
Congratulations on having many inherited wedding rings. Your point is well taken that tungsten and titanium rings can be worn when the person is buried because theft wouldn’t be a problem. I hadn’t thought of that. Many of my clients has used Grandma’s ring or ring diamond and it means a lot to them.
It sounds like your two ring style, titanium for work and fine metal one for the rest of the time is a very smart idea.
Stubborn me still wants fine metal as a wedding ring.
Ciara, I thank you for taking the time to re-butt my position in my blog post. You are articulate and make great points!
Calla Gold

Elaine April 28th, 2013 at 3:50 pm


Wow Miss Calla! Very helpful information about metal choices for wedding rings. I’m a huge fan of platinum, but haven’t made up my mind yet. This article was quite useful…

You designs are BEAUTIFUL!
Elaine

Meh June 9th, 2013 at 12:50 pm


Buy a gold/platinum ring at a jewelry store, then try to sell it back a few weeks later. Good luck getting back what you paid for it. You can wait years and the price of gold or platinum can go up a bit and you’ll still lose money. The markup is ridiculous.

The only meaning a piece of metal has is whatever meaning you give it whether it costs $1k or $10. This goes the same for value. The jewelry industry has done a great job convincing the public that these metals are worth more than they really are. Many of them even hint that the more you spend on a ring, the more your marriage/love means to you. Hogwash.

I think way too much importance is put onto wedding bands. Platinum and gold may last a lifetime but how long a metal last has nothing to do with how long marriages last. With about half ending in divorce, I wouldn’t associate the life of a metal with the length/strength of a marriage. If that’s the case, we all might as well get a tattoo of a ring instead. You can’t lose/misplace a tattoo.

If titanium and tungsten were being sold for as much as gold and platinum instead of at a fraction of the cost, meaning jewelers would make just as much in profit, a lot less of them would tell customers to avoid these metals.

The only thing that should represent lasting love is a couple’s commitment to each other, not some metal they wear on their finger.

I do applaud the jewelry industry for using brilliant marketing tactics though. Seriously, if I made my living selling jewelry, I’d try my hardest to convince the public to associate their love with a piece of expensive metal as well so I can’t really blame jewelers for doing this. Financially, it’s a smart thing to do.

Calla Gold June 10th, 2013 at 5:14 pm


Hello Meh,
Happily I’m not afraid of contrarian opinions as your comment is full of things I disagree with. But my son is a philosophy major and we have discussions regularly and no opinion is dismissed out of hand. We do however have rebuttals.
As to trying to sell your gold ring back a few weeks later for the gold value alone of course you’ll get less money. It was created, worked on planned out and sold at a store. Is a business person selling gold a charity and not able to make a profit? If you buy a coat at REI can you sell it for it’s value a week later? No. Would anyone try to? I doubt it.
I won’t argue about what the value is of a ring. Each person has their own relationship with their wedding ring. I value mine way above its actual value. But I like my diamonds!
My focus on a ring lasting has to do with the fact that I can change it. I have nothing against tungsten and titanium as jewelry, just as wedding jewelry because it can’t be sized.
Respectfully I want to have the commitment and the nice symbol of it.
Thank you for writing. You are a passionate and articulate person. May your marriage be happy and long loved.
Precious Metal Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Sandy Boothe June 11th, 2013 at 9:34 pm


We have resized hundreds of titanium wedding rings, mostly rings that we did not make. There are limits to how much bigger or smaller we can make the rings but for most people, the amount their finger size might change is something we can deal with.

Calla Gold June 12th, 2013 at 6:15 am


Hello Sandy,
I went to your website and see that to size titanium bands a bit smaller you add material to thicken the inside and to make a ring larger you scrape from the inside to thin it and make it a bit larger.
This is good to see what it is that you are doing.
This is an interesting addition to the conversation.
Calla Gold

Caitlin July 8th, 2013 at 5:25 pm


Just words for thought, people in the military can wear black tungsten in war zones because they do not reflect light which is why my fiance requested a black tungsten wedding band.

Calla Gold July 9th, 2013 at 7:06 am


Hi Caitlin,
That is pretty fascinating. Thank you for sharing your military use for tungsten wedding bands.
Calla Gold

Louis July 24th, 2013 at 9:52 pm


Just a veiled way to get people to buy jewelry that you, and other jewelers, will charge (and make) more for. Pretty easy to see through. I’ve had gold and Tungsten, and I’d go with Tungsten any day of the week. You shouldn’t complain when other professionals take advantage of you out of self-interest, as you are plainly doing the same. I hope the extra profit is worth it to you.

Jane July 25th, 2013 at 2:46 pm


Titanium can also be symbolic of your love as well. My fiancee and I are both aerospace engineers and we work constantly with our hands. We are designing aircraft grade titanium wedding rings (they can be re-sized, you just have to know where to go) incorporating diamonds and carbon fiber. The materials are symbolic of who we are as a couple and as individuals, and they are durable to hold up to the rigorous demands of our jobs and hobbies. Both of us a propulsion systems designers and we have been known to spend all day in an engine bloc. Gold or platinum rings would be destroyed in an instant. The rings are just as beautiful as a gold or platinum band, but with the benefit of us not having to spend all day with them in our pockets, and our future children will be delighted to inherit them.

Calla Gold July 25th, 2013 at 5:53 pm


Hi Louis,
In the interest of letting all views be seen and heard I am approving your comment. In your comment you reference me complaining. I am stating my opinion and have no beef with designers who use titanium and tungsten. You can read from the other comments how various people have reasons to really like them. I just don’t want to symbolize my love with a ring that can’t be sized. That’s it in a nutshell. I am also in an economic place where I can make that choice.
In no way do I feel that any professional is taking advantage of me and I really don’t follow your thought.
Thank you for visiting and expressing yourself Louis.
Calla Gold

Calla Gold July 25th, 2013 at 5:57 pm


Jane,
I loved hearing about how your work would necessitate keeping your rings in your pockets and how titanium allows you to wear your ring. I see your point and applaud your career and ring choice. I personally do not consider grinding out metal on the inside to increase the opening a viable sizing solution. I only say that as with some men over time they may need more than 1.5 sizes of increase to their ring size. However some have commented that their ring size stays the same.
You sound like a smart couple. May you enjoy your titanium rings for all of your life.
Calla Gold

Jamie Goodwin July 30th, 2013 at 10:01 am


I highly recommend Titanium or Tungsten bands for anyone who works in construction, or mechanics. If you want a gold/platinum ring for everyday wear, then get one of those for work. I would have lost my finger had it not been for my titanium ring. I had a truck fall off of it’s jack, my hand was adjusting the spring, the weight of the truck came down on the spring, and my ring held it, for me to remove my hand. I had jack the truck back up, to retrieve the ring. I know that gold and platinum are heirlooms, but I prefer having my finger, and wearing a titanium ring over not having my finger and wearing a gold/platinum ring. For work, there is no better material, as far as long lasting, and such, as the titanium, or tungsten rings. That way you don’t damage the better rings. Just a suggestion.

Calla Gold July 30th, 2013 at 8:10 pm


Thank you Jamie for your excellent story with a happy ending with the titanium. If you’d been wearing a tungsten ring with it’s shattering problems I worry that you wouldn’t have had that happy ending. A tungsten ring can break when dropped, hit with a hammer and shocks similar to that. Titanium is known for it’s strength.
It does sound like a great ring for your construction work. Where your gold or platinum ring later!
Thanks,
Calla Gold

Michael August 5th, 2013 at 10:33 am


How do you see tungsten as cheap? titanium I understand and I will give you that, they’re easily broken but not tungsten I’ve had my ring for over 5 years and there is not a scratch on it (because they don’t scratch) hitting it with a hammer will break it? WHY ARE YOU HITTING YOUR RING WITH A HAMMER lol? my opinion is they look nicer, don’t scratch like gold,platinum,silver etc…

Calla Gold August 5th, 2013 at 4:45 pm


Michael,
People have dropped Tungsten rings on cement and had them break. You don’t have to hit it with a hammer to break it. Enjoy your ring.
Calla Gold

Luis Ibrahim August 12th, 2013 at 9:14 pm


Thanks for highlighting the cons of tungsten or titanium wedding bands. One should opt for wedding bands made of platinum, white gold or yellow gold to wear the jewelry forever.

Calla Gold August 13th, 2013 at 8:05 pm


Hi Luis,
Thank you for coming by and weighing in. I couldn’t agree more with you!
Calla

Jeffrey August 27th, 2013 at 3:30 pm


Wow… It is surprising how NOT impressed I am at the moment… hehe.
Let me explain.

You have 5 arguments for which we should not buy titanium.
1 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
2 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
3 : Titanium does not take value with time.
4 : You cannot change the size of the ring.
5 : Titanium does not take value with time.

I actually see only 2 points here… broken down in 5 different sentences/examples.

But unless you are simply trying to promote your gold/platinum/silver business.. This article that we just read… was NOT written to help us, customers, to get specific information on why WE SHOULD NOT buy titanium…

You are obviously just trying to convince people not to buy it.
This article was not written objectively with solid arguments.. is what I am trying to say.

Oh… also, you might have forgotten to say that even though it does not take value over time… how incredibly CHEAPER titanium is than gold and platinum… no?.. Oh well..

My opinion.

Calla Gold August 27th, 2013 at 8:14 pm


Hi Jeffrey,
You remind me of my son the philosopher. He breaks everything down to individual points and rebuts them one by one.
I stand by my points regardless of how artlessly they me be perceived.
Yes value is important to me.
Yes I don’t like cheap metal. That’s my opinion.
All of my writing is my opinion. I’m just an opinionated jeweler.
Thank you for your sharing your opinion Jeffrey.
The stuck on Noble Metals thank you very much Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Dana August 27th, 2013 at 9:04 pm


I think this is ridiculous. Most of the arguments are based on monetary value. Love should not have a price tag. Both Titanium and Tungsten, as well Cobalt, are all far stronger than either gold or platinum and will last far longer. They will outlast you by a long time, making them nearly eternal. Gold and platinum both dull, wear and deform over a very short period of time. Pure Titanium also 100% hypoallergenic and recommended for people with allergies. You cannot make a pure gold ring, it’s too soft. Before anyone says that gold is also hypoallergenic, we go back to that last statement. 18k gold is only 75% gold and 14k is about 58%. 14k gold contains copper, zinc and nickel. 18k adds silver and rose gold adds a lot more copper. These are reactive and some people react poorly to them, especially copper and nickel.
I actually prefer Titanium because it is nearly indestructible, maintains it’s luster, is lightweight and maintains its shape.

Calla Gold August 28th, 2013 at 6:22 am


Thank you Dana for weighing in. I have no axe to grind with the many pluses of Titanium. I merely have the opinion that if your wedding ring should need changing that it ought to be able to be changed. Gold and platinum can be changed, altered, sized five sizes worth if needed. In the end you have this meaningful ring that has gone through life with you and your spouse and can last into the next generation.
Now a titanium band may last into the next century, but if it fits no one and just sits, a neglected symbol of love, where is the love value in it?
I am a very romantic person. My original wedding ring has had to be sized about three times. I started wearing it when I was nineteen as an engagement ring. I was a skinny thing and maybe my hands hadn’t stopped growing. Maybe my wonderful husband’s excellent cooking helped me quit being skinny and got me normal sized or helped me finish growing.
I then had my sweet ring sized larger when I was 25.
Then I got pregnant and my wedding ring had to be sized larger. A year after my son was born I had to size it smaller.
Maybe all that sizing is not the norm. But that ring is the most important piece of jewelry I own, as is my anniversary ring I received years later. Which has had to have its size altered.
I do not want to quit wearing those rings because I gained weight. Or grew, or got pregnant.
I believe you wear your wedding ring regardless of what your weight is doing. Your ring is not a trophy to prove that your body weight remains the same. It is a symbol of love whether you are in shape, out of shape, have no kids or three kids. It’s your love ring and should be worn. If it is made of titanium or tungsten you may have to go buy a new ring. If you go again with titanium or tungsten it won’t cost much. But how does it make you feel? Not wearing the ring your pledged your love in? Having the ring blessed by that sacred ceremony sitting in your jewelry box unworn. To me it’d feel wrong.
I stand by my sentimental as heck opinion:
Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.
Calla Gold

Rob August 30th, 2013 at 2:26 am


eh…

After reading all of the comments, I am disappointed with the blog in general.

My wife and I are looking to replace our current rings with Titanium for the strength and durability. Not to mention the price isn’t bad at all on any Titanium rings.

But…you say that the wedding rings should be symbol of love, and I agree with that statement. If you think about the history of the wedding ring the circle represents the symbol eternity. I don’t know about you, but I do not want my marriage getting bent every time I hit it just a little too hard on the table or counter top.

Now on to the fact that I kept reading Titanium was good for a “right hand ring” in many countries in Europe it is customary to wear the wedding band on the right hand.

I guess what I’m trying to say is why would you try to convince other of what kind of ring to buy by saying “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands”? Is the profit not good enough for you on those types of metals? Would you rather be buried with your rings, or have one of your descendants sell them because they do not care about the rings?

Basically, it is not the rings that you are going to have on so why not help the customer to best of your ability instead of looking out for you check book.

Calla Gold August 30th, 2013 at 6:47 am


Hello Rob,
I’m sorry that my opinion piece on the wearing of titanium as wedding jewelry has disappointed you. The price of titanium is great compared to platinum and gold. If price is a primary concern then by all means go with titanium. It will also be fairly inexpensive each time you order a new one in a different size as your hands and fingers subtly change shape over the course of your marriage. I wrote this piece because of a very unhappy client response to the statement, “no your titanium ring cannot be sized two sizes larger.” My client Joe had a calcium deposit form on his wedding finger after a work related injury. His titanium ring had diamonds in it and wasn’t cheap because he had a lot of custom detail worked into it. This design was his creation to uniquely celebrate his later in life first marriage.
He was very upset because he got married in that ring and hadn’t realized that if the size needed changing up it needed to be ground out a bit from the inside as opposed to cut, have metal added and soldered closed like gold and platinum. He didn’t find this out while looking into titanium and felt blind-sided by this turn of events. His need for a two size enlargement was more than grinding out could accommodate.
We ended up replicating the ring in white gold and diamonds. Unfortunately since that time it needed to be sized larger again as his knuckle keeps growing. He was so relieved when I sized his white gold band. His attachment to his wedding ring and unique design and what it means to him was one of the events that prompted this blog post.
Maybe you don’t mind just buying a new one or two in the future. Or maybe your hand will not need a larger ring. If so you’ll be successfully bucking the odds. But there are people that don’t just want to buy a new one when their fingers change size. I wanted this information out there so people can make an informed decision. I put out my opinion and not everyone will agree with me. And I respect that.
As to your comment that you don’t want your ring to bend every time you hit it too hard on a table or countertop, I don’t know where you got a ring in gold or platinum that bent when you hit it, but a properly made gold or platinum ring created for daily wear doesn’t bend when you hit it hard. Fifteen years ago I custom made my husband an 18kt yellow gold hammered comfort fit band ring to wear hiking, rock climbing, mountain biking and the like. He has a dressier wedding ring with lapis in it that’d had gotten damaged in a hard hit, the lapis cracked, the gold was fine.
His new ring has gotten wedged in monzo-granite, pounded and abused. It looks great, has never bent and he loves its toughness.
I will clarify when I suggest that titanium is fine for a right hand I speak of the American tradition that wedding and relationship jewelry goes on the left ring finger and personal rings expressing your personality go on the right ring finger.
Rob, I do not offer alternative metals in my custom wedding ring making practice. I specialize in wedding rings made from gold and platinum. I truly believe they are the best choice.
Jumping onto my Gold and Platinum Soapbox,
Calla Gold

J-MAN September 14th, 2013 at 4:40 pm


“If This was Your Titanium Wedding Band, Once You Got it Off, You’d Have to Get a New Band. Your Band Would be Done!” In that pic I don’t care what metal you use it needs to be cut off. I was married 17 yrs and never needed a resize and have never heard of anyone that did. “was married” I wont make the mistake of spending a ton of money next time just to prove that I love someone. The ring is a symbol of love not the love of expensive things. Titanium is so much cheaper you can buy another ring if it ever doesn’t fit.

Calla Gold September 14th, 2013 at 5:12 pm


Hi Joe,
Thank you for writing.
My point in that picture was that if the ring that had to be cut off was gold or platinum, I could fix it and they could wear it again. If it was titanium and it got cut off it would not be re-usable.
You are right that regardless of metals it would need to be cut off.
Calla Gold

J-MAN September 14th, 2013 at 9:59 pm


I respect your passion and sentimentality in your work. That’s great for couples who are marrying for the first time because they believe it can and will last forever. I felt the same way when I married for the first time and I spared no expense. Now I have a simple gold band that I paid $600 for 17yrs ago that is worth $100 at a pawn shop today. Its worth the spot price if you are lucky. So the notion that there is value gained by buying gold is silly. I would happily sell you my 17 yr old band for what I paid for it 17yrs ago.

J-MAN September 14th, 2013 at 10:07 pm


I’m sorry I paid $600 for both but they were about the same weight. So $300 for something I can get $100 for today.

Calla Gold September 15th, 2013 at 5:41 am


Hi Joe,
I’m still married to the man I married at 20. My wedding rings mean a lot to me. Perhaps I wouldn’t feel that way if I was divorced, but I am happily married.
The ring I got married in started to look too small as my hands aged, so at year ten I asked for a new wedding ring and helped design it.
At year 25 I designed a new one which I am wearing this minute. I realize that I am probably more emotional about this, but I have gotten so much pleasure over the years from my rings.
I keep the ones I no longer wear sized up correctly for me so when I feel sentimental I can wear them. They have a value to me that can’t be measured.
Looking at my rings makes me feel loved. I am writing from that perspective.
When I speak of value in gold and platinum I do not mean to say that if you get a divorce you can get your money back for whatever you paid for it. It was retail after all, it was a designed ring and the metal meltdown cost will not be the same as a created ring.
But it does have monetary value. Tungsten and titanium do not. There’s no “We Buy Tungsten and Titanium” store down by the Piggly Wiggly.
Thank you for telling of your experience.
Calla

Calla Gold September 15th, 2013 at 5:42 am


Hi Joe,
Thank you for clarifying. That makes more sense.
Calla

Henry September 15th, 2013 at 11:34 pm


Great article! I have to thank Google for taking me to this page. This is valuable information for someone currently looking at wedding bands.

Kathleen October 2nd, 2013 at 5:48 am


Hi Calla,
I read this post with interest and first, I am amazed at some of the really cutting and quite ‘mean’ comments about your opinion of the the ‘less noble’ metals. More amazing is the fact that you can respond in a very civil tone to each and every one! My hat’s off to you and I’ll try to emulate your spirit when I answer some of the same type comments I have to respond to from our website.
I just LOVE (NOT!) that people think they should get the full value of their gold or platinum back when they sell their precious metal jewelry! As a chainmaille weaver, I hear this often – God forbid that we should be paid for all of the time we spend designing, fabricating, manufacturing, refining design, setting stones, polishing, etc, etc, etc – some people seem to want to pay the spot market price for their jewelry. They just don’t get that that dollar price is for raw, un-refined, right out of the ground ORE! And, don’t get that once they sell that jewelry for scrap, they’re only going to get a portion of that cost back. The precious metal market is SO volatile – you and I know that, but most people don’t.
I do like titanium for it’s light weight and ‘toughness’ and the fact that it’s a reactive metal which we can anodize (like niobium) but I would never make my wedding ring from it. Cost aside, the wedding ring is a symbol of a ‘precious’ union and in my mind is not to be taken lightly or tossed aside in favor of something less precious. That being said, my husband doesn’t wear his gold ring when working around machines as it could cause great harm to his finger if he hooked it on something. Some of the folks who touted the other metals, might give a second thought to the fact that a ring of any sort could ‘de-glove’ a finger with very little effort.
I sure wish my finger hadn’t ‘ever’ changed sizes over the years – I can’t wear my wedding ring right now because my finger is larger than when we married almost 24 years ago. *sigh*
Keep up the good work! Your designs are so exquisite and I love your stories about how new rings come from old, loved, cherished jewelry. Your passion is contagious!!!!

Calla Gold October 2nd, 2013 at 8:03 am


Henry,
I appreciate that after reading the blog you were kind enough to leave your very appreciated comment. Lord Google has taken me to many places I am glad to have found. I’m so pleased you were led to my door! Please come again.
If you are a Facebooking kind of person you could check out my page with on-going projects:
https://www.facebook.com/callagoldjewelry
Calla Gold

Calla Gold October 2nd, 2013 at 8:15 am


My Dear Kathleen, Chain Mail Maker,
I adore your well thought out comment on people’s expectation that they should be able to buy finished jewelry for near the cost of raw ore. Happily there are people who honor the artist’s skill and time.
I love your words so much. To hear from you, a fellow artist in jewelry is such a pleasure.
Thank you for speaking to the comments that are blasted all over the comment section. It’s a source of consternation for my mom, amusement for my husband and sociological interest to me. It’s really just this particular “no on titanium and tungsten wedding bands” post that has pulled the opinionated from the cracks in these great numbers.
Your mention of sleeving of a finger is a smart one. Having seen a picture, I was horrified. Having a titanium band on in that situation would be worse than gold as it’d take longer to remove. But I digress into the gross. Stopping now.
I’m wondering Kathleen if your sweet, but too small wedding ring can be sized larger? I’m guessing your sweetie got you a new one if you’re not currently wearing your original. I’ve sized my original twice. But I am a jeweler, so I have one husband and four wedding rings. Three of which I’ve designed. I like putting on my original for sentiments sake now and then so I keep it altered size wise so it’s there when I need it.
I got engaged and started wearing it at 19 and well I’ve been married longer than you and my hands have soooo changed!
You have made my day with your kind words and having this beautifully written comment on my blog elevates the conversation.
I thank you Kathleen,
Calla

Mark C. October 20th, 2013 at 7:24 pm


I’d like to introduce little bit of REALISM:

-as opposed to some of the crap I read in the previous comments regarding tungsten and titanium and what they are.

1. Pure tungsten (density 19.2) is not heavier than pure gold (density 19.3).

2. “Tungsten” rings are absolutely not made with tungsten metal but with tungsten carbide, which is a ceramic.

3. Tungsten carbide’s density is around 15 and is thus lighter than say a standard 18 karat gold alloy.

4. “Tungsten rings” are made by sintering (using laser heat to create change and combine with other powdered ingredients) tungsten carbide powder with a metallic binder based usually on nickel or cobalt(in very low proportions).

5. There is a LOT of confusion on the web and MANY companies who sell exotic alloys and ceramic rings often lie through their teeth and spread false informational sales pitches, and thus it is important to remind the public of certain actual facts. As an aside any engineering materials book that covers these said ring materials will back up these points easily.

6. Some gold rings are as synthetic as ceramic sintered rings, for the simple reason that novelty intermetallic compounds coined “black gold”, “blue gold” etc. are made by sintering gold powder with other metal powders such as nickel and aluminum in order to obtain a product that has a certain luster, the feel of gold but a totally novel color and aspect. Unfortunately this type of “gold” cannot be sized as it is extremely fragile (such as banging against a hard surface) and worse reacts to simple detergents and other household chemicals.These gold “alloys” (in fact intermetallic compounds) are mostly patented and protected.

7. -Some companies go a step further in the “high end” ceramic world and order from the supplying company new ceramic compounds which are blends of ceramics, which can be oxides and or carbides, some of which are even patented. They end up by selling them under ODD NAMES which are MISREPRESENTING the end product because they cite metals and not the ceramics truly used in the fabrication. One example is “black titanium”.

8. One way to produce it is simply to have any standard metal alloy (steel, titanium) coated with a type of carbide (diamond like carbon -deep black- , titanium carbo-nitride -brownish color- , etc) , or simply to have a specific blend of ceramic powders and metal binders all sintered together. Sometimes metal binders can be omitted if the ceramic is isostatically hot pressed for example, as for almost pure silicon carbide or silicon nitride. Decorative items made with these two materials exist and I wouldn’t be surprised if rings do too, or will hit the market in the near future. With new hyped and misleading names no doubt.

9. Of course, on novelty ring websites, the ceramic blends are being poorly documented or not even briefly explained to the online customer. In some cases this leads to the customer being completely lost, thinking he will be holding some sort of “magic metal” with “magic properties.” When in fact it may be either very brittle, not resistant to wear and specific chemicals (such as those found on sweat) or it may simply be a scam presenting a cheap ceramic as a novelty tailored material. Silicon nitride for example is not expensive to produce and bags full of perfect spheres can be purchased for use as replacement ball bearings.

10. Cheaply made gold rings exist as well, they are poorly mass produced by some unscrupulous third party. They produce “jewelry” and are practically not “worked” at all: they simply copy existing ring designs and cast a quasi final shape by wax casting thinner copies of original designs. When future repair soldering is done, which is inevitable, due to the unworkableness of their horrendously bad quality manufacturing techniques, the solder “blobs” are visible. And the jewelry will need multiple repairs.

11. In these cheap online jewelry products you’ll find low value synthetic diamonds, lead filled rubies and sapphires if not simply just colored cubic zirconia, parading as genuine gemstones. You may also receive moissanite parading as diamond. Or titanite and other diamond simulants.

I’m glad you wrote this blog post and I had a chance to express my opinion.

Mark

Calla Gold October 21st, 2013 at 8:43 am


Wow Mark,
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your engineering and chemical knowledge with my readers. Your grasp of the compounds in Tungsten sure outstrips mine.
I had to look up “sintering” as I wasn’t familiar with that term. For readers here’s the Wikipedia on it:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selective_laser_sintering
Each of your points was well thought out. Having to repair some of the knock-off jewelry that people are purchasing on trips has shown me that making jewelry without any regard for the happiness of the end client makes for one difficult repair, I can tell you. Solder blobs aren’t the half of it.
I appreciate the time that you took in responding. I hope you’ll forgive the little bit of editing I did to make it easier for my readers to follow your points.
Calla Gold

Epi October 29th, 2013 at 12:51 pm


You do beautiful work that I’ve looked at in your gallery. In this post you tackle and seem to piss off a lot of people. I laughed a lot while reading the comments. Needless to say my sweetie is not getting that titanium band he sent me a link to on cheap-ass rings.com. Just kidding that’s not really a site. Is it? Anyway he’s getting white gold! Thanks for the great info and the laughs! Well done!
Eps

Calla Gold October 31st, 2013 at 6:50 am


Hi Epi,
You made me laugh!
I’m pleased that your sweetie is getting a ‘forever’ white gold wedding band, not a ‘for a while’ titanium wedding band.
Thanks!
Calla

Person with a mind November 1st, 2013 at 11:15 pm


Geez, who is this person to tell others to buy certain items! Its sooo obvious this person’s value system is completely distorted. This is the product of our education system BTW!
Lets look at everything from a scientific angle, rather than a monetary angle. Once you take the “monetary value” out of the equation, gold and platinum are cheap contenders in the world of sustainability. WAKE UP !
Thinking Person

Calla Gold November 3rd, 2013 at 6:28 pm


Dear Thinking,
I’ve read your comment. I’m not sure if you are speaking of my value system or recent commenter Marc who gave a super scientific comment. Care to clarify?
Curious Jeweler Calla

Derrick November 29th, 2013 at 7:26 pm


Wedding ring prices are absolutely ridiculous and a total sham. You have a job simply to clean and update a symbol of someone’s relationship. If people put more emphasis on their marriages instead of just the symbols of their marriage then the divorce rate in the United States wouldn’t stand at higher than fifty percent.
A wedding ring is disposable. That’s right. It’s your marriage that is important and the ring is just there to show others of your commitment to each other (and also give yourself daily reminders).
I love Tungsten and when it no longer fits I will keep the old one and replace it. I don’t need to pay you thousands of dollars and then pay hundreds a year after that just to keep it going.
You just have to come out with stupid blogs like this to protect your line of work because if everyone knew that your job was pointless you wouldn’t have one. And don’t compare a ring to a car because a car has a function and if I don’t maintain it I will end up on the side of the highway.
A ring? It will look ugly, God forbid. Don’t waste your money people and think for yourselves.

Calla Gold November 30th, 2013 at 7:27 am


Hello Derrick,
I see that in writing up my opinion in this blog post about titanium and tungsten bands, I struck a nerve with you. As I am, you are entitled to your opinion.
I do not consider that my job is simply to clean and update symbols of love. Designing meaningful rings to represent love is an honor that I cherish. Every custom ring that I make gives me such joy.
Your statement that wedding rings are disposable I take exception to. I think they have great meaning.
Many a time a client (and I) have shed tears on the delivery of their special ring. Rachel had a diamond from her Grandmother as her center diamond. Her grandmother had emigrated years ago and sold all of her jewelry to get her family out of war-torn Europe. Her Grandmother was separated from her husband and feared he was dead. He was re-united with her three years later in what the family lore considered a miracle. As their family grew and their fortunes improved, life returned to normal. On Rachel’s grandmother’s 50th anniversary her grandfather gave her a beautiful diamond ring. He said it was to replace the first one he gave her that she sold all those years ago. That ring meant so much to the family because of the story it symbolized.
When Rachel put on that engagement ring with her grandmother’s diamond in it, there was a lot of emotion in that room. Her fiance got on his knees and proposed again. I felt honored to be there and to be a part of creating a ring to symbolize such hope for the future and respect for the past.
Derrick, I am an emotional person and that’s why it’s hard for me to see a wedding ring as disposable.
I say, don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands, because they give me no emotional pleasure as metals and as disposable rings.
Calla Gold

C J December 4th, 2013 at 6:42 am


In my experience having a ring re-sized is not a good idea and I’ve had a few done. I’d rather put my ring on a chain if it became too small or big. Gold is over priced nowadays and people are not getting value for money. I have a gold wedding ring and it is scratched and has bent to the shape of my finger. I also have a titanium ring which is solid and heavy. I like both my rings and although you are entitled to your opinion it doesn’t really hold any justification and your argument is all one way. There are pros and cons to all purchase items, so people may I suggest that you buy what’s right for you and what won’t cripple the bank balance as a marriage is based on love, commitment, trust and friendship. It’s not based on a piece of jewelry. There is no one more emotional than me when it comes to sentiment. However, it’s my husband that is the value to me and not my wedding ring. I know several couples who have gone out and spent a fortune on wedding rings and are now divorcing several years later.
Spend your money on making memories that you can share together and splash out more on the honey moon than the ring. Your memories are far more precious than a ring that will scratch, dent, and bend over time. So if you want to purchase a titanium ring, go for it or if you want a gold ring, go for it. Because all that really matters is your love for each other. People there are pros and cons to both gold, platinum, silver and titanium, which is why the opinion is very miss leading and therefore cannot be justified.
Beware if you have a ring re-sized with stones in it. I have had two rings re-sized, by very good jewelers, and within a couple of days of having my rings back, the diamonds fell out. I had to pay extra to have them replaced, but where is the sentimental value in that because the original diamonds have been lost forever? It cost me more in the long run. So make sure you research all pros and cons, because my jeweler took no responsibility for the stones falling out. Even though it was the re-sizing that had caused them to fall out, so just be careful as re-sizing with diamonds, in my experience, has not been good.

C J December 4th, 2013 at 7:12 am


In relation to the story about the Grandmother above, I’m pretty sure had the ring been a titanium one then the same emotion and meaning would have still been there as the emotions are in the story behind the jewelry of keeping the family together. Titanium might not be as expensive as gold, but it can still have meaning behind it because it’s about the person behind the ring and that’s what it’s all about. People are losing sight of that because weddings are becoming more for show on who can have the biggest ring or the best dress. And the flash cars. People should not start their married life in debt. Jewelers are even starting to give out credit now.
I don’t disagree with you that you have sentimental values. The above story is lovely but most jewelers are just in it for a profit and have jumped on the band wagon of filling people’s heads that they have to have expensive wedding rings.
My sister paid thousands of pounds for her platinum, diamond wedding ring for her September wedding in the luxury hotel with all the trimmings, yet by Christmas she was skint and couldn’t afford Christmas presents for her kids. This was because the jeweler filled her head with a load of waffle.
Her rings cost more than her dress and bridesmaids dresses put together, so if you want to promote gold then that’s OK, but please do not slate titanium as there is nothing wrong with a nice titanium ring either. It can also have the same sentimental emotions behind it. My sister’s rings are platinum and unless you were an expert in the field of metals, you wouldn’t be able to tell if they were silver, white gold, platinum or tungsten because they are dull. She can’t afford the upkeep they require. And who wants to be taking their platinum rings to the jewelers to be re-buffed every six months? Yes when you get a car you wash it etc, but even that is a pain in the butt. However, if I had to take the car in every so often to get it paint sprayed I’d get rid of it and use the bus. The fact that white gold has to be dipped/ rhodium plated yearly or so is also a pain. And when the kids come along in a marriage, then who the hell has time for all that? Not me that’s for sure.
So look at your lifestyles and do your research guys because like I’ve said there are pros and cons to everything :)

Calla Gold December 4th, 2013 at 8:18 am


Hello Claire,
Thank you for writing and sharing your views. I have to respond to your comment on the story of the grandmother’s wedding diamond and it’s wonderful meaning in a ring I designed for my clients. If the grandmother had had a titanium ring it would have been worthless and wouldn’t have been able to be sold to help with her desperate flight. Now it’s true that the diamond was the real value. You cannot set a large valuable diamond on titanium that is why they are sold mostly as bands.
To be fair you may be referring to the ring I designed being able to be titanium. Since it can’t be cast and worked by me with heat and only machined I cannot work with titanium. Again you can’t set a nice center diamond up on a titanium band. Part of the reason for using gold, white gold and platinum is that these metals can be worked by a jeweler. Jewelers came to be as artisans through the gift of these metals and people’s desire to have them worked for body adornment.
Regarding the dullness of your sister’s platinum ring turning dull, I address that in my blog post: http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/why-platinum-rings-turn-dull-so-fast/. There are solutions beyond just constant polishing that I address in this post.
Regarding your feelings about having to rhodium plate white gold once a year to once every three years to brighten its white color, it is not an expensive or time consuming process. ( my post about it:http://www.callagold.com/jewelry-repair/rhodium-plating-like-coloring-your-hair-only-for-jewelry/)
There are people whose never re rhodium plate their white gold rings and are perfectly happy. It is not a ‘have to’ type of maintenance. It’s merely suggested.
I stand by my noble metals as the best choice for wedding rings. I still say don’t buy tungsten and titanium wedding bands.
Thank you for writing.
Lovin my gold and platinum kind of gal,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold December 4th, 2013 at 9:32 am


Hello CJ,
Thank you for taking the time to write. I appreciate that you read the post “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands” and responded. Being the opinionated jeweler that I am I will respond to your points made.
Your first reason for not needing gold or platinum seems to be that sizing them is not a good idea. I have been sizing rings for 30 years. I size gold and platinum rings weekly.If your ring is out of round in the shape department from being worn it could be one of two potential problems; one your ring may be too thin and therefore will go out of shape or two it may be too big for you. For some reason when rings are too big it is easier for them to go out of shape.
Sizing is a very safe operation for rings to go through. I do not get complaints from my sizings. A good jeweler working on a well made ring should be able to size your ring seamlessly. Check out this blog I wrote on ring sizing prices for pictures of sized rings, http://www.callagold.com/jewelry-repair/much-cost-to-size-ring-gold-silver/. Each ring does not show the effects of its sizing.
Gold costs at least $500.00 less per ounce than it did a year ago. So gold is a better value today.
Your statement that your titanium ring is heavy makes me think you may have a tungsten band as titanium bands are extremely lightweight which is why is used by NASA for tool making for space ships and stations. Tungsten bands are heavier.
If you got your gold ring and tungsten wedding band at the same time and needed to size your gold ring, it seems that you wouldn’t still be able to wear your tungsten band. As it cannot be sized.
I agree with you that the love you have for your husband is the most meaningful thing to cherish in your relationship.
Regarding your diamonds falling out after sizing there are reasons that may have happened. See my blog post: http://www.callagold.com/jewelry-repair/wedding-ring-buyer-beware-seven-things-to-do-to-protect-yourself/. One of the points I make is to avoid :shared prongs.” I don’t know if your ring had shared prongs. When I size rings with shared prongs I always point that out to the person before doing any work as it is a design that is not great for daily wear. It is less great for a ring needing sizing. For that reason I usually design with 4 prongs not shared prongs. If your jeweler did not point this out to you that is not OK in my book. If shared prongs were not the culprit and the settings were fine before the sizing your jeweler should have helped you solve the problem he may have caused.
I recommend using a jeweler with a good reputation for sizing and discussing what might happen to side diamonds and who is responsible and for how long. It seems if you have a problem in 30 days the jeweler should replace them for free. However that is just my opinion.
Continue in your happy marriage whatever ring you wear!
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Don December 9th, 2013 at 4:19 am


For me, I chose Titanium for my wedding band, my wife elected to go with white gold as the design we wanted wasn’t feasible at the time in titanium. We remade it about three years ago in titanium and using sapphires instead of diamonds. Cost roughly a third of the original ring, but some surprising differences:
1) My wife doesn’t work with her hands, but even so the elaborate white gold ring got severely damaged often, losing stones (not repairable by most jewelers, we had to send it home to SA for repair several times).
2) My own ring is still in perfect shape, and I’ve had it resized twice. Yes, titanium has been resized. No, not in a local jeweler, I had to send it away; but the cost was still very much lower than the white gold band my wife had resized and repaired constantly.
3) The titanium band my wife had made is far more delicate to the eye, yet has not even warped, bend, curved, etc. Her white gold ring had already bend a few of the carvings/moldings? by the first year.

In the end, I recognize you need to protect your business; but discrediting a material that’s cheaper, lighter, and far more durable (and YES adjustable too), isn’t the way to do it.

Calla Gold December 9th, 2013 at 7:37 am


Dear Don,
Thank you for your titanium story. Your wife’s experience with her white gold band is an interesting one. It sounds to me like her ring wasn’t made for daily wear. See my blog on “Wedding Jewelry: Daily Wear VS. Occasional Wear”:
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/wedding-jewelry-vs-occasional-jewelry-four-pillars-of-a-daily-wear-ring/
Her ring with her gentle wear style sounds like its design was for occasional wear not daily wear. Or possibly the sales person at the store didn’t know she’d wear it daily or didn’t realize that the particular design she liked was unsuitable for daily wear and hence didn’t tell her or you.
I’ve seen many intricate and pretty designs that have fallen apart fairly quickly when worn as wedding rings, yet not been designed for that purpose.
Only a light weight white gold ring, too lightweight for daily wear will bend like that. Titanium will not bend like that because it is super strong. And you are right, it is a less expensive metal.
Regarding your “sized” band, per my earlier description in my post, your ring was not sized in the sense that a gold or platinum ring is sized. It’s gouged out thinner from the inside to make it bigger or has a sheet inserted inside to make it tighter. That works but only for a small sizing. If you need to go larger by two sizes they have to make a new one. I have no ax to grind with titanium, there is the reality of our fingers changing size over the life of our marriage and as titanium size adjusting is so limited I find it unsuitable for wedding rings.
I do not write this to protect my business, I write it because it is my opinion. I still say “Don’t Buy Titanium and Tungsten Wedding Bands.”
Calla Gold

Kimi December 9th, 2013 at 9:16 pm


Obviously on a subject as trivial as this one, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. For those who want a more durable ring, and who maybe want something (can only afford) something cheaper, it is fine for them to buy titanium and tungsten. If that’s their preference they aren’t breaking any moral code. If someone feels like Gold and Platinum . . . great for them. That’s why God gave us variety in life.

1)Personally I was happy to find out about Tungsten, I’d never heard of it. My husband and I aren’t too keen on wedding rings in the first place, but wear them only to show others we are not available. We loose rings easily and don’t want to waste any more money on expensive pieces of jewelry.

2) So what if my finger grows over time, I’ll buy a new ring. Styles change over time, and I wouldn’t want to be stuck with an outdated ring anyway.

Calla Gold December 10th, 2013 at 7:48 pm


Hi Kimi,
Thank you for your comment. It seems that tungsten is the perfect choice for you both. You know what you are getting, you’re willing to replace it if you outgrow it and you might like a change anyway in ten years.
In your case go for tungsten wedding bands.
I appreciate your viewpoint and I’m sure my readers will want to see your opinion.
Calla Gold

brieanna December 17th, 2013 at 11:48 pm


ACTUALLY YOU ARE COMPLETELY WRONG !!!!

ITANIUM can be resized you just have to find a SKILL jeweler who can work with it. Most sales people would rather tell you it cant be resized and make you buy something more expensive. I have had my titanium ring for 43 years and I have had it resized twice. But I will admit they cannot be resized as easy as gold or silver but they CAN BE RESIZED.The amount it can be resized depends on the thickness of the actual ring

Calla Gold December 18th, 2013 at 9:29 am


Hello Brieanna,
Thank you for writing. That is amazing that you’ve had a titanium ring for 43 years. I am guessing your finger has just changed a very small amount in that time.
When titanium has its size altered it is either ground out in a machine shop setting or a piece is machined and wedged in to make it smaller. Sizing as jewelers do it involves open fire soldering or laser soldering. Titanium cannot be soldered only ground by machine shop type machines. That is when typical jewelers do not “size” titanium.
We are not trying to be elitist. Or make people spend more money. We do not have the machines needed to do this work.
Further, the grinding only works for one size or so.
I recently sized a platinum ring from size 7 to size 4.5. This was a very challenging job since there were many tiny diamonds and their settings to consider.
I was able to use laser soldering and careful work to make this ring look just as beautiful for a size 4.5. If that ring had been titanium it would have been unusable for the recipient of the gift.
Titanium cannot be worked with jewelers tools and cannot be changed with heat.
And there is a limit to how much you can change the size. The amount it can be changed is a very small amount and in many cases people’s fingers will change size too much over the course of a marriage to be able to continue wearing a titanium wedding band.
When you mention the thickness of a titanium band you have a good point. If you have a very thick band then in the future there is more depth that can be ground away to make the ring bigger. I would point out that a very thick band would most likely be pretty uncomfortable. Once ground out to make it bigger it’d be more comfortable. I do not see starting with an uncomfortably thick titanium wedding band so you’ll be able to grind it out larger is a good solution to the reality that our fingers often get larger as we move through life.
Calla Gold

Mike A December 20th, 2013 at 10:45 pm


Tungsten carbide FOR THE WIN. If you lose weight then suck it up and spend another $90. My shit survived Afghanistan.

Calla Gold December 21st, 2013 at 7:30 am


Hi Mike,
I’m pleased that you and your wedding ring survived your tour in Afghanistan.
I’m curious Mike, if it’s a guy thing, but are you sentimental about the actual ring you got married in? I realize that you are $90.00 away from a new ring that will fit you if your finger size changes, but that new ring isn’t the same one you were married in.
What will you do with the one you pledged your vows with? Sell it on Ebay? Craig’s List? Stick it in a drawer? What about thirty years from now? Will you have a collection of 2 or 3 rings rotting (not literally) in your jewelry box, unable to be worn because they no longer fit?
Is that at all weird for you?
I’m asking as a sentimental girl. I’m really attached to the specialness of the ring I got married in. I’m attached to the ring my husband got married in. I like that they have both been able to be sized. I like that my kid and his future kids would be able to size them and use them if they want. Or sell them if they need the money. I like that our rings have value and don’t become obsolete because my body changed.
What is your take on these consideration? As a guy?
Curious Calla

SW December 24th, 2013 at 9:32 am


What a shill article. Titanium, Tungsten and other untraditional metals, are very interesting and are just as meaningful, if not more so, than the gold or platinum that 99% of people get (because that is what they are “supposed to get”).

You are probably posting this because you are concerned that alternative metals wedding bands are becoming a trend, so you decide to disseminate some fear uncertainty and doubt about these perfectly good materials.

Your reasons for doing so are just plain wrong. Specifically the one regarding the weight of the ring? Please! Have you ever felt a tungsten ring?

I hope people see through your advertisement.

Calla Gold December 24th, 2013 at 5:18 pm


Hello SW,
You are of course entitled to your opinion. I did not write this article to slam titanium or tungsten as rings for the right hand.
I merely feel that as a daily wear ring that needs to changed with you over the years it is unsuitable. I personally don’t like the lightweightness of titanium. It is a personal thing.
Calla Gold

Raealistic January 10th, 2014 at 12:08 am


So your reasons for not getting a Tungsten ring is that it’s not as expensive as other metals, and if you get fat or lose bunches of weight you’ll need to get a cheap and easily purchasable replacement?

The wedding ring is a symbol of marriage, and that’s it. By your reasoning the more expensive the ring, the more it matters in the long-run. I just don’t agree, and I think that’s kind of an awful, materialistic way to look at something that’s starting off your life together as a couple.

Calla Gold January 10th, 2014 at 6:54 am


Dear Raeanne,
Thank you for your comment. Regarding your viewpoint I’d like to say that for most people even with no weight gain or loss in their married life their knuckles keep growing. After you’ve been married a while you just need to have your ring sized differently.
My personal opinion is that you should be able to wear the ring you got married in. This isn’t some materialistic greedy kind of thought.
Our grandparents who struggled during the Great Depression found a way to get gold or platinum rings with diamonds on them. When I see how those rings are cherished and the diamonds re-used for new designs I am moved by the generational love these rings symbolize. Over and over again, I hear from young couples statements like, “they were happily married for 60 years and this ring was there the whole time.” Or, “My grandmother wore this ring everyday for 68 years. It means a lot to me that she gave it to me.”
No one will say that about your tungsten band. Your grandkids aren’t going to say “wow, how nice of grandma to leave me her tungsten band.” Of course it doesn’t fit, but,… yeah.
Not one young couple coming to me to design a ring with their grandma’s diamonds every talked about how materialistic their grandparents were. They talked about how they created a family and stayed together. That gold band of grandpa’s and that diamond ring of grandma’s were the most important pieces of jewelry either one of them had. They stood for their love, their sacrifices and their partnership for a life.
I say don’t buy tungsten or titanium bands and I stand by my opinion.
Calla Gold

Wolfram January 24th, 2014 at 12:17 pm


In my opinion your reasons for not buying Tungsten are weak and unconvincing.

- First Tungsten is heavier than gold.
- Fat fingers ? Put the fork down (your bones do NOT grow after you hit 23 y/o)
- Tungsten is one of the most durable materials in the world and will not scratch, which will be best fit to represent strong marriage.
- Gold / Platinum are overpriced, will scratch very easily and super soft metals which will deform and damage your finger in case of accident, where tungsten is to protect it.
- Tungsten is affordable and virtually indestructible and still can be engraved.

Calla Gold January 24th, 2014 at 9:07 pm


Hello Wolfram,
Thank you for writing and specifying your issues with my blog post about not choosing tungsten and titanium bands for wedding rings.
1. In my article I specify that titanium is lighter than gold and platinum. I do not lump the heavier tungsten in that statement.

2. I discussed why many people need their rings sized over the life of their marriage, near the end of this Blog post:
http://www.callagold.com/jewelry-repair/sawing-off-rings/

3. Tungsten may be hard, but it is brittle and can break. See this article about a tungsten ring breaking a half and hour after this guy made his marriage vows:
http://www.examiner.com/article/exclusive-handle-with-care-tungsten-ring-break-shatter-and-crack-warning

An important part of this article is the acknowledgement that tungsten does break by industry professionals. It has happened to many married couples. Tungsten’s brittleness and ability to break when hit or dropped just the right way, makes me feel that it is not a good representation of a strong marriage.
Here are the quotes from jewelry industry regarding the break-ability of tungsten:
Helena Krodel from Jewelers of America confirms:
“Tungsten carbide (which is not actually a metal, it is a metal matrix composite) does in fact shatter if exposed to an extreme blow. Unlike other precious metals like platinum, gold or sterling silver, tungsten carbide will shatter not bend if exposed to a high impact blow.”
The Jewelers Vigilance Committee, which mediates disagreements between jewelers and consumers has had no complaints about tungsten rings breaking, but president and CEO Cecilia Gardner says, “I certainly have heard about this happening.”
Even some of the Tungsten websites admit it:

Q. Can Tungsten Carbide or Zirconia Ceramic shatter or chip?

A: Yes – While extremely strong and scratch-resistant, Tungsten carbide and Zirconia Caramic are a bit more brittle than traditional metals used as wedding bands. The metals properties behave more like a marble or a concrete then a metal.

4. You say that gold and platinum are over-priced. Gold is an amazing metal and has been used in jewelry making since the beginning of decorative metal working. It is also used in many other industries as well. Its price is based on demand and availability. The fact that it can be designed with in many ways and sized and repaired as needed makes it an ideal metal for long lasting wedding jewelry. Gold’s warm beauty and platinum’s appeal are worth it in my view.
A properly made wedding ring will not deform. Neither 14kt gold or Platinum are “very soft” metals.
Your mention of tungsten being protective to your hand in case of an accident is an iffy statement. It might break in that accident.
Your comment that gold and platinum scratch easily is interesting. Would you not buy a car because the paint might get scratched? Would you get mad because your card that you drive daily needed a tune-up? I find the patina of wear quite attractive on my ring. It gives it a slightly soft and warm look. I only repolish my 18kt yellow gold ring every three years or so. Just for a change. Not that I object to the patina of wear.
Tungsten is affordable, it is not indestructible. titanium and tungsten can only be engraved by laser. Gold and platinum can be engraved by machine and hand engravers as well as by laser. Titanium and tungsten cannot be sized. If you plan to be married a long time the chances of your fingers staying the same size are slim. Then where will you be with the ring you made your vows over?
I say don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands.
Calla Gold

kevin January 30th, 2014 at 4:46 pm


“I realize that you are $90.00 away from a new ring that will fit you if your finger size changes, but that new ring isn’t the same one you were married in.”

- says the person on her third gold wedding ring.

You totally lost me after you posted that you got a new wedding ring for your 10 and 25th anniverseries. 3/5ths of the reasons in your blog are that tungston and titanium rings cannot be resized. But the simple fact is tungston and titanium rings are significantly cheaper and can be replaced if they are lost or your finger changes mutliple sizes.

So what gets me about your postition is that your response to everyone that posted about the benefits of having a cheaper ring, that it can be replaced, was based on the sentimentality of it being the ring you were married in despite the fact that you are on your third ring yourself.

If it’s such a big deal to you that your wedding ring be the one you are married in, why would you repace yours twice?

Also your reasoning regarding the value is misguided. Yes gold is much more valuable that tungston and titanium. But as you admitted yourself, the cost of a gold ring far exceeds the value of the materials. So if I buy a $1500 ring work $900 in materials, how is that a better value than buying a $90 ring regardless of the value of the materials. Even though goal/silver/platiumum are commodities, the value of the gold/silver/platiumun in the ring will never be more valueble than if you had spent $90 and invested the $1400 in something else, like stocks, mutual funds, or even gold, which is a traded commodity.

So $90 ring and $1400 or $1500 ring worth $900, you pick which has more value.

Calla Gold January 30th, 2014 at 9:45 pm


Kevin,
Regarding having three wedding rings. I’m a jeweler and I love each of them and switch them around. As a jeweler I love to lavish my design skills on my rings. Each ring means a lot to me. They are all precious metal. None are titanium or tungsten as those metals do not speak to me as marriage metals.
Respectfully, if you are fine with ordering a new band when you can’t fit into your old one, by all means do that. It’s not something I’d do. That’s me.
I wrote this because there are those out there unaware that they cannot size adjust titanium and tungsten rings. I am fine with them making an informed choice. But I’m not going to stand by and say nothing. I have been thanked by many men and women who like titanium and happily wear the rings on their right hands. They appreciated being put in the know so they could decide for themselves. Interestingly 85% of them want a ring they can size and alter if they need to.
Regarding my plethora of wedding rings, I don’t feel the need to apologize for the fact that I love more than one ring from my wonderful husband. I’m a girl and a jeweler, I’m surrounded by beauty and have a lot of love in my heart.
Regarding your comment on the fine ring costing $1500.00 with $900.00 worth of materials. It’s kind of like saying “that car cost $40,000, but if I took it to a junkyard to sell it for the metal value I’d only get $2200.00. What a rip. I believe that if a designer creates a ring that they are entitled to be paid for their work. Do you work for free?
As far as investing goes, since my wedding ring is the most valuable piece of jewelry in my heart, I’d spend my money on it before I’d put my money in the stock market. Somehow the stock market doesn’t say love, trust, faith and forever true to me.
That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in investing in the stock market. I do. But not with love money. My love money goes to my love jewelry. The value in the pleasure I get in wearing my wedding ring, which ever one I choose to wear is priceless. My wedding ring is not a commodity, it is a symbol of love. I treat it with respect and love it. Therefore if my husband says, “Babe I’ve saved up $2,000.00 to buy you a ring as a symbol of my love. Or I could get you some bonds to put away for a rainy day.” I’ll take my lovely symbol of love thank you very much. I’ll take that in gold and platinum and not in titanium or tungsten.
Calla Gold

Maarten January 31st, 2014 at 5:30 am


Or you could just get 20 titanium wedding bands in all sizes instead of just two.

You do not need to worry about losing them or people wanting to steal your expensive ring.

Then you never need to visit a jeweler again in life unless you feel like it.

Also its stronger leighter more durable and non-allergic material then platinum or gold.

Calla Gold January 31st, 2014 at 8:24 am


Hello Maarten,
I’m thinking you are not a fan of jewelers. That is too bad. Of course you could buy 20 titanium bands and have an absurd amount of rings. And never see a jeweler again. But what is the point? As a romantic woman I want beauty and versatility. I do not want a disposable symbol of love. Having a box of cheap replacement rings does not say “special” or “meaningful” to me.
Years ago I got a dog and he came with a perfectly bomb proof nylon leash. I fell in love with my dog Snooper and I wanted a beautiful leather leash for him. My step dad argued that the nylon one was just fine and would be more durable. And he would not pay for it. I was about eight at the time.
I saved up and got the leather leash. It went in the ocean by accident, it got dragged through dog poop.(By accident.) A lot happened to that leash. But I always cleaned and saddle soaped it and cared for it.
If I’d used the nylon one I could have thrown it in the dishwasher or the washing machine. (My mom would really have liked that the time it got dog poop on it.)But I wasn’t looking for utilitarian-ness or the cheapest price. I was looking for a symbol of my love for Snooper. And for the record I got a constant barrage of crap for spending my money on leather from my step-dad. I guess your comment reminded me of that time.
I do not regret buying or caring for that leather leash for Snooper.
When the divorce happened, Snooper stayed with my step dad and we moved away. I was pretty sad. I noticed that my step dad kept the leather leash. Maybe its attractiveness and need of care and non-bomb-proofness were not a deterrent to having it and using it.
I share this story with you to try to explain why something special that costs a little more can feel meaningful. My dog didn’t care about what kind of leash he was on in the big city. But as the giver, it made me feel good. All these years later when I see Snooper in my mind’s eye I’m running with him, looking down the leather leash. That I saved up for and got for him.
I doubt my husband looks at my ring with the same feelings. But when I look at my ring it makes me feel like I am special to him. Having a bunch of copies of it in my jewelry box. Not so special.
Not having any titanium or tungsten on my wedding finger thank you,
Calla Gold

Mike January 31st, 2014 at 11:41 am


While I do understand the reasons you have for recommending against titanium and tungsten, I have a comment that has not been addressed (surprisingly) so far. I have an allergy to Nickel which is in pretty much any standard ring out there. So I have not choice but to go with an alternative metal. I know that my finace loves me very very much but there is no way we are buying a platinum wedding band so Cobalt, Titanium, and Tungsten are my only real options.

Amanda January 31st, 2014 at 6:35 pm


This is the worst informercial to buy more expensive metals from a jeweller that I have ever read. There is nothing wrong with titanium bands. Not everyone wants that $5000 diamond solitaire plus matching band. Using the example of being able to change out a gold setting to accept a larger diamond in the future…what a ridiculous thing to do. “Sorry dear, this one is too small…let me take it back to the jeweller and make it the way I want!” HAHA.Not everyone cares if their band gets too small – put the original one away and buy another one! It’s just a physical item. Many married people do not even wear a band.

Calla Gold January 31st, 2014 at 9:15 pm


Hi Amanda,
I am sharing information some people may want and not have. The fact that they can’t have soldering done on their titanium or tungsten bands. Further I share my perspective. It’s OK that you do not share it.
It is a fact that after years of marriage some people are in a financial position to upgrade the size of their diamond. It’s a celebration of their partnership in life and their success. It is not someone being greedy and being demanding. At least the clients I deal with are doing this from a place of love and celebration.
I guess I’d better feel complimented that my blog is the worst infomercial to buy more expensive metals you have ever seen. Do I get a prize? A titanium trophy?
You are right that there are people who do not wear their bands. I’d say this blog post is not for them. It is for people who wear their bands and cherish them.
Thank you for taking the time to let me know I’m creating an effect with my writing.
Jewelry blogger,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold January 31st, 2014 at 9:40 pm


Mike,
You bring up an excellent point! Having a nickel allergy and having a daily wear ring do not a good pair make! The EU countries have passed legislation addressing nickel in jewelry. Here’s an excerpt from Askville about nickel in jewelry making:
The European Union countries have enacted legislation (under the EU Nickel Directive) valid from the 20th January 2000 that limits nickel release from jewellery and other items in close and constant contact with the skin. Thus, in Europe, nickel white golds are being phased out and being replaced by palladium white golds, although low nickel alloys that meet the nickel release requirements of the Directive are still in service. This does not guarantee that a nickel-sensitised person will not suffer an allergic skin reaction if wearing jewellery made from such conforming, nickel-containing alloys!

Japan and China have taken a similar position on nickel. The USA is taking a more relaxed approach, requiring jewellery to be labelled as nickel-containing. Many other countries have not taken a stance on nickel in jewellery and nickel white golds are still widely sold.
(From :http://askville.amazon.com/daughter-allergic-nickel-white-gold-fine-jewelry-free/AnswerViewer.do?requestId=502644)
Many responsible jewelers and designers have used nickel-free white gold for years. I am one of these jewelers. So Mike, white gold is an option for you as long as you work with a jeweler who will either custom make your ring in nickel-free white gold or source a ring for you in nickel-free white gold.
A white gold band would be significantly less expensive choice than platinum.
I appreciate your bringing up such an important and you are right, so far not covered, subject.
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Nick February 3rd, 2014 at 1:40 am


Reasons #1, 2 and 4 are the same issue. Reasons #3 and 5 are the same. Your cleverly marketed “five reasons” are basically two: sizing and value.

Regarding value, not all titanium and tungsten rings are worthless. I’ve seen titanium bands with platinum, gold and silver mixed into the design pattern, either as an inner or outer band. Also, titanium is extremely light-weight which is a value to many professionals like myself (musician) who can not work with heavy rings. Finally, jewelry as inheritance is extremely old-fashioned thinking. There are many other, more modern ways to give your children an inheritance.

Regarding size, I saw your comment quoting some anonymous doctor about “ears, noes and knuckles never stop growing” … ridiculous. If that were true then all our elders would have humongous noses and hands (and they don’t). Ears droop. Cartilage sags. It does not grow. Everyone knows the re-sizing of rings is due to weight gain/loss. It is also a source of revenue for your jewelry store, so naturally you are opposed to rings which you can’t re-size.

Nick February 3rd, 2014 at 2:11 am


PS: In reading your comments, I see you argue that gold isn’t “soft” but you are wrong, gold is very soft. That’s why gold coins wear down much faster than silver, nickel, brass, etc. You argue 14k gold is hard – but 14k is ONLY 58% GOLD.
Of course the karat with the least amount of gold will be harder than, say, the 22k or 24k rings you typically sell (which are 92% gold or better, and therefore softer).

You are careful to use certain words and not others. You think this wins over the readers, but I believe they see through the snake oil.

Calla Gold February 3rd, 2014 at 6:39 am


Dear Nick,
I’m happy with the way I stated my five points. But if you chose to look at them as two main reasons that is fine. Regarding value I like a re-usable ring. Even though some titanium rings have gold and platinum in them that doesn’t make them wearable for the generation that would inherit them. That leaves the value of the band, if you pulled the precious metals out of the wrong size band, the value of the titanium, negligible, and the platinum or gold, which will only be valued as scrap metal. I personally like the idea of being able to actually size and wear an inherited band. There is meaning in a wedding band that is inherited. Many of my clients have used an inherited ring from a beloved grandfather to be their band. I could see how special that was.
I believe from the amount of inherited rings I have sized, polished and repaired or mid-life tuned-up for couples getting married that it is an important and helpful gesture for a family member to have access to an inherited wedding band. I see how much they appreciate the connection to their family. They would miss that were they to inherit titanium or tungsten. The chance that it’d fit them perfectly is so slim.
Of course there are other things your kids or grand kids could inherit, but would they mean as much as a ring you wear daily? I think not Nick.
Regarding size of fingers. I have observed many women who hadn’t gained weight whose fingers had enlarged. I thought the doctor I spoke to perhaps had a point because I size so many rings larger. But perhaps he was theorizing. The fact remains that as a 31 year jeweler I am in the unique position to design wedding rings and then have to size practically every one of them ten years or so later. It is very real to me that to be able to have your wedding band sized is important if you have a sentimental attachment to your band.
As a musician I can see that you like your lightweightness of band.
Happy to stick to gold and platinum wedding bands,
Calla Gold
My only objection to your comment is the personal attack that I give my reasons merely out of economic consideration.

Calla Gold February 3rd, 2014 at 9:39 am


Hi Nick,
For wedding rings which need to be strong I typically use 14kt yellow or 14kt white gold. This is as you say 58% pure soft gold and 42% harder metal alloys. This gives the gold great strength. This 14kt gold choice is very strong. One of my clients had me re-polish his ring. In an inattentive moment a door tried to close on his hand. The gold was marked by the collision, but not bent. Gold alloyed this way is very strong.
If you were to included rose gold in this conversation, I’d say that 14kt rose gold is the weaker metal since it uses so much copper in the alloy for the wonderful color.
I’m not sure what words you speak of that I am “careful” to use. But I see that you are characterizing me as some grasping greedy person by writing this blog post and dismissing titanium and tungsten for wedding bands. I did not write this post for personal gain, but to inform those of the cons of choosing these metals as wedding bands.
I do not sell titanium or tungsten wedding bands and have no ax to grind with the makers of these rings. Perhaps you are such a maker? Perhaps that is the reason for the personal attack?
I recently sized a 14kt gold wedding band from size 7 to size 10 for nice strapping young man who was given it from his grandfather. He was very pleased that I was able to make it larger. He loved his grandfather, who was married happily for over 50 years. Had his grandfather given him a titanium or tungsten band size 7, it would have sat forgotten in a drawer. That would have been sad.
As it stands he has a wonderful wedding band and a fantastic reminder of his loving grandfather.
Calla Gold

edward matson February 8th, 2014 at 8:58 pm


Calla Gold..if your noble metals are so wonderful, why did you start a mud-slinging contest by saying “Don’t buy titanium or….”

That is so unprofessional.Also, I know many, many people who could buy platinum and prefer titanium. Why anyone who has got their eye on building wealth would piss their money away on platinum or gold is beyond me.

edward matson February 8th, 2014 at 9:03 pm


Furthermore, I had a band from Tiffany and Co. that was platinum. After about 2 years or less, it looked like something out of a cracker jack box. The person wearing the ring is the only one, probably, who could discern what material it is made from , so if it makes you feel better to have platinum, good for you.

And I am happy you can choose what metal you can afford. So can I ..I can also choose the jeweler..Cartier, VanCleef, Tiffany..can you ?

Calla Gold February 9th, 2014 at 7:33 am


Dear Edward,
I wrote my blog post to inform people that a wedding band that can’t change and grown with you in your married life or be shared with future generations might be a poor choice as a wedding band. It is my opinion. People have been pissed when their finger expands and they can’t change their titanium or tungsten band. I’ve heard, “if I had known that I wouldn’t have bought it.” One female client sat with me and cried while they decided to order a white gold band. She said, “I wanted the ring I gave him to last our whole lives.” She felt pretty devastated that the titanium band she’d chosen no longer fit him.
He’d hurt his hand at work and his finger was bigger. He was comforting her and saying, “babe I’ll love my new ring. I’ll wear it always.” The sentimentality of a wedding band is that it is supposed to be the ring you can have your whole life.
I wrote this post to inform people of the limitations of titanium and tungsten as a lasting band from a size perspective.
My purpose was not to start a mud-slinging contest. And for the record the other side has done some serious mud-slinging in the comments section. Which turned it into mud-slinging with insults and personal attacks.
For my part I take great strength from my long marriage. I didn’t economize, but saved up for my sweetie’s wedding band. I’m glad I did. Wealth building is something we can do together as a team once we are married, was my thinking at the time. I enjoyed saving up month after month so I could afford a nice wedding band for my husband. It was important to me. That band has been sized about three times. As we’ve been married many years.
I love looking at it and being reminded of my wedding day. The happiest day of my life. My nice mom paid for my wonderful backyard wedding. Her friend did the food, another friend did the flowers. We weren’t made of money. I was very proud of the fact that at 19, I earned and saved up the money for his ring. If tungsten and titanium had been available I would have been tempted to buy them for him. They look good, they feel good, they are a wonderfully affordable price and they are pretty great. But if I also were told at the time the limitations that I have shared in my titanium and tungsten blog, I would have said, “no, if it’s not going to be able to be worn for sure in ten years because his finger changes no. I’ll get a really nice metal that can be altered, that he can keep wearing.”
Some people do not know the limitations, so I wrote this blog post so couples planning to marry can be informed. And yes I expressed my strong personal opinion about it.
Romantic and opinionated jeweler,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold February 9th, 2014 at 7:49 am


Ah Edward, you are back.
Regarding your complaints about your platinum Tiffany wedding band, I write about the malleability of platinum in my blog post here:
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/why-platinum-rings-turn-dull-so-fast/
You make a good point that a plain shiny platinum band has an annoying habit of dulling up way faster than for example 14kt white gold. I address in that blog the idea that platinum wedding bands will look better with a design, whether it be carved in or engraved on. Sparkly little diamonds will also be very helpful as well in helping platinum look livelier.
Otherwise you’ll need to polish it regularly to keep the high polish showing. As you’ll see by that post Edward I am opinionated about platinum as well.
There are pros and cons to many wedding band metal choices. I’m blogging to inform people of the various issues surrounding wedding band choices and metal choices as well.
I’m figuring by your mentioning your choices of jeweler that I am supposed to feel what, offended? I don’t get your point. Of course you would not choose me as your jeweler, which is fine.
I find that by freely giving jewelry choices information, I have attracted an intelligent, well informed type of new client. Happily the perturbed ones, such as yourself, do not call and ask me to custom make them jewelry.
You are entitled to your opinion as I am to mine. That’s one of the things I love about our country, even though some of us differ wildly we can all express our opinions. May it always be so.
May your wedding band give you great good feelings as you wear it!
Calla Gold

John February 12th, 2014 at 8:57 pm


As I understand it, platinum was discovered in the 18th century, so I question your claim that it was valued for thousands of years.

Calla Gold February 12th, 2014 at 9:07 pm


Hello John,
I should have been more specific. I was referring to gold in my 1,000′s of years comment. Good catch.
Platinum, according to Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platinum) was first referred to by Scalinger in 1557 as an as yet unnamed metal.
In 1741 Charles Wood wrote about it.
Calla Gold

Brian P February 17th, 2014 at 12:11 pm


Hello Calla, I totally agree with this. I do not understand how people can be so cheap and casual about a ring that is suppose to be significant and the most important piece of jewelry we will ever own. “Ahh its no big deal, I’ll but a tungsten one for 40 dollars at Walmart, i can smash it with a hammer and if it breaks i can go buy another one, even open beer with it”… really? You have to be kidding me. I went with beautiful yellow gold, a rare precious metal that’s been used since the infancy of humans. Think about it folks, imagine if King Solomon got cheap and made God’s temple with iron because “Ahh I don’t feel like wasting the money, it’s no big deal”.. Think he would have accepted it? Get a job, or work extra hours, whatever it takes, but do not be cheap on this people.

Brian P February 17th, 2014 at 12:12 pm


I’m sorry, but my fellow guys, I’m ashamed of not just the cheap metal, but the attitude you guys have with it. C’mon! Work some extra hours, it will be worth it.
B

Calla Gold February 17th, 2014 at 1:58 pm


Hi Brian,
Thank you, thank you. I so appreciate your opinion in light of what I’ve been reading in the comments column lately. We’d never ever have learned of King Solomon’s mine or temple if it had all been iron. Of course we would have been spared a movie in my top ten worst movies of all time “King Solomon’s Mine.”
But I’m willing to have sat through that horror of a movie that I might remember the splendor of King Solomon’s temple.
I’m with you, go for quality, it will reflect your respect for your partner in love.
Calla Gold

edouard February 19th, 2014 at 9:03 am


I am a jeweler in France and manufactures gold and platinum jewelry for 20 years. Unfortunately your articles is completely useless. There are tens reason to prefer Titanium something else. Mainly depending on the volume of jewelry, everyone can not afford a jewelry 10 or 20 times more expensive than titanium. Some persones can not wear jewelry Gold 750/000 because of the silver in the alloy which can cause allergies, I can ennoncer of tens of reasons or create a stupid page titled “do not buy from gold or platinum “.
I have a patent arts and crafts gems and know my trades and sells titanium jewelry. I advise you to deepen your knowledge.
thank you to excuse my english, the french are not good in a Foreign Language

Calla Gold February 19th, 2014 at 10:24 am


Bonjour Edouard,
Merci for responding from France to my blog post “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tunsten Wedding Bands.”
It sounds like you are an experienced jeweler. Other than the fact that titanium is less expensive could you share with my curious readers what some of the other ten reasons are that titanium is superior to gold and platinum.
I certainly am the last person to argue that if you have $50.00 in your wedding budget for a wedding band that titanium can’t be beat. However that is but one reason. And the disposable nature of titanium, lacking much actual metal value and needed to be put aside when your fingers change size, makes that $50.00 purchase a waste of money from my perspective.
I have personally never known a person who was allergic to 18kt yellow gold. I have allergic clients that order their custom rings in 18kt yellow gold and do well. If they want white metal I recommend platinum with its hypo-allergenic aspect.
Being a jeweler for 31 years (as of January 2014) I have sized many people’s wedding bands numerous times. I have been asked to size titanium bands. Sometimes the husband has only had it for a year and it’s getting too tight. Even though he can send back to the factory and trade it in for the right size, he feels that he wants to wear “his” ring, not a stand in. That is one of the reasons I wrote my blog post.
I just wrote a new one, http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/titanium-vs-gold-for-wedding-bands/ It’s about safety and alternate metals.
Let me know of some of your other favorite reasons for liking titanium and we can discuss it.
I’m impressed that you communicate so well. I could not write to you in French.
Your Fellow Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Brian P February 20th, 2014 at 12:26 am


It’s one reason being poor and buying titanium rings for that special person, but from what I’ve read here in this comment thread, it’s mainly cheap non-sentimental men (and women) who are just cheap.
Question, I am allergic to white gold, I assume its the nickel alloys in white gold, would 14k yellow gold do the same or does it lack nickel?

Brian P February 20th, 2014 at 1:06 am


Final Message, do not be cheap guys, treat your lady right with gold if you can afford it. =)

Calla Gold February 20th, 2014 at 7:11 am


Brian,
Thank you again for your pointing out that there is a non-sentimentality in a number of the complaining comments.
Regarding your question, many custom jewelers do cast white gold without nickel. But it is best to ask and get it in writing in case you have a reaction.
Yellow gold does not use nickel in the alloy process. White gold did more so in the past than in the present because nickel imparts a nice white look to the white gold. White gold these days looks slightly less white than its older counterparts due to the lack of nickel in the alloys.
I have used nickel free white gold in my custom designs for years.
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold February 20th, 2014 at 7:20 am


Nice Brian.
As much as I might have said, “Oh you don’t need to get me anything special. Your love is enough,” where a gift or a ring is concerned, what I really wanted was to have my honey show me how he valued me. I may say, “Oh don’t get me a gift for my birthday, we’re economizing,” but I am hoping that he’ll figure something out.
I may be old fashioned, but many times I’ve denied myself something because we were economizing or we had some reason going on and my husband would figure it out and manage to stay on budget and get me a treat. He’d say, “I wanted you to have something you like from me, because I like to treat you the way you deserve.” Those might not have been his exact words, but for him to find a way to get me something special made me feel loved and protected. Like someone is looking out for me.
And for the record I’ve worked extra to get him something special too. So your message about treating your lady right makes me remember that I am a lucky wife and it makes me feel happy knowing it.
Happy Wife,
Calla

Calla Gold February 25th, 2014 at 5:28 pm


Hi Calla,
It was a pleasure meeting you at the wedding showcase on suday
I wanted to thank you for your great advice and expertise!!! as I explained Sunday I brought my fiancé, a Titanium riing for our engagement, unexpectedly knowing I just got the wrong size I took it home in excitement to surprise her by proposing. Upon giving her the ring and trying to fit it on her finger I realized it wasn’t a fit but that’s Ok! we can just get it resized right? WRONG!!!!! No one told me upon purchasing this ring that It could not be resized. This was not only devastating, but a total disaster too….. Thanks to Calla there is hope of fixing this mess I’m not only going to purchase a ring from her I’ll know exactly what im getting From my money!

(The moral of the story titanium sucks)!!!!!!

jeffrey February 28th, 2014 at 6:20 am


wow… Now i will look for GOLD ring for my wedding. You answered the questions in my head?!haha and you explained it well. Brilliant! a million thanks! Godbless.

Calla Gold February 28th, 2014 at 7:25 am


Hi Jeffrey,
You are most welcome. I’m so pleased that gold is in your sights!
I appreciate your taking the time to leave your nice comment!
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla

nick March 6th, 2014 at 6:28 am


This thread shows exactly what jewellery is – opinion. I sell rings of almost every metal. And Gold is one of the fastest shrinking products we sell. Why? Because its just not exciting anymore. The advantages of metals like Titanium and Cobalt, and in particular black titanium, are beyond the scope of this post. But dont think for a moment people are buying titanium rings because they are “cheap”. THEY ARE BUYING THEM BECAUSE THEY DONT LIKE GOLD!
Say what you want, but this is what I hear all day long in my store.

The OP also contradicts herself with one of her points. “Dont buy Tungsten, yet platinum and gold are heavy? Um hello, care to tell us how much Tungsten weighs compared to platinum and gold?
- Hot tip, Titanium is easy to work on. Its not the 1970′s!
And finally, who are you to tell people “dont buy titanium rings for your wedding band”
why should the general public listen to a gold and platinum peddler?
best of luck!
Nick

Calla Gold March 6th, 2014 at 9:07 am


Hi Nick,
I see from the way you spell jewelry, “jewellery” that you are from maybe the UK? It is interesting to hear your perspective on the popularity of gold in your store. Other UK jewelers I’m in touch with on Linked In have said that gold is strong for them. So I imagine that there are many differing views on the popularity of various metals where you are from.
My “opinion” is that I want to inform people about the sizing issues involved in alternate metals and that you have to grind and not solder these metals to make a ring up to 1 size larger. I have men I’ve sized wedding band for over the years who have changed from a 7.5 when they got married to a 9 today. That kind of size change is in no way supported by the alternate metal industry. Their solution is to make a new one. That’s fine if that’s what you want. However many men and their wives are attached to the ring they made their vows with and don’t want an essentially disposable ring.
If this doesn’t bother them then my “opinion” is a waste of their time. If this is a concern, I’m here to educate them so they can make an informed decision.
I recently ran into a man at a wedding fair who was righteously pissed off that he wasn’t informed when he purchased his stainless steel wedding band that it couldn’t be sized. It’s already feeling too tight on him. He asked if titanium could be sized. I mentioned the grinding out of the inside that the makers can do. And the limitedness of enlarging that that allows. He then said what about tungsten. I said no sizing at all for that metal.
He said “a number of my guy friends talk about how great and cheap these rings are and so I got one.” He’s bummed and is getting a white gold ring from me that can be sized smaller or larger whenever over the life of his ring.
As for your comment about the heaviness of tungsten, my lightweight reference was for titanium not the heavier tungsten.
Regarding your hot tip on how easy titanium is to work on, I have yet to see it. It needs to be worked in a machine shop like setting. Not at a jewelers bench.
Thank you for speaking your mind Nick!
Choosing Gold and Platinum over titanium and tungsten, thank you very much!
Calla Gold

neel chaitanya paleti March 20th, 2014 at 8:02 am


hi Calla…..
the article was nice and informative as i was searching web for pros and cons of selecting a titanium ring as a wedding ring.Although I wish to mention that i am from India.,where we Hindus,generally do not consider a wedding ring as a bond(apparently it was not our custom to have weddings in such a fashion,as exchanging them in our wedding ceremony),but thanks for the info.as it gives an idea about the characteristics of titanium.thanks again

Calla Gold March 20th, 2014 at 11:01 am


Hello Neel,
Thank you for writing from India. It’s nice to see that my blog is read there! I appreciate your input on how wedding rings are viewed in your culture. I’m glad you enjoyed the information.
American Jeweler,
Calla

Rainier March 26th, 2014 at 9:54 pm


I’m VERY sentimental, and I think it’s very important to wear the ring I got married in. That’s why I chose titanium.

I love that titanium is lightweight. Gold rings felt too heavy for me, as I was not a ring wearer prior to being married.

I can wear titanium everywhere. Whether I’m at a fancy theater, or working under the hood, I get to wear my wedding ring everywhere. No way would I want to have to swap wedding rings everytime I needed to go do some work with my hands. Titanium allows me to wear my ring 24/7/365. I barely notice it.

I intentionally bought a ring that was a little too big. Not big enough that it would fall off. But I assumed that getting married I would probably gain some weight. So now my ring is a little too small. Guess what… it’s time I lost some weight.

I love my titanium ring, and I love that when other guys have to take theirs off, I don’t have to worry about it getting scratched up or bent. It’s means a lot to me that no matter what the situation, the ring I was married in is on my hand.

Calla Gold March 27th, 2014 at 6:01 am


Dear Rainier,
I’m glad you are enjoying your choice. My guess is that you will need to replace your titanium band at some point in the future as your hand enlarges. That hurts us when we are sentimental not to be able to wear our rings. I have observed even in people who do not gain weight that their hands or rather fingers just enlarge over time.
You were wise to get a too large size initially, but that is not guarantee that five years from not it will still fit regardless of your weight.
Thank you for letting me know what you like about your titanium band.
Still digging the gold,
Calla Gold

Kate Anderson March 28th, 2014 at 9:19 pm


Amazing article Calla! This is fruitful to me as I recently decided to sell estate jewelry through my local market.
I also wanted to get a wedding band for my sister’s wedding.
I searched a lot through the internet and Googled a good bit about Gold vs. Platinum vs. Titanium. I never found this particular useful information until I read your post. You make sense about the sizing and sentimental issues surrounding wedding bands. Thanks again for your great guidance and facts.
Kate Anderson – 66 Mints – San Francisco

Katy Perry March 28th, 2014 at 10:59 pm


Few days back, I decided to look at the idea of selling my old gold to help me buy a new engagement ring. I see that this can be tricky.
I noticed how much less expensive titanium was and considered it for my engagement ring. After reading through this amazingly informative article by Calla, which throws light on the idea and the perspective about how not to be confused by cheap Tungsten and Titanium based bands for long run, I decided not to go with a cheaper metal for engagement. I want a ring to last through time.
As a shopper I welcome her invaluable tips.
Katy P.

Calla Gold March 29th, 2014 at 6:41 am


Kate,
It’s always nice to hear from people in my industry. I’m glad that you liked the information about the differences between gold, platinum and titanium.
I visited your site. It looks very nice!
Your Fellow Jeweler,
Calla

Calla Gold March 29th, 2014 at 6:50 am


Hi Katy,
Thank you for your feedback on my blog post on why we shouldn’t buy titanium or tungsten for wedding bands. I appreciate your kind words too.
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla

Daniel Jones March 30th, 2014 at 5:43 am


I have just purchased my wedding band over the last week.
I was looking at a 7mm Court Platinum with a cost of over £1800. I mention that I am a civil engineer that works outside for a living. A jeweler suggested that I buy a titanium replica to wear and keep the platinum one safe from my work and wear it when not working.

This is a waste of money. I want to wear the ring I get married in. I do not want to have to wear a replica 6 days a week and have to worry about taking it off and where I put it when I took it off.

After some thinking I have seen that the Titanium band costs under £50.

There are alot of people saying don’t be cheap get gold. I can afford platinum I’m not being cheap, I am being practical.

If you could provide any reasons apart from ability to resize why I should get platinum over titanium then let me know.
My other half is having a custom made white gold wedding ring to match her engagement ring.

This is the ring I have to wear the rest of my life, it’s not my kid’s or their kids it’s mine.
Daniel

Calla Gold March 30th, 2014 at 7:23 am


Hello Daniel,
I’m not sure why your outside work would necessitate you having to have a replica ring. If you have a thickly made platinum band, it should put up with whatever rigors your work puts it through. White gold with its hardening alloys, can be a sturdier choice and many of my car mechanics and construction workers choose it because it holds its shine better.
These hard working men wear their white gold bands while pounding around their hand work intensive work happily. Men who work with their hands are more likely to need to size their rings larger sooner. You mentioned that if re-sizing was my only issue to answer you with not to bother. I’m wondering if that is because you feel you can just order a replacement online when your hand grows. If that is your solution then I can see that the sentimental value of having a wedding ring that can change as you do isn’t a priority for you.
Many of my commenters have proclaimed the wonderfulness of how cheap titanium is. This is true. However you mention that cost isn’t your criteria for thinking about titanium. If I could afford a noble metal, a metal that looks good, that can be altered if needed because my fingers have changed sizes I would choose that.
There is an additional reason that platinum or white gold (if white metal is your preference) is preferable to titanium or tungsten, and that is the safety issue. Read my post, “Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety” – http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/titanium-vs-gold-for-wedding-bands/
Thank you for asking my opinion. My final word to you Daniel is that as a woman, the ring my husband wears is really important to me, it stands for our love and our bond. I’d never want our bond to be represented by a cheap and static and unchangeable metal. That’s just me, but I thought I’d say that.
Loving those noble metals,
Calla Gold

Daniel Jones March 31st, 2014 at 12:24 pm


I have seen many a construction worker with bent and chipped and marked rings. I work with my hands with products suck as concrete steel bricks and many others. Also I play cricket which results in flat rings due to a hard ball hitting the hand and squashing it.
I think you need to look more into the emergency removal of titanium and tungsten carbide
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poM423pewRE
and with titanium i have a brother and uncle who are fire officers and 2 sisters which are nurses and have had no problems ever removing a titanium ring in fact out of the 4 of them they have even only had to cut 1 ring off as they use an elastic band which works perfectly to take a ring off.
I have been wearing another ring on my right hand for the last 10 years and never had to have it re sized so i am pretty confident that my fingers are not going to change that much ver the rest of my life apart from if i eat to many pies and cakes and you know what that is my fault not the rings and i should work out more.
My marriage will not be built on how much i spent on a ring or the metal it is made from it will be built on the actions i do while wearing that ring and for all i care the ring could be a ring made from twine.
You are a ring maker so i will never persuade you that i am making the best decision.

When people see your hand what do they see???
They see a wedding ring nobody else cares what it cost or what its made out of. when i see my ring i will not think oh i could have spent more and had platinum.

And im sorry but you must be really shallow if you would not accept someones love if they did not show it with noble metals.
I think Tungsten and titanium look just as good as paladium / platinum / white gold so that is not an issue.

Calla Gold March 31st, 2014 at 7:19 pm


Daniel,
I am aware of the elastic method of ring removal. There is a post I did with many methods of removing a tight ring. Here it is:
http://www.callagold.com/all-about-rings/ring-removal/
If you are happy with your alternate metal wedding band and feel your finger will not change size then you have the right choice for you.
It is too bad that you feel the need to say unkind things about my opinions and choices.
I’m not a fan of that darker look of tungsten or titanium. But that is personal taste.
Calla Gold

Michael March 31st, 2014 at 8:21 pm


Your case against tungsten sounds like “don’t buy tungsten cause I don’t like it very much.” I love my tungsten ring. It’s beautiful, durable, and cheap enough that if it does break or my fingers get fatter I can get another. Several years into my marriage, I’ve gotten older and more broken down, but my ring is still as perfectly round and unblemished as the day I got married. How’s that for ‘meaning’?

It’s just a thing.

Calla Gold April 1st, 2014 at 8:24 pm


Michael,
My biggest beef is the disposableness of tungsten. I am sentimental and replacing a ring because it can’t be sized bothers me. I am glad that you like your ring and hope you never need a different size for your wedding finger.
It may be just a thing, but it is also a symbol of a very important bond in your life.
Calla Gold

Jesse April 7th, 2014 at 5:27 pm


Girls, don’t think us guys don’t always think and feel as deeply as you. When I chose my ring, expense had little to do with it. Let’s face it, “gold” is comprised of other non-precious metals as well. Platinum? I’m too lazy to look it up.

I wanted a ring that was not only masculine in color, depth and weight, I wanted a ring that was strong, hard, resistant to outside forces. Are you getting me yet? I wanted a ring that looks and feels like new every year that goes by. I wanted a ring that represents value, as in money not squandered on myself. My choice was Tungsten.

That said, every woman deserves diamonds and gold. It’s the least we can do for requesting that you put up with our sorry butts for the rest of your lives. The way I see it, it’s a win-win.

BTW, my ring size hasn’t changed in 30 years.

Calla Gold April 9th, 2014 at 7:11 am


Hi Jesse,
Thanks for weighing in with your two cents. I do love that you grant us ladies our gold and diamonds.
The fact that you haven’t needed a ring re-sized in thirty years is awesome and amazing. You seem to be in the minority as I look back on 31 years of being a jeweler.
In your case wearing titanium is working for you. Carry on.
Lovin’ my gold and diamonds,
Calla Gold

Joe April 16th, 2014 at 11:00 pm


“Hi Joe,
I’m still married to the man I married at 20. My wedding rings mean a lot to me. Perhaps I wouldn’t feel that way if I was divorced, but I am happily married.
The ring I got married in started to look too small as my hands aged, so at year ten I asked for a new wedding ring and helped design it.
At year 25 I designed a new one which I am wearing this minute. I realize that I am probably more emotional about this, but I have gotten so much pleasure over the years from my rings.
I keep the ones I no longer wear sized up correctly for me so when I feel sentimental I can wear them. They have a value to me that can’t be measured.
Looking at my rings makes me feel loved. I am writing from that perspective.
When I speak of value in gold and platinum I do not mean to say that if you get a divorce you can get your money back for whatever you paid for it. It was retail after all, it was a designed ring and the metal meltdown cost will not be the same as a created ring.
But it does have monetary value. Tungsten and titanium do not. There’s no “We Buy Tungsten and Titanium” store down by the Piggly Wiggly.
Thank you for telling of your experience.”

Those are your words. If The ring you made your vows in is so important and sentimental why are you on your third wedding ring? Where are the other 2? Rotting in a drawer.

Joe April 16th, 2014 at 11:12 pm


Essentially I could take the tungsten or titanium rings that don’t fit anymore or that I don’t like. Store them in a drawer and get the same emotional effect that you cling to with your “precious metals”

Calla Gold April 17th, 2014 at 8:32 am


Hello Joe,
Thank you for writing. One of my jewelry mottoes is “Wear it Don’t Warehouse it!” The fact that you’d have to store unworn, a no longer fitting titanium ring or two or three in a drawer is really sad to me. I believe your jewelry is to be worn and celebrated for the symbol it is. Whether it symbolizes married love or the love of a friend who gave it to you, or the happy memories from a trip.
Your jewelry wants to be worn, not stored away in a lonely and dark place. That is my opinion.
I derive no joy from the jewelry I won’t or can’t wear. Therefore I chose precious metals that allow repairs and changes to be made so I can continue wearing them.
Precious metal girl,
Calla Gold

Kristen April 17th, 2014 at 8:34 am


This post is so materialistic and quite frankly, written only in the interest of a jeweler who can not only make more money off the initial sale, but continuously make money on something that is in constant need of repair. The only actual reason cited for choosing gold over tungsten is that it can’t be re-sized. I thought I was going to read an article that would make me regret my tungsten band decision but it did not even scratch the surface – kinda like tungsten metal ;)

As I type this, I look down at my black & white diamond engagement ring set in silver, and on the other hand a black tungsten band and a white gold ring with white diamonds. The silver and gold look pretty rough and they’re only a year old. The older tungsten ring looks beautiful and I’ve never had to clean it or polish it. I also don’t need to spend unreasonable amounts of time polishing my relationship either because we just fit well and tungsten fits us well.

Eh, my love doesn’t need to be comparable to the value of a hunk of metal. We’d rather not start our marriage in debt for financing expensive rings. My engagement ring was only 300 bucks and it’s the most beautiful ring I’ve ever owned…except that it’s silver and thus all scuffed up already.

White gold rings I’ve had in the past are scratched and scuffed easily too.

A black tungsten ring I got for my birthday has zero scratches or scuffs and I wear it every single day.

We bought our tungsten wedding bands for $18 each and if we decide to grow obese together, we can just get new rings, it’s really not a big deal. We can both decide not to wear them, for all we care, there’s that whole trust factor and not particularly materialistic enough to care what the monetary value of our accessories are. And for those who are materialistic, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind getting a new one!

If your body changes enough to require a different ring, then you’re probably a different person than you were when you got the ring so why not change it up? And an 18 dollar ring replacement does not define the love in our relationship. My ring size has changed from a 7 to a 6.5 after losing 40 lbs but my size 7 engagement ring can still be worn on my 6.5 finger without any issue- I know because I wear it daily. Also, my e-ring can’t even be resized. Not all silver and gold jewelry can be resized; as a jeweler, you know that.

And being lightweight is a con??? What? On what world? I can’t even bear to wear necklaces too long because it’s just obnoxious to have something hanging off my neck. I don’t want my hand to be weighed down by the symbol of our love. If we’re going the symbolism route, what does that say? I don’t think of my fiance as a ball and chain.

I like diamonds and all but a ring that I’m going to wear loyally everyday doesn’t need to be a distracting extension of my finger, it needs to be comfortable and reasonable and functional. I don’t have to worry about it being stolen like I would an ugly gold ring and it stays beautiful. I’d rather spend my time making sure my marriage is polished than having to maintain some piece of jewelry or wear a scratched up ring out of a sense of duty. Tungsten doesn’t lose its luster over time and won’t need nearly as much “repair” as the “precious” metals.

Our love is kind and humble and we don’t need to symbolize it any other way.

Calla Gold April 17th, 2014 at 8:53 am


Hello Kristen,
Thank you for writing. You are quite articulate, if a bit judgmental. Your characterization of what kind of jeweler I am based on a popular opinion blog post is well pretty “judgey.”
That aside I’ll address your aversion to metal that scratches. As I look at my yellow gold wedding ring that hasn’t been polished in over a year I see a fine network of little scratches that I think of as patina of wear. It’s a pretty effect and in no way diminishes the ring’s beauty. It adds character.
At some point I’ll checks my settings, give it a good cleaning and polish it just to change things up. But not because the scratching is obnoxious, because it isn’t.
Re your comment that not all gold and silver can be sized, (“Not all silver and gold jewelry can be resized; as a jeweler, you know that”), I really wonder what situations you might be referring to.
I recently sized larger a diamond eternity band that my new client had been told couldn’t be sized. Another client had an inlaid opal with diamond ring that she hadn’t worn in five years because, “You can’t size rings with inlaid opal.” Well you can. The gold can be sized and the opal can be replaced. One of the three inlaid pieces cracked under the pressure and was replaced. We knew going in that we’d need new opal. Now she wears that ring with joy.
I’ve sized silver, gold and platinum and mixed metal rings. I do wonder what precious metal rings you say cannot be sized.
I care deeply about my marriage, and have a precious metal with diamonds ring is a symbol of love that I love very much. I’ve had to alter the size because my hands have changed a bit. I’m so happy that I can change my ring if I need to. For the record I did not tell my boyfriend before he proposed that, “I want only gold or platinum and I have to have diamonds.” In fact after he proposed and I said yes, I told him I’d have taken a twisted bit of tin if I had to because being married to him was what I wanted. Happily he chose gold and diamonds on his own.
That is a good thing that you are pleased with your tungsten ring and thank you for coming by the blog and sharing your viewpoint.
No titanium or tungsten wedding bands for me,
Calla Gold

Kristen April 17th, 2014 at 8:54 am


I’m reading all these comments and just…laughing at the rebuttals to the pro-tungsten comments. If you were only about to give us ONE reason, then you can’t possibly feel THAT strongly about it. The resizing argument relies on water retention, arthritis, and obesity.

On the note of the company who doesn’t resize tungsten but instead replace it…um, yeah, because they can, because chances are, they can just re-sell the ring you return because it will still look brand new.

Apparently jewelry that stays beautiful is inferior to those hung up on sentimentality of material possessions because you might get arthritis. It’s not the symbol that’s important, it’s the meaning that allows the symbol to exist that matters.

The money we’re going to be saving by not having a huge wedding and expensive jewelry just bought us 5 acres of land so we can build a house. That’s the foot I’d prefer to start my marriage off on.

Kristen April 17th, 2014 at 8:59 am


I also don’t appreciate the comments calling our men “cheap” really? It’s a wedding band so if you have a healthy marriage, then chances are, you made the decision on your wedding bands together.

If I don’t want an expensive ring and my husband is now able to buy me a house instead…who’s cheap? Instead of me having “value” on my finger, we have the ability to offer a good life to our future family.

It’s not about being cheap or lacking sentimentality. It’s about being rational and making wise decisions that will provide for a better future. Unfortunately, jewelry isn’t a necessity for ANYBODY, but I think you are doing a good job bashing the type you don’t make money on. Keep up the good work.

Calla Gold April 17th, 2014 at 9:00 am


Hello Joe,
Thank you for quoting me and asking me where my other two wedding rings are. Since they all fit me, I switch around and wear each of them. I wore my original wedding ring the other day paired with another ring. The original got to a place where it looked a bit thin on my aging finger. When I combined it with another ring of mine it looked like a traditional wedding set and that added width made my original wedding ring look prettier on my hand.
I wore it that day because I was feeling sentimental about when my husband and I were first together. I felt younger all day because that ring is full of memories. And I thought of him often.
Because I could size each of my wedding rings I can and do switch them around. As a jeweler I like to have jewelry choices. Because I love my husband in so many ways I love wearing each of my wedding rings. Maybe it’s a jeweler thing.
Calla Gold

Kristen April 17th, 2014 at 9:07 am


You don’t need to call me judgmental because you know your comments have come from a very judgmental place. Even international jewelers are disagreeing with you. I’ll keep in mind that the hail dents and shattered back windshield on my car simply add character. I am still curious to see more than one reason. I honestly don’t believe that you prefer gold over an unscratchable metal for jewelry because it can be completely rebuilt. Is it still sentimental if the gold is melted down and turned into an entirely different piece of jewelry? Is that the goal with wedding jewelry? I don’t understand your reasoning at all. Please give us more reasons because I’m not seeing any of the cons of tungsten outweighing the pros and I’m not seeing the pros of gold outweighing the cons. Please, that’s all I’m asking for, a comprehensive article, or at least one that fits its title.

Kristen April 17th, 2014 at 9:11 am


Additionally, as a jeweler, I believe it is your responsibility to spread the pros of all jewelry metals in an unbiased way so that the customer can decide what works best for them. Just because it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it won’t be their preference. You mention nothing good about tungsten and titanium here, leading anyone to believe that their are no pros even though the list far exceeds that of other metals. It’s okay to admit that it’s good for a variety of reasons. I’m not judging, just offering input towards future articles. It’s much more respectable when you provide a full story for the good of the customer.

Calla Gold April 17th, 2014 at 7:46 pm


Hello again Kristen,
I’m responding to your comment that fingers change size because of obesity, water retention and arthritis. This is not the reason most of my clients come to me for re-sizing. I’ve noticed that excluding your “reasons” I still have plenty of people whose fingers just expand.
Regarding how cheaply a tungsten band can be replaced, I don’t want a disposable ring for myself.
Congratulations on your five acres. I do not feel that creating your American dream real estate-wise and having a pleasing ring are either or choices.
Calla Gold

Sean April 18th, 2014 at 7:15 pm


This is hilarious. It’s like reading a blog written BY Microsoft, telling me how wonderful XBOX ONE is, and why Sony’s PS4 is horrible, and why I shouldn’t buy it. PT Barnum anyone?

Calla Gold April 18th, 2014 at 9:39 pm


Hello Sean,
Thanks for writing. Am I Microsoft, Sony or just PT Barnum?
Calla Gold

Joe April 19th, 2014 at 7:51 pm


Regarding your response to Kristen. How do peoples fingers just expand spontaneously? I had my same band for 17 yrs and so did my ex and never needed resizing. That included weight gain over the years. I also see Sean’s point. Seems like a a campaign to instill an idea to profit from. Kind of like the De Beers cartel…

Joe April 19th, 2014 at 8:06 pm


I would compare your reason for this whole “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands” the same as an artist saying don’t buy mass produced art from the big box stores because they are not original and don’t have any sentimental value even though they are beautiful and are easily replaced if they are stolen or damaged. They are just things. Life is more than just things in my opinion.

Joe April 19th, 2014 at 9:11 pm


You seem very superficial. Items seem to be what are important to you. I guess I just don’t get it. Actually I take that back. Your motives are clear. You intend to profit from your position on alternative jewelry and your arguments to those alternatives are weak. The big name jewelry shops see the trend and are selling alternatives.

Joe April 19th, 2014 at 10:15 pm


My point with the De Beers comment was to make the point that things are valuable because we have been told that they are. Diamonds are not rare!! The market is fixed by withholding the truth and limiting the supply. You should not make broad statements on what to buy and what not to buy based on one argument. “resizing” If your wedding band gets lost does that mean your marriage is over? I think not!

Calla Gold April 20th, 2014 at 7:03 am


Hi Joe,
I appreciate the time you have taken to see the conversation started by my blog post, “Don’t Buy Titanium or Tungsten Wedding Bands.”
I’d like to speak to the popularity of diamonds. De Beers had a monopoly on diamonds back in the day. The no longer own the market. They have re-branded to separate their diamond quality from others since they no longer control the supply chain.
The reason diamonds continue to be chosen is the fact that they sparkle when dirty, they don’t chip, scratch and dull up like other gemstones. They hold up to daily wear better than other gemstones do.
Joe, you harp on the wrongness of my dissuading people from choosing titanium and tungsten bands because they cannot be sized. I chose to write this blog post because people weren’t being told that they couldn’t be sized by their sales representative and it left very upset feelings.
If someone knows it can’t be sized and they don’t care then fine, buy titanium and tungsten. I wouldn’t, but your wedding band is your choice not mine. But you deserve to be alerted to the fact that if your fingers change size you will not be able to wear the band you pledged your vows in. That is an important thing to many of my clients.
This blog is where I state my opinion, I’m not sure why you say I should not give my opinion. It’s a blog. I have opinions. I see that you do not agree with me and I’m fine with that. It is probably very helpful when people read the comments on this post to see the dissenting views posed here.
There may be a guy thinking, “Well gee, she has a point, maybe I’ll get white gold.” Then he reads your opinion or someone elses and asks himself, “Do I care if I can’t wear my band throughout the life of my marriage because my finger may change size and the ring won’t change with me?” Maybe he doesn’t care. If that is the case he may choose titanium.
He may ask his fiance, “Babe, do you care if I get titanium and if my finger changes I have to order another one online? It’s cheaper, then we can spent more on yours!” She might say, “no, sweetie, I want you band to be special. I want us to decide how it’ll look like we did with mine. I want to be able to size it or fix it. I want it to be something we can pass on to our kids.”
I say this because I see this conversation roll out in front of me with couples. Women especially value having a man’s wedding band that is changable, inheritable and lasting.
Thank you for writing.
Calla Gold

Nick April 20th, 2014 at 2:19 pm


Surely the first two are the same but reversed. Therefore only four reasons…..

Joe April 20th, 2014 at 8:03 pm


If that is how you truly feel then you should rename the title of your blog to “Why I like gold and Platinum” instead of “DON’T BUY THIS OR THAT” The majority of the people who have responded to this blog are on my side so just accept that times are changing and don’t push your agenda in a one sided way.

Joe April 20th, 2014 at 8:27 pm


And coming from someone who has 3 wedding bands your opinion rings hollow. When I was married my band was fine and would have been for the rest of my life if not for the divorce. My initial comment of you being superficial still stands. “my ring is tooo small for may hand” “It’s been 25 yrs I need something new and better” etc… etc…

Joe April 20th, 2014 at 8:31 pm


I realize now that you are not sentimental. You are superficial.

Calla Gold April 21st, 2014 at 5:23 am


Joe, Does buying a new pair of jeans also constitute superficiality. I’m all about choices. I want people to have choices and be informed and happy with their choice. I see that my liking choices would not make me an ideal mate for you. I’m thinking it would make me a poor jeweler choice for you as well.
My guess is that a lot of the commenters to this blog who trash me for writing this blog and no doubt wish it would go away are commenters who make or sell titanium or tungsten wedding bands. I knew this post stating that people shouldn’t buy tungsten or titanium could be a bit of a lightning rod in my industry. I guess I under-estimated how much response I would get that would be personal attacks.
When I disagree with someone I disagree with their points and do not make value judgments about their personality, their values and their worth to take up space on this earth.
That’s kind of like Dan Akroyd’s response to Jane Curtain on Point – CounterPoint on Saturday Night Live – http://www.videobash.com/video_show/jane-akroyd-656921
Now don’t get me wrong, I love Point CounterPoint, but I feel a bit like the Jane Curtain character here.
THe times they may be a-changin’ but I have noticed a very high percentage of my clients choosing noble metals when given the choices and the pros and cons.
Do some of my clients choose tungsten or titanium after I give them my opinion. Yes they do. A very small percentage. They thank me for the information and choose the alternate metal and I’m fine with that. I’m also gratified that the couple’s thank me for the information regardless of the metal choice they make.
For the record 100% of the women choose gold or platinum.
Calla Gold

Calla Gold April 21st, 2014 at 5:24 am


OK with me. I just wanted to be clear.

Katie April 23rd, 2014 at 8:32 pm


I’m sorry, but you’re a jeweler. It’s within your goals and benefits to sell me the reasons why Carbide is not an acceptable material for a wedding band, and to sell me a more precious metal which costs more. Your job is to convince me to buy pretty metals and shiny rocks. This is something you can bend all you want, but in the end it’s true.

Perhaps I’m just the minority in all this, but as much as a ring is a nice “symbol” of my love, it is nothing more than that- a “symbol”. What bothers me is that my love is being held under the account of a materialistic item and that for some reason it’s suppose to show my love generations from now (which, hey, Carbide can do, so that’s not a problem.)

My love, to me, when I get married next month, should be shown in the laughter lines on my face, the smile on my lips, and the happy memories of us that swim in my head. I hope our love is captured, through photographs, our stories, and our children’s children.

I’m sorry, I find your arguments very goal oriented and one sided.

Also, on the argument of not being able to be resized. I’m sorry, but if your finger changes that much in the course of your lifetime you have some serious health issues or seriously let yourself go… Or seriously became anorexic or something drastic happened. I’ve been up and down in the course of 40 pounds and worn the same ring size just fine.

Calla Gold April 23rd, 2014 at 8:49 pm


Hello Katie,
An interesting thing about your argument against my opinion that I prefer the noble metals is your comment that carbide will last. Yes it may last, but will it fit anyone? I have resized so many rings from guy’s grandfathers that they now wear as a wedding ring. The love the connection to their family. It feels so very special. When you leave the gift of a carbide band unless it fits, it’s not a gift that could be used.
I agree that laugh lines, smiles, memories and great children are the most important part of a marriage, but I like to have a nice ring too.
I am amazed that with your weight change that you needed no ring sizing. I can’t count the number of wedding rings I’ve re-sized. It’s not always weight gain that causes it. Hand injuries, medical drug side effects, bone growth due to arthritis or just random growth. I had a client that was only five pounds heavier at her 20th anniversary than the day she got married. But we had to size her ring larger. She didn’t have any obvious reason, her finger just got bigger. It happens.
My goal as a jeweler is to help my client design or find a memorable piece of jewelry they are proud to show the world, and happy to look at as a symbol of their love. I do not sell titanium or tungsten or stainless steel or carbide. It’s a personal choice.
Loving those heirloom possible wedding bands,
Calla Gold

deepthi April 24th, 2014 at 12:09 am


I changed my gold wedding ring to a beautiful titanium tension setting ring. I found the light weightedness of titanium to be more of an advantage. It is highly durable, doesnt scratch easily, and requires zero maintanence. It hasnt even lost its shine. You are ofcourse entitled to have your own opinion. I am voicing mine. I definitely find titanium to be much more trendier than having the usual platinum/gold ones. They are cheap, look good, very practical option for daily wear, and are extremely durable. And yes, they are unique. I prefer not to follow the 99% of the crowd and get gold or platinum just because they are expensive or traditionally used. Titanium rocks!

Calla Gold April 25th, 2014 at 9:43 am


Dear Deepthi,
Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective.
Calla Gold

Joe April 25th, 2014 at 9:14 pm


“For the record 100% of the women choose gold or platinum.”
You should reread your blog and count the women who choose alternatives. It isn’t even close to 100%. Your 5 “2″ reasons would carry more weight if you didn’t come off as so smug and convinced that you know best. Basically your argument is that gold and platinum can be resized and that titanium and tungsten are cheap and not worthy of showing your love to your partner in life. You wonder why you are attacked here, it is because you make statements like that.

Joe April 25th, 2014 at 9:20 pm


And as far as the jeans comparison goes, yes it would make you superficial if you were telling everyone her that they should only buy $150 designer jeans because the ones at Kohls for $25 don’t show everyone else how much you care about how you look and how those jeans are way better.

Calla Gold April 26th, 2014 at 6:48 am


Hello Joe,
When I said 100% of the women choose gold or platinum, I meant of the women I have worked with. Some of the couples choose titanium for him and I send them to another jeweler who carries that as I do not. Some of the female commenters on this blog definitely have chosen titanium or tungsten bands. But in my jewelry circle, no woman or girl has ever opted for titanium or tungsten or stainless steel bands.
I did not mean to speak for the rest of the world about women’s wedding band metal choices, just my part of the world.
Calla

Joe April 26th, 2014 at 5:21 pm


Fair enough. Your clientele is probably unique. But you have to admit that if Kay and Jared are selling alternatives, then the trend toward less expensive and more durable options is in full swing. I prefer durability and less cost. We obviously differ in opinion. You see the rings as long term sentimental pieces that can be passed on. I see them as symbolic and easily replaced. I will admit that I bought my girlfriend a 14kt gold engagement ring, but with a 1 ct. moissanite instead of a diamond. I guess I am more practical than traditional. Yes she knows it isn’t a diamond but if you put the 2 next to each other you can’t tell and both will last forever. Unfortunately for you the increasingly high price of precious metals is driving the new market. Same goes for the relatively new moissanite which is a fraction of the price of a diamond. And when Charles & Colvard’s patent expires the market will change again.

Calla Gold April 27th, 2014 at 7:52 am


Hello Joe,
I have noticed that Kay and Jared are selling the alternate metals. I’m not trying to be a dinosaur jeweler here, but my thought process here is that if I feel that strongly about what wedding bands stand for, I cannot sell titanium and tungsten bands.
If someone chooses them knowing about the issues with them, then fine. I’ve laser engraved many of them.
Precious metals do cost more it is true, but you’ll see as well that even though you could find a white dress at H & M or Marshalls, a women wants a proper wedding dress to mark her day. Before you rise up and attack me for generalizing, I realize that not all women spend bridal gown prices on their dresses. But those dresses mean a lot. Mine is boxed up in my garage with special storage methods so someday it might be used by someone I know. My memory of wearing that dress on my special day makes me feel so happy. I love that dress. My mom helped me pick it out. There is so much love and memory wrapped up in that dress. If I’d had to choose some really plain white dress I would have regretted it.
My point here is that economic concerns are not the only ones to consider when choosing wedding bands. This is the most important piece of jewelry you’ll ever have. It’s not just a good looking accessory, it is a symbol of love. It is how you tell the world you are married.
Joe regarding your choice of moissanite. I sell moissanite. I have no ax to grind with moissanite. I even wrote a blog about using moissanite in your wedding ring:
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/moissanite-for-your-engagement-ring/
In it I discuss – “The Six Hella Right Ways to do Moissanite” and happily in discussing your center stone choice with you fiance you did it hella right. I had a theme going in that post!
Thank you for writing.
Calla Gold

Kim Yuna April 29th, 2014 at 11:57 am


I don’t think titanium are really useless because not every person is rich and wealthy and they might have no money to afford such high priced rings, and just because your finger grew bigger doesn’t mean you have to throw it away, you can wear it as a necklace too and i am sure no matter what the metal is, if the person that gives you the ring has pure love for you than that piece more valuable that gold and platinum.

Calla Gold April 30th, 2014 at 5:48 am


Hello Kim,
I have to say I never thought someone might put a no longer fitting titanium ring on a chain around their neck, but I see that that is something someone could do.
If someone was very poor, then these alternate metals could indeed be the difference between a wedding ring and no ring at all. And you are right the pure love is what really counts, in your heart.
Fine Metals Jeweler,
Calla Gold

Jeri May 1st, 2014 at 6:41 am


I PREFER my Tungston wedding band, I am so rough I always have bent any of my other rings, but this one, still looks brand new, same shine, same shape, I will never buy gold or silver again. Titanium and Tungston are so much less expensive, yet hold up to almost anything. And just as pretty.

Calla Gold May 1st, 2014 at 9:04 am


Hello Jeri,
With well made, and by that I mean thick enough for daily wear, gold bands I have not seen bending. With thinner gold bands and thinner platinum bands I have seen bending. When I work with someone for daily wear wedding bands I guide them in the direction of comfort fit and a band that is nice and thick.
I’m am happy you are pleased with your choice.
Calla Gold

Fox Lee May 3rd, 2014 at 11:02 pm


Did you seriously just argue that one of the reasons to go with more expensive metals for wedding rings is because they are /magical/? Good grief. Sentimentality is all well and good, but you really can’t argue for a particular course of action based on a property that can’t even be shown to exist.

Likewise, assigning arbitrary value to something just because it has a tradition of being assigned extra value is a poor argument. Ancient civilisations also typically valued misogyny, war and religious genocide, but that doesn’t make them good or valuable. Just because ideas are tenacious, doesn’t mean they are worthy.

Finally, who would buy a wedding ring based on whether it will gain or lose monetary value? How disturbingly mercenary. I and my husband of ten years have sterling silver wedding rings that both cost less than $40, because we were broke students when we got married. If you think there’s something wrong with that, just because the rings are worthless to the /rest/ of the world, you have failed to understand why a wedding ring exists in the first place.

Don’t get me wrong, these are all great reasons for YOU not to get a tungsten wedding ring, since they are obviously important to you. But you’re trying to use them to tell other people what to do, and they are nowhere near as universal – or factual – as you seem to think.

What you want your ring made out of is like everything else in a marriage – subjective and personal, not one size (or substance) fits all.

Joe May 3rd, 2014 at 11:03 pm


I bought a ring like that almost 20yrs ago, it is a comfort fit. It was thick and it did last. It measures 9.5 grams. I’m sure it was 10 or more when I bought it. The stamping is all worn off now. The problem is that a band like that today would be $800 to $1000. I can get $200 in scrap. I’m thinking about getting it polished and selling it online. It is very worn and scratched. I know it is 14k gold. Cant it be re-stamped?

edward matson May 4th, 2014 at 2:12 am


Hey, guys, relax…..Even Tiffany & Co. is selling titanium and even stainless steel jewelry, designed by none other than Paloma Picasso……so, if it’s good enough for Pablo’s daughter and my beloved Tiffany’s, it’s good enough for me….

Calla Gold May 4th, 2014 at 5:38 am


Dear Fox,
Yet another comment to add to the heaping of abuse I have gotten for writing this blog post.
I’ll respond to your silver rings. I like that you chose bands that could be sized if needed. You obviously value your rings as well as your commitment. My only problem with silver is the porosity problems I’ve seen develop over time with daily wear silver rings.
But since some of my commenters have miraculously avoided needing their fingers sized in twenty years of marriage, perhaps you two have avoided getting porosity, little pitted areas that look like black dots, on your rings.
I’ll take gold thank you,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold May 4th, 2014 at 5:44 am


Hi Joe,
A gold band can be repolished and will look brand new when it is. I’m not clear if you are speaking of a design on top that wore off or if an interior stamp of 14kt worn away. The 14kt stamp is easy to re-stamp inside the shank of your ring.
If your ring had a design on the outer part that was engraved that can be re-done. Without knowing what kind of design you might have worn off if it was on the outside I’m not sure what method would be needed.
I recently re florentined a 60 year old gold band. Florentine is a cross hatching of lines popularized many years ago. My client found a picture with a lot of detail and wanted to replicate that finish. I did it.
I’ve also replicated various engraving designs on bands over the years.
Calla Gold

Calla Gold May 4th, 2014 at 5:56 am


Hi Edward,
I’m not surprised that Tiffany is selling alternate metals. Having Paloma Picasso design them is a brilliant merchandising move on their part. But Tiffany is a class act in our industry as far as design goes. And I appreciate the way they try new things.
That doesn’t mean that everything they do is brilliant. For example their Rubedo metal which is an inexpensive rose colored metal. It’s cheaper than gold and has about 5% gold in the mix of metals. But that’s not enough to keep it from tarnishing like any old base metal piece of costume jewelry. And it is certainly priced higher than it’s small quantity of gold would suggest. I’m not a fan.
I’ll stick with 14kt, 18kt, and higher karats of gold myself.
Just because a company makes something doesn’t make it an “of course” proposition.
Calla Gold

edward matson May 4th, 2014 at 4:34 pm


You hit on an interesting point..”brilliant merchandising strategy”..you know, Tiffany is a publicly traded company on the NYSE….they are very clever in their marketing..personally, I was heartbroken when they started to deal with titanium, stainless, etc…no matter who designs it. I know that sounds like I am a snob,and I’m really not….I have had 750 gold (18kt) and platinum from Tiffany’s before. I didn’t like the way platinum aged, it gets so dull and lifeless looking…however I find that 18kt gold is beautiful..that dark, buttery yellow is so rich looking. I have a titanium ring that I actually love..it reminds me of platinum in it’s coloring but doesn’t get that dull look platinum can get. I suppose it’s the alloy maybe ? cobalt, iridium, ruthenium…Tiffany uses ruthenium, but my ring still looked dull. I actually am not a fan of tungsten at all..it’s been compared to titanium color wise, but it’s much darker, I think and I dislike it color wise. I also am not crazy that it is actually a ceramic either which is why it will shatter. As I said, Titanium reminds me of platinum..color wise. It is very light, however..weight wise. I want to apologize about my earlier posts being a little sarcastic and, perhaps, rude to you. I don’t think before I type sometimes. Actually, you remind me of my mom…if she cannot have 18kt or platinum, she would prefer nothing at all. ON a side note, have you noticed that Cartier and Van Cleef have not dealt with alternative metals, and I do not believe they will. I always thought that Cartier was a little “euro-trashy” but Van Cleef is a class act. As far as Tiffany and Co. goes, it’s actually a little funny…they go from a 6 Million dollar necklace that is breathtaking…to a $125.00 stainless ring lol..wow..a little disconcerting !! Anyway, I understand where you are coming from.. I guess I took a liking to this little titanium ring of mine…maybe someday, I’ll take the leap and invest in 750 gold or platinum again…Nothing feels like the good stuff !! Ciao

edward matson May 4th, 2014 at 4:48 pm


Also, in a previous post, you mentioned something about you not sounding like a “dinosaur jeweler,” or something like that…you are not a dinosaur…you are old school..and that is something to be very proud of. You appreciate beauty and quality and you should NEVER be sorry for that !!!!

Calla Gold May 5th, 2014 at 5:24 am


Hello Edward,
How nice to hear from you again. Since I don’t sell titanium, or tungsten or stainless steel, I admit that I wasn’t paying attention to Van Cleef or Cartier and their policies on what metal they sell.
It seems that Tiffany takes chances. On one hand they want to be equated with class, exclusivity and fine elegant design. That is a high end message. Then they sell alternate metals. They are either really smart or diluting their brand.
I wonder what a branding expert would say about their choice?
It seems to me that the titanium bands I have seen do not have the platinum color. I’ve just seen ones that are a darker metal. Sort of like platinum with a tan.
It’s not my cup of tea.
Calla Gold

Calla Gold May 5th, 2014 at 9:13 pm


Edward,
Re old school vs dinosaur, yay, I like what you said very much! I do appreciate beauty and you’re right I shouldn’t apologize for that!
Personal Jeweler,
Calla

Joe May 7th, 2014 at 6:31 pm


People change who they are married to like some people change their socks. Lets face the facts here, most people don’t stay married anymore, its not fashionable. So who cares if the ring is made out of Tungsten or Titanium, it only has to last for 5-7 years, then you throw it away with the last mate, and get a new one. Its actually more economical that way.

Just saying!

Joe

Calla Gold May 7th, 2014 at 8:49 pm


Joe,
You are so yanking my chain here. I know a ton of couples who are married longer than that. Just like show jumping horses I believe you throw your heart over with all your faith when you marry someone. I’m with my one and only and have been for over 30 years.
I say buy the ring that is supposed to last forever and fill it with love and hope. If you buy a ring in case your marriage fails you’re kind of pre-deciding it ain’t gonna work out.
That is no way to choose your ring or your mate. And no reason to go with titanium or tungsten.
Calla Gold

Clif May 15th, 2014 at 10:58 am


I’m sorry, but how can you say that people who do not buy “precious” metals are not sentimental. Those who buy titanium can still be sentimental about their marriage, their bond with their partner, and probably the most important: Their vows and commitment to each other! I personally do not like wearing jewelry, but I am very sentimental about my upcoming marriage and the choices we’ve made for writing our vows and having symbols and reminders of our commitment in our ceremony and other keep-sakes from the wedding day… like a bench that we will put the final nail in at the ceremony and our vows will be inscribed on it and a hand embroidered ring pillow that will sit on top of it as well. Although I haven’t completely decided on what to do for rings (although we’ll probably have titanium bands as a back-up), one idea that I have is to make a wooden ring each year. They are inexpensive, very comfortable, and still very custom. I plan on making a shadow box with at least 60 hooks on it and hanging each ring up at the end of the year. Sure some may break and need to be glued back together, or get worn down a lot. But, each year I can make a new ring and symbolically “renew” my commitment. At the end, when I look at the filled up shadowbox, I’ll see all the years, the wear, the experiences. So, I understand your point about wanting sentimental symbols and that precious jewelry is ONE of many options for people to symbolize their marriage. Point being, it is that it can be incredibly personal and a piece of nothing wood can be just as meaningful as a gold ring. Same goes for titanium. If your fingers change size, you can get a new one and keep a collection.

Clif May 15th, 2014 at 11:02 am


To add: I think it is not necessarily superficial to want precious jewelry to celebrate your marriage; however, it IS superficial and shallow to look down on others who choose to do things differently than you and claim that their sentimentality and feeling towards their marriage are less than yours. SHAME ON YOU!

Calla Gold May 15th, 2014 at 5:11 pm


Hi Clif,
I appreciate you sharing how you are a sentimental guy and you are OK with having to change your wedding ring regularly. Your idea of wooden rings is certainly a creative one and making a new one would certainly show your continued commitment. Your bench idea is so creative as well.
You are definitely not representative of the average person. A wedding ring is symbolic and very personal. My personal sentimentality involves being able to change my ring and not being denied the joy of wearing the ring I got married in if I wish to 25 years later.
Loving my gold,
Calla Gold

Calla Gold May 15th, 2014 at 5:16 pm


Hi again Clif,
I do not look down on people for their metal choices. I am here to inform people so they choose based on all the data available. I have run into people who are quite upset that they didn’t know that their titanium ring cannot be sized. That is not a problem for everyone. I don’t judge. I give my ‘opinion’ as to what I prefer. And I give information to help people about their potential metal choices in choosing wedding bands.
Calla Gold

James May 16th, 2014 at 11:35 am


as a former Tank Commander in the British Army, I gave my wife the core of a tank shell…..a piece of solid Tungsten Carbide….it was manufactured into half a wedding band….the other half is made of 14k gold. We had to go with a cheaper 14K rather than the 18K I wanted since they are TWO separate rings that fit together….the Tungsten would have destroyed the much softer 18k in the long run.

Because of having one of the most unique wedding bands EVER, symbolizing my past as a Career Soldier and my future with a traditional wedding band both at the same time, I feel am I more than qualified to say the following:

I HAVE to correct you on one thing…..”gold or platinum feel substantial”…Please specify which. Ti (Titanium yes….is considerably less dense.) Tu (Tungsten on the other hand is only this side of Au (gold) and Pt (Platinum) My rings are identical size and the weight difference cannot be felt by the human hand.

Also, five years later, my gold ring (a measly 2 1/2 on Mohs scale) is scratched from normal wear and tear and needs regular cleaning….the Tungsten (at 9.5 on mohs scale and at that level, the only thing most of us interact with that will scratch it is a DIAMOND) part of the ring is still a shiny and scratch free as the day it was forged and will shine for a thousand years or more to show my undying love for my wife!

So….. if you criticize something, you should not necessarily just point out the flaws!

All the best! :D

Calla Gold May 17th, 2014 at 5:27 am


Hello James,
Thanks for writing. What a fascinating story of connecting your military career and your commitment to love in your wedding ring. You called to question my phrase that gold and platinum feel substantial. I was referring to the fact that titanium is very lightweight. Tungsten on the other hand is quite heavy.
Gold may scratch because it is lower on the Mohs scale of hardness, but that part of your ring will allow the ring to be sized as needed for you or your heirs. It is true that tungsten, being higher on the hardness scale hold its shine amazingly. I find that I like the patina of wear that gold develops.
If however a high shine is important to you and you don’t mind not being able to change your ring tungsten is quite amazingly hard. That amazing hardness however can raise its own risk factor in a ring worn daily. Harder metals are harder to remove from your hand in an emergency. See my blog post:
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/titanium-vs-gold-for-wedding-bands/
James, I very much enjoyed your story and hearing your voice in this ongoing conversation!
Gold and Platinum loving jeweler,
Calla Gold

James May 18th, 2014 at 8:02 pm


Hi again Calla. I hope I didn’t offend you in any way. I think a lot of the work you display on your website is absolutely amazing and you are a fantastic artisan. I especially liked a pair of cufflinks in your gallery! From that point of view, I completely also understand where you are coming from since Titanium and Tungsten are virtually unworkable by an artisan such as yourself and require machining. My wife is a Doctor and not too long ago, dealt with a case where a man broke his finger, really badly and both hospitals were not able to cut off his tungsten ring. All they could do was smash the ring with a hammer, breaking his finger even worse but by doing so saving it. If I have to choose between Titanium and Tungsten I choose Tungsten BECAUSE it is more brittle….allowing for this extreme case to happen….better a badly broken finger than a missing one right? :D

I personally don’t like the “worn gold patina” look but that’s because I am a 100% block soldier mentality where everything has to be clean…spick and span! I DO like Gold though….I have a hand me down Vacheron Rose Gold watch that I absolutely ADORE but am usually too petrified to wear it since It’s worth more than my car!

Either way, keep up the good work!!! You truly have a gift for what you do and I’ve genuinely enjoyed looking at your work in your gallery. Shame you’re not closer!

All the best,

James

Calla Gold May 19th, 2014 at 8:54 am


Dear James,
Wow, what a lovely message. If you’ve read some of the previous responses to my emotion based opinions on titanium, you’ll know that I try not to get offended when people slam my blog post about not wearing tungsten and titanium for wedding bands. You never came close to offending me James. You are communicating your viewpoint.
You love of the spick and span and shiny due to your military service is totally understandable. Gold does patina up and platinum flat out dulls up. Titanium and tungsten hold their shine way longer. You’ll appreciate this. I had a client referral to someone who’d worn a titanium band on the right hand for about ten years. It had gotten scratched up after all that wear.
He gave it to me to try to polish. Happily my polishing wheel brought it back to its old shininess. My new client said, “See ya in ten years!” Then he called me back a week later and said, “Just kidding, we have pearls for you to restring and want a ring that my wife inherited to be fixed up so she can wear it.” But I know I won’t see that titanium ring for a loooong time. And I’m cool with that.
James, I’m so pleased you took the time to see some of my work on my website. Your kind words make me smile.
Thank you for your story of the unfortunate guy with the broken finger. I plan to share that next time I post about that blog on the safety or lack thereof for these dense metal rings. Hearing of your Dr. wife’s experience is very real and scary. I’m with you, tungsten with its brittle make-up would be the safer choice as you can break it with a vise. It can explode toward the finger and cause damage, but at least you get it off!
James just so you know, I do work for many clients who are all across the nation, the EU, and Canada.
Your Personal Jeweler,
Calla

Evil Larry June 4th, 2014 at 7:15 am


First of I would love to know where you are getting your drugs from and can you hook me up. It must be nice to be completely delusional and make a ton of money by telling people not to buy a cheaper yet vastly superior metal. I am of course referring to the fact that not everybody can afford your precious gold/platinum.
Second, where do you get off claiming the picture of the guy with the “wrong sized ring” is an actual picture. That has clearly been photo shopped. For one, the dude’s finger isn’t even red. If the ring was really that tight, his finger would have been so red/blue, and the pain would’ve been so bad, he wouldn’t have been standing still enough to take that picture.
Third, and probably last, when did marriage turn into how expensive a ring can I buy? This is quite obviously what you’re pushing, greed. I mean, why else would you come flat out and say “don’t buy titanium or tungsten.” People like you really make me sick.
And finally, this one goes out to Brian P. Just who the hell do you think you are?? Saying “don’t be cheap” and “work some extra hours, it’ll be worth it.” Last I heard women wanted equality and shit. Since when is it a man’s job to pander to women? I’m all for treating women with respect and kindness and love. But telling other guys to buy a trinket for thousands of dollars, for a marriage that will likely end in divorce, is complete stupidity on your part. You, along with the person who wrote this farce of a blog, have both earned the coveted jackass off the week award.
Have a nice day.

Calla Gold June 4th, 2014 at 8:10 am


Hello Evil Larry,
You may have won the award for rudest comment I have received on this post. Blue ribbon dude!
Just a bit of rebuttal here:
I do not do drugs, I do however have strong opinions. A trait we evidently share.
As a solo-preneur I do not make a ton of money. I donate to local charities, am active in local civic and non-profit organizations and recently won the Spirit of Entrepreneurship award. I mention this to speak to the kind of person I am.
It seems that because I have advised against wearing titanium and tungsten wedding bands that it automatically means that I am a horrible person/jeweler. I bet to differ.
The picture of the person with the super tight ring came from a blog post by the person discussing their ring problem. I once sawed a West Point Ring off of a 70 year old man. It was dug deep into a groove in his finger. The center lab made gem had broken out and he needed it fixed. His finger was amazingly dented and yet his finger had perfectly OK blood flow. Our bodies are amazing at their ability to figure out solutions to challenges. The blogger who used their finger in their blog seemed to be a legitimate blogger, with multiple posts of a personal nature. Having seen my 70+ client and seeing the proof in that an incredibly small ring can stay on someone’s finger successfully, I felt that this photo was a true representation of fact.
I believe that your wedding ring or rings are your most valued piece of jewelry. They are worn daily and sing to the world the happy news that you are married. I am not pushing greed, I am suggesting value.
One of the reasons I say “Don’t buy titanium or tungsten” is that I want to be clear up front what my opinion is. I did a follow up blog post on the safety issues connected with super strong metals being used as daily wear wedding bands, “Titanium vs Gold as Wedding Bands For Your Finger’s Safety” :
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/titanium-vs-gold-for-wedding-bands/
As far as comment-er Brian P. goes, he too is entitled to his opinion. I like it!
In an interesting rebuttal to your comment that “since when is it a man’s job to pander to women” many women pay for the lion’s share of the ring that they want so that their desire for the ring of their dreams doesn’t financially hurt the man they love.
Your assumption that a marriage will end in divorce and mercenarily deciding to cut your losses ahead of time buy chosing a cheap metal wedding band saddens me.
I wrote this blog myself Larry. I stand by my opinion and my blog post.
Don’t buy titanium or tungsten wedding bands,
Calla Gold

Ofir June 14th, 2014 at 11:49 pm


Hi Calla,

While I disagree with your article (I’m planning on buying a Tungsten ring and purchasing a new one if my ring size changes over time), I don’t think you deserve the hateful responses you’ve been getting here. I appreciate that you take the time to write long and meaningful responses to all on here, even the terrible ones.

On the plus side, I was going to completely dismiss your advice but because of hateful idiocy like the comment “Evil Larry” left, I have decided to consider what you’ve written. Perhaps I will get the Tungsten and my fiance will get gold.

Thank you for not falling victim to the dark side of the internet.

Cheers,

Ofir

Calla Gold June 15th, 2014 at 6:48 am


Hello Ofir,
Of all the blog posts I’ve written and I’m pushing 300, this has been the most polarizing. I very much appreciate that you are making your decision as an informed person. Thank you for sharing that. I further appreciate your validation of my commenting. I have been called terminally polite. Yeah, I’ll cop to that.
I’m assuming that you read my post on the lack of safety of super strong metal rings? This one:
http://www.callagold.com/wedding-rings/titanium-vs-gold-for-wedding-bands/
In case you didn’t, just don’t wear it backpacking or in a backwards medical care area, because of the difficulty of removing super strong metals compared to the ease of gold and platinum without special equipment.
I’m very pleased you’ll be getting gold for your fiance. I have a client, female, who has a titanium ring that was custom made for her and has worn it for five years or so. It’s getting tighter and the color is not great against her skin. She’d really like to get a white gold and diamond ring now that they are doing better financially and out of grad school. She regrets getting the titanium ring as she feels it is cheap and ugly and doesn’t make her hand look good. The thing that really bugs her is that after she agreed with her fiance that she’d do titanium, he went on the internet and found someone to do this custom design. It cost a good bit and he’s really proud of it. If she’d known he was going to do more than just a cheap band she would have said, “I’d rather have white gold.”
So I’ll be waiting to see what happens. She really wants precious metal. And believe it or not the fact that she has gained weight and has to tell her husband that her finger size is getting bigger really bothers her.
May your marriage be long and fruitful.
Sticking with my precious metals,
Calla Gold

Dee S. June 19th, 2014 at 10:47 am


I do not agree with most people on here about wedding rings. People place so much value on a piece of metal that cannot go with you when you pass away. I have yet to read any research papers that state a person was wearing jewelry when buried and weeks/months/years later that the jewelry was gone with the person’s spirit.
A ring does not soley represent the couple’s love. It is commitment/honesty/faithfulness etc that represents the love between the two individuals. Priceless acts are what counts not a piece of jewelry that cant get lost/stolen/or damage.

Calla Gold June 19th, 2014 at 8:44 pm


Hello Dee,
You are right that many priceless actions define true and lasting love. A wedding and engagement ring may be just things, but to me they are a wonderful symbol. I love my wedding ring. I look at it and instantly think of my husband whom I love.
It is the most special piece of jewelry I own and it means the most.
We also do treat each other with love, respect and help and support each other. I just love to have a symbol with me at all times I can peek at and smile.
I plan to leave my ring to my child for when I’m gone. I like that I can do that and I know what it stands for will be cherished.
Thank you for sharing your views here. I’m told frequently that people read these comments. Your voice is important.
Loving the priceless and the gold,
Calla Gold

Seth June 26th, 2014 at 5:53 am


Despite my love for high-tech materials, when i divorced some years ago, i couldn’t destroy my titanium wedding band as easily as i hoped! But tossing it in the trash felt just as good.
This time around i’ll most definitely go for a gold band, if not with a small diamond in it.

Calla Gold June 26th, 2014 at 6:35 am


Hi Seth,
Thanks for telling your story. I can imagine that hammers and hacksaws and other tools of destruction were of little notice to your super hard titanium band.
Well I guess you got that out of your system. The titanium band had the value of your marriage. Now in the trash.
Next time may the woman you marry be wonderful and your gold ring long lived and cherished!
Calla Gold

sterling June 30th, 2014 at 5:20 pm


Tungsten is great for newlyweds especially men . You will most likely lose one band before your 5th anniversary. I lost mine , tungsten , but I did find it in the street a few weeks later . Unscratched , although my wife was still upset I lost it .

Calla Gold June 30th, 2014 at 6:20 pm


Hi Sterling,
I know you are aware of my lack of enthusiasm for tungsten and titanium for wedding bands. I do not think that it is a forgone conclusion that you will lose your wedding band in the first five years of marriage. A properly sized band will not get lost.
Thank you for visiting and giving your input!
Calla Gold

Sinclair July 2nd, 2014 at 3:37 am


1 – I’ve had a gold one for 20 yrs. My fingers are the same size. Advice, don’t get fat. If you swell, buy another.
2 – True. Tungsten Carbide basically doesn’t need repairing. Again, can buy another.
3 – True. It also invites being mugged. Many pawn theirs if money is tight. So get something that won’t come off every time you need some groceries or worse.
4 – The ring should be given meaning by your commitment, not the other way around. The other metals look fine and last longer if you do any work with your hands.
5 – Your kids can inherit your house or savings. They don’t care that much. Surely there’s something else sentimental…like family photos or something. There’s no such thing as a “special metal.” Some have more electrons, protons and neutron. It means only what your mind thinks it means.

Make your love and service the thing you offer your lover, not possessions. My sister lost her diamond twice because she had a small farm. My dad’s gold band worth thin after years of labor. Mine’s fine since I do a lot more office work. In the end, it’s the love you need not a gold band. A rugged ring will let the world know you and your partner are taken. Lighten up, be practical, and you might even stay married longer than most! :)

Calla Gold July 2nd, 2014 at 5:06 am


Hi Sinclair,
Thank you for your voice in this conversation. I really liked what you said about making your love and your service the thing you offer.
I can’t get that sentimental about a house. I can’t wear a house. This is my opinion and it was written because my ring means so much to me.
My kid will get my house and be very pleased, but my wedding ring will mean a lot as a tiny symbol of love. I’ll be delighted for him to have it. A concentrated piece of beauty that means how much I loved his father. He might want to wear his dad’s band when the time comes. Both are gold and custom designed.’I very much enjoyed your logical numbered response!
I believe in being practical and sentimental.
Calla Gold

Joe Schmoe July 3rd, 2014 at 3:46 pm


One should never take advice on purchasing a product from someone whose interests directly conflict with that product succeeding.

Listening to your advice on rings that directly diminish your business is a mistake by the reader.

It’s like taking advice from Pepsi on why water is a bad beverage choice.

Or listening to an oil producer on why renewable energies are bad for the environment.

Etc…

Calla Gold July 7th, 2014 at 6:17 pm


Hello Joe,
The reason I as a jeweler give my opinion and advice on why not to buy titanium and tungsten wedding bands is because I have been in the wedding ring trenches and I’ve seen people who are genuinely upset that they can’t size their ring or make changes to their ring. I felt like the points I made that people should consider in making their choice weren’t out there. So I wrote my opinion and made my points.
There are guys who ask my opinion and then go out and buy titanium or tungsten anyway. I’m fine with that. They are making their choice from an informed place.
Interestingly enough it is usually the women who object to the disposable nature of titanium and tungsten, not their fiances who are just looking at price.
I wrote this because of the various reasons people came to me and talked about their problems with titanium or tungsten. I didn’t just get up one day and say, hmm, I think I’ll trash tungsten and titanium wedding bands, gee what can I make up?” No, it came from my clients and their experiences.
I’ve been stunned and amazed by the number of responses I’ve had to this blog post.
If you take the time to look at other posts I’ve written, you’ll see I try to be educational and not controversial. This is my most controversial post to date.
Thank you for writing and giving me the opportunity to respond about why I wrote this very popular post.
Calla Gold

Anna July 8th, 2014 at 2:15 am


I thought I read a while back that you can have a white gold ring plated with Titanium? Is that true?

I have had heaps of trouble with my white gold engagement ring… every time I wear it for more than an hour, my finger flares up so badly that it can even begin to weep clear fluid. It’s so painful and feels like a burn. I have tried everything over the past year, also with great consideration into the possibility I am getting soap behind it (I am not… I had the ring ultrasonically cleaned and was then SO careful, but very soon after that, maybe 2 days, tops, it was red raw again.) I have tried wearing my sterling silver ring and even forcing soap under it, and the rash just didn’t happen, so I am really sure it must be the white gold (nickel?)

I stumbled upon this post and thought it was very interesting. I had thought you could plate white gold with titanium, but it sounds like you can’t do much with it at all!

I don’t know what to do with mine… I might have to get the ring re-made in platinum or palladium (don’t like yellow gold.) Hmm.

Calla Gold July 8th, 2014 at 5:18 am


Hi Anna,
What an unfortunate situation you have. You may indeed have a nickel allergy.
You cannot plate any metals over tungsten and titanium as far as I know.
I’m going to guess you’ve tried the clear nail polish on the underside of your ring tactic? If not you might try it. It can create a barrier at least in the short term between your skin and the metal.
Another thing to try, since a white gold wedding ring is valuable, would be to rhodium plate your ring. Read my blog post about it: http://www.callagold.com/jewelry-repair/rhodium-plating-like-coloring-your-hair-only-for-jewelry/
Rhodium is in the platinum metals group and is used to plate metals the white gold color. I’ve tried it with mildly sensitive clients and had good success with many of them.
Platinum being hypo allergenic would be a good choice if you wanted to use another metal to re-make your wedding ring.
Good luck,
Calla Gold

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